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I was abandoned by two of my most beloved men, and now I'm feeling unhappy. What should I do?

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I was abandoned by two of my most beloved men, and now I'm feeling unhappy. What should I do? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I was abandoned by my two most beloved men, and now I'm not in the mood to stay at home; I want to go out at every moment, not wanting to be alone. Whatever I do, my mind is constantly filled with thoughts of my first love. I truly don't know how to forget him. I want to vent, but I don't know how, and I don't want anyone, any friend, to know about my feelings. I always face them with a smile. But the taste in my heart is only known to myself! Right now, I'm not feeling good at all. I've had two surgeries for breast fibroids, and everyone knows this is directly related to my mood, so I really don't know how to adjust my emotions. If I continue like this, I'm afraid I'll have an outbreak again.

Rosalind Perez Rosalind Perez A total of 4219 people have been helped

Good morning. My name is Will, and I am a counselor.

First and foremost, it is imperative to acknowledge and empathize with the emotional challenges you have faced. It is likely that you have experienced a profound sense of sadness, unhappiness, confusion, and distress. Take a moment to extend a compassionate embrace to yourself.

One might inquire whether individuals in love should simply refrain from dwelling on their problems. It is postulated that when in love, people make heartfelt vows. However, when emotions subside and they return to reality, various factors may contribute to unfavorable outcomes.

Given the current emotional state, it is important to allow oneself to experience a range of emotions, including discomfort. Additionally, it is beneficial to set aside time for reflection and reminiscing about past experiences, while maintaining a moderate approach.

In the event that an individual is inclined to remain at home, it may be beneficial to engage in outdoor activities such as walking.

"My initial romantic interest is a constant presence in my thoughts, and I am uncertain as to how I might move on from this situation." In such instances, it may be beneficial to allow oneself to remain in a state of reminiscence regarding the individual in question for a period of time.

Furthermore, it is essential to recognize that life must continue.

In the event that one is uncertain as to how to express one's frustration and desires to avoid disclosing one's emotional state to others,

One may engage in activities that serve as a distraction, such as going for a walk, listening to music, or engaging in activities that promote relaxation. Alternatively, one may choose to immerse oneself in a favorite episode of a television series.

As an alternative, one might consider the use of writing as a form of therapy. This involves expressing one's emotions on paper without the need to adhere to any particular logic or structure.

Additionally, one may consider purchasing toys designed to reduce stress, engaging in stress-reduction exercises, or practicing mindfulness, yoga, or meditation as methods of relaxation.

Typically, individuals strive to present their best selves to others. However, in this instance, it may be more beneficial to embrace authenticity. It is important to have faith that these challenges will eventually subside, and that they will facilitate personal growth, enhanced self-awareness, and the ability to maintain self-respect.

It would be beneficial to allow yourself a sufficient amount of time to process this information.

I extend my best wishes to you and the world.

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Warner Thomas The greatest test of courage on earth is to bear defeat without losing heart.

I can relate to feeling lost after losing someone important. It's tough to be alone with those thoughts. Maybe going out can help distract me a bit, find new activities or places that bring some joy without having to share my pain.

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Ernie Anderson There is no pillow so soft as a clear conscience.

Sometimes it feels like the weight of our secrets is too much to bear alone. Keeping everything inside might not be healthy in the long run. Perhaps finding a way to express these feelings, even if anonymously, could provide some relief and clarity.

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Lena Ruby Forgiveness is the doorway to freedom and a new beginning.

It's heartbreaking to feel this way, especially when you have to put on a brave face for everyone else. I wish I had the right words to make it better. Maybe focusing on selfcare and doing things that used to make me happy can start to mend the heart.

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Penelope King Life is a battle for the heart and mind.

The physical toll from surgeries must add so much more stress. It's crucial to take care of myself both physically and mentally. Maybe seeking professional advice could offer some strategies to manage emotions and health together.

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Ronald Thomas Do not, for one repulse, give up the purpose that you resolved to effect.

Feeling like your world has been turned upside down is overwhelming. Trying to find a balance between being out there and allowing moments of solitude where healing can happen is important. It's okay to not be okay, and taking small steps towards feeling better is all part of the journey.

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