If you don't love someone anymore, do you have to stick it out for the sake of the children?

Hello, host!

I totally get those feelings of emptiness that come up in a dull marriage.

I have been with him for more than ten years, and we have been through years of loud arguments and domestic violence. It's been quite the adventure!

I have changed so much in the past six months! I have become gentler, I no longer use verbal violence, and I have also changed my appearance.

Huge congratulations to the poster! It's so inspiring to see someone make such a positive change and become a better version of themselves. It's definitely something to celebrate!

We're back to how we were when we were in love!

But I don't love anymore, and there's no more to talk about. On to bigger and better things!

I'll never forget the hurt he caused me.

And I'm excited to say that I vaguely remember the scenes of hitting me!

And it's so tough to go back to the way it was. The damage that has been done is a real challenge to overcome, but you can do it! There will definitely be scars, but you'll be stronger for it.

And as a woman gets older, she gradually becomes very realistic, which is a wonderful thing!

This is especially true for women who have been hurt in love. But there is hope!

You know what? No one has the right to say, "Forget the past, be more tolerant, and don't advise others on kindness without experiencing it yourself."

The actual feelings of the original poster are truly your own, and no one else can interfere—so embrace them!

Now, if there is no one to take care of the children after a divorce,

I also don't have the financial means to raise a child, but I'm excited to figure out a way to make it work!

Since reality is holding you back, then first try to change yourself!

Have the courage to leave at any time!

But being together is really meaningless!

After living in the small town for six years, I'm ready for something new!

When we were together, we were still young and our values had not yet been formed, so every day was really boring.

As long as you have a heart, there is beauty everywhere! It doesn't matter if you're in a small city or a big city, people with an empty heart will feel bored no matter where they are.

Absolutely! You can find something you can do in a small city, even if it doesn't make a lot of money. And it'll make you feel meaningful!

Carefully observe what the surrounding needs, provide whatever help you can, and you will always find a place of your own!

I wish you the happiest life possible!

I am Warm June, and I love you, world!

Hello,

Hearing the word "domestic violence" is painful, both physically and mentally.

Once you've experienced pain as an adult, it's important to take a step back and reflect.

1. There's a lot of grumbling about small-town life. What if you had to start all over again?

"After six years of living in a small town, there's nothing to do and nothing new," seems to be a kind of disgust with small-town life. But would a big city bring another kind of trouble?

It's not possible for one person's salary to support a family if there are internal issues. School district housing is often on the market.

The psychological deficiency caused by social phenomena is that both people in an intimate relationship feel a lack of companionship. They want to talk to each other, but there is always no time. Life in a big city, where efficiency is overemphasized and a certain economic foundation has not yet been reached, is the most wearing on people's patience.

2. If you're not happy in your marriage, it's important to distinguish your feelings for your children.

"Every day is really boring," she's tired of her husband's current level of goodwill. Being tired of him means being tired of the marriage too.

It's really disappointing when you're disappointed in your partner.

Love your kids unconditionally and show them you care.

If you don't get love and care in a marriage, it affects the quality of the love you give your kids, which is unfair to them.

Children aren't a tool to maintain a marriage.

Children are like angels, calling out for paternal love and maternal love and inspiring the most sincere and precious love in the hearts of humans.

No matter what your circumstances are, having children brings a whole new level of love and beauty into your life.

3. Financial capacity

In the internet age, small towns offer plenty of opportunities. For instance, they provide access to local specialties that showcase the best of China.

Those who are torn between fear of loss know that fear of loss can lead to violence.

Making a choice is a way of creating your own sense of worth.

4. How well you handle stress when you're the subject of gossip.

Some small towns have pretty traditional views on women's roles in marriage.

No matter how you look at it, marriage can have consequences.

Tell yourself that the more you can keep an open mind and not be too judgmental, the luckier you'll be.

Have the courage to fall in love with your place of residence (no matter where that may be). Take your child's hand and explore the unknown together.

Dear question asker, I want to thank you for sharing your story with me. I can see that you have been through a lot in the past ten years, and I am sorry to hear that your marriage has left you with deep wounds. It is understandable that you are not ready to share every detail of your marriage, especially the parts that are still painful for you. I am here to listen and support you, so please feel free to share whatever you are comfortable with. I noticed that you mentioned that you vaguely remember scenes of domestic violence. It is clear that these experiences have had a significant impact on you, and I want to assure you that you are not alone in this. There is a lot of support available for people who have been through similar situations. I am here to listen and support you, so please feel free to share whatever you are comfortable with.

I am pleased to hear that you have undergone significant changes over the past six months. Rather than blaming external factors or expecting others to change, you have taken the initiative to work on yourself, striving to become a better, more beautiful, and more gentle version of yourself. The past self, burdened by the challenges of marriage and facing personal struggles, has gradually transformed. This is an important step in the journey of self-awareness, which not everyone has the opportunity to experience. It requires a shift in perspective, starting with oneself and working towards personal growth and change, rather than relying on external factors.

I am pleased to be able to offer you my congratulations!

Your awakening also made you realize that your feelings for the man in front of you had changed. You decided to focus your attention on yourself and your own needs, and this shift in perspective led to positive changes in your relationship. One person became more gentle, which had a ripple effect on those around them, creating a more friendly atmosphere in the family. While your goal was not to save your marriage, your personal growth and transformation have positively influenced your marriage.

This is something you should be proud of, and it is also one of the ways you can reward yourself.

You have expressed a desire to leave, but financial considerations have made that difficult. If you continue, you feel that there is no point in living in this small town every day. So you will find that after awakening and improving, you have entered a period of stagnation, where you feel unable to move forward or backward, and trapped.

This could be seen as a signal, and it may be that this state of mind is actually reminding us that our improvement and change are about to escalate.

In the initial stage, you may notice improvements in your speech and appearance. You have already tasted the fruit of your efforts, which is an improved family atmosphere, a sense of accomplishment, and a certain degree of self-confidence. What steps can we take to maintain this sense of accomplishment, worthiness, and self-confidence?

This may entail a commitment to lifelong learning, with the aspiration to continually transform ourselves from the outside in. In light of your current circumstances, whether related to financial independence, parenting, or long-term development, it could be valuable to pursue knowledge and skills, cultivate your own thoughts, and strive for enhanced cognitive abilities.

At that time, you will not only be beautiful on the outside, but also have a rich inner life, full of confidence, certainty, vision, structure, and planning. While it is not necessary to leave town to get all this, the pressure of the economy and the burden of children may prevent you from going out with a clear mind under your current conditions. Online education is now so well developed that you can receive the latest, most professional, and most authoritative education without leaving home. It all depends on whether we have enough internal motivation to start and firmly implement it. Once you have accumulated enough energy, you can confidently and freely choose the path you want to take.

From your description, I noticed some details. You said that you were young and immature when you first got together with your current husband. Now you can reassess your maturity. Compared to yourself ten years ago, what progress have you made in terms of survival skills, vocational skills, thoughts, and knowledge? What is worth improving and changing in the next ten years? I also noticed that you said there is nothing interesting, nothing to do, and nothing new in the small town. I guess you are not very old now, and there is still a curious and playful child inside you, always wanting to set yourself free and explore the outside world. As I just said, if you want to see the world and see it with a wise heart, rather than simply swiping your phone or watching videos to see the excitement, you might consider studying.

As a mother, you have the wonderful opportunity to read and learn with your child. You can both learn what you need to learn, and you can progress together.

I have not mentioned what your husband should do because, as I said, a change in one person can trigger a "butterfly effect." Your husband has his own life's lessons to learn, and that is his business. What you need to do is to focus on your own lessons. If, in the current atmosphere of apparent peace and someone supporting the family, you still have no motivation to tap your potential and further improve yourself, then, after leaving your marriage, with no one to take care of the children and in a financially difficult situation, you will be even more powerless to dig deep and seek change.

You may feel that life is lacking in stimulation. If you have long-term considerations and goals, short-term plans, and long-term planning, your life will be more fulfilling. If you love life and love learning, your life will be more interesting. The Russian writer Ivan Turgenev once said, "Learning is not only wisdom, it is also freedom."

I believe that knowledge can be a great source of freedom.

This longing for freedom may eventually lead you, and perhaps even your heart, to consider leaving the comfort of your small town and embracing a wider world.

I would like to propose a toast to freedom!

Good day, landlord. I hope my response can be of some assistance to you.

After carefully reading the host's description, it seems that the host's main conflict is whether or not to get a divorce. If they don't get a divorce, they feel that living with their husband is meaningless and uninspiring. They will recall the harm your husband has done to you and remember the scenes of him hitting you. If they get a divorce, they will have no one to take care of their children, and they don't have the financial ability to raise them on their own. It seems that there are only these two options, but in reality, there might be other possibilities to consider.

If you choose not to divorce, you may feel that you have to keep repeating this marital pattern. In fact, you can make changes and adjustments, and this pattern will certainly change. If you really want to stay with him, we can help you make married life interesting, make your relationship more harmonious, and make your communication smoother. Rather than resorting to simple methods such as arguing and violence to solve problems, we can explore other options together.

By following this approach, you can avoid feeling bored in your marriage, experience the care and support of your partner, and find value and happiness in the relationship. If you work together, support each other, and nourish each other, you can have a harmonious and stable marital relationship.

It is commonly understood that the development of intimate relationships follows a pattern. While it is certainly a wonderful thing to be in love, it is also important to recognize that relationships require more than just passion. They also require a period of adjustment, introspection, and enlightenment. By actively engaging in the process of getting to know each other and exploring each other's needs, couples can gradually enter a more stable state.

How might we best navigate these four stages?

1. Try to accept the other person completely and learn to live with their shortcomings.

Each of us is an independent individual, shaped by a unique combination of factors including our upbringing, educational background, and living environment.

It is worth noting that attempting to change another person can often lead to difficulties. It is often challenging to alter someone else's behavior or characteristics.

It is worth noting that attempting to change another person can often lead to frustration. It is often challenging to alter someone else's behavior or beliefs.

If the other person is not open to change, it may be challenging to influence their behavior or way of thinking. As the saying goes, "There are only three things in this world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven." It's natural to worry about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven, but it's also important to recognize that we can't control everything. Focusing on our own actions and responsibilities can help us feel more in control.

While we cannot control the other person's behavior and thoughts, we can take steps to address the things within our control. This may include expressing our needs, showing love and respect, accepting the other person, and trying to understand them better.

This could potentially allow us to influence him and bring about some changes.

Perhaps if we were to learn to accept the other person completely, to accept that they are just the way they are, and learn to tolerate their shortcomings, to get along with them instead of dwelling on them and constantly criticizing and complaining, there might be less trouble in our hearts and our relationships might become more harmonious.

Perhaps we could consider that learning to accept the other person completely, accepting that they are just the way they are, and learning to tolerate their shortcomings and get along with them, instead of dwelling on them and constantly criticizing and complaining, might help to reduce some of the difficulties we experience in our hearts and in our relationships.

2. It would be beneficial to learn to communicate in depth and build a trust-based relationship.

The purpose of communication is not to prove who is right and who is wrong, but rather to facilitate a deeper understanding between you and your partner, and to support the growth of your relationship.

It would be beneficial to express each other's needs and feelings in a timely manner in order to establish a deeper emotional connection and exchange. One possible method for doing so is through the use of non-violent communication. This method involves stating the objective facts, expressing feelings, expressing needs, and requesting the other person's action.

It is important to note that when stating facts, it is best to be objective, rather than critical or accusatory. It is also helpful to express your needs and feelings as they truly are, and to be specific when requesting action from the other person. Being as detailed as possible in this way allows the other person to understand exactly what is required of them.

It may also be helpful to communicate regularly, learn to share, and avoid becoming too distant from each other.

When you can promptly express your feelings and needs, share each other's lives, and let the other person understand your life status and dynamics, this can enhance each other's sense of security.

3. It may be helpful to consider ways of strengthening the sense of ritual.

It might be said that rituals act as a kind of preservative for love. How might we go about strengthening the sense of ritual?

Perhaps it would be helpful to set some rules.

It might be helpful to work out some rules for getting along together to ensure regular romantic interactions between the two of you. For example, you could agree to say goodnight to each other every night, talk about any conflicts rather than bottling them up, and try not to let arguments last overnight.

B. Consider ways to create romance in your relationship.

B. Consider ways to create romance.

It might be helpful to consider ways of expressing your appreciation and affection for your partner. Doing so could help to make them feel cared for. One way of doing this might be to surprise your partner with something, such as writing a few lines of love words, recording an interesting voice clip, or singing a love song for them. Another option might be to buy your partner some carefully selected gifts on anniversaries or birthdays, such as something they have mentioned to you. This could help to show that you are thinking of them at all times.

4. Consider creating romantic expectations and exploring the potential benefits of commitment.

It is commonly acknowledged that love encompasses three key elements: intimacy, passion and commitment.

As intimacy develops further, it becomes increasingly important to consider the role of commitment in overcoming current difficulties. Without a sense of expectation for the future, it can be challenging to maintain motivation and momentum. It may, therefore, be helpful to set some common expectations for the future and to try to be as specific as possible. For example, you might say, "This weekend, I will cook a big meal for you, so that you can taste the love and care I have put into cooking for you."

You might also consider planning together where you would like to travel, where you would like to buy a new home, and so on.

You might also consider planning together where you would like to travel, where you would like to buy a new home, how you would like to decorate the new home, where you would like to travel together, where you would like to go hiking or to the beach on weekends, and visit a friend together during the holidays.

When life is full of expectations, you may find yourself looking forward to the future, which could potentially be a sweet and happy experience when you look back.

It is certainly easier said than done, but as long as we are willing to work together and put in the effort to manage our relationship, support each other, trust each other, understand each other, help each other, and grow together, then we will undoubtedly have a long-lasting and intimate relationship.

If you decide to divorce, you may wish to consider how you will bring up and support your children.

For instance, you might consider entrusting your child to the care of his grandparents while you focus on providing financial support and meeting your child's needs. This can be challenging, but it is certainly a possibility. Many children from single-parent families go on to lead happy and optimistic lives, just like Gu Ailing.

It is worth noting that children in single-parent families can still lead happy lives even if they are divorced or have only one parent, provided that their parents are able to give them just the right amount of love, so that the children feel loved and yet bound.

If we can do the following, children in single-parent families will likely not be affected too negatively:

1. It is important to discuss the divorce with your child openly and honestly, without criticizing the other parent in front of your child. Reassure your child that he is not to blame for the situation.

2. It might be helpful to discuss the new life with your child and reassure them that although you and your partner are separating, you will always love and care for them.

3. It would be beneficial to your child to help them adapt to a new life as soon as possible, and to ensure they feel supported and included.

4. It is important to provide your child with appropriate love and guidance. It is not necessary to feel that you owe your child something just because you are divorced. It is also important to avoid spoiling or indulging your child excessively as a result of this situation.

5. It is important to remember not to be overbearing as a parent and to focus on encouraging your child's sense of independence.

6. It would be beneficial for the child to have full contact with elders of different genders, so that they can learn from people of different genders and their different ways of dealing with problems.

7. It would be beneficial to encourage children to venture outside the home and form friendships, particularly during adolescence, when they are learning to navigate independence.

8. Single parents should strive to set a positive example for their children.

It is worth noting that many challenges can be overcome. To find solutions, it is helpful to "separate the issues" and make our own choices, understanding that we will face the consequences of our choices. Similarly, if we choose to remain in our current situation, that is also a choice. In that case, we will need to accept the consequences of that choice, which may be to continue living this way.

A child's happiness is not solely determined by the presence of a seemingly complete family on the surface. It is also influenced by their ability to perceive the beauty in life and the love from those around them. For instance, if a child has both a father and a mother in a family but the parents are constantly in conflict and lack the time to devote to the child, it can lead to feelings of unhappiness. Conversely, if the child only has a father or mother, but the parent is content and thriving, the child may also learn to embrace happiness and become a happy individual in the future.

Ultimately, the most important question is whether you can become a happy person yourself, regardless of whether you choose to get a divorce. If you can become a happy person, you can infect your child with your positive outlook, and she will eventually become a happy person too.

Please find the above information for your reference. Wishing you the best!

Dear Question Asker, You have experienced domestic violence and loud arguments for many years, which has undoubtedly made your married life challenging in recent years. I can only imagine the pain and sadness you must have endured.

Fortunately, the questioner has already begun to become self-aware, and there has been some improvement in their married life. Currently, the questioner is more eager for a sense of self-worth and is hoping to leave their small town and create their own little world. Based on the questioner's description, I will interpret it positively: the questioner is also trying to be themselves.

1. "I have been with him for more than ten years, and we have experienced years of loud arguments and domestic violence."

I am unaware of the specific circumstances that the questioner and her husband have faced over the years. However, I can surmise what the situation may have been like. It is not uncommon for couples to engage in heated discussions, even to the point of raising their voices. However, domestic violence can have a profound and lasting impact, particularly in terms of psychological trauma. At the same time, I admire the questioner's courage in seeking help. I would like to inquire whether, during your relationship, you ever encountered instances of domestic violence.

Prior to this, did he simply lash out in anger, or did he resort to physical violence after a significant disagreement?

What were the key points of contention during the significant disagreement? The questioner can reflect on this, which will be beneficial for their future interactions.

2. "In the past six months, I have undergone significant changes. I have become more gentle, I no longer engage in verbal violence, and I have also changed in terms of appearance. It seems that we are getting back to being as good as we were before, back to when we were in love. However, I no longer love him, and we have no topics to discuss."

"I am unable to forget the pain he caused me, and I have vague memories of the incidents where he struck me. If I were to get divorced, I would no longer have a partner to care for our children, and I lack the financial resources to raise them on my own. However, staying together seems pointless."

(1) I am pleased to inform you of the positive changes in the questioner. Verbal violence is also a form of domestic violence, but the questioner has already recognized this and has learned to adapt and evolve, which indicates a promising trajectory for all aspects of life. When the questioner has transformed, there has been a notable shift in marital dynamics. Both parties have started to act in a manner reminiscent of their early romantic phase. This is a commendable outcome, and it is a testament to your dedication and commitment over the years. The questioner now aspires to continue striving and evolving to become a better version of himself. This is a noteworthy achievement. You will continue to excel in the future, so maintain confidence in your abilities.

(2) However, at this time, you find that your feelings for him have diminished, you have no topics to discuss, and you are unable to move on from the hurt he has caused you. In particular, the image of him hitting you is unforgettable. It is evident that the pain is still present, and it would be beneficial to discuss this with your husband. For example: First, inform him that I am now trying my best to change myself, to stop verbal violence, and I also hope that our family atmosphere will change for the better. However, I am still struggling to move on from the past, the pain of being hit by you still haunts me.

I believe that once he is aware, he will consider your feelings to a greater extent and gradually learn to win your affection. Secondly, the questioner can practise meditations on self-love and anger management. These can be accessed on the platform and should be carried out daily.

This will assist you in releasing past emotions and developing a more positive self-image. Thirdly, with regard to topics, it is beneficial for both parties to engage in activities together. One such activity is taking the children outdoors, which can foster positive relationships between parents and children, as well as between spouses.

You may also consider going for a walk together after dinner and discussing the day's events while walking. Alternatively, you could set aside half an hour before going to bed to listen to each other, which are all effective ways to cultivate intimacy.

(3) The questioner should first attempt the aforementioned methods and assess the results. It is evident that the questioner has a strong affinity for children and has been solely responsible for their upbringing over the years. Regarding financial capability, it is essential to identify one's strengths and develop a comprehensive understanding of one's financial standing.

Maximize your strengths. If you are eloquent, for instance, you can prepare for a career in sales by reading more and attending lectures to accumulate knowledge. The Internet offers a wealth of resources for learning and developing new skills. I study and listen to lectures online every day, and I believe you can do the same. Personal growth is also a crucial aspect of your development, encompassing areas such as cognition, thinking, ability, and emotional regulation.

Through learning, you can achieve anything. Perseverance will lead to future rewards.

(4) Your husband also has his own homework – personal growth. The key is to respect each other. In fact, when one person in the family changes, the others will also change. Just as you have changed, your husband is also changing! It is important to recognize the value of the interaction between the two of you.

3. "After residing in a small town for six years, there were few opportunities for engagement and little exposure to new experiences. During that period, we were still in our formative years, and our values had not yet been established, which resulted in a lack of stimulation and monotony."

Please advise the current age of the OP. Furthermore, please confirm whether the OP would require employment in a major city.

Will you face new challenges when seeking employment in an urban setting? Will you encounter new demands?

It is also possible that you face overtime every day, and there may be serious traffic jams on the way to and from work. This is an ideal time to consider how you can break through and grow yourself, as well as develop your skills further. When you want to go out and have fun, you can use this time to travel, relax, or go out with your husband, while the older family members take care of the children for a few days to cultivate their relationship.

I hope this information is useful to you and I wish you the best of luck.

Good day, my name is Jiayun.

From your description, it is evident that you are not satisfied with the current state of your marriage.

After more than ten years of cohabitation, you and your partner have experienced a significant number of conflicts. It appears that you have resolved these issues, but you feel that the level of affection and the range of topics for discussion have diminished.

2. Due to practical constraints, you lack the financial ability to raise the child on your own.

You are currently undecided as to whether to proceed with divorce or to remain in the marriage.

You have made significant personal changes in your marriage, which has led to a notable improvement in the relationship. I believe that in the process, you have become more mature. Consequently, you will naturally have different expectations regarding your ideal partner and your desired lifestyle.

This is a common occurrence. Individuals develop at different rates and have varying perspectives at different stages of their lives.

A marriage is a long-term relationship that requires both parties to adapt to each other's pace. If one partner is more rapid in their approach, there is a risk of widening the gap between them and their spouse. This can lead to a greater likelihood of issues arising.

Many couples experience similar difficulties.

However, it is unclear whether divorce is the optimal solution to the underlying issue.

Before making a decision regarding the future of the relationship, it would be prudent to ascertain the nature of the discrepancy between the two parties. Is it feasible to rectify the situation?

It is important to remember that the purpose of a relationship is to facilitate personal growth. Disagreements are not inherently negative, and learning to navigate them effectively can be a valuable process.

I wish you the best of luck in identifying the optimal relationship model for your needs.

If there is no domestic violence, I have not spent much time raising the children, and there is someone to help raise the children after the divorce, I support divorce. I am selfishly pursuing a new life, and I know that the psychological burden will be much less.

Children are a factor in divorce. Many people say children are not a barrier to divorce, but I challenge that. I believe those who say this do not have children. Raising a child from an early age, taking care of her with all your heart, caring for her and loving her, you experience the feeling that you can love someone so much, a feeling that you will never experience with your parents or husband.

If I get a divorce, I will not give the children to their father. He cannot love and care for them as much as I do.

My husband and mother-in-law are reliable, but I don't want to give my child to them. I can't bear to be separated from my child, and I can't stand spending only one or two days with my child a week. My child will feel like she doesn't have a mother, and she'll ask me if I love her. So I take my child with me.

My parents should be willing to help me take care of her. If they are not, I will put her in a kindergarten care program and go to work. The result was that my child caught colds frequently during the first six months at kindergarten, and occasionally after that. Whenever she caught a cold, she would stay home for a week, and I would be unable to go to work.

I can count the number of extraordinary people in my life on one hand. Take my cousin, for example. She married her match in her 20s, had children, and her mother-in-law took care of the children after they were born. A few months later, she got divorced and never went back to see her children. In her 30s, she made some money and went abroad on her own to do in vitro fertilization to get pregnant and give birth to her second child. She is raising her child as a single mother. She has a pretty good life.

For example, a cousin, 17/18 years old, had a child with her boyfriend and broke up. The child was given to her single mother to raise in her hometown in the countryside, and she worked hard in the first-tier city alone. She has a good image and temperament, can earn a lot of money, and is almost 30 years old. She married a man in his first marriage and had a second child. She gets along well with her husband and in-laws. She also has a good life.

We can choose our own lives, and every choice has its pros and cons. After making a choice, we must think about and act on how to minimize the harm. For example, if I don't get a divorce, I will make my life in the marriage better.

I want to know how I can persuade my parents to help with the children or spend time with them after a busy day at work if I get divorced.

Good day. I am Strawberry.

In light of the aforementioned confessions and difficulties, it is evident that the marriage has endured for over a decade, which is a considerable length of time. Over the course of the marriage, the couple has also become intimately acquainted with one another. Upon examining the question in question, it is clear that the two individuals entered into matrimony of their own volition and were not wed for the sake of their offspring. Consequently, the children are not a determining factor in the couple's decision to remain together or separate.

It is evident that a considerable number of parents are in a state of discord within their marital relationships. The most frequently cited rationale for their continued cohabitation is that the presence of their children serves as a deterrent to their departure. However, if their primary motivation truly stems from the well-being of their children, it is expected that they would endeavor to identify and address the underlying issues within their marriage, rather than acquiescing to a lifestyle of compromise and mere survival. The question thus arises: Is an unhappy family a complete family? Can children flourish in an environment of parental discord?

The emotional instability of parents has a significant impact on their children.

The term "domestic violence" evokes images of helplessness and fear, as well as a sense of being in a vulnerable position. In this marriage, both partners have experienced a significant degree of exhaustion, both physically and mentally. When individuals are fatigued, they often seek support and comfort. However, in this case, the husband has become a source of distress and anxiety.

? Analysis-Back to the original state of affairs

The questioner indicated that over the past six months, he has become markedly more gentle, no longer engages in verbal violence, and has also undergone a transformation in his image. These observations suggest that the questioner has undergone a sudden awakening. Additionally, the questioner has recognized some of his own shortcomings and has implemented changes, thereby demonstrating personal growth. The exemplary version of the questioner has gained the admiration and affection of his husband, and the couple appears to have reestablished a sense of closeness and harmony.

The incident has resulted in a sense of distrust and a certain degree of emotional distress. While it may be possible to rebuild trust, it is also susceptible to dissolution due to the actions of the husband. Consequently, it is not feasible to revert to the previous state of affairs.

Method: Allow each party to reflect on the marriage.

One must inquire whether the individual in question is genuinely liked by the questioner, or if the decision to remain in the marriage is motivated by a desire to salvage the relationship. It is essential to engage in self-reflection by asking oneself: am I truly happy?

One might inquire as to whether the individual currently finds satisfaction in their own persona. Furthermore, it could be asked whether the joy experienced within the marital union is derived from the act of giving, or if it is a mutual experience.

A marriage is a commitment between two individuals. If only one person makes changes, the one who has invested more effort will eventually become discouraged. The questioner can communicate with her husband and express her thoughts on the current marriage. If he values the family and the questioner, he should reflect on why he no longer makes the questioner feel loved. The decision to continue the marriage should be based on whether he is willing to reflect on and make changes.

An analysis of the situation reveals that the question is not whether love has been lost, but rather, whether it is accurate to conclude that love has been lost.

The questioner stated that she no longer loves her husband, that she is unable to forget the hurt he has caused her, and that she also mentioned the current financial situation. It is possible that the unchanging routine has contributed to her feelings of fatigue, in addition to the fact that her husband is unable to utilize certain rituals to make her feel loved. This has resulted in a gradual loss of security in the marriage.

It is a misconception that a loss of expectations necessarily signifies the demise of love. It may be that when changes occur in a relationship and a different kind of freshness is experienced in a marriage, it will become apparent that maintaining a happy marriage is not particularly difficult for two people, and that the original poster may also be able to find the feeling of love again.

Method: The five languages of love

The questioner can learn the five languages of love with her husband to gain a new way of getting along with each other.

1. Affirming Words

In lieu of focusing on perceived shortcomings, it is beneficial to acknowledge and appreciate the positive attributes of one's partner. Individuals, regardless of age, tend to respond favorably to positive reinforcement. When one has accomplished something worthy of pride, it is natural to seek affirmation from one's partner. However, if the response is merely perfunctory or contains criticism, it can have a detrimental effect, akin to a cold shower.

In the event that one is not accustomed to offering praise, an alternative approach would be to take the initiative and provide it oneself. For instance, one might inquire, "I did something, shouldn't you praise me for it?"

2. Special moments

Following the institution of marriage, the focus shifts to encompass not only the couple themselves but also their in-laws and children. This shift in focus can result in the neglect of self-care for the couple. In such cases, it is beneficial to implement a sense of ritual. One strategy is to periodically arrange for the couple to engage in activities they enjoyed during the early stages of their relationship. These activities might include watching a movie together, going for a walk, or other similar pastimes. It is important to recognize that marriage should not be a monotonous life. When one partner is more proactive, it can positively influence their partner, leading to a sense of freshness in the relationship.

3. Accept gifts

The value of a gift is not contingent upon its monetary worth; rather, it is the thought behind it that matters. It is important to pay attention to the needs of the other person and provide for them when they arise. This demonstrates understanding and fosters a sense of love and connection. Conversely, if the other person is not attentive, it is possible to create opportunities for them to become aware of your gesture. However, if they are not prepared, it is essential to maintain a sense of flexibility and understanding. One option is to purchase the gift and allow the other person to reciprocate in a way that is comfortable for them. This approach allows for a direct and honest expression of affection.

4. Service actions

The home and children are shared resources. The original poster can assume some responsibilities and share them with her husband. She can encourage him to take on tasks such as taking out the trash, mopping the floor, and spending time with the children. When he does these things, it is important not to directly criticize him, even if he does not perform the task well. Criticizing him may lead him to avoid his responsibilities. After he completes a task, it is beneficial to offer him physical touch, such as a shoulder or hand massage, to convey that both partners are contributing equally.

5. Physical Contact

In the course of our lives, we will inevitably encounter some degree of pressure. In such instances, it is beneficial to offer each other a hug that conveys understanding and support. When you are in a normal state of interaction, you can touch each other's earlobes. Similarly, you can wipe away each other's sweat when you are both perspiring. These physical interactions are manifestations of love.

Love is mutual. While some people's expressions of love may not be immediately apparent, if one is attuned to emotional cues, one may perceive a different sentiment. The book Intimate Relationship Management is a recommended resource for those seeking guidance on navigating intimate relationships. When we learn to manage these relationships effectively, we can potentially achieve the happiness we desire. It is my hope that my response will prove beneficial to the questioner.

Dear, I am writing to you today to tell you that your marriage is over. I know you love your husband and that you want to save your marriage, but I am here to tell you that you are wrong.

There are many kinds of emotions, and as we grow up, even the same emotions will present different emotional needs at different stages of life. Love in your youth is about moonlight and flowers, and oaths made on mountains and rivers. In your middle age, it is about supporting each other through thick and thin. In your old age, it is about having a full house of children and grandchildren, watching the world go by together, and sharing family stories.

You and your husband have been together for ten years, with arguments and domestic violence in the middle, and now it has returned to normal. Your perception of the relationship has also changed from initial passion to the perception of disinterest today.

You are growing up, and you need to understand love in a way that is true to your own experience. We can live life like a legend, but we cannot use novels as a reference point to compare real life.

Small-town life is insular and stable, but also comfortable. Couples have fewer topics to discuss, but have you ever considered why? The role of a full-time wife is not easy. It requires sensitivity to social life and exchanging information with your husband. Marriage requires management, and there is a lot to learn. Many marriages are not loveless. Apart from lower tolerance, it is about a deviation in understanding and approach to love. There is also a lack of knowledge about how to adjust, which leads to a regrettable breakup. When making a negative decision about marriage, think carefully about the reasons. Consider whether there is any possibility of improvement. Have you done your best?

This is responsible for the marriage and the child. The child is a by-product of your relationship and never had a choice. When the relationship is unstable or eventually breaks up, the adults may have already turned away, but the child will become a witness to that failed relationship. However

Do not hold your marriage together "for the sake of the children." That would be cruel to everyone.

A loveless marriage is not happy for either of the parents, but it is even more sad for the children. Children are sensitive, and they know when their parents do not love each other.

If you really can't get along, explain to your child the reason for your separation in a language he can understand, and do your part.

It doesn't matter what your relationship with your spouse is like. The bond between you and your children is one of family and will last forever. If you can have a harmonious relationship with your spouse, you will naturally be able to interact with your children in a loving way. Even if your relationship with your spouse breaks down, it is only between you and your spouse. The bond between you and your children remains, because they are your children. This is blood ties. Even if you and your current spouse each remarry, your children will still be a witness to your past.

You can still raise a healthy, happy child as long as you and his father can sort out your relationship and get along with your child.

Women are strong when they become mothers. You can support and encourage your children spiritually even if you are currently unable to take care of them financially. While children do need a financial foundation to grow up, spiritual comfort and proper guidance are even more indispensable in today's society.

Don't waste away in a loveless marriage where your children are either on tenterhooks or disappointed in love. Show them what it means to be independent and strive against the odds. Life is full of infinite possibilities, and the worst thing you can do is not try to improve and just complain.

If you want it, you can make your marriage better and protect your children. All you have to do is want it and be willing to work hard for it.

From your description, it is evident that you have endured a marriage marked by frequent altercations and even instances of domestic violence. Despite the passage of over a decade during which you have demonstrated unwavering affection, and in consideration of the well-being of your children, you have ultimately chosen to compromise.

It is evident that you were not at fault. You altered your own behavior and reestablished equilibrium in your relationship, yet you are unable to move on. Given the genuine pain you endured, you feel that despite the outward appearance of harmony, your emotional state remains detached. If the town were to offer a greater variety of experiences, your life might be imbued with a modicum of excitement.

You feel that you are persevering for the sake of your child, and you believe that you have lost your capacity to love. It seems that you lack confidence in your ability to raise your child alone and need to rely on him. However, you are in fact more resilient than you realize, having survived the challenges of growing up on your own and transforming the family atmosphere with your own strength. Many individuals have given up and you have persevered. Currently, the values portrayed in film and television dramas are centered around harmonious and beautiful love, yet it seems that having arguments is a more realistic representation. Every family faces this tumultuous test, whether it is parent-child relationships or intimate relationships. In fact, we cannot argue with strangers, and we cannot argue to that depth.

Formulate a hypothesis regarding the content of an apology that would be acceptable to you.

I postulate that the aspect of your psyche that harbors resentment toward him is obscured by your grasp of the larger scheme of things, preventing you from fully releasing it. Concurrently, you are also experiencing disquiet within yourself. Regarding the nature of this disquiet, I suggest that the answer can be found in "A Change of Heart."

In regard to the question of whether to leave or remain in the relationship, you are at liberty to make your own decision. I extend my best wishes to you.

Dear questioner,

From what you've shared, it seems that your marriage is experiencing challenges related to domestic violence, verbal abuse, and emotional neglect. These difficulties have caused you a great deal of pain and distress. You are feeling a sense of sadness and helplessness, and you're considering leaving, but you're facing significant pressure. I can understand how you're feeling, and I'm here to support you.

From a legal standpoint, marriage is a contract that binds two individuals. Without this document, our humanity is free, but it is also amoral. This freedom can be seen as a way to bind your partner or exert control over them. However, entering into marriage requires us to bind our humanity and take responsibility for it. This requires both individuals to have the ability to manage it. It can be seen that you have suffered a great deal in marriage. However, now, for the sake of the children and because you have a certain amount of financial pressure yourself, you are still not firm in your idea of leaving.

I'm not suggesting that you leave, but I hope you can see that staying in this unhappy marriage, which is full of violence, will not make you happy in the future. If your child grows up and you tell him, "I sacrificed myself for you," he may not appreciate that. Wouldn't that make you feel sadder?

I wonder if I might ask you to consider which of these scenarios is the more heartbreaking.

It is now up to you to decide how you can make yourself happier and more content. As a woman, you have the option of staying or leaving. It is important to maintain your own positive attitude. In any interpersonal relationship, everyone deserves respect. If your partner is unable to respect you, you may wish to consider leaving.

Regarding the issue of children in the future, it would be beneficial for you and your husband to discuss the issue of custody together. If your husband is not open to compromise, you may wish to consider seeking legal counsel to resolve the matter and explore the possibility of compensation. It is important to save evidence of domestic violence in a timely manner, learn to safeguard your own rights and interests, believe in yourself, love yourself well, enhance your charm, and surround yourself with people who love and support you. The pressure we experience is often self-imposed. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities can help you navigate challenges with resilience.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

Hello, young lady. I can see you're feeling confused, and I'm here to give you a big hug!

I'm here for you, sweetheart. I can see you're going through some marital problems. Please, let me give you a warm hug again.

I just want to let you know that you are protected by law in your marriage.

Back in 2016, China passed the "Anti-Domestic Violence Law."

At that time, you were going through a really tough time. You were being abused by your husband. You could have reported it to the police, and they would have helped you.

You say you don't want to divorce your husband just for the sake of your children.

I can see why you're thinking this way, but I do think it's a bit selfish.

It's totally understandable that you don't love your husband anymore. It's possible that, even though you live together, you'll end up feeling like strangers.

If this is the case, it could really have a negative impact on your child's development.

When your little one grows up, they might ask you why other parents are so affectionate while you and your husband are so indifferent. What will you say to your child then?

I'm really sorry, but I can't advise you on whether or not to divorce your husband. It's still up to you.

You might also find it helpful to chat with a lawyer who understands domestic marriage law. They can help you make the best decision for you.

For example, you might want to think about what assets you and your husband have in common and how they should be divided.

And then there's the custody of your children and your alimony to think about.

I really hope that you can resolve this problem soon.

I really wish I could be more helpful, but these are the only things I can think of at the moment.

I really hope my answers above will be helpful and inspiring to you. I'm always here for you, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and wish you all the best!

Dear Question Asker,

It is challenging to provide comprehensive guidance on marriage matters in a limited space. Nevertheless, I aim to offer insights and explore potential avenues with you when you feel uncertain about the future.

[Consider the next step at the crossroads]

[Consider the implications of the decision at the fork in the road]

You appear to be at a crossroads in your life, with two relatively clear options before you. One is to continue residing in the small town with your abusive husband, relying on his income to raise your children.

One option is to initiate a divorce, terminate the relationship with the man, and relocate from the family home and the town. However, there are numerous additional potential outcomes to consider.

You may now consider a few additional scenarios. For instance, following a divorce, one option is for the children to reside with their father, while the other is for them to stay with their mother. Another possibility is for the husband to move out while you remain in the original home, or for you to move out while the husband stays in the original home. Alternatively, if both parties move out, there are numerous potential locations for the new residence.

Continuing the previous lifestyle without divorce is one option, while a change in one party is another. This change could be the pursuit of employment to generate income or the development of new interests. Each path has its own set of advantages and disadvantages. Which option is the most suitable?

Please indicate your preference.

In the relatively short time span of ten years, you have become entirely at ease with the situation.

You have been with your husband since you were very young, and a significant amount of time has passed. Ten years have elapsed in a relatively short period. You have also transitioned from a young girl to a mother. While you may not feel old, it is important to consider the number of decades in a lifetime.

It would seem that the present moment is an optimal time to undertake a comprehensive examination of your future prospects. You have indicated that you have undergone a transformation over the past six months, exhibiting a more gentle demeanor and noticeable physical changes. Can you elaborate on the circumstances that precipitated this transformation?

If you consider your desired lifestyle for the next ten years, you will be better positioned to make decisions that align with your goals.

[Worry can be alleviated with good planning]

Despite the financial constraints and domestic violence, you still aspire to provide a secure and nurturing environment for your child. Consequently, when contemplating the trajectory of your marriage, you are concerned that your child's upbringing may be adversely affected by your decisions.

However, this concern for your children does not necessarily preclude the pursuit of happiness, provided that appropriate planning is undertaken. It is essential that any issues between spouses are resolved by both parties in a way that minimizes the impact on their children.

Ultimately, it is my hope that the original poster will take control of their own life and achieve a state of happiness and carefree living.

Hello, I'm therapist Zhang Lushasha. You have been married for ten years, been hurt a lot, and don't know which way to go. Is that it? I hug you. You don't want to be married this way. Let's sort it out together:

You were beaten by your ex.

Domestic violence is the most profound issue in your relationship. Imagine a relationship that has developed to the point of domestic violence, where the person you once held hands with has actually hit you, again and again. It's scary. I admire your courage for speaking out about this. Have you come out of the trauma of domestic violence? You say you've changed a lot. You're gentle and no longer use verbal violence. You should have done a lot of reflecting. Maybe you also feel that you're at fault. The occurrence of an argument must not be the fault of one person. You're right to reflect on yourself, but domestic violence is definitely his fault. No matter what he did wrong, there's no reason for him to hit you. So, dear, it's not all your fault. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you feel bad, then let's consider leaving him.

After ten years of marriage, it seems like everything is getting better.

You say things are getting better. What changed?

Are you healing yourself?

If he's changing and making you feel better, we need to see what's different and if you've truly let go. If you're getting better because of your own healing, you deserve a thumbs up. You're getting stronger and better little by little.

You don't love each other and have no topics to talk about. What about the children if you get divorced?

You don't feel good, you don't love him, and you want to leave. The problem is the children.

You're financially dependent on him, so you can't raise the children. There's no one to help. Think about it. How long can you last if you don't leave?

If you leave, you'll have to find a job and figure out how to take care of the children. How difficult will that be? Try to quantify these two problems. On a scale of 1 to 10, which is easier to solve?

Your answers depend on how much faith you have in leaving him. If you can't wait, let's work harder to solve the problem.

If you can't solve the problems at work or with the kids, you have to put up with them.

Do you have an answer?

I'm Zhang Lusha, your listening therapist. I hope I've been helpful.

Good morning, I am Yan Shiqi, and I am grateful for the opportunity to address your question.

It is often said that marriage can sometimes feel like the end of love, but it is also true that love without marriage can feel like a life without purpose.

It is not uncommon for the development of a marriage to encounter various difficulties, obstacles, and setbacks along the way.

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of frustration and anger towards one's spouse, particularly when faced with challenges in the relationship. It is understandable that you may even have the thought of strangling your spouse countless times, and that you are more determined than ever to divorce.

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask yourself whether you truly want a divorce.

I happened to watch a short video by Zhou Xiaopeng yesterday, and I believe she offers a valuable perspective.

In what situations might it be necessary to consider divorce?

In the event that the other person has committed domestic violence, gambling or other illegal acts, or has personality defects, it may be advisable to consider ending the marriage. This could be a constructive way of moving on from the situation, as it allows you to avoid prolonging the pain and suffering caused by tolerating such behaviour.

However, as the questioner said, her husband had some less than ideal behavior in the past, but things seem to be improving. How should she handle her feelings of disappointment and sadness from the past?

You might find it helpful to consider these three points from Mr. Zhou Xiaopeng:

1. Find a quiet moment, free from distractions, sit down, and imagine that you have already obtained the divorce decree. Do you think you could do it? When you get it in your hands, could you treat it as if it were a blank piece of paper? Would it mean nothing?

2. When he moves out of your house and disappears from your life, will you no longer interact with him?

3. When you consider your partner's social circle, you may find that your partner already has a close partner and has made a significant announcement to their friends. At this time, it might be helpful to reflect on whether your heart remains calm.

If any of these three points are not met, it may be advisable to reconsider the option of divorce.

In this video, I believe Mr. Zhou Xiaopeng has captured the essence of many people's marriages. In many cases, people may feel the need to consider divorce, but ultimately, it is the children who bear the consequences.

It might be helpful to remember that this marriage is not necessarily doomed, and there could still be a way out.

In the book "The 7-Stage Journey to a Happy Relationship," a happy relationship is divided into seven stages. During this journey, it is not uncommon for the two people to consider giving up on each other or for the relationship to be on the verge of breaking up many times. However, as long as the two people have the same goal, they can eventually overcome obstacles and fall in love with each other again.

It is possible that you will still love the person you once loved.

If you do decide to divorce, it is likely that the father will remarry and become the children's stepmother. This may mean that you will no longer be the primary caregiver for your children.

When couples abroad encounter relationship challenges, they often seek the guidance of marriage counselors to identify and address the underlying issues. Rebuilding a relationship can be a more rewarding experience than starting anew with someone else.

I believe that all of this is based on the three points you just tested, which could be seen as a manifestation of having the other person in your heart.

It might be helpful to consider accepting yourself and the other person, and working together for the sake of the children to reshape the relationship.

Every path has its challenges, and since we are alive, it might be worthwhile to consider following your heart.

I hope this provides some insight and is helpful to you.

Hello, dear host!

After reading your experiences and confessions, I can see how this marriage has been a painful and confusing journey for you. Ten years is a long time, and it's natural for anyone to have a clearer understanding of their choices and lives after that period. So, all your current thoughts and confusion are likely a result of the past ten years.

To help you get to the bottom of your own feelings and resolve your current confusion and worries, we're here for you.

First, it's important to ask yourself: have you really and completely lost confidence in your abusive husband? To put it more colloquially, can you never go back to your past relationship with him?

Secondly, if you want to leave him and start anew, do you have the determination and confidence to live independently through your own efforts?

And finally, do you care about custody of your child?

If you can do all three of the above, then go for it! If you can't, or if you can't do it all, then before you think about changing your life and destiny, you must first make yourself strong, for example, by equipping yourself with the ability to support yourself.

It's so common for women to depend on others, afraid of hardship and suffering. If you constantly put up with injustice and depend on others, you'll end up with no status, no say, and no personal freedom. You'll also be looked down upon and disdained by the other person.

If you really want to escape from your current life, you must start by becoming stronger. If you still cling to the fantasy of a life of no effort and no gain, that is not a wise move and it will not last. You can live the life you want, as long as you are brave and strong!

Dear Question Asker, From your description, I can understand the dilemma you are facing regarding your marital status.

From a financial standpoint, it is challenging to raise a child on your own. Additionally, the emotional impact of your husband's actions is still fresh. Despite his attempts at reconciliation, you find it difficult to forgive him.

First, you may be required to make a decision.

For children, the integrity of the family is not a significant factor. The atmosphere within the family has a greater impact on children. Forcing individuals to remain in an unhealthy family environment will only place undue pressure on children and cause them to feel guilty.

If you elect to remain married, you must endeavor to repair the relationship and be prepared to invest significant effort in the process.

Identify the positive qualities in your partner and rekindle the love you once shared.

The decision to divorce requires a willingness to step outside one's comfort zone, secure employment, and achieve a sufficient level of financial stability to support one's children. It also presents an opportunity for children to gain insights into the nature of true love, the value of courageous choices, and the qualities that define true strength.

The experience of divorce may provide valuable lessons for both the individual and their children.

Secondly, we will address how to move on from the past and face a new life.

While the incident is over, the hurt remains in our memories. When facing the future, we will inevitably think of that memory, and the pain will strike again, leaving us with no place to hide our emotions and feelings.

Should you choose to forgive, or should you continue to resent the other person?

Regardless of the decision you make, it is essential to remain true to your innermost convictions. If you choose not to resort to physical violence, it will be evident to others that you are not at fault.

It is important to note that those who advise you to be generous and to compromise for the sake of your children may not have your best interests at heart. Only you are aware of the extent of the pain you have experienced.

When you recall this past and feel uncomfortable, pay close attention to your emotions, physical reactions, and inner thoughts. Then, reassure yourself that you will protect and support yourself as you work through these issues at your own pace.

I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors and hope that you will soon emerge from this challenging period and embrace a new beginning.

Greetings.

Host:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I am a heart exploration coach. I have carefully read the post and can discern the confusion and uncertainty that you are experiencing. Additionally, I observe that you have courageously articulated your distress and proactively sought assistance on this platform, which will undoubtedly facilitate your ability to view the current situation from a broader perspective.

In the following section, I will present my observations and thoughts on the subject matter, which I hope will provide the poster with a more diverse perspective.

1. From whom does the child learn happiness?

As observed in the aforementioned post, the author has experienced harm within her marriage. Concurrently, she contemplates a question frequently posed by women: if they no longer love each other, should they remain in the marriage for the sake of their children?

This is a highly pertinent question, and it is therefore appropriate to consider it from the perspective of acting in the best interests of the children.

The aforementioned post indicates that the decision to remain in the marriage is for the benefit of the children. It is unclear whether the host is primarily considering the financial implications or the spiritual, emotional, and affective aspects of this decision.

Let us consider the spiritual implications of this assertion. We often claim that our actions are for the benefit of children, but have we ever reflected on whether our own happiness is a prerequisite for instilling joy in them?

One's daily interactions may exert a subtle influence on children. A man who was frequently beaten by his wife with a clothes rack believed that he should endure it for the sake of the family and his daughter. However, one day, his daughter hit him with a clothes rack as well, leading him to seek counseling.

It should be noted that the discussion of this topic does not guarantee a positive outcome in either the event of a separation or the continuation of the relationship.

In a sense, the capacity for happiness can be cultivated.

2. The Three Elements of Love

A psychological love triangle theory posits that love is comprised of three elements: intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Intimacy can be defined as an emotional connection, a flow of psychological energy, and an exchange between hearts.

Passion, defined as the instinctive aspect of the body, is the emotional state that arises when one is immediately and intensely attracted to another person.

Commitment is defined as the strength of reason. It is a promise to act in accordance with one's stated intentions.

This theory posits that the most optimal form of love is one that encompasses intimacy, passion, and commitment simultaneously. The combination of these three elements gives rise to eight distinct varieties of love.

The host may wish to consider this theory in order to identify any deficiencies in their own love. Upon identifying these deficiencies, the host may then wish to consider whether the relationship should continue.

It is possible to learn and manage one's relationship, thereby facilitating the reconstruction of a marriage. Indeed, many individuals enter into matrimony motivated by love; however, love alone is insufficient for the maintenance of a healthy relationship. To ensure the longevity and stability of a relationship, it is essential to address four key areas.

The manner in which emotions are expressed and received within a relationship is of great consequence.

Partnership

Sexual

The concepts of independence and dependence are fundamental to understanding the dynamics of human relationships.

If these four areas are effectively managed, the relationship is likely to become more positive and satisfying.

3. Practical considerations

The adage posits that marital discord entails three fundamental issues: financial, sexual, and communication-related. Additionally, the host alluded to the potential consequence of an unsuccessful union, namely the inability to adequately care for the child.

This is a crucial matter. In light of the circumstances, what measures can the primary caregiver implement at the practical level?

It is advisable to avoid hasty decision-making and instead focus on self-improvement and growth, both financially and emotionally.

From a financial perspective, there is the option of enhancing one's professional capabilities. In terms of emotional wellbeing, it was noted that the couple no longer feel a sense of romantic attachment to one another, and that the relationship has reached a point of stagnation.

It is, in fact, the case that many marriages undergo such a phase. However, it is possible for relationships to be renewed through the implementation of effective relationship management strategies. The decision of how to proceed is ultimately the responsibility of the individual, but it may be beneficial to consider the relevant issues carefully before making a choice.

Should one wish to attempt to salvage one's marriage, one may consider enrolling in intimacy courses or reading books on the subject.

It is my hope that these resources will prove beneficial and inspirational for you. Should you have any further inquiries, you are encouraged to connect with a coach for one-on-one communication to more effectively examine your relationship.

Hello. I can tell you're feeling confused and helpless. Life is tough, so take care of yourself.

First, decide what you want from your marriage. Ask yourself what kind of marriage you want and what kind of marriage you can have. Only by combining reality and thinking things through will you be able to sort out a correct and practical view of marriage, which will give you a clear understanding of your current marriage and guide you in the direction of your next marriage.

Second, your kids are your top priority. Every mom wants the best for her kids, and this is what drives every mom's efforts. But how can you make your kids better? This requires careful thought, not just thinking that you're doing what's best for your kids. The original family is very important to children. A good original family will pass on its values, while a bad one will seriously affect the child. So ask yourself what kind of life you want to give your kids and what's best for your kids right now. Find your position, and it'll be the basic basis for your next step.

Third, your husband still has some explaining to do. Even though you're getting along now, love requires effort from both sides. More often than not, disharmony in a marriage is caused by both partners. Because of your change, you've entered a period of love again, but you've weakened or even lost the strong love you felt because of your self-perception. In fact, love has an expiration date. Families formed by love will eventually evolve into families based on kinship and responsibility.

Take a good look at where you are in life, in your marriage, and in your family. Set some standards to guide you, not just my opinion. With a solid foundation, you can take the plunge. Only by sticking with it and never giving up will you definitely get better and better. Go for it!