I work in a milk tea shop, why have I been feeling so down lately?

Hello, I am Yan Shiqi, and I am thrilled to have this chance to answer your question!

From your story, I can see that you're ready for a change! You're dissatisfied with the status quo, regret the past, and are confused about the future.

1. Regret about the past: The past is history.

I remember a famous quote from the protagonist of the book "How Steel Is Made": roughly, when a person is about to die, they look back on their life and are not sorry for having led a meaningful life. It's a great quote!

I was blown away by this sentence because my father often said it to me when he was alive.

But when I was in my 20s, I also didn't cherish the time and study hard. So when I was in my 30s, I was a bit dissatisfied with the status quo. But I was excited to make a change!

I totally get where you're coming from! I've been there myself.

But here's the thing: it's useless to just regret.

And the best thing you can do is take action now!

2. Dissatisfaction with the current situation: It's never too late to make a change!

The questioner said he is 28 years old and working in a milk tea shop.

Are you ready to make a change and break free from the status quo?

When we were young, we all had dreams! But as we grew up, we were gradually defeated by reality and forgot our original dreams.

What an exciting question! What should you do?

Turn regret into strength and find the strength to pursue your dreams!

It's never too late to start at 28! Starting now will make a world of difference in how we spend our 30s and 35s.

But if we just wallow in regret and don't take action, regret and dissatisfaction will just follow us into our 30s and beyond. So let's take action!

But if you do, you could be a whole new person at 29!

And you know what? You could be different at 29!

What should I do? I'm ready to take action!

And find your future goal!

3. Confused about the future? Set goals and take consistent action!

How do you find your future goals?

The good news is that you can take action! It's not because you don't want to, but because you don't know what your goal is.

Ready to find your goal? Let's do this!

First, ask yourself: What do you want most?

Do you want to make money?

Then, find the skills you need to gain employment in the most profitable industries!

Then, find the gap between yourself and these skills and leap over it!

Make a list of all the amazing things you want to learn and then get learning and moving!

The incredible protagonist of the book Life is What You Make It went on stage for the first time at the tender age of 15, got married at 22, became a single mother at 31, and then moved to multiple cities in three countries to start her own business. She raised three outstanding children independently and obtained two master's degrees at the same time! In her 60s, she returned to the modeling stage and became popular when her hair turned white. At the age of 69, her image occupied four billboards in Times Square, USA!

She is a 72-year-old "Internet celebrity" and an inspirational idol in the eyes of many women. Perhaps her most famous label is "Silicon Valley Iron Man" and the mother of Tesla founder Elon Musk, but she is even more the queen of her own life. She is the incredible Maye Musk!

When you're feeling confused, dive into a good book or biography! Or, if you're not a reader, watch a great historical drama. You'll be amazed at how much you can learn from them!

This will not only cure your confusion, but it will also strengthen your mind!

That's my answer! I really hope it helps.

Hello. Thank you for your question. I read widely on this topic.

I have felt this sense of loss before. For example, when I see young people nowadays getting into better universities or achieving better results, or when I think back to my own past,

You think, "If I had been more mature back then, I would have achieved even more now."

Let's be real. If you had tried a little harder when you were in your 20s, you'd be in a better place now. But you have to know that when you were in your 20s, you also tried very hard and did everything you could.

If you try a little harder now when you are in your early 20s, you will have already done everything you can in your 20s. This is all part of growing up.

Your current thoughts are the result of your efforts over the years. When you are 35 or 40 years old and look back on your 28-year-old self, you will realize that you would have done better if you had been like you are now.

In fact, no matter what, we are already doing everything we can within our current understanding. So accept your current self—embrace it.

Thank your past self too. I tried hard, I did my best, and I did the best I could. I'm going to keep trying to make the future a little better.

So thank your past self. We are grateful for the help of others, their dedication, and their hard work. We appreciate seeing the efforts of others and the glorious days of others. But we must also see our own efforts back then, our struggles, our dedication, and everything we experienced, the dark and the light.

All of this has laid the foundation for who we are now. So say to yourself, "You have worked hard, thank you for your dedication, and I still have the present."

Second: You've realized you need to work hard. Plant a tree now.

Or right now. Of course, our feelings of loss will still be there.

We need to start working hard now. We need to work hard slowly and live for a few months, half a year, or a year. Or for three or five years.

When we achieve something through our hard work and feel proud of our achievements, we will no longer feel lost. We will be grateful and surprised.

We always compare ourselves to others. We want to know if we're richer, if we have a better job, or if our girlfriend is prettier.

If we do, we will always be in a state of loss because someone will always get something better than us. We must work hard and adjust our mentality at the same time.

We must ask ourselves: why do we strive? What is the purpose of striving?

Is it to make us look better than others? Or to make us feel better about ourselves?

The goal of striving is to make ourselves better off. And that's enough to feel happy.

There's another saying that we can't all be better than everyone else or worse than everyone else.

We all have our own set of advantages and disadvantages. We gain some and we lose some. So, relax. Be calm. Be tolerant of yourself.

Be lenient with yourself and others. When we want to work hard, we set higher standards for ourselves.

We must consider whether we are placing an excessive amount of pressure on ourselves. By taking a relaxed approach to work and pushing ourselves hard, we can achieve more and enjoy greater happiness.

We gain more than just more. We gain a better mood, a good attitude, and the feeling that we have been working hard. Striving is a happy thing.

We can work hard and appreciate the scenery along the way. We are better than our parents. We can make vertical comparisons when making horizontal comparisons.

Our parents gave us a great foundation and the best conditions they could. We are better off than the previous generation, no question. We are comparing ourselves with ourselves. The 28-year-old self is more likely to compare with the 20-year-old self and have some gains.

We must consider what kind of foundation we can provide for our future generations. It is beneficial to work hard, but we must recognize that excessive pressure can impair our results and affect our well-being.

While adjusting our mentality, we remain positive and forge ahead at a relaxed pace, enjoying the scenery and picking fruit from the trees along the way.

Think about it. Some people are lost, and they're worse off than you. They've suffered more, and they don't even have the time or opportunity to fight hard. You still have time to think, to fight hard, and to put your thoughts into practice.

We have time. Time is the most precious thing we have, and we have the most precious thing.

We have a more valuable mood. Mood is also a kind of wealth.

A good mood is priceless. It makes us feel happy and gives every moment meaning. Being a happy person is a skill and a source of pride.

Some people are very rich, but they live in fear, worry, and anxiety every day, under enormous pressure. The fact is, even if we have nothing, we can still be happy.

I hope you are happy now. Make yourself happy.

We may only have a small house, a cheap car, and a gentle wife, but we are rich in love and laughter. We are not rich, prestigious, successful, or respected, but we are happy.

The laughter and joy of a family is the greatest blessing. Be a happy person. If you are happy enough, you will attract happy people to your side, and your luck will get better and better.

Be happy before you succeed, and stay happy after you succeed. That's the way to have happiness and success.

That's the end of this morning's answers. I know my answers will help you a little, and I know they'll make you a little happier.

I love you, the world, and I'm here for you.

Hello!

From your description, I feel as if I have watched a microfilm. I am so inspired and moved, and I can also feel the protagonist's sense of loss and a sense of running on the road of life.

"I'm getting old," "I always regret not living life to the fullest in my 20s." Hearing about regrets and the taste of life you've experienced—there's a touch of melancholy, but also a hint of excitement for what's to come!

I can also sense your self-reproach, which is like a written apology to your parents. Perhaps your family members will say, "If you know you're sorry, why don't you just find a stable job?" (This is a guess at some life scenarios, so please forgive me if there are any discrepancies.)

You will see from people younger than yourself that you need to cherish the time! There is also a kind of envy and blessing for the future encounters of others.

You also help the store deliver takeaways, braving the wind and sun to deliver milk tea to the hands of those who ordered it. Isn't this also your history of struggle?

You feel a little bittersweet as the song comes to a close and everyone heads off on their way.

Everyone encounters so many amazing people in their lives! As the wise ancients said, "It is enough to have one bosom friend in life."

When Li Bai and Du Fu saw each other again, they wrote those words: "Let the weeds go their separate ways, and let's drink up our cups."

When an experience leaves us feeling excited, happy, or inspired, I think it's a great experience! It might seem like a simple experience, but water is the source of life!

You know how to make the best cup of milk tea! You know how to choose the perfect ingredients for milk tea, and you know how to control the sweetness to perfection.

There's got to be something amazing to discover in a job that allows you to work with food!

Oh, and you used the word "always" when you said, "always regretting that I didn't live life to the fullest in my 20s."

Guess what! You can make regret less severe. How? First, learn to organize your language in a way that uses kinder words and doesn't evaluate you in absolutes.

Then, you realize that the way to escape regret is to find something that makes you feel comfortable in the moment!

Everyone wants to realize their own value, and in a commercial society like ours, there are so many ways to do that! Sometimes learning to be inward-looking comes with the side effect of less positive anxiety marketing. If you have received relatively little clear guidance from past experiences, you will pay a certain time cost in your 20s and 30s, constantly polishing and learning to manage your own life. But eventually, you become someone who can empathize with others without being disturbed by anxiety marketing—and that's a great thing!

Imagine it's a mirror, placed in a cabin in the woods, covered in thick dust and covered in rust. It's a big job to clean it all at once, but you can do it! Just be careful not to use too much force, or you might crack it.

All you have to do is wipe it down every day with patience, and before you know it, it will be as good as new!

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a humble and modest person.

Embrace your authentic self.

Turning 28 is a tricky age. People around us will start comparing things, whether they mean to or not. We might even start feeling like we don't fit in anywhere. This lack of belonging can be pretty rough and leaves us with an inexplicable sense of loss.

If you think about it, this sense of loss is actually because we're sad, we regret our past lives, and we're not confident about our future lives. If you were in your early twenties, you'd probably laugh it off, and if you were in your thirties, you'd probably take it lightly. But you can't do that now.

We all experience different psychological states at different stages of our lives. It's normal to feel a sense of loss and worry as we navigate the challenges of our age. It's hard to accept that time flies and youth is gone. It's also common to feel like we're searching for our inner belonging and place in life. This can leave us feeling lost and wandering. The first step is to accept ourselves. Then, we can look to the future with a sense of purpose.

Looking ahead to the future.

❀If you think about the future, you'll see that the current feelings of loss and unease will pass, and things will get better day by day. We're colleagues now, and by getting along and working together, we can become good friends. We can maintain this friendship outside of work as well. Throughout our lives, we'll meet many people, and we'll gradually figure out who we're compatible with.

So, are we paving our own way? Our actions in the present will determine our state in the future. Just as your efforts over the past years have shaped your current state of life, the past is gone. Whether you have worked hard or not is no longer that important. The most important thing is the present. Can we, through our own efforts, prevent our future selves from feeling regret?

When we understand ourselves, accept ourselves, and face the problems of the moment, we'll naturally be able to find a rhythm that suits us. That'll help us have a good arrangement for our current lives, and then we'll feel less disappointed. You're doing well. Time flies, and we need to cherish it. Relationships are easily broken, so we need to manage them.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, host! I'm smiling.

After reading your description, I have a better understanding of the question you want to ask. In this regard, I would like to give you a hug in the fourth dimension.

Regarding the issues you mentioned in your description, I believe it's normal for you to feel a sense of loss. You mentioned the cause of your loss, which is understandable. For example, when you see a 20-year-old colleague, you associate them with your younger self in your 20s. You regret not living life to the fullest, which is why you are now 28 years old.

On the bright side, you're still taking on the responsibilities you should be at your age. You're doing well overall, but your salary could be higher.

From the description, it's clear that the host is a sentimental person. They'll express some emotional experiences about parting and engage in some self-reflection. In this regard, I'll give you another warm hug.

In this regard, I have also put together a few tips to help you cope with the current situation. I hope they'll be useful for you.

(1) Give yourself a break. Accept yourself as you are, warts and all.

(2) Remember, you're only 28, and the future holds a lot of possibilities. Give yourself some time to fight and work hard.

(3) Give yourself some time to work through your emotions about the separation. Don't ignore them, but don't dwell on them either. Try to release them in moderation.

(4) While you're still in the relationship, make the most of your current life. Do a great job at work, give it your all, and let time take care of the rest.

(5) You can talk to a friend you get along with, share your thoughts and feelings, and work through some of those repressed thoughts and feelings.

I just wanted to say that I love you and the world too!

Take care!

Gain insight into the human heart and make sharing a habit. This is a personal reflection.

The topic of discussion today is loss.

The term "lost" is used to describe a state of mental emptiness or lack of support.

The term "lost" has a literal meaning that is fortunately comprehensible. It refers to a person's inner spiritual emptiness, where everything seems meaningless. The resulting series of reactions includes losing interest in life, having no confidence in one's future, and thus lacking a substantive content in one's life. Consequently, they feel remorse for their past and have a sense of having wasted all these years.

In common parlance, the term "lost" is often perceived as pejorative. Based on my personal experience, I posit that at some point in an individual's life, the state of being "lost" should not be defined as a derogatory term or a sign of an unproductive life.

Conversely, I posit that he is a representation of an individual's progression from a state of innocence to one of maturity, from theoretical understanding to practical application, and from emotional perception to objective reality.

1. Admit reality. When one experiences regret, it indicates personal growth.

It is a common experience for individuals to experience regret at some point in their lives. This is a normal phenomenon. As we grow and develop, we are able to perceive the impracticality of some of our past actions and thoughts. In addition to remorse, the ability to recognize one's own shortcomings and former naivety is an indicator of maturity.

The realization of one's shortcomings and one's youth through remorse represents a form of personal growth. However, this progress may cease when an individual rapidly transitions out of this negative emotional state, rather than allowing it to persist and become more profound, thereby losing confidence in oneself. In this world, as long as an individual exudes confidence in themselves, others will tend to have confidence in them as well. The world tends to accept individuals who demonstrate courage and self-belief.

2. The past is irrevocably lost to us; there is no benefit to be gained from dwelling on it. Instead, we must focus our attention on the present.

In comparison to your colleagues, there is an eight-year age difference. While eight years may not be a significant span of time, it is not insignificant either. It is not advisable to engage in comparisons with others. Whether it is the general environment or personal growth, there is no absolute comparison, even if the individuals in question are siblings.

One's own life is unique and cannot be replicated by another individual. It is therefore futile to compare oneself to others, as such comparisons only serve to exacerbate feelings of self-reproach and inadequacy, ultimately leading to a sense of despondency.

Ultimately, there is no merit in allowing oneself to succumb to feelings of despondency. One must assume responsibility for selecting one's own trajectory and mastering the skills necessary to navigate it.

3. It is imperative not to disparage oneself at this juncture. When one attains success, it is likely that one will be grateful for the efforts made in the present moment.

Regardless of the nature of the workplace or the perceived insignificance of one's role, it is inevitable that one will come to recognize that every effort expended will not be in vain. Each step taken along the path to success serves as a cornerstone, contributing to the eventual attainment of one's goal. It is crucial not to undervalue one's own contributions or the seemingly minor tasks at hand.

One may change jobs, aspire to achieve certain goals, and even hold ideals. There is no inherent problem with any of these actions. However, it is important to avoid self-deprecation. When one's aspirations are realized, it is likely that one will look back on the journey that led to that achievement and recognize the role that perseverance and self-belief played in reaching that destination.

In conclusion,

The age of 28 can be considered a continuation of one's youthful aspirations.

Furthermore, it is an age characterised by striving and hard work.

At this age, it is essential to be mindful and to gain experience.

It is imperative to have faith in the fact that the future holds great promise.

I encourage you to proceed.

Greetings, I am the Yi Xinli answer host, Destruction and Regeneration. I am honored to be able to answer your questions and solve your problems on the Yi Xinli platform. First, I will provide an overview of the key points to be discussed.

In summary, one's expectations of life are initially high but may subsequently decline due to a sense of having "not lived life to the full." This discrepancy between initial expectations and subsequent experiences can lead to feelings of loss and regret. The perception of having "achieved nothing" over the years is a common phenomenon.

One might inquire whether the individual has truly "lived in vain" or "achieved nothing" throughout their lifetime.

Have you ever engaged in an activity that brought you joy or a sense of accomplishment? Even if it was just a single instance, it would be worthwhile to reflect on such experiences.

It is recommended that you attempt to ascertain the answers to these questions.

Furthermore, there is no universal consensus on what constitutes a "good life." What, then, is the meaning of "living a good life"?

What is your understanding of what it means to live a good life? Would you have been able to achieve your desired outcome if you had done all that?

Moreover, one can gain insight into the underlying factors that led to the decision to "not live life to the fullest." In the event of encountering a similar situation in the future, it is possible to develop a plan of action.

I posit that the process of identifying these factors is a crucial step in achieving a resolution.

In addition, it would be beneficial to learn three key things: firstly, to understand your expectations; secondly, to evaluate your current situation; thirdly, to determine how you will act, and how you will act in practice. It is important to remember that these decisions are yours alone to make, and that you should strive to make the best possible choices. The decision to leave school to attend university is a personal choice, and it is important to respect the individual's right to make this choice. Similarly, the people you meet in life and the experiences you have are often shaped by fate, which is a concept that is often difficult to comprehend. However, it is important to accept that these things are not always within our control, and that we must learn to comply with the circumstances that fate presents us with.

One cannot alter the actions of others or the veracity of past events. Since one cannot "grab" these things, one should attempt to adjust one's mindset and refrain from attempting to "grab" them deliberately, as this indicates a lack of connection to them. One should instead "break away" from them. When one improves oneself and one's energy, positive individuals and circumstances will be attracted to one.

In conclusion, it can be stated that no journey is truly wasted, and that all experiences, past or present, can be utilized for personal growth. It is therefore recommended that individuals draw upon the resources that their past experiences have to offer.

Should one persist in feeling powerless despite one's intentions, it may be beneficial to seek the guidance of a psychological counselor in developing a practical and feasible career plan. Best wishes for success.

Dear questioner, I can see that you have a lot of questions.

It's evident that you're not content with your current work and life. You know you can do better, but for some reason, you haven't been able to achieve it. You're disappointed, frustrated, sad, and lost when you look at your current situation.

I'm sure you've wondered why.

1: Everyone wants to live a better life and achieve something. You need a clear goal to make this happen. Without one, you will feel directionless and a lot of effort will be wasted. You will exhaust yourself until you doubt yourself and feel that you are not capable.

If you were in the milk tea industry, you would have made a fortune if you had started ten years ago when milk tea was just emerging. You could have opened many chain stores and become a big boss. If you do it well, you can earn a few hundred million a year. There's no reason to be dissatisfied with your life.

The milk tea industry is competitive, and business is difficult. You are under too much pressure, and the general environment is not conducive to success. The owners of surrounding shops are all having a hard time. It's not that you're not capable. It's just that you're facing too much pressure.

Choice is more important than effort.

2: Once you have a goal, you must establish a plan to implement it step by step. Divide the big goal into many small goals that can be accomplished, and stick to accomplishing those small goals every day. Big goals are difficult to accomplish at a glance. For example, running 100 kilometers is an ambitious goal, but if you divide it into 100 days and complete it at one kilometer a day, you will achieve it.

Let's examine your abilities and resources to fulfill your expectations.

1. It's clear you care deeply about your colleague and value every day you spend working with her. You're an emotional person who cares about others, which is a rare ability. Many people with this ability are respected and loved.

2. You are dissatisfied with your current situation and are ready to improve. Many people have already given up, but you haven't. You're about to leave your job, so you need a goal and plan. You've already taken the first step. Now, work hard to achieve it.

You're only 28, which is the perfect age to work hard for your career. You've also worked for many years, so you have some connections and experience.

4. You still have a lot of resources and abilities, but I can't see much of what you've described. You can detect it yourself.

Anyway, just do your best and don't worry about what will happen to your female colleague in the future. You can do it. Just do your best and let her be surprised in five years' time that the humble colleague from the milk tea shop is now someone she can't quite reach!

The individual in question has experienced a number of losses, including the loss of youth, the loss of a romantic relationship, the loss of a satisfactory current living situation, and the loss of familiarity.

It appears that these losses are associated with the 20-year-old female.

There is a 8-year age difference between the two individuals. The younger individual is pursuing higher education, while the older individual is still employed.

It may be inadvisable to state this publicly, but it appears that the opportunity to reconnect is no longer available.

It is a common experience to form connections with individuals who capture our hearts and minds, yet who are not suitable long-term partners. This is a natural aspect of life that everyone will encounter.

It is worth noting that the questioner is a gentleman, and a gentleman should know how to conduct himself. Despite his disappointment, he is not disturbing others.

Setting aside other considerations, this innocent friendship has provided an opportunity for introspection, which is beneficial.

Take a moment to reflect on your current situation and the time you have already invested in it. You are only 28 years old, which is still a relatively young age. The average life expectancy in China is 77 years old, according to statistics from 2020, and it is likely to increase in the future. You have over 50 years ahead of you. Life is about experience, whether it is positive or negative. Therefore, you feel that the previous years have been wasted. In the future, focus on achieving the life you want and becoming the person you want to become. It is never too late to make changes, and you can even go back and take the college entrance exam if you wish. Having the courage to start over again is essential.

Please find below some practical suggestions.

First, it is essential to undertake a comprehensive self-assessment. This will require a clear identification of your strengths and weaknesses, as well as an objective evaluation of the changes you can make and those you cannot.

Secondly, you must consider your desired lifestyle and personal development goals. Set a significant objective and then establish smaller, more achievable targets to guide your annual efforts.

Third, execution is key. Without it, any plan is merely empty rhetoric. The ultimate test of execution is perseverance.

Fourth, it is essential to make adjustments throughout the implementation process.

It is crucial to recognize that life is not about dwelling on past regrets and self-blame. Prolonged periods of self-criticism and inaction lead to a vicious cycle of negative emotions and missed opportunities. To avoid this, it is essential to develop the determination to make changes promptly, ensuring that one does not continue to dwell on past mistakes in the later stages of life.

Hello, I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to extend my support and encouragement in the form of a 360-degree hug.

From your simple question, I can tell that you have some regrets-and-disappointment-in-life-2534.html" target="_blank">regrets, a sense of loss, and a sense of uncertainty about the future. It seems that you feel somewhat isolated in a big, busy world. You feel that the excitement belongs to others, and you are left alone. You have also said that you have always wanted to seize something, but it seems that there is not much you can seize right now.

As the old saying goes, 30 is just a number. You are now 28 years old, and probably all of your peers are either married with children or in a couple. Everyone is working hard for their work and their families.

Your current position is at a milk tea shop. It might be challenging to find security in this type of work, and it may be difficult to see a clear path to advancement through promotion and pay raises. It's possible that your salary is not as high as you'd like. And it seems you haven't started a family yet.

It might be said that you are experiencing some frustration in both your professional and personal lives.

Of course, this is just a guess. You haven't mentioned anything about your family situation, why you chose this job, or that you're planning to quit your job too. It's possible that you're a second-generation rich kid who wants to experience life.

As I mentioned previously, I can discern from your question that you are feeling somewhat adrift and uncertain. It may be that, despite being thirty years old, you haven't yet had the chance to fully grasp the opportunities that life has to offer.

I must admit that I'm not sure what the best course of action would be, and the advice I can give you is very general.

For instance, it might be helpful to consider developing an intimate relationship. According to Erikson's theory of psychological social development stages, the conflict between intimacy and loneliness often arises around the age of 28. Regarding your question, it might be beneficial to explore the possibility of finding a girlfriend and seriously entering into a relationship that could potentially lead to marriage.

Secondly, it might be helpful to consider what you truly desire. You have mentioned that you have always wanted to seize something, but it would be beneficial to clarify exactly what that is. Regardless of what you wish to seize, it would be valuable to reflect on the kind of life you aspire to lead in the future and then identify ways you can work towards that now.

You say you often find yourself wishing you had made different choices in your 20s, so perhaps it's time to start embracing a more fulfilling lifestyle. It's natural to have regrets, but dwelling on them is not helpful. Many of us have experienced similar feelings when we were younger.

I recall having a conversation with my classmates after we graduated from university. We discussed our regret at not studying harder during our school years. We then agreed that it was never too late to start studying.

Subsequently, a number of my fellow students went on to pursue postgraduate studies.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try to do something every day that is certain, apart from work and things like checking your phone. For example, you might consider reading a certain number of pages every day. There's no need to worry if you get into it or remember it, just do it. It can be for half an hour or something.

You might like to consider giving it a try. You may also find it helpful to talk to a counselor.

I am a counselor who experiences a range of emotions, including periods of depression and occasional moments of positivity. I believe that the world is a beautiful place, and I wish everyone well.

Hello!

Host:

Hi, I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I've read your post and I can see that you're feeling a bit confused about your sense of loss.

I also want to say that I admire you for being so open and honest about your problems and for actively seeking help on the platform. I'm sure that your courage will help us all to better understand and recognize ourselves, and to adjust ourselves accordingly. Please accept your emotions.

I'd also like to share some thoughts and observations from your post that I hope will help you see yourself in a new light.

1. Loss of self

It's so interesting how the host mentioned seeing your youthful appearance in your colleagues, as if you long to return to that age. I can relate! I always regret not living life to the fullest in my 20s, and now I'm 28, and it's not what I expected. After reading this information, I first of all understand the host's loss.

I really do think this is a normal emotional reaction.

From these messages, I can tell that the host is feeling a bit down on themselves. We all have an "ideal self" in our minds, and when we don't meet our own expectations, it's only natural to feel a little lost.

It's totally normal to feel lost, frustrated, or even regretful and self-doubting when our real self doesn't meet the standards of our ideal self. I think you'll find this perspective really helpful in understanding your sense of loss.

2. Loss

In the post, the host mentioned that every time she goes out to deliver takeaways from the store, she always thinks that she'll have nothing to do with her colleagues or the people in this store in the future. She's also going to quit her job! She said she'll feel very lost and that she'll feel like she's lived in vain during this period of time. It seems like she's always wanted to grasp something, but she feels a sense of loss because things are always flowing away.

Leaving this store means leaving the place where you work, and it also means drifting apart from her and your colleagues. I know it can be really sad and make you feel lost.

Because separation means loss. It means losing some of the good times and emotions spent with her and her colleagues.

In psychology, there's a professional term called the "grief process." It basically says that we'll feel sad when we lose something, and when we let ourselves feel that sadness, it means we're accepting the loss. It's totally normal to feel this way! The good news is that the sadness will pass. It just takes time. Give yourself the space to feel whatever you're feeling. When you're ready, you'll be ready to move on.

I really hope that after reading this theory, the host has a better understanding and awareness of their sense of loss.

3. Let your emotions be there for you.

We chatted about the grieving process earlier, so I think the host is already on the right track in understanding how to face separation. It's totally normal to feel a little lost and sad when we're separated.

That's because we're human beings with emotions! And because we have emotions, we can experience the beautiful times in life. We'll cherish what we have even more!

So, what we can do right now is try to cherish the present more and at the same time, we must learn to allow ourselves to feel the sadness of loss. Only in this way can we better face separation.

It's also important to remember that life is a journey of constant separation and reunion.

Our growth is all tied up in the good and bad times, the people who stick around and those who move on. When we embrace all of it, it's easier to face the world. Some people come into our lives for a little while, and they leave a lasting impression.

4. Accept yourself, warts and all!

We talked about how you might be feeling a bit down because you're not totally happy with yourself right now. It's totally normal to feel this way! We all have moments where we feel like we could have done better in the past.

I totally get it. Sometimes in life, we need to take a few detours before we can gain some insight.

And then, we'll be able to understand the truth that is unique to ourselves, and we'll cherish the time ahead even more!

We've learned and gained so much from our past, and I truly believe we can try to accept our former selves as well as our current selves. Let's accept the good parts of ourselves as well as the bad parts, accept the parts of ourselves that we cannot change, and focus our energy on the parts that we can change. I truly believe that if we do this, we will encounter a better version of ourselves.

You know, the more we accept and are satisfied with ourselves, the less lost we'll feel. And it'll also help us feel better emotionally and give us more self-confidence and strength.

I really hope this helps and inspires you in some way. If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for one-on-one communication and exploration.