I truly don't understand him, why does he block me from some WeChat Moments?

Dear Questioner,

I am unaware of your current age. Based on the information provided, I estimate that you are approximately 25 years old. You have indicated that you have been acquainted with a male individual for a period exceeding two years. This person has consistently assumed the role of initiator in social interactions, including shared drinking. Additionally, he has made sexual advances towards you on two occasions, the most recent of which occurred two months ago. Based on the available evidence, I conclude that your relationship is satisfactory and that it has remained relatively stable. However, there have been notable changes in the past two months. Despite your assertion that the nature of your relationship remains unchanged, there are indications that it has evolved. Moreover, you have not had any direct interactions with this individual. Two days ago, you were informed by mutual acquaintances that he had removed you from his social circle. This development has likely exacerbated your existing emotional distress, creating a sense of confusion, entanglement, and helplessness. I extend my support and encouragement to you during this challenging period.

Indeed, the most perplexing aspect of this situation is the rationale behind his decision to block your circle of friends. Didn't you previously indicate a desire to maintain a friendship?

This is analogous to an ordinary friend in the past, and there is no need to block the communication from the individual when they visit a new place and do not inform you. This line of thinking is not uncommon and is difficult to comprehend, as it leads to the expected result of a poor relationship.

This brings to mind the possibility that your decision not to engage in sexual intercourse may have been influenced by the circumstances surrounding your relationship at the time. It is worth considering who was the more rational of the two individuals involved. Regardless of who exercised restraint, it is a positive outcome, and it has laid a solid foundation for your future together.

I am still acquainted with you from the time you made a pact, and there is also the matter of the items he left with you. From time to time, you inquire about them, and he does not allow you to dismiss them. He can maintain contact with you for an extended period, and it becomes evident that your relationship may be characterized as somewhat more profound than an ordinary friendship. However, it is still a considerable distance from the depth of romantic love. In other words, there is not a significant emotional connection.

There is no definitive right or wrong in this situation, and relationships are not forced. Furthermore, this is a typical aspect of youth. I am unaware of the dynamics between your opposite-sex friends, but it is probable that the male in question has a more positive relationship with his opposite-sex friends than you do. This suggests that his life is not as lonely as yours. If my assumption is correct, it can be concluded that he is experiencing more difficulties in your relationship than you are.

From your description of the problem, it appears that you are excessively passive. You are passive, but you are also more deeply involved in the relationship than he is. You consistently await his initiative, and then you respond. This is acceptable behavior for a woman, but there is a limit to passivity. For over two years, you have consistently demonstrated passivity, as if all the power is in his hands. This is an unhealthy and detrimental pattern of behavior.

Similarly, if we can take the initiative and do not merely wait passively for him to contact us, we may be able to identify additional concerns regarding his behavior. We may even neglect to examine the items he has left behind, or we may choose to discard them. Consequently, when we learn that he has traveled to Suzhou and severed our connection within his social circle, we may not experience significant distress.

It is, however, often easier said than done. Were I in your position, I would be similarly unable to block his friends' circle. While we may not care, the only way to avoid suffering is to free ourselves from such situations. This may seem paradoxical, but it is the most effective solution.

It is therefore imperative that we cultivate ourselves to be invincible in the future. How might we do so? Simply by loving ourselves and not waiting for him to contact us. If we want to contact him, we will do so; if not, we should cease trying. We should endeavour to do this.

This presents an opportunity to contact him. We can inquire about his general situation, listen to his tone of voice, and determine whether he will take another step. This will allow us to ascertain whether the items he left behind will remain in our possession. It is crucial not to remain in a state of uncertainty, as this can negatively impact our emotional state.

It is recommended that you seize this opportunity to take the initiative. The experience of happiness is intrinsic to one's own life. It is believed that you have the capacity to accomplish this task. The world and I extend our love to you!

It is my hope that my response will prove to be of some assistance to you.

From your description, it seems that this individual exhibits care for you. The fact that he deliberately avoids sharing his social circle with you also suggests that he is concerned about your opinion of him. Is it possible that he wants to present a more favorable image to you and maintain a positive impression? You stated that if he does not initiate contact, the relationship will end. However, he maintains communication with you through occasional chats, which appears to be his method of seeking your attention and care. How would you characterize the nature of your relationship?

The positioning of the relationship is of great importance, regardless of whether it is a normal friendship, an intimate relationship, or even the possibility of developing into such a relationship. If the positioning is not clear, confusion is inevitable, as is confusion about the other person's behavior. However, when the positioning is clear, it is easier to understand how to handle and respond.

It is this author's recommendation that you:

It is essential to ascertain the nature of the relationship and to situate it within the appropriate context.

From your description, it appears that you are exhibiting passive behavior in the relationship. It seems that you are relying on his actions as a means of gauging the viability of the relationship. If he initiates contact, you perceive this as a sign that the relationship is still intact. Conversely, if he does not contact you, you assume that the relationship has reached its conclusion. However, it is essential to recognize that the relationship is a mutual endeavor. If it is dominated by a single individual, it can lead to significant confusion and uncertainty. It is, therefore, crucial for you to take the initiative and define the nature of the relationship.

The position is relatively close and important, such as whether the relationship will continue to develop into an intimate relationship, remain at the level of ordinary friends, or cease to be considered a friendship at all. Only once the position of the relationship has been established can the appropriate response to his behaviour be determined. If the intention is to continue developing the relationship with him and become closer, it is necessary to communicate directly with him and express one's needs and feelings, indicating that one is prepared to be more open and communicate more intimately. If the relationship is to be positioned as not even being considered ordinary friends, it is possible to return his things and express one's attitude, thereby putting an end to the situation.

In the event of uncertainty, it is advisable to engage in effective and sincere communication. It is unlikely that answers to many questions will be obtained through guesswork.

Effective communication is essential for the longevity of any relationship. It is not based on conjecture or speculation, nor can it be imparted by a third party. It necessitates direct, sincere, and consistent communication between the two parties involved. In the event of discomfort or uncertainty, it is advisable to identify an appropriate time to express these feelings directly and convey your genuine sentiments, needs, and specific expectations and requests.

Additionally, it is important to listen to his genuine feelings, actual needs, and specific expectations of you. If you truly desire to continue developing the relationship, but require him to be transparent about his attitude towards you, you can express this directly.

Such an expression will not only not damage the relationship, but will instead facilitate its development and enhance the level of connection between the parties involved.

3. If this is not the love one desires, the decision to end the relationship is a form of responsibility and wisdom.

It would be beneficial to ascertain the emotional response elicited by such a person. Is this the type of love that is being sought?

What constitutes your ideal love? What are the specific needs you have in a relationship?

One must consider whether the object of one's affections is capable of reciprocating one's feelings. If the answer is in the negative, it is important to ascertain whether one's emotional well-being is contingent upon maintaining a connection with the object of one's affections.

It is essential to identify one's core values and priorities in a relationship. When individuals become aware of their own needs and expectations, they can more effectively assess whether a partner is able to meet those needs.

If he is unable to provide this, it may be advisable to reconsider his suitability as a partner. Indeed, for a relationship to develop and endure, it is essential that both individuals are able to communicate effectively on a regular basis and meet each other's needs within the relationship. If this is not possible, the likelihood of success is significantly reduced. If there is a belief that the relationship can be made to work, it is recommended to communicate and express oneself assertively, demonstrating love and care for each other. However, if this is challenging, it may be necessary to end the relationship. This can be seen as a form of responsibility and wisdom, as the true happiness that is rightfully yours may still be waiting for you.

The aforementioned information is provided for your reference. Best wishes!

Hello! I'm here for you.

Don't try to understand or figure out why. It won't change the situation and may make you more depressed. Even if you question the other person and they answer, you won't know if it's true. Whatever they say, it's probably not what you want.

If the result is not what you want, explanations sound like excuses.

First, accept the situation. Then, think about what you want to do.

What kind of friends do you want? What kind of life? Filter out the people who conflict with your needs.

You want a more lasting relationship, but this one doesn't meet your needs.

The simplest way to do this is to end the relationship. No matter how good he is, he does not meet your needs.

It's hard to change someone. Don't try. Move on.

Choose a lifestyle you love.

It's none of our business how other people behave or think. Our emotions are our own. You may say, "It's because of so-and-so that I'm in a bad mood."

Your emotions are yours, not anyone else's. You always have a choice. You can decide how to respond to others and whether to let them influence you.

Talk to a counselor if this bothers you.

I'm a counselor who is Buddhist and sometimes depressed, but I love the world.

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

Most opposite-sex friendships are not truly platonic. One party waits for the right time to show the other how they feel.

A friendship gone sour.

The questioner has known a boy for more than two years. The boy would often go out with the questioner to chat and drink. This friendship seemed to have been maintained until two months ago, when the questioner and the boy almost had a relationship.

If the questioner and the boy only see each other as friends, this kind of behavior is unlikely. They may have ended their friendship, but they still care about each other.

After that, the questioner thought the relationship could stay the same, but it didn't. They didn't meet often and chatted less. The boy mentioned things he left at the questioner's house but didn't say what to do with them.

An ambiguous attitude.

The questioner doesn't understand that the boy is avoiding the relationship. They haven't contacted each other for a long time. This makes the questioner unable to end it.

The questioner learned from a mutual friend that the boy had gone to Suzhou and posted about it on WeChat. The questioner was blocked, even though the boy had posted about it. This shows that the boy is trying to prevent the questioner from learning about his daily life.

How should this friendship end?

In a friendship between the opposite sexes, if something happens, it can't be the same as before because you'll always remember.

If there's no sex, you can still hide your feelings and get along.

If you meet again, you won't be as relaxed as before. The boy's words and actions show his attitude. He doesn't want to face the changes in the friendship or this awkward situation.

Think about the emotions this friendship brings you. Before, you may have felt positive emotions when you were in contact. But now, you feel negative emotions. Why? Because there is almost a relationship, but you only contact each other once in a long time. You also feel like you are being blocked from your friends' circles.

The questioner has made plans for how he will act towards the guy. The guy has had an impact on the questioner's life, and the questioner wants to let go of the relationship, but he is also expecting contact from the guy. The feeling of being torn between gain and loss is also affecting the questioner's emotions.

Take the initiative and take control. You don't know what he thinks or feels. He did take the initiative to chat and drink with you.

Instead of waiting for him to decide, the questioner can take the initiative and stop letting this ambiguous relationship bother them. Sending his belongings back shows their decision and attitude towards this friendship. They should respect each other's choices.

I hope this helps. Best wishes.

Hello, question asker! I'm a Heart Detective coach.

After carefully reading the problems and confusions you described on the platform, could you please elaborate on the nature of your relationship? You mentioned that you have known a guy for more than two years, and that he was the one who initiated contact in the beginning, going out for drinks and chatting. It seems that you almost had an intimate relationship, but that later on, your relationship became similar to what it was before, with not much communication and not seeing each other often. You occasionally asked about his situation, but you found it challenging to understand him. You are curious as to why he blocked you on his Moments, even though you are friends. You assumed that since you are friends, the relationship would be similar to what it was before, and you are wondering why he blocked you on some of his Moments.

Since you are still friends, I'm sure that whatever happens in the future will not affect your friendship! Could I ask whether you've confirmed that he has blocked you in some of his friend circles?

I wonder if there might be a reason for this. Rather than guessing, it might be helpful to directly communicate with the other person about the specific situation. What do you think?

Let me assist you in analyzing and sorting out the situation.

1. Consider the importance of personal privacy information.

It's possible that some people don't want others to see their friends because they're not close friends or because they've lost touch with them. This could be why someone might choose to block you or limit your access to certain activities. It's understandable that people want to protect their privacy and avoid sharing too much about their personal lives.

2. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the possibility that social interaction may be a factor.

From an objective standpoint, you two used to be quite close, but now you only see each other occasionally. Could I inquire as to why you think he blocked you?

It's possible that he's simply not inclined to share much with you out of politeness or other considerations. If there's a lack of in-depth understanding and trust, he may be reluctant to get too involved in your life. It's understandable that he might not want you to know about his recent developments, so he may choose to block you to avoid any potential embarrassment or social pressure. It would be helpful to communicate with him directly to understand the specific reason.

3. It would be beneficial to establish your own point of view.

There could be a number of reasons why someone might choose to block another person from seeing their circle of friends. It could be that they have their own thoughts and positions on various matters and want to maintain their independence. It's also possible that they simply don't want that person to know the latest developments, perhaps to maintain a certain distance or because they're going through a challenging time and are seeking support from their inner circle.

4. It might be helpful to find out what's really going on.

It is often the case that a person's circle of friends can provide insight into their financial situation and emotional state. It is possible that the reason for blocking you is because they do not wish to disclose their financial situation. Alternatively, it could be that there is something new in your relationship that they do not want you to know. Perhaps you could consider having a good chat with them to find out more?

I hope my answer is helpful to you. If you would like to communicate further, the question owner can follow me (click on my personal homepage), choose the Heart Exploration service, and communicate with me one-on-one. With love and best wishes for a good day,

Hi, I'm Peilü.

First, I'll give you a hug.

Interpersonal relationships

——Data interpretation——

The questioner said he'd been dating a friend of the opposite sex for over two years. The other person had always taken the initiative, even going as far as to almost have sex with him. Afterwards, the questioner confessed that he wanted to remain friends. However, he learned that the other person had blocked him from seeing his Moments. This made him feel confused and lost.

I understand how you feel. Learning that a friend blocked you for no reason can make you feel aggrieved and confused. It can feel as if you are being excluded, and you may also be wondering where you stand with the other person.

——Analysis of the reasons——

? Relationship

It seems like you have some mixed feelings about your relationship. He usually starts things, while you are more passive. You said you thought it would be like your previous relationship. You want to stay friends and not be affected by what happened before.

However, he blocked you, which made you confused and disappointed. You're not sure of your place in his heart and doubt the relationship.

Advice for you.

Boundaries with others

It can be hard to know how to act when you're with a friend of the opposite sex. You might accidentally cross the line, which can be embarrassing for everyone. Some people wonder if there can be a purely platonic relationship between a man and a woman. I think everyone has their own answer, so there's no one right answer to this question.

How you define your relationship with him determines how you act and how you resolve conflicts. His blocking behavior may be about privacy or sending signals. Your dissatisfaction shows you have different views on the relationship.

He's mentioned things that fell in your home. He might want to chat or he might want you to return the items. You also need to adjust your expectations and understand boundaries in your relationship with him. This will help you both feel comfortable and maintain the relationship.

Ask him.

The best way to find out what someone thinks is to ask them. Other people's guesses don't represent the other person's true thoughts.

A person's actions may be based on different motives. If you care about this friendship and want to continue the relationship, find out what's going on. If you don't care, let him decide.

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I love you!

Hi, I'm Bai Li Yina, and I hope my response will be helpful.

The person asking the question said that they had a male friend they'd known for more than two years, and that the other person's attitude had always been unclear. Two months ago, things almost developed, but after that, the other person's ambiguous attitude made them feel very concerned. When they learned that the other person had blocked them in their circle of friends, they were very surprised. They want to know why.

Let's take a look at the situation.

From what you've told me, it seems like the other person has always been in the driving seat. He took the initiative to chat and drink with you, and it seems like you're just friends who get along well. In the past two years, you've never taken the initiative to contact him because you don't care whether he'll find you for drinks and chats, or you know that he'll definitely find you for drinks and chats. These two mindsets are different, and you need to think about how you view this friend.

What happened between you two months ago changed things in your relationship. From what you've told me, you're not upset about it, and even though you say you're still friends, it seems to have affected you emotionally. Do you look forward to hearing from him? Are you disappointed because he hasn't contacted you?

Did you think about reaching out to him?

He left things with you, contacted you only once in a while, and you didn't meet for two months. You thought you were still on the same page, but then you found out that he had blocked you in his circle of friends. How did you feel when you found out?

Surprised? Angry?

Or were you disappointed?

But you're taking the time to ask these questions, so it's clear this person and this situation have had a big impact on you. Let's think about what we want first. Why does the other person's behavior and attitude affect you? What do you want the other person to do? Do you want to stay friends, stop contacting each other, or develop a different kind of relationship? How do you feel about this friend?

Once we understand our own thoughts, we can then consider how to deal with this matter and what to do next. If you haven't even figured it out yourself and are just waiting for the other person, endless speculation will only make things worse and could even lead to depression.

There are lots of reasons why someone might block you. It could be that they're still angry about what you said two months ago and have blocked you. Or it could be that they don't want you to see the content they posted. But it's all just speculation. You're not willing to open up and communicate with them, so we'll never know the truth.

I hope you can soon see what's really going on in your heart and find a better way to get along with the friends you care about.

You've got my support, and I'm here for you. I hope you find a solution to your problems soon and feel at ease.

I appreciate all the likes and comments on my posts. Wishing you peace and joy!

Hello, questioner. It's great to hear your story in your own words.

"I've known this guy for more than two years. During that time, we've always talked and drank together. He's the one who initiated contact and I'd respond. We'd occasionally chat afterwards." - In this relationship, you feel like you're in a passive position.

"Then for the first two months, we were basically sleeping together, and then he left things with me. After that, our relationship was basically the same as before—we only talked once in a while and didn't meet up."—It was an ambiguous relationship that went beyond friendship but wasn't quite at the level of a relationship.

"If he hadn't reached out, our relationship would've ended." It's clear that he's in control, and your emotions are influenced by him.

"I said we were still friends, and I thought it would be at least the same as before. I don't understand why he blocked me in some of his moments." The reality is that you can't go back to how things were before. You're not just casual friends anymore.

And why did his friends block you?

It could be:

It's possible that he doesn't want you to see certain content he posted in the circle of friends and is trying to protect his privacy.

It's also possible that he's worried about posting certain content in the circle of friends because he doesn't want there to be any misunderstandings or for you to bother him.

It seems like he's a bit confused about your relationship. "Almost having a relationship" might have made him feel uncertain or confused about the relationship between you, so he needs time to process his feelings and has chosen to temporarily block you.

He might not want others to know about your ambiguous relationship, or he might want to maintain a certain image and social circle among his friends.

These are just some possible reasons, though. The specific situation needs to be judged based on your relationship and the specific context. The best way to find out more is to communicate directly with him to better understand each other's thoughts and positions.

Communication is the key to solving problems and building good relationships. I hope that after talking things through, you'll have a better understanding of each other.

This is where knowledge and action come together, and I hope we can have a happy life together.

Hello, my name is Zeyu.

"I must admit that I'm having trouble understanding his reasoning. Why has he blocked me from some of his friends?" Let's try to express the question more intuitively. How does the questioner feel about the expression "I am not satisfied that the other person has blocked some of my friends from me"?

The question title says "I really don't understand," which suggests that we're uncertain about the other person's intentions or reasons for their actions. This lack of understanding may lead to feelings of being cheated. It's possible that we disapprove of the other person's actions or believe they have the capacity to act in this way. It's understandable that we perceive this as unfair. However, it's important to consider that the information about this was obtained from a mutual friend, which means the other person was aware of their actions and chose to do it.

It's possible that the questioner has already considered this possibility but is having difficulty accepting it as a reality. From the questioner's perspective, your relationship is perceived as being on the verge of a more intimate level, such as sleeping together. However, it's essential to recognize that this is merely a speculation and not a definitive reality. In an intimate relationship, it's natural for both partners to have varying understandings of the relationship itself and the ways to maintain it. This can lead to occasional misunderstandings and differences in perception. It's not uncommon for us to have difficulty understanding each other's actions in such circumstances.

In light of the situation at hand, it might be helpful to take some time to reflect and gain a better understanding of our own thoughts and feelings. Then, when the time is right, we could consider discussing our needs and expectations with the other person. It's also important to listen carefully to their perspective and try to find a way to respect their views while also making our own decisions based on the reality of the situation.

The questioner, I have read your description and I have a few things to say about it. This is what I have gleaned from your text and it represents my interpretation of it. I may not have seen it more clearly and I am just expressing my opinion, but I think it will help you to see the world more clearly. I believe that one person cannot understand another person because they only see part of what they see in their own world. When you put your world together more completely, you will see more parts and then you will understand.

I am someone who divides my circle of friends very finely. I feel very strongly about this, so when I saw your headline, I knew I had to share my feelings.

First, I don't like posting on Moments. When I see others posting every day, it annoys me. I don't bother others and don't post as much as possible. Tags are divided into many categories.

Second: When I post something on WeChat Moments, I don't reply to a lot of likes because I don't want to be bothered by questions from too many people. I only reply to a few at random.

Third: There are too many concerns. I am ashamed of some things and do not want others to see them. I only let a few people see them because I trust them.

This is how I think about the world. If you want to understand me, you have to check it against reality. It's not easy, and it takes courage, but it's the best way to understand others.

It's important to understand that when someone blocks you, it's not necessarily because of you. The other person has their own considerations and priorities.

Hello, question owner!

Let's share a warm hug!

I've known this guy for more than two years. We've always talked and drank together. He was the one who approached me, and I answered. We'd chat occasionally afterwards. Then, two months ago, we almost slept together, but I forgot to give him something back. After that, our relationship was the same as before: we'd chat once in a while, but we didn't meet. Then, he didn't come to get his things, and he didn't say to send them to him. He just occasionally asked if I still had his things or if they were broken. I really don't understand. Originally, if he didn't approach me, our relationship would have stopped. But then, he'd chat once in a while, and he'd say that he'd left something with me. Then, two days ago, I learned from a mutual friend that he'd gone to Suzhou and posted about it on WeChat. I didn't ask him what he posted, but mainly because he blocked me from that circle of friends. I really don't understand. At the time, I said that we could still be friends. I thought that at least our relationship would be the same as before. I don't understand why he blocked me from some of his circles of friends."

Hello Xu, From what you've told me, it's clear you still care about this person and want to become friends with him and develop the relationship further. While you're holding out hope, he's blocked you next to his friends, but that doesn't mean he doesn't care about you!

You feel sad, and the language behind the sadness is that he loves you. Sometimes you will unconsciously fall in love with this person near or far, but your love is not returned, so you feel sad. But don't worry! This is a normal part of the love journey.

Then, get to the heart of the matter and ask him why he blocked you. It's likely that there is some information that he doesn't want you to see, for example, that he already has a girlfriend, right? Then he can also feel your emotions for him, and then he unconsciously tries to protect his image a little.

But anyway, as a friend who blocks you, whether he does it out of goodwill or ill will, blocking your messages is his choice, and it has nothing to do with you. What you can choose is whether you are friends with this person or not. Do some of his characteristics match your values? This is what you need to do, and don't let judgment lead you by the nose. You think he is bad, you think he is good, these are all your opinions, and they have nothing to do with him. Similarly, the fact that he blocked you has nothing to do with you. It was his choice, and you just need to make your own choice.

That's all! Share it when you're ready. Big sister loves you!

Hello!

It can certainly be challenging to comprehend why a friend might block you in a friend circle.

In light of these considerations, I would like to offer some thoughts for your reflection:

It's possible that your friend may have blocked you in some circles of friends for reasons related to personal space and the desire to maintain boundaries with certain individuals, including you.

It's possible that shielding is also an escape from certain things and responsibilities, and that he doesn't want you to know certain things, which may involve some problems in your relationship.

For instance, there might be some issues with the positioning of your relationship, communication, or hidden conflicts.

It is often the case that people prefer to share only the positive aspects of themselves on social media, such as with their friends. This could mean that he is not comfortable with you seeing certain sides of him that he would rather keep private.

Given that he has recently relocated to an unfamiliar environment, it is understandable that he might be experiencing some initial challenges in adapting to his new circumstances. It is likely that he is still processing the changes and may not yet have a clear understanding of how they will affect him. It is therefore understandable that he might not yet be ready to share all of his thoughts and feelings on the matter with you.

If this is a concern for you, it might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him to gain a better understanding of his perspective.

If this bothers you, you might consider having an honest conversation with him to find out what he really thinks. You could ask him why he chose to block you in an open and honest way.

It is important to be aware that in the process, it is essential to ensure that your tone is calm and respectful of his feelings and privacy.

I believe that only through this kind of direct communication can we better understand each other and resolve potential problems.

Secondly, you may wish to gently express your feelings of confusion and discomfort at being excluded from the circle of friends.

Perhaps you could ask him to explain his motives and try to understand his position.

If he is reluctant to share his reasons, you may wish to respect his decision.

It is important to remember that everyone has their own privacy needs and ideas, and that maintaining open and respectful communication is key.

I hope you can try to avoid focusing too much on his behaviour in his wider social circle. It might be helpful to communicate with him on other social media platforms if you have the chance, so you can learn more about his life and interests.

Given the circumstances you have outlined, it is understandable that he may not be expected to fulfill all the responsibilities and obligations that come with the role of an official boyfriend.

I kindly ask that you maintain a positive and calm state of mind.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to conduct some self-reflection based on your own value judgments and emotional analysis. This could help you to consider the positioning and development boundaries of your future relationship.

If you are just casual friends, it would be best to return his things as soon as possible and not keep them with you forever.

I believe this is crucial for future communication or relationships between you. It may also be a basic prerequisite for improving your communication style and psychological feelings.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

Hello, I'm ZQ, a heart exploration coach on the Yi Xinli platform. You said you've been friends with the other boy for more than two years. You also said you almost slept together. I don't understand what kind of relationship would make you sleep together.

Are you both boys or a girl?

You're in an ambiguous relationship. It's not clear because there are things that need to be clarified. You used to talk and drink together, and he found you.

You can chat together, so there are topics to talk about. He took the initiative to find you, so he cares about you. Have you taken the initiative to find him?

He needs to maintain the relationship, not just come to you.

Often, you need to take the initiative in a relationship. You need to understand your feelings for him. Do you want to be just friends?

The other person left something with you and hasn't come to get it. Send it to him.

This way, he won't keep mentioning it. If he went to Suzhou to send out circles but blocked you, you need to know which city Suzhou is. Is it where you live?

Or is it a city you've never been to? If Suzhou is your city,

If he blocks you, it may mean he doesn't want you to know he's in Suzhou or that he's looking for you. If Suzhou is just an ordinary city, not the city where he or you live,

He might be blocking you because he doesn't want you to know something in the message he sent. It could be an expression of his emotions.

To understand the guy in your description better, you need to clarify three things:

1. Your gender, relationship expectations, and city of Suzhou. 2. Your feelings and his thoughts. Only by truly understanding these three things can you understand yourself and the other person. Take the Inner Animal Archetypes test to understand yourself better. Good luck!

ZQ?

Hello!

From the information you have provided, it seems that this guy is keeping something from you or is keeping something from you. He may have blocked you from his circle of friends because he doesn't want you to see some of his friends, which may involve his private life, work, or other things he doesn't want you to know.

In this case, the absolute best way is to communicate directly with him and ask him why he blocked you in his friend circle. If you feel the need, you can also ask him if he has any concerns or questions about your relationship.

When communicating, try to remain calm and rational, and don't be too emotional or adopt an interrogative tone. This way, you'll be sure to keep him feeling comfortable and relaxed!

And there's more! You can also consider your feelings and expectations for this guy. If you feel that he is someone you want to get to know better, then try to communicate with him more proactively to understand his thoughts and feelings.

If you feel that he is no longer the person you want to get to know, then it's time to move on! Gradually reduce the frequency of your interactions with him and let your relationship fade naturally.

The good news is that you can gain a deeper understanding of this boy and your relationship with him. All it takes is a little time and effort to understand his thoughts and actions. You can do this by communicating honestly with him and paying attention to what he does and says. You'll be amazed at how much you can learn about him and your relationship through this simple process!

Good day, I can see the confusion you are facing, and I empathize with you.

You have been acquainted with the gentleman in question for a period exceeding two years, is that correct?

In terms of time, it was relatively brief.

However, he has blocked a circle of friends who went to Suzhou for leisure.

It is possible that the gentleman in question does not feel sufficiently acquainted with you to offer any input.

It is also possible that the gentleman in question went to Suzhou for leisure purposes and accompanied other female companions.

He may be concerned that you will view the post and experience negative emotions.

As a result, he will be unable to locate him again.

Please advise if there is any possibility of what I have outlined above.

If you are unable to comprehend the rationale behind this behavior, I recommend initiating a dialogue with the individual in question.

I recommend that you use the "I" language when communicating with him instead of starting with "you."

Additionally, the book Nonviolent Communication provides useful methods for addressing the issue.

There is a difference in thinking between men and women.

It is possible that he may not be aware of the impact that limiting one's social circle can have on an individual's emotional state.

If you require further information, I would suggest reading the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.

I hope the issue you are experiencing can be resolved promptly.

I must conclude by reiterating the above.

I hope my above response is both helpful and inspiring to you, the questioner. As the answerer, I am committed to studying this matter thoroughly each day.

Best regards, Yixinli Team

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Good day. I can see that your relationship with the gentleman in question has become somewhat confusing recently. You only chat occasionally now, and he has not taken the initiative to come and retrieve something he left with you. Furthermore, he has blocked you in your circle of friends, and you are unsure of his intentions now. I can sense your confusion and disappointment.

You are unclear as to why he has changed in your relationship, why he does not retrieve his things, and why he has blocked your circle of friends. These actions make you feel unable to understand, because you once thought you were friends, but now his actions seem to indicate that he is no longer interested in you.

"Almost fell asleep" indicates that you have at least reached an ambiguous relationship. Regarding his motives, many respondents have analyzed them, and I acknowledge that there are some possibilities they mentioned. However, I have a different opinion. I believe his behavior is somewhat akin to fishing.

His initial ambiguity was a calculated move to streamline the decision-making process. It's evident that he only reaches out when he wants to drink and doesn't prioritize your well-being. He's indifferent about your personal needs and doesn't proactively suggest meetings when he's not drinking.

The fact that he left something with you is a good reason to meet up, but he has not yet come to see you. However, you cannot simply state this. You can observe or recall some of his previous behavior to gain further insight.

If you are genuinely interested in finding out more, you may wish to consider testing the individual in question.

I would like to inquire whether you have ever grouped posts together when posting to your Moments. I have done so on occasion.

It is also a common practice to send posts in groups. It is important to maintain consistency in our standards. If he chooses not to let you see that post, it is advisable to respect his decision. It is a trivial matter. In relationships, it is essential to focus on the important things and let go of the trivial.

If you have agreed to be just friends, then you should treat him as you would any other friend. Would you care if a friend blocked you in their circle of friends? He is the only one who knows why he blocked you in his circle of friends. Perhaps he has lost interest or no longer considers you important. You are just friends, so his opinion is irrelevant.

If you are genuinely interested in learning more, it is advisable to maintain composure. This will facilitate more effective communication.

I hope you will find success and fulfillment in the days to come. Best regards,

Hello, I'm listening.

You're dealing with the issue of separation, which is tough. You're having trouble understanding the boy's temper, and his behavior is affecting your emotions. You're struggling to let go, and you were almost together. It's your own issue, though. Why do you have to figure out what he's thinking?

Figure out what you want to do and just do it.

What are you concerned about?

1. It seems like you might be afraid to admit that you have feelings for him.

2. What's holding you back from admitting this objective fact?

3. Are you concerned about something? Or are you worried about something?

It's important to know your boundaries. You're the only one who can figure it out, not someone else.

The turning point in your relationship came two months ago. Things went from being lukewarm to the point where you almost slept together. Then, from time to time, he would borrow things from you to tease you.

Is this really what you think?

1. I'm not sure I understand. If he doesn't look for me, will our relationship naturally end?

2. If you're as solid as a rock and have no thoughts, how could you just stop because you don't chat?

3. You haven't deleted him or blocked his friends, so are you just trying to be friends?

4. Don't you want to be treated and cared for properly?

5. Why do you say you're friends? Is it because of your personality or because you can't let go?

6. Apart from this guy, have you known him for more than two years? Do you have any other friends of the opposite sex?

How's the relationship going?

7. Do you think he might have a new girlfriend?

8. Are you bummed out that your friend blocked you on WeChat?

9. Is it really possible to break up with a friend after more than two years?

It's tough to leave, and it's painful. It takes courage.

If you fall, you have to get back up. The idea behind this saying is that perseverance is courageous, while giving up is cowardly.

But sometimes we also have to learn to accept failure. Only when we admit defeat can we discover that it is possible to start again somewhere else.

It's not easy. Sometimes it takes more courage to give up than to persevere.

Stay strong!

Hi, good question.

I can see you're confused and upset. You don't understand why he's acting differently towards you. If he's your romantic interest, you feel angry because you're being kept in the dark or cheated on. Let's talk about what's going on.

Changes in your relationship

1. The relationship heats up: A guy chats and drinks with you for a while.

2. The relationship cools. You meet less often, chat occasionally, and keep in touch.

3. Sudden ambiguity: We almost slept together two months ago, and you said, "Let's just stay friends."

4. He disappears. You don't see him, he doesn't tell you where he is, and he doesn't let you know what he's up to.

What do you think when you read these four points? They don't make me feel good. It's like keeping a spare tire: maintain it regularly.

The difference between friends and lovers

Ask yourself how you feel about him. Is your lack of understanding about him or about your friends?

If a friend blocked you, would you react the same way?

What's wrong with you?

You ignore your feelings and wait for things to happen. Are you afraid to take the initiative?

The worst that can happen is losing a friend.

Be brave and try to "take the initiative." You have nothing to lose. You will gain new experiences and feelings. Maybe this is difficult for you, but change is already happening.

I hope it helps.

I'm your friend. Thanks for listening.

Greetings,

The relationship in question is one that is sometimes distant and sometimes close. This can result in feelings of being overwhelmed and uncertainty regarding the other person's thoughts and feelings.

The relationship appears to be more than merely amicable, yet it does not seem to be romantic in nature.

In the event of uncertainty, the most direct approach is to inquire directly.

One can always inquire directly about the desired level of distance and the nature of the relationship to be maintained with the individual in question.

One may simply inquire of him directly.

Ultimately, the most crucial factor is one's personal sentiment towards the individual in question. Is there a desire to foster a closer relationship and become his official girlfriend?

In the event that one wishes to terminate contact, sending his belongings back will effectively eliminate the rationale for maintaining communication.

The reason you cite your friend circle as a factor impeding progress is likely because he does not want you to see it.

It is possible that there are multiple social groups involved.

The two individuals in question had nearly engaged in sexual intercourse and subsequently agreed to maintain a platonic relationship. However, there existed a considerable degree of ambiguity between them. The identity of the individual who declined to pursue a more intimate connection remains uncertain.

It is possible that there are additional factors at play.

It would appear that he is not particularly enthusiastic about you, and that he only initiates contact when he feels inclined to do so. This may be due to a lack of social interaction, or it may be that he sent the message to a number of recipients and only replied to yours.

He is not forthcoming or sincere. He is not committed to pursuing a relationship with you, and the relationship is not particularly strong.

Otherwise, he would have informed you of his relocation to a different city. If the distance were considerable, it would have intensified his longing, yet he did not.

The answer to this question depends on how one defines the term "friend."

Indeed, the nature of the relationship has evolved to a point where the boundaries between friendship and something more are blurred. This shift inevitably introduces a certain degree of discomfort and awkwardness in the future.

The nature of the relationship has evolved beyond the boundaries of casual friendship.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether this friendship brings you happiness and fulfillment.

Alternatively, might this dynamic instill feelings of insecurity?

A beneficial friendship can facilitate personal growth and provide a source of nourishment. Conversely, an unhealthy friendship may have detrimental effects and should be considered for termination if necessary.

I wish you the utmost success.