I was born unloved. Our family would be much happier without me, right?

She had the option to accept your concern openly and honestly, but she chose to despicably and deviously plagiarize and squander this precious thought. Her shallow and ignorant imagination and understanding of love, as well as her mechanical, hollow, pretentious behavior of seeking love, are desperate attempts to belittle you and raise her status in your father's heart, which she cannot do. She can no longer hide her inferiority complex from you. She believes she is unworthy and feels uneasy in her heart. She is frivolous, narcissistic, arrogant, and exaggerates her own destructive power. She sees herself as an important person who can have a significant impact on others, but she is just one of those mortals who can only show off in front of their children and pretend to be good in front of others (the word "ordinary" really insults the word). She may not even be a pure parasite, but only a burden to a very limited number of people, including you. She has no right to harm anyone else.

She is responsible for raising you, and she made that choice. Your father should have confronted her about the 1,000 yuan, so she would not buy shoes. Even if she is barefoot, she is willing to serve you and your father on her knees for 24 hours a day. Your father has a responsibility to buy you clothes. She may be provoking you, making you think she has suffered at your father's hands. In fact, your father has never treated her badly. She is just too ambitious, thinking she deserves a better man for her hard work.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to express my concern about your recent account. I am relieved to hear that you are already 18 years old, as I feel your description is distressing. I believe it is important to highlight that we have grown up and are perfectly capable of becoming independent. I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this matter. Kind regards, [Name]

I am unsure as to why my mother has become like this, or perhaps she has always been like this. Based on the attitude you describe, I believe there may be no need to communicate with her anymore, and it is better to accept that she may not love me. You have not mentioned your father, so I am unaware of the nature of his relationship with you, or whether you have any close relatives or friends.

It is also possible to express your emotions and feelings to them.

Your mother often stated that you were not born to be liked. I would like to clarify that she is speaking only for herself. She does not have the authority to determine whether you are liked by others. That is a matter for them to decide.

It is essential to establish clear boundaries with her. It is crucial to pay attention to your own feelings and, when setting boundaries, to always put yourself first and respect your own feelings. When she makes you feel uncomfortable, you must clearly communicate your feelings and your expectations, so that she understands that you are an independent and free person.

It is important to note that parents' demands on their children are not always reasonable. Filial piety does not necessarily entail blind obedience. In some cases, it may be necessary to refuse, leave, and decline to comply with unreasonable demands. It is also important to pursue your own happiness.

It is important to set your own life goals, develop an independent personality, and pursue self-improvement. Despite the challenges you have faced, it is essential to repair and maintain a positive relationship with yourself. This involves reconnecting with the younger, more vulnerable version of yourself and reassuring her that she is capable and deserving of love.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

Oh, dear child, you have been through so much and are feeling sad. But I'm here to tell you that you are loved! I hug you from afar and hope you can feel a little warmth.

You're 18 years old, still in school, not financially independent, and dependent on your parents for support. From your example, I can also feel your mother's control and disgust towards you in recent days. But you're going to grow out of this!

It really makes people feel sad to have such experiences, but it also makes them stronger!

Your mother threw away the flowers you bought and said that buying fake flowers was disgusting. I really can't tell if she meant that fake flowers were disgusting or if she didn't like the fact that you bought fake flowers. Either way, it's a great opportunity for you to learn more about your mother's preferences!

You wanted to buy a dress with a skirt, but your mother strongly opposed it and threatened you with violence. Did your mother not like the dress, or did she think your aesthetic standards were too outrageous?

Oh my goodness, did you happen to disturb her while she was driving when she gave you the keys and told you to get out and walk home when you were close to home?

Some of these behaviors really make people feel sad. But, she is our mother, and we love her anyway! She may not be the warmest person, but she's still our mom!

We grew up snuggled up next to our mothers, who are synonymous with intimacy, warmth, and support. Without our mothers' love, we feel that there is no warmth in the home, no harbor where we can rest. But we know that's not true! We can find warmth and support anywhere, even if our mothers aren't there.

Is this the first time you've felt "suddenly so strange about your mother"? Wasn't your mother like this before?

Then your mother has changed! We don't know why, but I bet it's for a great reason. Maybe it's because of the family, or financial pressure, or even the hormones during menopause? Whatever it is, it'll be great to see what happens next!

Mom has changed, and it's not your fault! She just needs to find her way back to loving and being affectionate. This is her journey, and she can do it!

It has nothing to do with you, and it's not your fault.

On Mother's Day, you bought your mother a gift, showing your filial piety. You and your mother went shopping for clothes, and you saw a dress that you liked, but since your mother didn't, you didn't insist.

Your mother asked you to get off the bus, and you did! You were so strong and stood up for yourself. You didn't argue with your mother, and you silently endured it all, which is really admirable.

Your family will be much happier when you're around! It's not you who makes your family unhappy. It's your mother's inner unhappiness, and it's useless to look for reasons outside for her inner unhappiness. Your mother often said that you were born unloved, and that person was just herself.

It's not your fault if she doesn't like you. It's just a projection of her own feelings. She simply doesn't like the child she once was.

Mom has hurt you deeply and broken your heart, but you can get through this! In a few years, your mother's stress will ease and menopause will pass. She'll become a warm mother again!

When you grow up, become independent and capable, your mother will treat you in a different way that is more appropriate for an adult. And it's almost over! You're already 18, you're about to become independent and leave home. Believe in all this!

I know it's tough, but please believe that you are loved by someone. It's okay if your mother doesn't love you right now. She doesn't speak for everyone, and you can heal from this pain slowly.

And now, I hug you again! The world and I love you, and you must love yourself too!

Hello, questioner!

From what you said, on Mother's Day, you gave your mother fake flowers, which she threw away because she felt disgusted. You also said you wanted your mother to buy you a dress for Mother's Day, but she refused for her own reasons.

And your mother's repeated orders for you to get off on the way home were undoubtedly very disrespectful. I can feel your grievance and sadness. You feel that you don't deserve love. Let me give you a hug, my child.

Have you ever considered that your mother might have an issue? You're not unloved, but you've been defined by your mother. Maybe your mother has always spoken this way, and you subconsciously believe it. Everyone deserves love, and you are no exception. This is the first point.

Your mother's actions and words hurt you deeply and show a lack of respect. Sending flowers is a way to show goodwill and filial piety. Your mother may not like artificial flowers, but she can't ignore the love behind them just because she doesn't like them.

Picking out clothes for you but not letting you buy the ones you like and threatening you with words like "I'm not letting you buy them" is controlling, not respectful. And what's her motivation behind telling you to get out of the car?

This is more like being a child.

The idea here is that at 18, you're already capable of thinking for yourself. Your mother's comments should be taken in context. You weren't born unloved, but rather, her personal understanding and perception of you, or maybe just her emotional reaction to something.

So, how do you see yourself in all this? You need to think carefully about this, rather than simply agreeing with your mother's words.

You love and rely on your mother. You'll give her flowers on Mother's Day, and you love her very much. When she speaks violently, have you considered that this is harming you? You need to make her aware of this harm.

It's important to communicate with your mother. While respect may not change her behavior patterns, you can defend your own boundaries and learn to love yourself.

I hope this is helpful. Best regards!