I'm too strong-willed. No one of the opposite sex likes me like this. Do I really have to act like a baby and show weakness?

Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I get the feeling that you have noticed that a girl around you who is very good at coquetry and showing weakness has won the hearts of many boys. Perhaps subconsciously, there is a certain boy that you think should like you. I think that it is only when you have such thoughts that you may feel particularly unbalanced, and you are particularly puzzled, which is why you have come here to ask a question. I especially understand the confused feeling you are experiencing at this time, and I hug you!

Wow, you are truly amazing! You are so capable, and you're not bad-looking either. You're also very gentle in your daily life. I think you're one of the best women out there! It could be said that fate has favored you!

I don't know how old you are now, but you're going to get through this love problem! You also say that you have a particularly wide circle of friends and that there is no problem finding someone. I have this doubt: it's one thing to meet a lot of people every day, but it's quite another to find a partner.

I want to tell you something. You are so outstanding that you don't need anyone. And it's not just at work. You can apply this mentality to all aspects of life. Ask yourself: how many female close friends do you have? Do you have any close female friends?

Do you usually go out together? Go on trips?

Do you have many opportunities to work with others? I'd love to hear more about that!

Anyway, I read your question and it seems like you prefer to work alone, which is great! That means you have the ability to solve problems on your own. In my personal experience, it seems like you can do anything you set your mind to!

Based on the above, I think the reason you feel stuck right now may be entirely caused by the girl around you, that is, your competitive nature. In fact, deep down, you don't necessarily feel that you particularly need a man to live with you in the future, because you don't have room in your heart for them right now. I felt this from the sentence you said, that your ability to get things done far surpasses that of your peers. How could you possibly accommodate the existence of another person?

If this is really hurting you, don't beat yourself up about it! What you should do now is take a deep breath, calm down, and think about yourself. Sort out your thoughts, and don't let the environment around you influence you. In today's society, there are all kinds of people who choose different lifestyles. If you are capable and independent, you can definitely live on your own!

The world is your oyster! You don't need to marry a man or a woman to live. Especially in such a developed society with a booming economy. You can do everything yourself, and you do it really well. So why would you want someone else to mess things up?

So let's think clearly about this question: Is the other half we want to find strong, weak, or not divided by strength? What is the real purpose of finding the other half? It's not that because we are strong, we let others come and admire and pursue us!

I think you have an amazing ability to notice the situations between couples around you. From your perspective, they may not be a perfect match, or the man may not be the ideal partner for the woman, or the woman may not be the perfect match for the man. But they are just living a particularly happy and fulfilling life! This may also explain why the girl around you is liked by so many boys!

In your opinion, you think that the girl is deliberately showing weakness and being cute, but it may not necessarily be friendship. This is just the nature of women, and it's totally normal! You yourself also said that you can be gentle in life, so you also have a feminine character in life. I want you to think about how to be considered feminine and how to be considered cute.

If you can think clearly and express your true nature, instead of always being pushy, I think your mindset will slowly but surely change for the better! When you can change, I guess all your circumstances will improve.

I can't wait to see what the future holds for you! I know you're going to make all your wishes come true!

The world and I love you!

Hello, question asker! I am Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I will answer your question on Yi Xinli.

From what you've told me, it's clear you're suffering because you're too strong-willed and very capable in all aspects (unpopular with the opposite sex).

I want to be clear: different people have different preferences. You will always meet the right person, someone who will appreciate your good qualities, tolerate your shortcomings, and love you for all of your imperfections.

He will come around, so don't worry.

I have some suggestions for you.

1. You will blossom if you try your best! Someone will surely appreciate you!

You are excellent and deserve to be matched with an equally excellent guy. Stay true to yourself and keep becoming an even better girl!

☀️If a guy doesn't pursue an outstanding girl, it's probably because he's worried that he's not good enough for her. Some guys are also self-conscious in love.

☀️If you meet someone who is looking at you, and they are more passive, take the initiative. Give them a friendly glance, a bright smile, or a friendly gesture. They'll be confident enough to start a relationship.

You've got this!

?2. Go for it when you meet someone you like.

☀️If you meet a guy you like, go for it. Let go of your pride. Even if it doesn't work out, you won't have any regrets.

In the process of pursuing, you will learn and understand the psychology of boys and what kind of girl can be liked by boys. This is not about giving up yourself, but about understanding what gender relationships are all about.

Building and maintaining a relationship of any kind takes work. You must understand the psychology of the sexes to know how to protect a relationship.

Read the book. It's called "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus."

This book is a must-read for anyone looking to understand the psychology of relationships between the sexes and establish a good relationship.

3. Be gentle. It helps build good relationships.

When you fall in love in the future, you need to learn to be gentle and show weakness. Many guys like soft and weak girls, and you should take advantage of that. It will stimulate their innate desire to protect you.

You may be strong, but you don't need to be so independent. You are a girl, and you need a strong boyfriend to take care of you, protect you, and hold an umbrella over you when problems arise.

☀️Be more feminine and you'll go further in your relationships!

I am confident that my answer has been of some help to you.

I wish you the best!

I love you, and I know the world does too.

Hello, dear questioner!

I'm a listening therapist. I'm forty and confused, and I'm so excited to have this chance to meet you here!

It's so inspiring to see how strong you are! Not only are you strong, but you're also far surpassing your peers in every way. I do my best at everything, and I can always do amazing things that surprise people and never trouble anyone. That's really awesome, and I'm sure you're very satisfied with your abilities. You're gentle and beautiful, just like Li Qingzhao!

But it may make you feel a little lost that such an outstanding person like you has not yet found a place to call home in love. At the same time, you also see many girls with little ability who just rely on being cute and weak to win the affection of many people, which you find very incomprehensible and can't stand.

I totally get it. You're going to feel a lot of imbalance, but I'm here to give you a warm hug first!

Absolutely! Love has nothing to do with being cute or showing weakness. Other girls rely on this to make many boys feel protective, but it doesn't mean they've received love or happiness.

True love is appreciating someone wholeheartedly! I believe you just feel that you are very capable and can do your best in any field. You've lost in the "big event" of love, and you are a little unwilling to accept it, but you'll get there!

So, don't worry! Your time will come!

Moreover, "there are not many boys around who are better than me, or else they don't know everything." So what is there to lose by losing the attention of these boys? Those spoiled little girls get all the affection from these boys who are not as capable as you, so what is there to envy?

I can see that this situation has had some impact on you and made you feel a little powerless.

First of all, I think you may not like the boys. You value ability very highly, and you think that boys who are not as good as you are are very bad. This means you don't even want to release your attraction to them – but you can!

All you want is to have some suitors and be equally good in the field of love!

Second, the influence of the family of origin is inescapable in any of our behaviors. Perhaps, for some reason, you have developed the habit of not relying on others, and you are independent and self-reliant, an ability of which you are proud!

But this ability also allows you to live a good life on your own! Perhaps you think other people are stupid and a burden. If this is the case, then subconsciously you don't want to find a boyfriend. But guess what? This idea will unconsciously influence your behavior.

The above are just a few of the things that come to mind. If it doesn't match your situation, or if you really want to get out of this situation, you can seek professional help from a psychologist or a counselor to help you see the reasons behind it and find ways to change.

I am an enthusiastic answerer, psychological listener, offline consultant, health manager, nutritionist, and Chinese medicine health enthusiast. I am so excited to help you learn more about how to face life's challenges and summarize your experiences to help others!

Dear Question Asker, From your words, I understand that you perceive a girl who displays a certain coquettishness and vulnerability, and that many boys are drawn to her. You believe that, given your strong-willed nature, you are unable to garner the affection of the majority of boys.

One might be tempted to conclude that this phenomenon is the result of a discrepancy in personality types. However, given that your personality is typically characterized by gentleness, it is understandable that you are perplexed by the apparent inability of others to establish close relationships with you.

Your statements indicate a preference for independence and a tendency to avoid inconveniencing others. You also expressed a belief in your own ability to excel in any task.

Your ambition is indicative of your independence. You are not inclined to rely on others. You are indeed highly capable and can achieve your goals if you apply yourself.

However, many individuals are unable to do so.

A key phenomenon in interpersonal interactions is the necessity of establishing a connection with others through the act of troubling them. This process is not without limits.

An excessive degree of independence or dependence is an impediment to the formation of relationships. If an individual is perceived as too independent, it may be inferred that they do not seek connection with others or that they do not require their presence. This may result in a lack of motivation to engage in daily interactions and communication. In order to protect their self-esteem, individuals may choose to maintain a distance from others, potentially hindering the development of close friendships.

Furthermore, there is a perceived superiority of women over men, which can create an obstacle to intimacy.

Without such interaction, it is impossible to develop and establish a relationship. Daily small talk is also a form of interaction.

It is analogous to relatives visiting each other. There is no significant occurrence, merely mutual visits and exchanges of courtesies to sustain the relationship. In the absence of such visits, the relationship will inevitably diminish over time.

You have indicated that you perceive a lack of initiative on the part of the male population in terms of expressing interest and forming close relationships. Conversely, do you take the initiative to express interest in and form relationships with males? It is important to avoid becoming overly dependent on others. If a male individual is willing to depend on you and obey you, would you find that appealing?

A romantic relationship is an intimate one, and a male's feelings for a female are influenced by a number of factors. These may include the consistency of their worldviews, the similarity or complementarity of their personalities, or the fulfillment of their psychological needs.

Girls who are adept at displaying their appealing qualities to boys may be reluctant to decline their advances. This is because, in general, people are drawn to those who express interest in them, and we all desire to be accepted, appreciated, recognized, and needed.

A multitude of factors contribute to the formation and sustenance of a relationship. These include personality similarities and complementarities, consistency in values, family background, personal appearance, initiative and passivity, and the capacity to establish an intimate relationship.

Simply being cute and vulnerable is not an effective strategy for attracting boys. It is more prudent to be aware of one's own dating standards, to be proactive when meeting someone one is interested in, to socialize more, and to get to know each other slowly during the relationship. This will allow one to ascertain whether the relationship is suitable.

It is my hope that this has prompted some reflection on the subject matter.

Hello, host. I hope my answer is helpful to you in some way.

The original poster said that she had always been a very strong-willed girl. She would do her best at everything and was also very capable. Her abilities in every area far surpassed those of her peers and even those of the opposite sex. She didn't like to show weakness to boys and didn't think that there were many boys around her who were better than her or as well-rounded as she was. But she couldn't understand why, when she saw a girl around her who was very good at being cute and showing weakness, that girl won the affection of many boys. She wondered if she really had to act that way in order to be liked. But she also felt that she couldn't change who she was. In her daily life, she was very gentle and attractive, so this really confused her.

I'm also a girl, and I used to be very strong-willed. Inside, I'm strong-willed, but my personality is also very gentle. I was once in a relationship, and like you, I would get confused. I felt that I was good enough, didn't want to rely on the other person, and kept comparing myself to the other person. Sometimes, when I saw the parts of the other person that were better than me, I even felt very uncomfortable. When I saw people in relationships who always relied on each other, I also felt very disgusted, and this used to bother me a lot. Later, when I started to accept my own imperfections, when I saw my own needs in the relationship and was willing to express my needs, and when I saw that the nature of the relationship was mutual dependence, mutual support, and mutual cooperation, rather than mutual competition, I was able to freely and easily be myself in the relationship, and I was no longer so troubled.

I'm not sure if these experiences are relevant to you. This is just my experience, which you can refer to if you like:

You can figure out why you're "very ambitious and don't want to trouble anyone," and what beliefs and thought patterns are driving this.

As you know, not everyone is competitive, and not everyone is unwilling to trouble others. So why do we choose to be this way? Why are we competitive?

So, what's the purpose and what need is it fulfilling? Being strong and not causing trouble for others are just superficial behaviors. The real reason is that these behaviors satisfy certain needs of ours.

I used to be very strong-willed and didn't want to trouble others because I felt I was in control of everything and perfect. If I bothered others, I would feel that I wasn't good enough and wasn't perfect. So, I proved that I was completely independent and perfect, and could even be said to be "the best" by being strong-willed and not troubling others. But this didn't make me feel comfortable, and I was always in a cycle of constantly proving and pursuing perfection. I was very tired and exhausted, but I didn't dare to relax, and I even became apprehensive because I was bad at certain things.

This is just how I used to feel and think. It's important to be aware of your own needs and desires and understand the reasons behind them.

2. We need to focus on being complete people, not on being perfect.

Jung once said, "It's better to be a whole person than a good person. Being a good person means living only half of your true self. Being a whole person means living your true self in its entirety."

I used to be someone who was always striving for perfection, wanting to do everything to the best of my ability. This made me excel in my studies and in all aspects of life, and I received many honors and awards. But deep down I knew that I was actually never satisfied with myself because I was always striving for a perfect self. The truth is that there is no perfect person in the world—everyone is imperfect. If we always strive for perfection, we will always be dissatisfied with ourselves because it is impossible.

Later on, I started to accept my imperfect self, embrace my vulnerable side, and face my shortcomings and flaws with an open mind. I found that my inner world became increasingly stable and harmonious. I no longer needed to prove my perfection by being "strong," so I didn't need to take on everything all the time. I could make good use of the resources around me and feel the support and nourishment that others brought me.

So, it's a good idea to take a step back and see your real, imperfect, whole, objective self. Then, try to accept this self. You'll find your life gets richer, your experience of life gets more vivid, and most importantly, your heart gets more relaxed and at ease.

2. The key to a great relationship is working together, supporting each other, and helping each other out, not competing against each other.

It's because we're all imperfect that we need to work together in relationships. It's in our genes. We humans can reproduce and survive not because of our individual fighting power, but because we can work together. That's enabled us to create so many miracles on earth.

We all need to feel like we belong and get some support from others. That's not at odds with being independent. The key is understanding our core needs in a relationship. We can express these needs. For example, you might want the other person to understand and accept you. You might need the other person's companionship and support. In other words, our needs are not just material. They're also emotional. This is what intimate relationships can give us.

We don't have to act like other girls and be cute or cutesy. We just need to be gentle and express our needs and feelings on the basis of accepting ourselves. This is a great way to express ourselves, and the other person will also feel that they are valuable and can help you after you have expressed your needs. Then, when he needs your help, he will also turn to you, and you can also feel your value and the sense of accomplishment of being needed. This will promote the development of your relationship.

However, if we're always competing in a relationship, comparing who's better, it can make you nervous and uneasy. You might even fear that the other person is better than you. Then, when someone praises them, you might feel inadequate. But just because he's good doesn't mean you're not good enough, and just because you're good doesn't mean he's not good enough. You both have your own respective excellences. As long as you don't compare, but adopt a cooperative attitude, you'll find that in the relationship, you won't be so anxious and uneasy, and you won't have various expectations of the other person.

I hope this is helpful for you. Best wishes!

Your ambition and ability are off the charts! You're more talented than most of your peers and even the opposite sex. You're a gentle soul with a good-looking face, but you're not as good at winning boys' hearts as a girl who's great at showing her soft side. This has left you a bit puzzled.

I'm excited to share some insights that I hope will help you navigate this confusion and expand your thinking on this issue!

First, identify what you want in an intimate relationship and what you are willing to give!

If you are extremely capable, you can handle everything on your own, which means that you don't need help from others in an intimate relationship. This is different from the mentality of some girls who hope to find "support" in an intimate relationship.

Knowing what you want from an intimate relationship and what you are willing to give is one of the most important things you can do before starting one!

Intimacy means different things to different people, and that's a wonderful thing! Some people may enjoy the sweet, colorful bubbles and sweet, close togetherness of being in love, while others get a sense of being needed from intimacy. Different needs also lead to different forms of intimacy, which means there's something out there for everyone!

Different forms of intimacy are not right or wrong, only suitable or not—and there are so many wonderful possibilities out there!

So, start by thinking about what you want and what you are willing to give to your partner. This is the perfect way to get your ideal relationship off to a flying start!

2. Once you've confirmed the form of intimacy you desire, it's time to reach out and find someone who shares your aspirations!

It is said that "it takes a hundred years to get in the same boat, and a thousand years to sleep together." This saying conveys the difficulty of fate on the one hand, and on the other hand, it also shows that not everyone can find such companionship—but what a joy it is when you do!

Once you start to become clear about your own intimate relationship patterns, you'll be amazed at how much easier it is to enter an intimate relationship with someone who shares your values!

3. It's important to recognize that intimacy is a special type of interpersonal relationship.

Embrace your ambition! It'll make you stand out, but remember to keep your soft side alive. Take Margaret Thatcher, the first female British Prime Minister and the "Iron Lady." She was a force to be reckoned with in her career, and she still had a happy and fulfilling marriage!

Her husband Denis is her biggest fan! He's always by her side, cheering her on and campaigning for her votes while she gives speeches and turns down business opportunities.

The other person in a good relationship can see the part of you that shines, and when you meet the "right" person, there will also be opportunities to show the soft warmth behind your capable personality. It's so exciting! The sound of a zither is an ensemble, not a solo, and that is what relationships bring to life and vitality.

I really hope the above sharing can bring you inspiration!

I really hope the above sharing will inspire you!

I'm a psychotherapist who doesn't explore human nature. I'm here to care for your heart! Bless you!

My mother is very strong. She bossed my father around and lost her temper over trivial matters. I thought she was being unreasonable, but after doing the arrangement, I realized she is actually very feminine at heart. She respects my father's feelings and listens to him when it comes to important family matters.

Before I studied psychology, I felt I had to be strong like my mother to feel secure. But I realized that her strength was just a mask for her fear.

I know how to treat my family. Living in harmony gives me strength and courage.

You seem confused. Why do girls who are cute and show weakness win the hearts of so many guys? You obviously feel that you are nice at first glance. If it were me, I might be upset. Why?

You are a strong-willed girl. This trait has made you outstanding. You are better than your peers and even the opposite sex. We should be grateful for this strong-willed nature.

If you don't like showing weakness to stronger guys, are you waiting for a guy who is as good as you? Your goal is to find a boyfriend, right?

Is it not good to show your gentle side?

If you are strong, be strong. If you want to show weakness, do it. These good feelings are your right to a comfortable life.

I wish you luck in finding a partner!

Hello,

You seem excellent in every way, but hurt, confused, and lost in your relationships.

I don't know how old you are or what you mean by "stuck in love."

What does this look like?

Is she stuck in the process of communicating with the opposite sex?

Is your character too overbearing?

The first thing to note is that

Not all quality men like girls who are overly emotional.

However, this type of girl is more likely to make men feel sorry for her, which makes them want to protect her.

The desire to protect.

In a society dominated by a patriarchal culture, the mainstream authority culture generally

The idea is that men can only show their true nature if they protect women better, and that women are delicate and gentle, while men are strong.

This is a basic ethical and moral evaluation given by society. It has caused

Big changes.

Some men reject "tomboy" girls because they lack testosterone.

The subconscious mind is afraid of powerful women.

I need to tell you one more thing.

If you are gentle and prone to emotional setbacks, perhaps you are a perfectionist.

How can you break this pattern?

How can this be fixed?

First, you need to know:

If you're competitive and pursue perfection in your career, it might not transfer to your personal life.

And keep repeating yesterday?

The standard for choosing a spouse is:

There is no best, but there is the most suitable!

Don't be discouraged!

If you haven't met someone yet, it may be because you haven't had the chance.

Maybe you haven't met a good man who can keep you.

If you want to know which part of your marriage has "stuck,"

In marriage, it is best to understand yourself.

To achieve this, you need to select a consultant who can help you understand yourself.

Yourself?

I hope you find your Prince Charming soon!

I would like to extend my compliments to you, my child. As a young woman whose abilities in every aspect far exceed those of her peers and even those of the opposite sex, you are capable of doing everything to the best of your ability and even to a surprising degree. I believe that whether you are a daughter or a friend, you are a proud and admirable existence.

You indicate that you are currently in a relationship that you find unsatisfactory. How should I respond to this? This is a social phenomenon. It is true that women who are too accomplished have some difficulty finding a partner with whom to start a family. This is because of the influence of traditional Chinese thinking. Women look for a lover who is stronger than themselves, while men look for a woman who is submissive and dependent on them.

This traditional way of thinking has been prevalent for thousands of years. It is not inherently problematic, as it largely aligns with the psychological needs of both men and women. However, exceptions do exist. For instance, some men do not prioritize a partner who is stronger than they are, and some women do not seek a partner who is weaker than they are. Nevertheless, as these preferences are not universal, it is relatively easy for an exceptional man to find a partner, but not as straightforward for an exceptional woman to find a suitable match.

The probability of encountering a male superior in terms of ability is low, and even if such a male superior exists, he may not be suitable for marriage. Therefore, the probability of encountering a male superior in terms of ability is low. The probability of encountering a male superior in terms of ability is low, and even if such a male superior exists, he may not be suitable for marriage. Therefore, the probability of encountering a male superior in terms of ability is low. The probability of encountering a male superior in terms of ability is low, and even if such a male superior exists, he may not be suitable for marriage. Therefore, the probability of encountering a male superior in terms of ability is low. The probability of encountering a male superior in terms of ability is low, and even if such a male superior exists, he may not be suitable for marriage. Therefore, the probability of encountering a male superior in terms of ability is low.

Thus, while you indicate that you are currently experiencing a sense of stagnation with regard to this particular issue, it is possible that this is merely a transient phenomenon. It may be the case that you have not yet encountered an individual with whom you are able to establish a mutually fulfilling and harmonious relationship.

Let us consider whether a change in your approach might be beneficial.

1. It would be beneficial to ascertain whether you adhere to traditional ideas and whether you believe it is necessary to find a partner who is superior to you. It would also be helpful to determine the type of relationship and marriage you desire.

You are highly capable and therefore do not require a male partner to assume the primary responsibilities within the family unit. Have you ever considered that a male partner who is able to provide assistance when you are at your most capable is a more suitable match for you? This is the first point that I wish to address. Consider the type of life you truly desire and whether there is an opportunity to alter your mindset in order to explore a broader range of possibilities.

2. Examine the underlying causes of your robust personality. Being resilient often implies being resilient, and in a romantic relationship, such resilience is often discouraged. Romantic relationships are distinct from work relationships. In the workplace, exemplary personal capability is a valuable asset, but in romantic relationships, complementarity is emphasized more.

3. Currently, there is a lack of suitable opposite-sex individuals within your social circle, suggesting the potential for exploring alternative social groups. As previously mentioned, the opposite sex within your current circle may not possess the same level of strength or comprehensive character as you. It is evident that you hold a condescending attitude towards them. It is generally understood that women are less likely to engage in flirtation with individuals they regard with disdain.

It would be beneficial for you to expand your social circle. There may be individuals in these new circles who will provide you with the opportunity to demonstrate your abilities and expertise. If you meet someone you find attractive, you will likely be able to interact with them in a manner that is both engaging and authentic. This is a natural aspect of human interaction.

4. It is evident that you possess a considerable degree of competence and capability, which may give you a sense of superiority and a tendency to embrace it.

It is unclear whether this idea was instilled by your parents or if it is a personal belief. Regardless, it is important to recognize that individuals cannot achieve excellence without the support of others. In the workplace, collaboration is essential, and in life, mutual assistance and encouragement are vital. When individuals feel included and accepted in a team, they are less likely to experience feelings of loneliness.

You have indicated that you consider yourself to be a gentle person in your daily life. Could you please elaborate on your understanding of gentleness?

It is evident that gentleness is not merely about speaking softly; rather, it is about demonstrating an understanding of diverse perspectives and an acceptance of abilities that may not be as proficient as one's own. There is a notion that understated luxury, which conceals the sharpness of edges and corners, may be more likely to foster trust and affection in others.

5. There is no need for concern. It is my belief that there is an individual who is a suitable match for you. Initially, it would be beneficial for you to focus on your own personal growth and happiness. Once you have achieved this, it is likely that you will be able to recognise the person who is meant for you.

I'm so happy you asked that question! I'm really grateful to have met you.

After reading your description, I really admire your excellence! It's just that I feel a bit overwhelmed because you are so strong-willed and capable, even though I am also a woman.

For men, you can try to experience it from a different perspective, my friend.

For men, they have an innate sense of power and conquest, which is part of who they are. Meeting a woman as strong as you can make them feel a bit embarrassed and powerless, so it can be tricky for you to attract an average or equally capable man, unless it is a man who is stronger and has more energy than you.

Tai chi is all about finding that perfect balance between yin and yang, just like we do as human beings. I really hope this helps you understand. The sun and the moon are both out of balance.

So now you need to have some yin qualities to soften yourself. I know this may be a bit uncomfortable for you at first, because you've been carrying it for so long, and it's not easy for you to soften. But I promise you, it'll get easier!

There's yin and yang, strength and weakness, and this is what makes a complete person. At this time, don't worry if you feel a bit weak, that's just your body adjusting.

And you will also feel more relaxed, both physically and mentally, or closer to your true self.

Of course, it's not about you imitating other women and being weak and feeble, because that wouldn't be you. It's about showing weakness and humility in the right way, so as to show the other person's strength. In reality, this is when your energy level is higher, your tolerance is greater, and you are more flexible.

I really hope things work out for you!

You are so good-looking and capable! It may not be a matter of whether you like him or not, but whether he dares to like you. You are so superior that the men who trail behind you will always feel a little inferior and ashamed. Don't even think about the swan if you are a toad!

This has little to do with being aggressive, unless by "aggressive" you mean being unreasonable and unwilling to admit when you're wrong, and winning at all costs. If that's what you mean, then it's a different story.

You say that life is very gentle, and it seems that you are just like most girls in love, waiting and hoping for the guy to like you and make the first move. I know it can be tough when a relationship doesn't work out, but you've got this! Think about the kind of guy you like and what you're looking for in a partner. You can take the initiative and show him what you're made of by sending secret glances or winks. You've got this!

After all, you have to be strong and make yourself flawless. Even if there is a toad who is a bit gutsy and has plucked up the courage to pay a little attention and flatter you, he is helpless in the face of the sparkling Sailor Moon. Does he need me? What's my part in this?

It's totally normal to feel a bit self-doubtful sometimes. Even if he can't see you from a distance, he might still lose interest.

If you can't act cute and weak, then sell a mistake. You always have to give people a chance to get close, and the excuse to get close, right? You are armored in titanium and invincible, and you look like you can do anything. What kind of love do you need? What kind of man do you need?

It's not about being cute and weak, but you need to let people know what you're looking for. It's like a cat's purr, a baboon's call, or a elephant's trumpet.

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Spring is here!

I think you'd really enjoy watching more old science programs!

I wish you all the happiness in the world!

From what you've told me, it's clear that you're an amazing person! You're not one to cause trouble, you're super talented, and you're a total success story. You're also a perfectionist, which is great! It seems like your love life could use a little help. You're beautiful, kind, and have a great personality. But you're not sure if the boys you meet see you for who you really are. It's like they only like the girls who act cute and show weakness. I totally get it! It can be confusing when you're not sure if it's that there are no boys who like you for you, or that no boys like you at all.

Believe in yourself and find what suits you, sweetheart.

You've got this! Believe in yourself and find the right one for you.

Don't worry too much about what others think of you. You're great just the way you are!

Some girls are liked by many boys, and it's not necessarily because they're coquettish or weak. It's true that gentle girls seem to be disliked by the opposite sex because they're outstanding and beautiful. Different realms have different patterns, and it's important to be suitable and understand yourself. There are so many real-life examples that show "being well-matched and having similar interests" makes sense!

I once read an interesting comment that really stuck with me: "If you have many suitors of the opposite sex, the first thing you should do is reflect on yourself: is it because you are not good enough that so many people have the confidence to pursue you? Don't be complacent and think that you are popular and very good."

Usually, an outstanding, beautiful, and gentle girl will give people the impression that she is surrounded by admirers and has many suitors. In fact, a girl with such charisma attracts people to her naturally, making many boys long to be close to her but stay away from her.

I really believe that an amazingly beautiful girl needs to have confidence. It's such a beautiful quality!

Good looks are great, but don't forget about your personality!

It's great to be good-looking, but don't forget that personality is really important too!

It's great to be pretty and outstanding! But it can also be a bit of an armor to protect yourself.

It's often the case that extroverted girls with ordinary appearances have more suitors, while introverted girls with good looks will inadvertently push away potential suitors. Psychologist William James once said something really interesting: "Thoughts (attitudes) determine actions, actions determine habits, habits determine character, and character determines destiny."

Everyone has both strengths and weaknesses in their personality, which is like a double-edged sword. It's so important to make the most of your strengths and avoid your weaknesses! Love fortune is also inseparable from personality. Even a single wrong decision can naturally lead to a different life trajectory.

The topic master seems very independent, and I'm sure he's had to deal with a lot of challenges along the way. Sending hugs your way! The journey of life is also a process of getting to know oneself. Love yourself well, and be aware of the soft inner self within. The world is so big, and there is always something suitable for you. Life is only 30,000 days long, so cherish each day as you go along. I wish you a wonderful life!

I really like the saying of Master Hongyi, "Appreciating others is to dignify oneself; forgiving others is to treat oneself kindly." It's so important to encourage each other!

I just wanted to share my thoughts with you in the kindest way possible.

Wishing you all the blessings and peace in the world!

Hello, and a big hug to the strong you.

Your question made me think your situation might be similar to a defense mechanism formed in reverse.

Defense mechanisms help us avoid danger, anxiety, and unpleasantness caused by our instincts. They are a way of regulating conflicts between our instincts and reality.

You probably want to be a woman who can be coquettish and show weakness, but you refuse to become such a woman. This is what it means to be reverse-formed.

Think about how people around you, especially your parents and relatives, would see you if you were always a weak woman. Would they like you or dislike you?

Think about weak women in your family who didn't do well.

As the saying goes, "When I grow up, I'll be like you." There are two forms: becoming similar or becoming different.

If the mother is weak, the daughter may also be weak, but she may also be strong.

You seem to be using a defense mechanism formed in reverse to express your identity or to prevent yourself from being hurt.

You may not recognize your femininity, so you try to keep men away by being strong.

In a family that favors sons, a daughter may try to act like a boy to gain her parents' approval.

Male and female obesity both mean de-sexualization.

For women, being as strong as men is like declaring oneself to be a brother to men, especially in a culture like ours where women are expected to be weak.

Men often want women to be weaker than they are. One example is marrying someone of a higher or lower social status.

Not all men are like this. Some appreciate independent women. You may not have met them yet, or you may be rejecting others.

Talk to a counselor to understand your subconscious. Once you understand, you can change your behavior and emotions.

I'm a counselor who is Buddhist and pessimistic, but sometimes positive. I love the world.

Hello, question asker. I can tell from your description that you're feeling a bit reluctant, anxious, and confused.

You're a girl who has always been very competitive, not only with your peers but also with people of the opposite sex. You want to be the best at everything.

You're kind and attractive, but you're having trouble winning the affection of the opposite sex.

You feel resentful when you see girls who know how to be cute and vulnerable winning the hearts of the opposite sex.

Does it make you feel like you're not as good as other girls, and does this make you feel anxious, confused, or even ashamed?

I get it. It's tough to accept that you're so good and strong, but not as good as others in love.

It's not that you're not liked, but maybe you don't like the opposite sex around you.

"There aren't many guys around who are better than me, or else they aren't as well-rounded as I am. I have a wide social circle, so I can easily find someone."

It's clear that you have a lot of confidence and feel superior to the guys you work with. You also seem to have a bit of a contemptuous attitude towards them.

It's likely that you don't have a very high opinion of the boys around you. Even if you don't realize it, your attitude and opinions about the opposite sex are pretty obvious to everyone else.

You're not looking to get into a relationship with anyone.

"You want to be the best at everything and never inconvenience anyone."

On the one hand, you want to be the best at everything. To you, showing weakness and asking for help is admitting that you are incompetent, that you are bad, that you are imperfect—and that is something you absolutely will not allow yourself to do.

On the other hand, never bothering others may also be a way of refusing to enter into a relationship with others.

Maybe it's not that the opposite sex doesn't like you, but that you just don't want to get into a relationship with anyone, gay or straight.

What it means to win the affection of the opposite sex

For a long time, you've been fixated on achieving perfection and measuring up to others because you want to be the best and you can't afford to fall behind.

You can't accept that your true self also has a vulnerable side, so you don't allow yourself to show weakness.

Similarly, when it comes to love, you don't necessarily want a real relationship. It's probably just the idea of not wanting to lag behind others that makes you feel you need a perfect relationship and a perfect lover to beat the competition.

Love is something you feel in your heart. It's something you experience and feel with your heart.

You'll only be able to truly connect with people when you let go of your perfectionist demands, competition, and comparisons and try to feel the relationships and connections between people with your heart.

You'll be able to build solid relationships and connections with the people around you, and find a great love.

Wishing you the best!