I met a guy, and I think I have a crush on him. Do I really like him?

Hello, questioner. I admire your honesty and courage. It's great that you can face your feelings and ask questions. These qualities will help you in any future relationships you have.

As the saying goes, every girl has a crush on someone. You say the boy you like is the school's most popular guy, which shows that you have positive values and know what's truly outstanding and beautiful. But as you said, he's like a god—and I would add, like a paper-thin person. You're in love with your fantasy, a painting, an image.

Ideally, there'd always be room for improvement next to that guy. That's the perfect object of unrequited love. Once he has an ambiguous partner, the picture will be flawed, and you won't love it anymore, right?

I don't know your age, but if this relationship is worth developing, you might as well bravely confess your feelings. Of course, you must first think of a way to get out of it unscathed, otherwise the hurt of being rejected may make you sad for a while. If this relationship is one to be treasured, you might as well use it as motivation to spur yourself on: come September 8th next year, I will bloom and kill all the other flowers, filling Chang'an with my fragrance, and the whole city will be covered in golden flowers!

Do you know what I mean? After all, we can only be ambiguous. It's never too late to start. We should work hard to improve ourselves in every way, so that when the day comes when we can keep up with him, we'll both know exactly where we stand.

I'm Zhang Huili, your listening coach. I'm here to listen if you want to talk. We can talk about whatever's on your mind, even if it's just a little sadness. But let's not forget to talk about the good things too.

Hello, my name is June.

It can be difficult to feel happy when you like someone who is in a relationship with someone else. It's natural to feel sad, inferior and lost when you're in this situation. One way to cope with these feelings is to focus on your own happiness.

"I don't have any personal experience with him, but I've heard a lot of positive things about him from other people." "When I think about how he has the freedom to choose who he wants to be in a relationship with, it makes me feel a bit better."

From these two paragraphs, I get the impression that you may feel the guy is a long way away from you and that you don't particularly like him. If you really liked him, you might have already found out more about him.

If this situation is not to your liking, it might be helpful to consider why you are feeling this way.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that your feelings of loneliness may be a result of other factors.

It might be helpful to consider that feeling lonely can sometimes stem from a lack of close friends or someone with whom you can regularly connect. Having a reliable source of emotional support can be beneficial in such cases.

A good guy who is also single, although you don't know each other, may provide a sense of connection and companionship.

When he gets a girlfriend, you may find that you are no longer from the same world, and that you feel lonely again. If you would like to avoid feeling lonely, you might like to consider making some new friends. You can try the following methods:

1. While you may not be particularly skilled at expressing your thoughts, you are adept at thinking and analyzing. You could consider seeking out someone who is more proficient in verbal communication to cultivate a friendship. You may find that you complement each other well.

2. It's important to remember that you don't have to label yourself or think that you don't have any friends. There might be many people who would love to be your friend, but since you're often alone, others may think you don't like to be disturbed.

3. Many people find it challenging to make and maintain friends because they are often preoccupied with concerns about saying the wrong thing or being laughed at. It's important to remember that we all have our own unique perspectives and experiences, and that's perfectly okay. Instead of focusing on what others say or do, try to focus on your own self-confidence and sense of humor. Laughing at yourself can be a great way to build connections and create a more positive social environment.

2. A desire for excellence

You say that this boy is very good, but you don't seem to be interested in getting to know him better. Perhaps you are impressed by the idea that he is very good, but there might be other reasons why you don't pursue the matter further.

1. A concern about potential disappointment

You are aware of the saying "no one is perfect," and you are concerned that if you get to know him better, you may find that he is not quite as extraordinary as you had imagined. You desire a partner who is admirable in some way. Despite your self-doubts, you believe you are worthy of a relationship with someone who is exceptional in some way.

It may be the case that he also wants to be with someone who is outstanding.

It seems that the girl he is seeing, the one he is flirting with, may be perceived as being better than you. This "better" may just be worldly standards, such as beauty and grades.

Perhaps you feel a bit disappointed that he is so shallow.

2. Strives to become an outstanding person

You may feel that you are not quite at the level you would like to be at, and that you could benefit from having someone to look up to as a role model to help you to develop and progress. When you feel that you have reached the same level as this person, you will be in a position to stand alongside them.

It would seem that he already has a girlfriend, which may have dashed your hopes and left you feeling a little lost and disappointed.

First of all, it might be helpful to remember that this person is just a flirtatious object. Even if this really is his girlfriend, everyone is still so young, and life is long, so anything is possible. It's possible that the person who appears first by your side may not necessarily be the one who stays with him in the end.

Secondly, you are still young, and this person may not be the best fit for you at this stage of your life. As you continue to grow and develop, you will undoubtedly meet more individuals who align with your goals and aspirations. It's possible that, with time, you may find that this person doesn't fully meet your expectations.

In conclusion, I hope that the above advice has been helpful and that you will be able to find something better.

I hope this finds you well. Please accept my best wishes for the future.