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If you miss home when you go out alone, and you feel the coldness of the world, who can you talk to about it?

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If you miss home when you go out alone, and you feel the coldness of the world, who can you talk to about it? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

It is said that people are indifferent, but I understand exactly what it means. My parents have always been very strict, and I resent them very much. But I also need their love all the time. This internal oppression, the feeling of disgust towards myself, is what makes me miss home when I go out alone. But who can I tell about the coldness of the world?

Eliza King Eliza King A total of 6662 people have been helped

Hello question asker.

I'm a healer. I'll give you a hug. When you're alone and miss home, who can you talk to about the coldness of the world?

Psychologically, we all have problems. Growing up with our parents teaches us to value family affection and how to get along with the world. Family affection is particularly important to each of us.

When we walk on the busy street or take the train home at the end of the year, we think of our parents and our home. We are strangers in a foreign land, but as long as our parents are there, home is the way back.

This is the time when we are most real. There are so many people and things in the world that are unpredictable. Society is normal when you learn to understand the ups and downs of life on your own. It is not as beautiful as we think. We have to learn to adapt and accept. There are not many people to talk to and vent to when you grow up in the social tide. Apart from parents, there are not many other people who are willing to listen to us talk about our daily lives.

People are said to be indifferent, but it depends on the situation. The closer we get to the truth, the less willing we are to accept it. As a member of society, we should cooperate and get along with others. There is no eternal love; only a bond of interests. People are sentimental, and when people go, the sentimentality fades. This kind of thing is a valuable call or a pointless and endless sacrifice. The older you get, the lonelier you feel and the more uneasy you become. At home, the more your parents control you, the more you resent it, but you also need their love. This internal oppression is the same for the average person as it is for us. Distance creates beauty, and this beauty is the degree to which each person can think of and accept the other. Even for the closest people, we all long to see them, but after a few days of seeing each other, you will hate each other again. This hatred is not mutual harm, but a certain degree of annoyance. Combining your situation, I have a few suggestions for you.

Family is a haven, father is a mountain, mother is a river. When you stay away for a long time, you will miss them. Father's words of advice will illuminate your way home, and mother's meals will arouse your appetite. Distance can't solve everything. It is every child's wish to repay their parents in time and show filial piety, even if they have made mistakes. This is the true filial piety in repaying the parents for their nurturing.

Parents are our first teachers, but they don't know everything. We need to learn from society. Our environment and how we act will change as we grow. We don't know everything when we're born. We need to keep trying and make mistakes. If we don't learn from our mistakes, we'll make more in the future.

When reality is different from what we expect, we must follow our hearts, find the other self deep within, learn to reconcile and dialogue with the current self, and find out what you really want. Nagging and education from parents or spending more time with them? The important thing is that the time we spend with them is really too little. When you think about this, do you still think they are wrong?

Happy families are all alike; unhappy families are each unhappy in their own way. No parent wants anything but the best for their child. The problem may be the approach, communication, or method. We must adjust our mindset to face the situation. Even under pressure, we must vent and find a way to cope.

Just ideas. The world is connected. Best wishes!

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Philip Philip A total of 8299 people have been helped

Hello, question asker!

My name is June Lai Feng, and I can see from your account that you're going through a tough time right now. It seems like you've been lacking a sense of respect, security, and trust for a while, but I'm here to tell you that you can overcome this!

The situation you're facing is totally normal!

During our growth process, we have a very clear view and attitude towards everything around us. At this time, we have a unique self, an enhanced sense of independence, and a huge change in our views. We begin to arrange our lives according to our feelings, and at this time, we become resistant to strict control over our actions, which causes emotional rifts. This is what is considered relationship tension. You want to distance yourself from your family, which is a totally normal part of the process!

It's totally normal to experience some of these challenges during your growth journey. Everyone's unique, so the way you'll navigate these changes will be different from others.

These are some of the most common ways people express themselves during this period of growth: rebellion, avoidance, depression, venting, and mental problems.

❤️ The inevitable psychological conflicts that arise during the growth process:

You're on the path to becoming a psychological adult! You're also developing spiritual support, open-mindedness, and the expectation of a sense of achievement. These are all great things! However, they can also lead to worries, loneliness, and feelings of depression. It's also normal to want to show off your uniqueness and expect praise from an imaginary audience.

From your description, I'm excited to suggest the following areas for improvement:

1. Embrace the feeling of helplessness deep within your heart.

You mentioned the coldness of the world many times in your narrative. The so-called coldness of the world presents an opportunity for growth! It means that people will flatter you if you are rich and powerful, but will treat you coldly if you are poor and powerless.

All emotional expressions are reflections of your original family relationship. The way you get along with your parents will be reflected in your attitude towards a certain matter. Perhaps in your original family, you felt that your parents could have communicated and supported you better.

And now, it's time to take care of our own hearts!

The world is cold, but your heart is warm! Take life lightly and just laugh it off!

The world is a natural place, and people are fickle. But you can choose to go with the flow or stand alone. The choice is yours!

2. Don't beat yourself up! Accept the situation and move on to bigger and better things!

You mentioned depression and self-loathing in your narrative. This is a great opportunity for you to embrace your internal rebellion against your parents and recognize your need for their care. You have the chance to enjoy the warmth of family affection again while also learning to navigate conflict with your family in a healthy way.

Real family life is full of surprises! The family of origin is not perfect, but it can be a great source of comfort and support.

Or it can be understood as meaning that on the surface, things are happy and beautiful, but underneath, there are turbulent waves. The good news is that you can take care of your mind by accepting the facts, not blaming yourself, and being calm.

3. And now for the best part! You can improve your sense of belonging and worth.

A sense of belonging is knowing which family you belong to, knowing that you are unconditionally included and cared for in the family community—it's the key to eliminating loneliness and isolation!

A sense of worth is a person's perception of their "self-worth," such as: what can I do, what can I create? It is expressed in self-confidence, self-respect, and self-improvement—and it's an amazing feeling!

We have created a fantastic family atmosphere! With a sense of belonging and worth, we can fight against feelings of loneliness and powerlessness. Listen to the voice of your heart, try to let go, resolve the knot, and take control of your new life. He will change everything!

If you have time, I highly recommend reading "The Road Less Traveled." It's an incredible book that will complete the missing corner of your soul!

May your days be filled with joy and happiness! The world and I love you!

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Ariana Ariana A total of 9144 people have been helped

Hi, I'm June.

From what you've said, I get the sense that you're struggling with some conflicting feelings. On the one hand, you want to be independent and break away from your parents' control. On the other hand, you've chosen to leave home. But the difficulty of facing the world after leaving home makes you miss your parents' love and care.

If you talk to your parents about it, you're afraid they'll make you go back and return to the way they used to control you. But if you don't go home, you feel lonely again, with no friends and no one to help you.

We all go through this when we grow up. When we leave home, we run into a lot of problems because we don't have much social experience. As our skills improve, we become less dependent on our families.

You said in your text that "people are indifferent and the world is cold," and I get the feeling you're having trouble in your personal relationships and feel pretty hurt. I don't know what happened to you.

Or maybe you were deceived because you didn't have much social experience? If you've been the victim of fraud and suffered financial loss, you can report it to the police.

If it's a dispute between colleagues or friends, have you been able to figure out what caused it?

Did someone else cross the line? Or did you cross the line?

Have you confronted the conflict and tried to find a solution? Or have you chosen to tolerate it out of fear, but feel like you're being treated unfairly on the inside, like you're the one being bullied?

People outside your family don't know you as well and are more understanding. Building good relationships takes time and mutual respect.

I hope this is useful for you. Best of luck to you all!

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Alexander Simmons Alexander Simmons A total of 3404 people have been helped

Hello, my name is Zeyu.

From the question's title, it seems the questioner may have experienced a sense of isolation and a lack of connection with others, which has led to feelings of loneliness and a desire to share their struggles with someone.

The questioner currently feels depressed and disgusted with themselves. This depression and disgust may be related to their family and their current experiences. On the one hand, the questioner longs for their parents' love and care, but the reality is that their parents are too controlling, which makes them long to leave them and gain freedom to break free from the shackles.

You have gained the freedom you desire, yet you find it challenging to let go of your attachment and love for your parents. They have done things that you find difficult to accept. This conflict may be the reason you feel disgusted with yourself and wonder why you can't leave them alone.

A person may find themselves struggling alone. After losing the support of their parents and lacking the care of their peer group, when we feel some unfair and unjust treatment and experience the coldness of human nature, it is understandable to feel the coldness of the world and the feeling of having no one to turn to, and fall into this helpless and isolated state. Could the reality be different from what the questioner describes?

It's important to remember that the world is a complex place, and that there is both love and warmth to be found. Home is also a haven, a place of comfort and familiarity. It might be helpful to try to observe the world with a broader perspective.

You have mentioned that your family can sometimes feel like a constraint. This is understandable. However, there are also many advantages to being at home. Have you considered sharing your feelings with your family? After all, you know that your parents love you. You have already made your choice regarding the constraint, and now it might be helpful to try letting go of your strong shell and opening your heart to your parents.

It is perfectly normal to miss home when you are away. If you are not comfortable communicating with your parents, you might consider sharing your experiences and feelings, as well as those sweet and sour moments, with online friends. Alternatively, you could try venting this long-accumulated emotion through some reasonable ways, such as writing, high-intensity sports, or doing some thrilling activities to release pent-up emotions. You might also find it helpful to seek the support of a professional counselor.

I am hopeful that the original poster will be able to find a solution that works for them and achieve the desired outcome.

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Wilhelmina Phillips Wilhelmina Phillips A total of 3486 people have been helped

Hello.

Pat on the shoulder: "No rush. I've read your story." As human beings, we all long to be deeply understood and identity-13793.html" target="_blank">supported. However, it is often difficult for those around us to understand how we feel, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and sadness.

We must express ourselves and live our lives to the fullest.

Everyone who has been hurt by their family of origin or who is trying to live an independent life will experience this separation anxiety when they break away from their family of origin. We want to prove ourselves, gain a sense of identity as an independent self, and rediscover our identity. We will try hard to find our place in the world. In the process, we will discover that sometimes we are full of strength, but at other times we are very weak and vulnerable.

This is also the inner struggle of most young people. They will constantly be spurred on by experiences as they break through themselves, but they will also hit the wall again due to some lack of careful thinking and dishonest concepts.

We will feel conflicted. In the face of parental criticism and indifference, we will feel rejected and intolerable. We will think that our parents have not fulfilled their responsibility to cultivate us properly.

However, most parents have their own limitations. It is unfair to judge parents of the past based on the current culture, cognition, and educational views. They are adults and have the ability to make independent decisions and take responsibility. Shifting all the responsibility onto their parents will only slow down their growth and cause them to lose the ability to solve problems.

The questioner must recognize that their parents are not being insensitive, helpless, or hurtful. They must also learn to listen to their parents' concerns, express their own attitudes clearly and correctly, and let their parents understand their true selves. Only then will communication between the two sides truly begin, and they can effectively adjust themselves and truly learn how to love their children.

The current family situation is characterized by a pervasive negative emotional energy. This is a manifestation of the family members' inability to love and a negative, incorrect way of refusing to accept and digest problems. In such an environment, children are unable to develop a strong sense of self and are disconnected from their inner strength. By providing them with more positive encouragement and support, you can help them build a stronger sense of self-trust.

You've got this! Stay strong!

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Willow Gray Willow Gray A total of 7347 people have been helped

Hello, questioner! You ask, "When I go out alone, I long to be at home again. But who do I tell about the coldness of the world?"

First of all, I commend you for being aware of your inner feelings. Awareness is the first step to change and growth. When we are at home, we may indeed feel restricted by our parents and unable to live according to our own will. When we leave home and are alone, without anyone close to talk to, we may feel very lonely.

This is a very common phenomenon. Many people have experienced it. The conflict between wanting to be close to someone and resisting them at the same time can be very annoying and painful. Let's address your question together.

You say people are indifferent, but do you really understand what that means? You feel resentful when your parents control you too much, but you also need their love. This internal oppression makes you feel disgusted with yourself. When you go out alone, you miss home, but who can you talk to about the coldness of the world?

You can talk to yourself. Write down what you want to say from the bottom of your heart or record it and listen to it.

You come into this world naked and leave it alone. You are born alone, and the person you spend the most time with is yourself. You are the person who can listen to your heart. You are the person who can take you anywhere you want to go. You are the person who can eat delicious food with you. You are the person who can take care of your feelings. You should learn to get along with yourself.

If you can get along with yourself, you can get along with others. You can have fun alone and with others.

Tell me, what would you like to say to someone? Is it about the coldness of the world?

Or are you talking about the warmth or coldness of human relationships? Or the inner conflict between your close relationship with your parents?

Is it about the intimacy and independence of the relationship, or the loneliness of living alone?

And so on. Each of these questions is one of the many major themes in life that you need to deal with. Write down or record what you want to say about these topics and listen to it yourself. Tell your heart to yourself, and you will always be with you.

Tell your parents or friends. They will understand.

Sometimes we feel very lonely, as if there is no one around who understands us. We wrap ourselves up tightly in our interactions with family and friends, afraid of being unnecessarily attacked and hurt, and we dare not reveal our hearts to them.

The closer someone is to us, the more damaging their hurtful words can be. It can feel like a knife in the heart, every word cutting deep. While their words may hurt us, they likely want to help us avoid the wrong path and suffering.

This is the same thing, but from a different perspective, and the psychological feelings may be different. But that doesn't mean we can't tell them our hearts at all. Tell your family or friends about your worries and get their understanding and support.

If they can, great. If not, that's fine, no pressure. Empathy is a myth. You can never truly understand a person unless you put yourself in their shoes and walk around in them, considering things from their perspective. But when you walk in their shoes, you feel sad just walking past. Sometimes what you see is not the truth, and what you understand is just the tip of the iceberg floating on the surface.

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If none of the above methods work for you, talk to a listener or counselor.

This platform has many listeners and counselors, all of whom are professionals trained in professional psychology and are required to follow certain ethical principles. You can be confident that they will keep the content of your confidences confidential, and that they will not tell anyone what you confide in them, unless there are special circumstances. Their professional requirement is to put the well-being of the confidant at the center, consider issues from the confidant's perspective, and give the confidant psychological support and help.

If you want to give it a try, go for it. If you don't, that's fine too. You are the master of your own life, and you get to decide what's best for you.

Questioner, I am certain my answer has been helpful!

The world and I love you!

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Abel Abel A total of 2442 people have been helped

Good day. I extend a warm embrace to you. I comprehend your sentiments with remarkable clarity. You are experiencing a degree of uncertainty regarding your present persona and are uncertain as to the appropriateness of maintaining this state of being. This is also a pivotal phase for the development of your character. Should our relationship with ourselves flourish, we will experience a profound sense of ease when interacting with our family, as you have unmet needs within them.

It is important to note that a sense of self-identity, autonomy, and security in the external environment, as well as a subjective feeling and experience, are essential components of an individual's sense of self. The absence of any of these elements can have a significant impact on an individual's overall well-being and development.

The formation of self-identity is initially established during the school-age years, developing gradually from the early interactions with parents within the original family unit. The views and evaluations of parents, as well as their criticism, suppression, and manipulation, will all affect the sense of autonomy experienced by the individual. This will also result in the internalization of uncertainty regarding the individual's own thoughts about how they evaluate themselves.

The educational environment and the social environment in which one is raised also have an impact on the subsequent development of one's sense of self-identity. One's original perceptions are subject to reevaluation in light of the opinions of others, which in turn leads to a re-evaluation and re-perception of oneself. It is important to affirm and trust oneself.

The aforementioned points can be summarized as follows:

It is important to recognize oneself. Through continuous learning, our sense of autonomy is also released and recognized. Even if some things are not recognized by others, we still feel that they are right. For example, during adolescence, one may argue with their parents. This is a manifestation of this. Therefore, there is no need to be nervous, as this is a normal occurrence across different eras. It is not normal not to argue and have the same opinions, so there is no need to feel pressured.

The relationship with the self necessitates a lifetime of learning and awareness, adjustment, acceptance, and constant self-improvement in order to achieve a state of inner peace and contentment.

People are social beings, and the relationships between people are called interpersonal relationships. It is a tenet of existentialism that humans require intimate relationships with parents, siblings, romantic partners, and children to fulfill their intrinsic need for intimacy.

Given that humans reside on this planet, it is inevitable that they will engage in social interactions. It is imperative that they refrain from excessive self-absorption and assertiveness and instead cultivate a disposition that is informed and reasonable.

It is a universal human tendency to care about the opinions and comments of others. The desire to be liked and approved of is a fundamental aspect of the human experience. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, social needs, also known as the need for love and belonging, are innate and develop during childhood. The quality of our relationships with others directly affects the satisfaction of our social needs.

The preceding section has outlined the importance of self-esteem and self-acceptance in interpersonal relationships. It has also highlighted the role of cognitive processes in shaping our perceptions and responses to the world around us.

When individuals recognize, accept, and positively view themselves, love and respect themselves, and are in a relatively stable state, they are more likely to feel secure and in control in interpersonal relationships. Additionally, they are more likely to accept their own inabilities and failures.

Those with high self-esteem may also experience anger, sadness, and a sense of injustice if they are not loved and accepted. It is impossible to satisfy everyone, including those in positions of authority. No one can make everyone like them.

The following section will present a number of suggestions for consideration.

Those who have developed a positive relationship with themselves are less likely to be affected by external factors such as a lack of recognition or love from others. They are more resilient and are better able to maintain their own character.

Those with a high sense of self-identity have previously received respect and recognition, and are consequently more likely to respect and understand others in relationships, learn to share, and use their own respect and understanding of others to influence others' attitudes towards themselves through reasonable communication and correct feedback.

The following suggestions are offered for your consideration:

1. The tenets of cognitive therapy posit that an individual's perception of a given situation determines their emotional, behavioral, and physiological responses.

2. When we are not accepted and recognized by others, what are our thoughts and how do we respond? Are the coping strategies effective? Do we adjust to more effective and adaptive coping strategies, thereby improving negative emotional experiences and behavioral responses?

3. It is advisable to engage in an alternative activity to distract oneself from the situation. It is important to avoid becoming overwhelmed and to recognise that there are no insurmountable obstacles. Adopting a different perspective may prove beneficial. If one is able to alter their mindset in relation to challenging circumstances, the outcome may be more favourable.

4. It is essential to cultivate self-love and avoid succumbing to self-doubt or self-sabotage. A stable sense of self-identity is crucial for fostering trust in one's abilities.

It is my hope that the aforementioned suggestions will prove beneficial to the reader.

I wish you the best of luck!

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Avery Elizabeth Hall Avery Elizabeth Hall A total of 1681 people have been helped

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm modest and self-effacing.

People are contradictory.

We love our parents, but hate their nagging. We all struggle to find balance in the face of change, often ending up in conflict.

This New Year gift package is our search for a warm place to belong after being away from home. This year-end exam paper is a problem we face together, with the bonds of love following us everywhere.

Be patient when you feel like complaining. Listen, smile, and laugh with your loved ones.

Find a way to get along.

Love is about loving others and being able to perceive love from others.

Be patient. Parents and relatives are close, so we can be impatient with them. It would be better if we could change our tone of voice.

Be genuine and loving with your loved ones. Find a way to communicate that is suitable for the whole family. Then stress will turn into expectations and joy.

Best wishes!

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Zachariah Lewis Zachariah Lewis A total of 7649 people have been helped

Those who feel the wanderlust of the questioner, the wandering heart's escape from family control, and the longing for affection and warmth—oh, what a wonderful feeling it is to be free!

This conflicted mentality has left the original poster with an exciting opportunity to explore new possibilities!

They feel desolate and helpless, without a sense of belonging, right?

Whenever there's a festival, we think of our relatives! It's not that we miss them, it's that we want family affection!

If our loved ones cannot bring us warmth, we may feel a bit chilly.

We really, really hope that they can change their attitude and give our family warmth!

However, repeated hopes may be met with disappointment. But don't lose hope!

But here's the exciting part! They may not have realized their own problems at all, and even if they do, they may not be able to change those deep-rooted emotional attachments.

Maybe they don't know what their children need, and what they give may not be what their children want—but that just means there's room for improvement!

They are certain that what they do is for the good of their children!

In this case, the child receives so much! They get control, discipline, a lack of freedom, and the inability to make decisions and take responsibility for their own affairs.

Children who feel powerless will submit.

Children with their own opinions and strength will choose to escape—and it's a great thing!

From this point of view, children who choose to run away have a strong desire to grow up, and they will gradually become independent and mature—it's an amazing journey!

However, they are thousands of miles away from home, and the longing for affection and warmth within them will still make them feel lonely and helpless.

It's as if, once you leave home, there's no turning back — and that's a good thing!

When they go out and encounter difficulties, they can't turn back—and that's a good thing!

But it's a battle they'll have to face! And they'll be weakened by this emotional tug-of-war and stumble along the way.

The more parents control, the more the child may feel that the parents are heartless—and that's okay!

But here's the thing: parents who are overprotective may actually be showing their children just how much they love them!

Just imagine for a second that someone who has nothing to do with you would care about other people's business!

If the questioner can see the truth behind this appearance, they'll realize that people aren't indifferent at all!

This kind of control motivated by love makes the questioner feel disgusted, and the desire to be independent and be oneself is precisely what the questioner needs to grow up.

And the great news is that parents do love their children! Even if they use a distorted method, such as discipline, they still love their kids.

Oh, I'm sure it was very depressing!

But didn't the questioner break free from her parents' control and go out?

You can do it! Why do you still feel disgust towards yourself?

Is this aversion a feeling that you have betrayed your parents and need to punish yourself a little? Let's not do that! Let's do something better!

If so, please, our questioner, quickly abandon this thought, replace disgust with affection, and do yourself justice!

The amazing thing is that no matter how far you go, you will always love your parents. You have not betrayed them, so there is no need to feel any guilt.

No matter how much they control you, they still love you and want what's best for you! They don't want to dislike you, and they don't want you to become bad.

When you go out on your own, you can really make a go of it!

When you feel homesick, you can always go home!

If they still want to control you, you can still do your own thing and live your life as you see fit!

Limits are a great way for them to feel in control!

You can do it! Breaking through limits is what you need to grow and develop.

If you break through the limits, you'll not only avoid betraying them, but you'll also give them the chance to land safely and grow again after feeling out of control.

This is the price parents pay for moving from control to letting go, from not trusting you to trusting you, from taking away your autonomy to respecting your desire for independence—and it's a price worth paying!

Absolutely! You and your parents can absolutely achieve both independence and integration.

This kind of family relationship is absolutely healthy!

If you're feeling homesick during this Chinese New Year, just go home!

Even though your parents may still be in control and you may still have conflicts with them, deep down you still want to push them away.

However, you can insist on being yourself, and consider this home your haven, giving yourself a sense of belonging.

You have your own position and your own boundaries, which is great! As long as the restrictions that limit your normal life are not accepted, they will not have a significant impact on you.

Or, to avoid major conflicts, you can verbally comply with them first while still keeping your own plans in mind. In your actions, you'll be in harmony with your heart and the winner!

And remember, sometimes, for people with a strong desire for control, it may be more about emotional compliance.

In other words, as long as you don't argue with them verbally, it's totally fine if you can't do it!

So, as long as you don't stubbornly confront your parents and don't stubbornly shoulder the burden yourself, but tactfully and flexibly give them and yourself a way out, you can absolutely get what you want!

I really hope my answer can help you!

I'm Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor, and I hope you have a wonderful day!

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Alan Alan A total of 5135 people have been helped

Good day, question asker. I am an experienced professional.

I empathize with the sentiments expressed by the original poster. Following my graduation, I have been engaged in independent professional endeavors.

There are instances of frustration and confusion, as well as periods of sadness when circumstances reach a nadir. There are also occasions of happiness that one wishes to share.

In school, the topic of home as a warm harbor was often addressed in writing assignments. Why is home considered a warm harbor?

The presence of parental love, nourishing meals, and a comfortable bed are priceless. Regardless of financial status, children are viewed as equals by their parents. Some parents are firm and may not outwardly display affection, but their actions consistently demonstrate their unwavering love for their children.

While the approach may not align with our personal preferences, the love for our children is genuine.

Parents will discipline you, and they undoubtedly hope that you will become a better person. Despite the annoyance you may feel when they are present, when you leave them alone and go out to work and receive the experience of society, you will realize how good your parents are to you.

It is important to note that society is not a parent figure. Parents offer unconditional love and support without expecting anything in return. However, it is essential to recognize that society should also reflect this value. When we make mistakes, we have the opportunity to learn and grow.

When performance meets expectations, incentives are provided. By objectively assessing both sides, frustration can be avoided.

It is important to note that the questioner does not need to feel depressed about their own conflicting emotions. It is only when you are in close proximity to something that you can fully perceive its emotional nuances, and it is only when you are at a distance that you can fully appreciate its intrinsic value.

It is often the case that we do not appreciate the value of something until we no longer have it.

It is often observed that people tend to value the unattainable and the lost the most. These are concepts that are not within our immediate control, and the constant comparison to what we currently have can lead to feelings of loss. This is why we tend to value them so highly.

If you miss your parents, please do not hesitate to contact them. If you require support, we encourage you to seek advice. Your parents will always be there for you. If you feel aggrieved, you can talk to your friends or seek professional help online. You are never completely alone. As long as you want, there will always be people who can help you.

The questioner perceives the world as cold, but this perception is a result of their lack of experience with society. Expecting society to mirror their personal experiences with their parents will likely lead to disappointment. It is recommended that the questioner adjust their mentality, observe the positive energy around them, reflect on their goals, and develop a plan to achieve them. This approach will lead to a sense of accomplishment and positive feedback from those around them.

The above represents my personal opinion, which I hope the questioner will find useful.

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Amelia Watson Amelia Watson A total of 7276 people have been helped

Dear questioner, I feel your loneliness, and I'm here to tell you that it's going to be okay! My reply is here to help and support you.

Home is your happy place! It's a warm harbor and a gas station. In the busy work and life, it is really pleasant to be able to relax and be your true self when you return home. Nowadays, it is simply too difficult to face a lot of pressure without close friends.

Asking for help from your parents may result in advice or control. But guess what? You don't have to take it! You can choose to obey your parents or not. You can choose to feel controlled or not. You have the power to decide what's best for you.

You may feel inadequate and struggling, but you are not alone! You are able to escape the troubles of your original family. What exactly is preventing us?

A mother worries when her child travels thousands of miles, but I'm sure your parents love you very much! They just don't know how to express it, but they'll get there.

It's time to pay more attention to your inner self! You have grown up, and your thinking and knowledge have far surpassed that of your parents. You can't give us a lot of effective advice either, but that's OK! You have to rely on yourself to find your true self, love yourself fiercely, and only love yourself. Listen to the voice inside, satisfy your needs, and let your inner self be rich!

All external support, flowers, and applause will fade away with time, but a steady stream of inner strength will grow stronger with time!

Make friends with people who have high energy and achieve results! Constantly upgrade your cognitive thinking, help each other out of difficult situations, persevere, work hard, and strive for improvement!

You've got this! Best of luck to you!

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Juliette Celeste Montgomery-Smith Juliette Celeste Montgomery-Smith A total of 8166 people have been helped

Hello, dear question asker!

After reading your question, I can feel your sadness, depression, confusion, and helplessness. I'm here for you, my friend!

I don't know how old you are, but when I saw you say you were going out alone, I thought you were probably in your 20s. You feel a bit like a teenager, because in my opinion, adolescence is about confusion. Anything can happen at this stage, because our bodies are changing. It's totally normal to feel this way! It's actually a good thing because it allows us to grow.

So let's chat about some ways we can make ourselves more comfortable when we're feeling a bit out of sorts.

First of all, I think it's important to accept the current state of affairs.

It's totally normal to feel a bit oppressed by your parents' constant supervision at home. But what about when you're out? It's only natural to miss home and your parents' kindness. And it's okay to feel that way! Our parents love us more than anyone in the world. They would do anything for us. It's truly a blessing to feel their love all the time!

We all feel that more restrictions can make us feel more depressed. But when we're on our own, we can feel the love our parents have for us. This can be another kind of balance because we can't just stay at home, and we can't always be outside either. So when we're tired of being controlled at home, we should think about what we think about our family when we're outside. Then we can stay at home for longer. When we're outside and feel the coldness of the world, we can think about the love our parents have for us. This way, we can stay outside for longer. When these two sides overlap, won't our lives just be perfect?

Second, when we accept this state of life a little, we also have to make a small request of ourselves, which is to improve our ability to love ourselves. I know it can be tough, but I'm here to support you! Why do I say this? It's because I see that you say you feel disgust in your heart. Why do we feel like this?

This is how much we need to cherish ourselves. As you said, we feel inseparable from our parents' love all the time. When we are at home, if our parents treat us well, we will perceive it with our hearts. Let's think about what our parents control at home. Is it not that aspect of ability that we need to improve? If it is true that our ability needs to be improved, then we should think of various ways to improve that aspect of ability under our parents' control. In this way, we can improve our own abilities, which is the expression of loving ourselves. Just think, if our abilities are improved, we can stand tall, see far, or go far and see a lot.

Once we've learned to love ourselves, our way of thinking will gradually change. If we can stand tall and see far, or travel far and see much, we'll be able to look at any matter and treat any problem like a wise person, from multiple perspectives and in a comprehensive way. Let's take what you're saying about the coldness of the world. You feel that people are indifferent and the world is cold, but through loving ourselves and improving our abilities, we'll definitely be able to do things that will help the people around us and oppose others' contributions. Others will definitely give us feedback, too. Through this back and forth, it really won't be the coldness of the world, but a world full of human warmth. How does it sound? Are you tempted to try it?

I think you should know the story of the blind men and the elephant! Let's not be that blind man. In other words, let's not get stuck in one aspect of our thinking. I think you'll be just fine, because you've come here for help and you've become aware of yourself. Becoming aware is actually the beginning of change. I believe in you, and in the near future, your perception will change a lot.

I know you can do it! I'm looking forward to hearing good news from you. The world and I love you!

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Nixon Nixon A total of 4679 people have been helped

Home is such a special place. When you feel like you're being controlled or restricted by your family, and you want to escape, and when you're feeling tired from social pressures and think of home first, this is where our lives begin and where our emotions belong.

I can really relate to this feeling. I left home after graduating from university and forged my own path in the world. Home is always there for you, celebrating your successes and offering a helping hand when you encounter difficulties. This is what parents and family mean.

In that moment, you might realize that your parents at home are a bit more restrictive, which can make you feel a bit resentful. But you know what? You need their love, and you need it all the time! It's like the deeper the love, the more critical they can be. But when you need a bit of warmth and strength, you'll find yourself rekindling your attachment to your family. This is something a lot of people feel when they're away from home.

When you're facing the "coldness of human nature and the cruelty of the world" and feeling a little down, it's natural to realize that home is the warmest place there is. I can see that you're feeling a little guilty about past misunderstandings and resentment towards your family, and you're feeling a little disgusted with yourself. This is totally normal. You only realize the value of something when you lose it. This is such a valuable realization on your part, and I'm really happy for you. Congratulations on growing up and maturing!

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Primrose Knight Primrose Knight A total of 1095 people have been helped

Dear Sir/Madam, From your description, I can discern a certain conflict and helplessness. As a psychological counselor, I would like to offer my understanding from a psychological perspective.

A childhood spent at the side of parents provides a material life foundation. In addition to this, children have spiritual needs that are met by the stability of physical and psychological security. These needs may conflict with the care provided by parents, perhaps due to a generation gap or the development of the child's own needs. The result may be feelings of irritability, nagging, or control.

As adults, we are situated in the world, enjoying a certain degree of autonomy and independence. However, we also experience a sense of isolation and detachment, particularly in the absence of meaningful interpersonal connections. Many of us find ourselves longing for the comforting warmth of home, despite the demands and distractions of our external lives. When we interact with individuals who are preoccupied with their own concerns, we may perceive a sense of helplessness and isolation.

Let us now return to the conflict points previously identified. Some individuals perceive red roses as aesthetically pleasing, whereas others find white roses to be more pure. What if we were to alter our perspective?

It is important to appreciate the time spent with one's parents while they are still alive, and to recognize the selfless love that often accompanies their nagging. It is also beneficial to recognize and feel the happiness that one has.

When attending school or work outside, one may experience personal growth, enjoy their freedom, form friendships, and even engage in emotional communication with their parents via WeChat video when they are away.

This is an experience of role reversal in psychology. It is necessary to feel with the heart and experience this phenomenon in multiple dimensions. This is life. One must see everything that exists with an appreciative eye, and it is positive. However, one also feels life with negative emotions, and one will experience pain, sorrow, and helplessness. This phenomenon exists in the objective world. It is necessary to feel it with an integrated mindset, which will relieve anxiety, accept oneself, and give one strength within. One must become a person with a peaceful mind, a positive attitude towards life, and a loving and grateful heart!

The world and I love you. It is imperative that you learn to love yourself.

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Karen Karen A total of 5966 people have been helped

Good day, question asker. My name is Evan.

From the author's own description, it can be seen that the author is currently in a close relationship with his family. In his interpersonal relationships with others, he encounters problems and is unsure of whom to talk to, which results in negative emotions such as worry. Is this accurate?

I hope to provide the questioner with some encouragement by offering a brief gesture of support. Could you please describe the questioner's approach to interpersonal relationships?

In the event of a troubling or unpleasant occurrence, do you typically seek counsel from individuals outside of your immediate family? Is this an example of how the questioner demands things and comes to these views on things?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether these views accurately reflect the questioner's genuine needs and whether the original family has exerted any influence.

It is often the case that our close relationships, interpersonal relationships, and the way we deal with negative emotions are influenced by our family of origin. This influence often occurs unconsciously. If we are unaware of our own patterns of behavior, we may remain in a fixed mode of behavior.

As the question was posed on the platform, we are unable to provide a comprehensive response. However, we can offer some guidance on how to manage the negative emotions that arise.

It is essential to address the influence of the original family.

Please describe the impact of the original family on the questioner. Please describe the model of social interaction with others.

What opinions have influenced the questioner, leading to a fixed mindset and dissatisfaction with their surroundings? These opinions represent the influence of the original family on the questioner. The questioner can attempt to identify and document on paper some of the opinions that have shaped their perspective.

The questioner should then attempt to distinguish between the following: whether these views are indeed correct, who introduced them to the questioner, or whether they are merely subjective feelings. The questioner should then attempt to argue with these views based on facts and information provided by the original family. Finally, the questioner should determine whether these views are universal in society or if they are merely the result of a unilateral perspective.

If your opinion is not universally held, you can be clear that these influences are those brought to you by your family of origin. For example, when faced with unsatisfactory circumstances, have you considered alternative courses of action beyond those typically employed by your family of origin?

What factors have shaped the questioner's perspective? What external influences have contributed to this outlook?

If the questioner is able to recognize that some of their internal perspectives have been shaped by their family of origin since childhood, will they be able to manage their frustration with minor issues more effectively?

Identify any negative thoughts that may be causing distress.

What causes the questioner to adopt a negative outlook? Some negative thoughts are readily apparent, while others are more elusive.

Should negative emotions arise, please record them in a few words.

Identify the root causes of the negative emotions experienced by the questioner, such as a perception that circumstances are less favorable than they appear, which leads to feelings of discontent and dissatisfaction.

It would be beneficial for the questioner to consider whether there is an influence from the original family.

It should be noted that these negative thoughts are examples of cognitive distortions, such as overgeneralization, jumping to conclusions, and being overly extreme.

It is essential to halt the negative emotions.

Once the source of negative emotions is identified, it is possible to take steps to overcome them. For instance, if an individual is experiencing a negative outlook upon waking in the morning, it may be helpful to remind themselves that the day will improve. This can be achieved by acknowledging the initial negative feelings but then focusing on the positive aspects of the day ahead.

In the event of experiencing negative emotions, it is advisable to avoid dwelling on them or discussing them at length. Instead, it is recommended to focus on expressing something positive. Over time, this approach will become a natural habit, leading to a noticeable shift in one's mindset.

Identify the underlying cause of the negative emotions.

What factors contribute to the negative emotions experienced by the questioner? Are these emotions driven by concerns about progress, a desire for nourishment, or interpersonal challenges?

This necessitates a thorough search, an awareness of the factors affecting the questioner and the generation of negative emotions, and the documentation of these factors on paper.

It is important to identify the root cause of negative emotions. For instance, the questioner may feel unable to form deep relationships with others, reluctant to accept disciplinary action from their parents, or wish to confide in them. Which of these relationships do you find most appealing?

Or, after identifying a suitable communication channel, does this lead to the desired outcome? If not, what are the associated negative emotions?

Only by identifying the underlying cause of the issue can the individual implement the necessary changes to address it effectively.

Approach each day with a positive mindset.

It is essential to maintain a positive outlook on a daily basis. At the start of each day, it is beneficial to identify five positive aspects to focus on.

These positive experiences can be as simple as listening to a pleasant song, watching a thought-provoking film, enjoying a cup of tea with a pleasant aroma, or purchasing something you desired the previous day. It is beneficial to focus on these positive occurrences and verbalise them to yourself at the start of each day to establish a constructive mindset.

A positive mindset is the foundation for a productive start to the day, and it will make it more challenging for negative emotions to take hold.

The questioner may feel self-conscious about expressing positive sentiments aloud, but research indicates that verbalizing optimistic thoughts can enhance their credibility. This can foster a more positive outlook, enhance focus, and minimize the influence of negative thoughts.

It is recommended that you seek professional psychological support.

If you feel that you lack the skills to navigate interpersonal relationships due to the influence of your parents, you may wish to consider seeking professional psychological support. If you are still a student, it is likely that your school will have a psychological counselor, and you may wish to speak to your teacher about your concerns.

Additionally, the questioner may wish to consider seeking the guidance of a qualified psychological counselor or listener on a reputable psychological platform. These professionals can assist in overcoming the influence of a parent and developing strategies for navigating challenging relationships. In some cases, it may also be beneficial to confide in a supportive relative. Having a reliable individual to turn to can provide invaluable support, helping the questioner to gradually become stronger and more resilient.

It is my hope that this response will prove helpful to the questioner.

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Narciso Green Narciso Green A total of 6413 people have been helped

Good day, host. I am July.

In response to the issue you raised in your description, it is not uncommon for individuals to experience a sense of longing for home when they venture out alone. This sentiment is not unique to you but is rather a common occurrence in many individuals' lives. The reason for this is that individuals who live away from home have often endured significant challenges and difficulties, which can lead to a more profound sense of longing.

In particular, when one reflects on the period spent at home before, and the degree to which one's parents exerted control, it is not surprising that feelings of homesickness emerge. This is because, at a fundamental level, the need for care and attention from one's parents persists.

Indeed, the rationale behind your inquiry may be that you are currently experiencing feelings of solitude, prompting you to seek a confidant with whom you can engage in discourse. However, you may encounter difficulty in identifying an individual of a similar age with whom you can interact. Consequently, you pose the question, "Who can I tell my troubles to?" Your underlying motivation stems from a desire to receive greater emotional support and understanding from others, as you seek to enhance your emotional well-being. This explains your search for a person who can attentively listen to your innermost thoughts and feelings.

In this regard, I have also provided a summary of some methods that may assist in alleviating the current situation, and it is my hope that they will prove beneficial to some extent.

(1) It is not uncommon to experience these emotions, as they are prevalent among many individuals. Therefore, it is advisable to permit these emotions to emerge rather than attempting to suppress them.

(2) Home is always a secure environment, and when faced with challenges, it is always an option to confide in one's parents rather than internalizing the issue. Additionally, it is beneficial to express oneself more freely, as parents are unlikely to engage in actions that would cause harm to their children.

(3) It is recommended that the subject speak with a friend with whom they have a positive rapport. This will allow the subject to verbalize their thoughts and feelings, which will in turn help them to better understand and resolve the issue at hand.

(4) When one is experiencing negative emotions, it is beneficial to engage in activities such as exercise, music, journaling, and other forms of self-expression as a means of alleviating these emotions rather than attempting to suppress them.

(5) It is recommended that the individual attempt to distract themselves by engaging in activities that they find enjoyable, rather than remaining in situations that elicit negative emotions for an extended period of time. This approach may facilitate the individual's ability to adapt to their current circumstances.

The world and I extend our sincerest regards to you.

With best regards,

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Joel Anderson Teachers are the puzzle - solvers who help students piece together the jigsaw of knowledge.

I can relate to feeling misunderstood and the mix of emotions you have towards your parents. It's tough when we want their love but also feel weighed down by their strictness. Sometimes, it's this very tension that ties us back home, no matter how far we go.

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Eden Anderson The erudite are those who have traversed the forests of different knowledges and found the hidden paths of wisdom.

The world can indeed feel cold and indifferent, especially when you're out there on your own. I wish I could offer a warm place for you to share these feelings. It's hard to find someone who truly understands the complexity of family relationships.

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Ward Thomas Time is a silent assassin, slowly eroding our days.

Feeling torn between resentment and the need for love is such a challenging experience. It's okay to miss home even when you're trying to be independent. Maybe finding a trusted friend or a counselor to talk to could help ease some of the internal pressure you're carrying.

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Laura Anderson Learning is a celebration of the human mind's capacity.

It's not easy to reconcile the strict upbringing with the longing for affection. I wonder if expressing your feelings to your parents might open up a new line of communication. They might not realize the impact of their actions until you tell them how you feel.

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Zechariah Thomas Growth is a journey of learning to see the growth that comes from collaboration and cooperation.

I feel for you; it's like carrying a heavy burden that you can't put down. The world may seem uncaring, but there are people who care, even if they don't show it in the way you expect. Perhaps reaching out to someone, even if it's just to vent, could make a difference in how you cope with these emotions.

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