I'm considering getting a divorce and a little lost about my future. What should I do?

Good day. I commend you for being able to identify the most suitable course of action amidst the internal conflict and turmoil you are currently experiencing. It is evident that you have been contemplating this matter for an extended period, and while you have attained a degree of clarity, there are also aspects you are hesitant to let go of. I will endeavor to address your inquiries in a comprehensive manner.

1. It is advisable to wait until your child is in the third year of high school before initiating divorce proceedings. Can the potential harm to the child be minimised?

In psychology, the assessment of harm is not based on the opinions of others, but rather on one's own perceptions and definitions. It can be assumed that the child is currently in the early stages of puberty and is gradually beginning the process of self-formation. If he remains in your challenging marital relationship, his internal state will be highly unstable, leading to more conflicts in his development.

As adults, it is important to consider our ability to handle relationships. If a marriage continues, it is essential to identify strategies for repairing and maintaining the relationship.

In the event of divorce, it is in the best interests of the children for both parents to cooperate fully in all matters concerning their upbringing and to accept responsibility for their actions. This will ensure that the children are not caught in the middle of their parents' marital problems and are able to develop their own lives freely.

2. What should I prioritize in my life after reaching a certain age? How should I set my next life goals?

This is a pertinent question: what should life's objective be? You are considering the aspect of personal growth.

Regardless of age, it is possible to consider one's aspirations, desired state of being, and interpersonal relationships.

To ascertain your desired position, it is advisable to explore a range of options, acquire diverse skills, and ultimately select a lifestyle that aligns with your personal goals. This approach can lead to a more fulfilling and stress-free existence.

3. How do you handle the pressure of public opinion? It is inevitable that your actions will become the topic of conversation at social events, and even the subject of ridicule.

I assume you are referring to the social pressure that may be encountered in the event of a divorce. Undoubtedly, there will be a range of comments and judgments when a marriage fails. Some individuals may take sides, while others may add insult to injury. One action may be interpreted differently by different people.

If you ignore it, it's also unrealistic because the pressure may come from your surroundings. We propose setting a time limit of one to three months to allow for a period of adjustment. During this time, you will continue to consider the thoughts and opinions of those around you, but after the specified period, you will begin to move forward on your own.

Best regards,

Dear question asker,

I hope I can express my views and support you as concisely as possible here.

The issues you've highlighted also reflect the mindset you're adopting in this pivotal period of your life, striving to make responsible plans for yourself. These are valuable and constructive reflections!

In response to your first concern, I believe it is important to consider the potential harm to children.

It is challenging to determine the exact age at which a child's parents divorcing will cause the least harm. What is important to consider is that children can grow and learn through the process of their parents' divorce. This includes observing how parents navigate major life choices, handle related relationships, shoulder responsibility while facing their own difficulties, and courageously choose a future life of self-respect and self-love based on an understanding of their true selves.

This could potentially provide your child with something to learn from, which they may be able to refer back to when they face similar life dilemmas in the future.

In response to your second question, I would like to offer some thoughts on your future direction in life.

This is a significant question. I believe it would be beneficial for you to strive towards a deeper understanding of yourself, coupled with a sincere exploration of your own direction in life, a willingness to adapt and evolve, and a gradual process of identifying the people, things, and objects that bring you a sense of inner peace.

It is challenging to achieve overnight, and it is difficult to sum it up in a few words. It may be helpful to give yourself some patience and space to slowly shape the answer to this question.

I believe that each of us is constantly asking ourselves the question, "Who am I?" throughout our lives.

In response to your third question, I would like to offer some thoughts on how to face the social gaze.

Yang Jiang said, "We had hoped for external recognition, but in the end, we came to understand that the world is our own and that external validation is not the most important thing.

You decided to get a divorce because you felt that the likelihood of a higher level of life satisfaction after the divorce was higher than it is now. Perhaps it would be helpful to focus more on managing your inner world and rebuilding your new little family.

With time, public opinion will naturally subside. You will find peace in having weathered the storm.

I wish you the best of luck!

Good day, I am a Heart Exploration coach. I believe that everything is within reach. I see your question and I am here to help.

I'm contemplating the possibility of divorce and find myself somewhat uncertain about my future. I'm seeking guidance on the best course of action.

The questioner is contemplating the possibility of divorce and has some questions that they would like guidance on.

1. Would it be possible to minimize the harm to the child by waiting until after the child is in the third year of high school before getting divorced?

2. I would be grateful for advice on what I should pursue in life when I get older and how I should set my next life goals.

3. How might one navigate the challenges of navigating public opinion? It is possible that one might become the topic of conversation over dinner and even the source of ridicule.

First and foremost, it is important to remember that thoughts are just thoughts and have not yet become facts. As thoughts develop into facts, the individual seeking answers will undoubtedly face a number of challenges.

Divorce is not just about two people separating. It also involves facing the fact that each person has become an independent and free person, starting a new life and entering society on their own, as well as dividing up property, deciding on child custody, finding a source of income after the divorce, and dealing with the practical difficulties caused by social prejudice.

Firstly, it is important to consider the impact of divorce on children, regardless of their age. It is often the case that children experience feelings of loss and reduced love when their parents divorce.

During the marriage, the parents may not always show affection for each other, and the way the couple gets along, whether they love each other, and what the whole family atmosphere is like, the child can all feel it. It is important to remember that the child is a complete, emotional person who wants a warm and happy home where the three of them love each other.

It is important to note that if there is a lack of affection between a husband and wife, and the couple engages in frequent quarrels and cold violence, it can have a negative impact on the children, who may perceive a lack of love within the family and experience difficulties in their personal growth.

It is important to respect your own feelings, regardless of whether you get divorced or not. If you are happy and full of love inside, and love your family, your children will learn from you to love themselves and their family.

It might be helpful to consider how you would live your life if you were to raise your child alone after a divorce, and how you would live your life if you did not raise your child and returned to being single.

The second question is about what you should pursue in life and how you should set your next life goals.

If you were to choose not to marry and have children, what would your life pursuits and personal goals be? What sources of income do you rely on, what activities do you enjoy, and how would you describe your interpersonal relationships?

If your financial situation is not a concern for you, you have the freedom to do as you wish or to continue pursuing the dreams you previously put on hold due to marriage and children.

If you are unsure of your goals, you might find it helpful to follow Maslow's hierarchy of needs to achieve self-worth layer by layer, from the bottom up: physiological needs, safety needs, love and belonging needs, esteem needs, and self-actualization needs.

You may wish to consider achieving your life goals from the bottom up. It might be helpful to make a short-term and long-term plan to achieve your goals step by step.

The third question concerns the pressure of public opinion. It is important to recognize that all news is time-limited and will not always be the talk of the town. Regardless of the topic, whether it is an older unmarried woman, divorce, infidelity, domestic violence, or other such issues, they will always be the talk of many people. The key is to be open to accepting other people's opinions of you.

How do you view divorce? Is it a path to freedom and happiness, or is it something else? Could it be both?

It is inevitable that significant changes in our lives will be noticed by others, as we are all members of society. However, if we choose to avoid social interactions and avoid being noticed by others, we may find ourselves isolated and lonely.

Could you please elaborate on the reasons behind the questioner's decision to marry and divorce? Is it to find greater happiness?

On the road to happiness, it can be challenging to determine whether it is more important to respect your own choices or the opinions and judgments of others. Similarly, it is not uncommon to feel hesitant about leaving a relationship that may not be ideal, particularly if there is a fear of being ridiculed or used as a joke by others.

It seems that the questioner is still in the early stages of considering divorce. It is important to remember that divorce is a decision that affects two people. It would be helpful to know whether the other person is open to the idea of divorce. It is also important to have a clear understanding of each other's views on the division of property and children.

It would be ideal for the two people to part ways in a way that is mutually beneficial, with each person striving to pursue their own happy lives while still maintaining a loving and supportive relationship with their children and continuing to grow together as a family after the divorce.

It is also in children's best interests for their parents to love each other and be happy. Children do not thrive in an unhappy family environment, which can have a detrimental impact on their physical and mental wellbeing.

I respectfully suggest that the questioner consider reading the books Why Home Hurts, Why Love Hurts, and False Intimacy. Doing so might help the questioner gain a deeper understanding of what they want in a relationship and what are the important needs in their life. After that, they could plan their future life step by step.

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Hello, my dear friend who is facing a crossroads in life.

I have read your message several times, and I believe the only emotional word is "confused." I can only imagine that you must have gone through a difficult process, perhaps even one that was heart-wrenching, before reaching a point of slowly despairing. I can't imagine that you wouldn't consider the option of child-8594.html" target="_blank">divorce unless it was absolutely necessary.

Before answering your question, I would like to offer you a hug and suggest that you choose a safe and suitable time and place alone to let your emotions flow and vent more authentically. This can help us reduce the possibility of our thoughts being controlled by our emotions and make us increasingly aware of what our own needs really are. Perhaps divorce is not the only option.

In response to your three concerns, I would like to offer my thoughts, which may not fully align with your situation, in the hope that they might provide some ideas and a direction for your thinking.

In my opinion, the timing of the discussion may not be as crucial as the way we approach it. Our tone, words, and subsequent actions will greatly influence the impact of our marriage on the child. Regardless of the child's age, I believe that separation can be a challenging experience for them. Similarly, if the mother is unhappy in the marriage, it can also be a difficult situation for the child. They may even start to blame themselves for it.

If you are considering or have decided to get a divorce, I would suggest that you tell your child the truth. Children are very sensitive and can sense that they will learn about our thoughts earlier than we ourselves realize. You may choose an appropriate time and place to tell your child about your considerations, which could include how you and your partner met, the process of getting together, how you gradually reached the current situation, and your plans.

It is important to be objective and fair when discussing this process with your child. It is natural to feel frustrated with your husband, but it is essential to remember that he is still the father of your child. It is also important to explain to your child that you are separating from his father because you feel it is no longer the best environment for you to live together. However, you will continue to share the responsibility of raising him together because he is the result of your love for each other.

It is important to let your child know that the divorce is not a reflection of your love for them and that they will continue to be loved just as much as they always have been.

It is also important to consider your own state of mind. Children will be aware of your emotional state, including your life circumstances, emotions, and interpersonal relationships. It is essential to demonstrate to your child that the divorce is for the sake of a better happiness. This will help your child gradually accept the divorce, which may initially be a source of sadness. However, if you continue to dwell on sadness, depression, and complaining, it may intensify the impact and harm caused by the divorce.

I'm not sure what your life goals and aspirations are, but I do know that they are not necessarily tied to age. They are unique to you and your journey. Psychologists often say that "value" is the deepest desire in our hearts to interact with the world, other people, and ourselves.

In essence, it is about who we aspire to be and what we wish to uphold. Our deeply held values will always serve as a guiding force, prompting us to continue acting in a certain direction and keep moving forward.

A value can serve as a guiding light, pointing us in the right direction. It can be seen as a North Star.

When traveling, we can find guidance from the North Star, even when we feel temporarily lost or stressed.

Often, we are aware of what we do not want. For example, we may not desire obsessive thoughts, painful emotions, or difficult challenges.

However, we may sometimes find it challenging to discern our true desires. By elucidating our values, we can gain insight into the kind of person we aspire to be, the type of relationship we seek with others, and the ways we can enrich our lives and make them more meaningful.

If I might suggest, there are five concrete steps for setting goals:

If I might suggest, the first step is to choose the value you would like to practice. For example, you might choose to focus on staying physically healthy and in good shape.

If I might suggest, the second step is to set a goal for the day. Perhaps you could ask yourself, "What is something I can do in the next 24 hours?"

For instance, you might consider doing 30 push-ups when you get home. This is an achievable goal that can help to boost your motivation and confidence.

Step 3: Consider setting some short-term goals. You might ask yourself, "What can I do for my health in the next week?"

For instance, I have set myself the task of doing 30 push-ups at home every weekday evening at 9 o'clock for the next week.

Step 4: Consider setting medium-term goals. You might ask yourself, "What can I do for my health in the next month?"

For instance, you might consider making it a habit to do push-ups every day. You may also wish to try four days a week of cooking nutritious meals yourself.

You might consider taking a posture correction course before the end of the month.

Step 5: Consider what your physical condition and posture might be like a year from now.

It is possible that your test results will be normal, and that your hunched shoulders will have eased up a bit. This could be a long-term goal for you.

It would be beneficial to set short-term and medium-term goals in these five steps.

It is important to remember that practicing values is not something that has to be done or completed. Rather, it is a choice that can be made in order to experience a richer and more meaningful life.

It is important to remember that there is no need to be discouraged if you do not succeed. As long as you want to, you have the right to love yourself and take care of yourself in every moment.

It is also worth noting that public opinion can sometimes be a challenging aspect to navigate. Different individuals may have varying perceptions of what constitutes a "perfect" person, and it is possible that some aspects of your personal journey may not align with these expectations. Rather than focusing on external validation, it can be beneficial to turn your attention inward and reflect on your own thoughts and feelings about your divorce.

I wonder if I might ask whether a divorced woman is perceived as bad or worthless.

Perhaps it would be helpful to remember that we are the only ones who can truly influence ourselves. If we are strong enough, people outside will eventually stop talking, and time is often the best way to deal with things.

Could it be said that if you are happy and smiling, that is perhaps the most important thing of all?

I would like to suggest the following books for your consideration: The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon; The Happiness Trap by Ross Harris; and Real Happiness by Martin Seligman. I hope that reading these books will help you to understand yourself better and to identify what you truly want.

I would like to suggest that we view divorce as an opportunity for a fresh start, rather than as a definitive end.

Hello. Seeing me get divorced, I thought of

You must be financially independent to get a divorce. This allows you to support yourself and your children.

2. Have hope for the future and know that you can do better.

3. You must be spiritually independent, no longer mentally dependent on others, and believe that you can handle the problems in life.

I don't know how ready you think you are, but you need to find out.

If you are in an unhappy family where the mother is full of depression and pain every day, I want to know: do you really think the children will be happy in such an environment?

My mother is divorced but happy and contented. She's always full of sunshine, and every day is fresh. If you were a child, you'd choose the same.

Set goals and pursue them.

You will find the things that interest you most at the moment.

You need to identify what you like. Write down what you used to like and what you like now, and find out what you want to do most.

My friend loves dancing and has signed up for dance classes. She'll go even if it snows and the weather is bad because she truly loves it.

She also had a gym membership before, but it was not a hobby for her. It was a way to get fit and complete a task. She struggled every time she went, but she kept going.

Age is not a limiting condition. You are the one who puts limits on yourself.

My friend has classmates who dance with each other, including young girls in their 20s, mothers in their 30s and 40s, and grandmothers in their 50s and 60s.

Start with your goals. First, list those with relevant experience. Next, list those based on past knowledge. Then, list those you are familiar with. After that, list those you like. Finally, list those you want to become.

You must think about this yourself. Everyone's situation is different, and so are their goals. You know what's best for you.

Now, let's talk about public opinion.

We may care a lot about what others think, but we also want to maintain a good image.

Life is your own, and you must take responsibility for how well you live it. Your heart will tell you what choice to make when you weigh others' opinions against your own sense of well-being. This is a question you need to think about.

You can't control what other people think, but you can control your own actions.

You must be prepared, whatever choice you make.

Be grateful and share your story! The world and I love you!

Dear question asker,

Marriage and divorce are both significant life events. It's understandable that you and your husband have faced challenges along the way. I can imagine that you've considered the implications of this decision for a long time.

However, divorce is not simply about two people separating. It will inevitably bring about major changes in life, especially for families with children, and there are more things to consider. The three questions you have raised are very realistic and important. I will try to share my thoughts on them.

?1. Is there a particular age at which divorce is more advisable?

If your child is in the third year of junior high school, it is important to consider that divorce at this time may have a greater impact on him. This is because you and your husband will need to go through the procedures for divorce, divide up property, and arrange for daily life in the future.

It is not uncommon for family changes to result in children feeling some pressure.

But you will undoubtedly be thinking about your child's studies in junior high school, so perhaps it would be helpful to consider what impact a high school education might have on their marriage as they grow up. It is inevitable that divorce will have an impact on children, but we can handle this matter better and minimize the impact.

You might consider calmly telling your child that, because you and your spouse are unable to reconcile certain conflicts, there is not much point in staying together. You are not separating because you hate each other, but because you want to pursue a better life for yourself. This could help your child understand that self is more important than a marriage that is tied together.

?2. Future goals and pursuits.

This is a challenging question with no simple answer. We all have different goals and pursuits in life. My advice would be to try to avoid tying your goals and pursuits to someone else. For example, making your child successful is something you should focus on, rather than relying on someone else to do it for you.

It would be beneficial to identify something you truly enjoy, and if you are unable to do so, it might be helpful to explore further. Even if you don't feel a strong affinity for it, it can still bring you joy. As you continue to navigate life and engage with the world, your aspirations and pursuits may gradually become clearer.

3. You may become the subject of conversation in your community.

It is perhaps inevitable that gossip will occur in human nature. As for ridicule, it seems that nowadays, few people would ridicule divorce. It is becoming increasingly apparent that divorce is just the beginning of another kind of life, and that it is an expression of pursuing oneself.

Even if you really become the talk of the town and the object of ridicule, it might be helpful to remind yourself that the fact that they laugh at me doesn't mean I'm bad. It could simply be that they don't understand me, and that their horizons and perceptions are very limited.

Take a moment to reflect: between the fear of being ridiculed by others and continuing to endure a marriage you don't like, which would you rather choose? You live your life for yourself, not for others, right?

My name is Haru Aoki, and I extend my love to the world.

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I commend you for your rational thinking and ability to leverage. As a woman (men have more options and initiative than women when it comes to divorce), it is indeed rare and necessary to be able to do these things.

You have indicated that you are somewhat uncertain about your future plans. It is evident that you have not yet fully considered the possibility of divorce.

We will therefore address the three questions you have raised together. We hope that in the process of discussion, you will be able to find the answers yourself. Regardless of the outcome, make a decision that you will not regret so that you can move forward with clarity and purpose.

From the child's perspective, the optimal outcome is a happy marriage between their parents.

A marriage is a life project for parents. If they fail to complete it successfully, it will have a detrimental impact on both spouses and their children.

If the issue is not a matter of principle, the close relationship can still be salvaged. After all, establishing a family is a challenging endeavor, but it requires the input of both partners to ensure a harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

If the situation cannot be salvaged, it may be preferable to conclude the matter sooner rather than later. It may appear that you are considering the child's perspective by postponing decisions until the college entrance exams are over. However, children are perceptive and can discern when there is discord within the family.

If they are mature, they will disengage and focus on their own affairs. However, many children will internalize the situation and attribute it to their own shortcomings, leading to the belief that they are the cause of the conflict and subsequent divorce.

Furthermore, children learn from observing how their parents handle conflict and regulate their emotions. This has implications for their future relationships and intimate relationships.

2. Avoid setting arbitrary limits for yourself. Life is a continuous cycle with endless possibilities for new beginnings.

The concept of "old age" is a subjective construct. For example, 40 years old is considered young compared to 50 years old, and 35 years old is considered young compared to 40 years old.

The pursuit of life and the love of life are not contingent on age or marital status. Rather, they are dependent on the presence of hope within oneself. In reality, there are numerous young individuals who exhibit an "empty heart," a lack of motivation to live, and a lack of enthusiasm for people, things, and events.

As many independent private entrepreneurs have discovered, being laid off can be an opportunity to re-plan one's life and use this as a new starting point to live the life you want.

Frequently, marriage presents a significant limitation on a woman's potential. A woman is tasked with pursuing a career, raising children, managing the household, and attending to the emotional needs of her family and the expectations of external parties. "No official, no worries" signifies liberation from these worldly constraints and the ability to embrace a more carefree approach to life.

Specific issues require specific solutions. Factors such as economic stability, spiritual support, social connections, and professional interests must be taken into account when developing a comprehensive plan.

3. Maintain a healthy balance between seriousness and levity.

Self-respect is the foundation for respect from others, and self-confidence is the outward expression of self-respect. Therefore, it is important not to take oneself lightly.

Everyone has their own concerns to address, particularly in the context of current challenges such as the epidemic, the New Year, the rooster doll, the internal roll, and so on. It is understandable that people are reluctant to devote significant attention to others' issues without tangible benefits. As you mentioned, these matters are often discussed only after tea and dinner, and the enthusiasm for such conversations tends to wane due to other pressing commitments.

When marital changes occur, it is natural to experience negative emotions and a sense of inferiority. It is important to recognize that your life is your own and that the opinions of others do not define your worth. Those who genuinely care about you will not engage in gossip, while those who do not care about you may only pay lip service.

It is important to remember that you must walk your own path in life. This means that you should simply proceed in your own way and allow others to express their opinions. Furthermore, this approach can also be used to reorganize your thoughts. Ultimately, I hope that this process will help you to make a clearer decision.

I hope the above is helpful to you and beneficial to the world. Best regards,

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Good morning, I appreciate your inquiry and understand your concerns regarding divorce. It is commendable that you are questioning your own confusion and challenging your inner fears. Your self-awareness is admirable, and I encourage you to continue exploring your options. Best regards,

With regard to the effect of divorce on children,

Your child is in junior high school, and you are concerned that your divorce may have a negative impact on him. It is important to assess the potential influence of your divorce on your child, taking into account their ability to withstand pressure. If your child is very supportive of you, the divorce may have a minimal impact on him.

It is important to communicate to your child that divorce is a personal issue between you and your spouse, and that it has no bearing on your relationship with them. You are simply ending your marriage, and your parent-child bond will remain intact in the future.

Your actions send a clear message to your children that when a marriage is unhappy, you have the option to address the situation in a constructive manner. You have the right to work on improving the situation or to choose to end the marriage. Let your children be proud of you because you are taking steps to achieve your personal happiness and you are demonstrating courage in the process.

Regarding your future and the objectives you should pursue.

It is a common misconception that dreams are only attainable in one's youth. However, historical figures like Mencius, who was in his 50s, have demonstrated that it is never too late to pursue one's dreams. I had a female client who, following her divorce, expressed a desire to pursue her passion for dance, particularly pole dancing. Despite being 42 years old at the time, she began training in her spare time after work and, over the course of two years, became highly proficient. She then shared her experience with me.

It is imperative that women never give up on themselves, as they are the best at what they do.

Regarding social pressure:

If a close associate were to experience a divorce following an unhappy marriage, how would you counsel her?

Should you respond with ridicule, or should you commend her courage and offer your support?

At this juncture, you have the answer. Those who care about you and understand you will support and encourage you. As for those who do not support you and do not care about you, you are under no obligation to heed their opinions.

You are the master of your life, the expert of your life, and the one in charge of your life. What do you need to say to yourself?

Trust your instincts and decisions. You are the optimal version of yourself.

Hello, dear question asker!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're feeling a bit disappointed in marriage and a little unsure about what the future holds.

I'd love to share my thoughts on the things you've brought up.

1. Moms are naturally worried about their kids, and rightfully so! It's important to consider how your child views your marriage. Kids are perceptive and pick up on everything, especially when it comes to their parents' interactions. If you're not in a loving place, your child will likely sense it. So, if you've made the decision to divorce, it's essential to tell your child that the divorce is between you and your spouse and has nothing to do with them. Rest assured, your parents still love you unconditionally and will always be there for you.

2. For the future, you can start a new life. I don't know if you have a job yet, but I'm sure you'll find something great! What are your hobbies?

From what you've told me, it's clear you're a positive, motivated person. Maybe you used to contribute more to the family, but now you have the chance to focus on yourself, discover your strengths, explore your interests and hobbies, and make new friends to make life better.

3. As for what other people think, well, that's out of our hands. All we can do is be ourselves, right? They'll probably say that life is hard after a divorce. But if you're happier than ever, living your own wonderful life, they'll probably stop saying that, won't they?

Wishing you all the best!

The question author is identified as Kelly from XinTan.

I am Kelly from XinTan, and I perceive that you are currently experiencing a period of confusion and indecision.

Let us proceed in a systematic manner, addressing each issue individually.

1. It is recommended that couples wait until their children have reached the third year of high school before initiating divorce proceedings. This will help to minimise any potential harm to the children.

A child in the third year of junior high school is undergoing puberty. Should the decision to divorce be made, or if the questioner is experiencing significant distress, they are encouraged to seek the guidance of a professional counselor.

1. Determine whether the marital issues can be resolved. What precipitated the discord? What will be the outcome if the couple continues to reside together?

2. Divorce is a matter between the two spouses. Once the children have completed their examinations, the family should engage in a discussion with the children, informing them that although their parents desire a divorce or have already initiated the process, it is because they believe it is in the best interest of the family to separate.

Nevertheless, it is imperative to refrain from causing any emotional distress to the child.

3: Attempt to convey to the child that despite the parents' poor relationship, they both continue to love him or her deeply.

4. It is recommended that parents inform their children directly and honestly that the decision to divorce was made by the couple, with the aim of reducing the psychological burden on the child. Effective communication between parents can help to minimise the potential harm to the child. For instance, if the child believes that they are the cause of the divorce or feels that they are no longer loved by either parent, this may result in feelings of insecurity and abandonment.

5: The dissolution of a parental relationship is detrimental to children. The manner in which parents navigate this transition is of paramount importance, and this can be effectively addressed through the guidance of a qualified counselor.

6: It is recommended that individuals contemplating divorce provide themselves with a rationale for the decision and document their post-divorce life plan in detail. This process may facilitate the identification of issues that can be discussed with their spouse or otherwise addressed.

7: It is advisable to consider the potential consequences of one's actions before taking any action.

2. What should be the focus of one's attention in the later years of life? How should one approach the formulation of life goals in the subsequent phase of life?

The questioner has the opportunity to grow personally, experiment with different lifestyles, and cultivate their hobbies and specialties.

It is recommended that, where possible, individuals pursue courses of study that align with their personal interests, with a view to enhancing their personal development.

The aging process affects all individuals, regardless of marital status.

One should avoid imposing limitations on oneself.

Furthermore, one may seek a new position or one that aligns with one's interests. It is essential to identify one's intrinsic value.

It is beneficial to record one's strengths, to engage in self-reflection, to offer oneself positive affirmations, and to embrace one's inherent value.

Ultimately, individuals are engaged in a lifelong pursuit of self-discovery. A compelling text on this subject is Hermann Hesse's Siddhartha.

3. How do you cope with the pressure of public opinion? To a certain extent, you will become the subject of others' conversations, or even the source of ridicule.

It is widely acknowledged that a significant proportion of individuals are inclined to engage in the discussion of others, while simultaneously exhibiting a reluctance to become the subject of such discourse. These tendencies are often driven by an underlying apprehension, which can only be overcome through a commitment to authenticity and self-reflection. Ultimately, each individual bears responsibility for their own well-being, regardless of whether they are experiencing positive or negative emotions.

As fear increases, so too does worry.

It would be beneficial to engage in more meditation and engage in self-reflection.

One might inquire as to the source of such trepidation.

The opinions of others affect our mood because we care about them. Therefore, it is advisable to return to oneself, embrace one's true self, and endeavor to achieve a state of contentment.

The optimal response is to recognize that only one's own self is capable of achieving a state of enhanced well-being and happiness.

I wish you the best.

Hello, friends who are confused in your emotions. I have carefully read your questions and I am going to share my personal opinions with you.

Let me be clear: divorce does not harm children. What harms children is a poor family atmosphere caused by marital discord. There is no time when the harm is minimal. If adults can rationally view marriage and how to choose, they can let children grow up in a loving environment.

It is a common misconception that children growing up in divorced or single-parent families suffer as a result. In fact, there are many divorced or single parents whose children develop very well, despite lacking a part of the family unit. This is because they are able to thrive without the negative influence that is often associated with divorce or single parenthood.

Second, you must set your own personal life goals. No one can help you do this. Just like learning goals when you were young, if parents and teachers set them, the child will most likely slack off.

As adults, we are all the same. We only spend time and energy pursuing a goal when we truly recognize it. If you don't have a goal yet, there is a simple way to help you find your answer. Take a piece of paper and list the people you admire most, preferably of the same sex. See what common traits they have. If you can find it, it may be the trait that is your goal. If not, that's okay.

We can and should continue to explore. We all want to have the lives we want. We can imagine what our desired lives are like. If we achieve them, is there anything else we want? If there is, then this is the answer you're looking for.

Let me be clear: no one can occupy the hot search for a long time. In today's era of diverse information, it is very difficult to be in the spotlight.

You mustn't avoid questions about marriage. It doesn't matter what choice you make. When others talk about it, you must tell the other person your status. This will soon shift their focus to other people. The public wants to pry into your private life. So don't treat your marriage choices as private.

I'm sure this will help!