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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, I'm Flower.
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I admire your thoughtfulness at 24. It's not a problem. I'm here for you. I know you have a lot on your mind, like your parents' feelings and exams. It's normal to feel stressed. Let's take our time.
First, let's organize our thoughts.
The mother is pregnant and wants to give up the baby.
If the mother has an abortion, the questioner will feel guilty.
If the mother gives birth, the questioner thinks about the future.
I have some thoughts about these feelings.
Why do you feel guilty?
We may feel guilty because we are afraid of this decision and worry that our parents' decision is related to us. We also wonder if our parents want to keep the baby, and we are afraid that they will blame us for this decision.
We feel guilty because we've helped our parents make decisions.
The questioner should also think about whether our parents' decision is really about us. Maybe they're thinking about the pros and cons too.
If they have this child, they will be almost 80 when it is 20. Do they have the energy to raise it? They will need more than food and warmth.
Use "prudent" instead of "selfish."
The mother can decide if she wants this child. We can help her by thinking about different things.
I am 16 years older than my younger brother. He is in the second grade of elementary school. My parents don't have the energy they had when they were young. My father can't play ball games or climb mountains with my younger brother. This is bad for my younger brother's growth.
Today's education is very different from the past. My parents struggled in the modern educational environment.
The questioner's consideration is correct. The mother may also face health problems.
Cautious isn't selfish. We want our parents to be happy and content in their old age.
Set limits and plan ahead.
We can't make the decision because we're their parents and we worry. But it's their choice.
We need to think about the future, the entrance exam, and what we need to do for it. When things get overwhelming, take a break, relax, and then move forward.
(You can chat with me, a 24-year-old with a younger brother.)
Good luck! I wish you the best.
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This is such a tough situation to be in, and it's clear you're feeling overwhelmed. It's important for your mother to consider what's best for her health and wellbeing. The decision about the pregnancy should be made with careful thought and possibly medical advice. I hope she can find peace whatever she chooses.
It's understandable that you feel conflicted and guilty about this whole situation. These are heavy emotions, and it's okay to have them. Maybe talking to a counselor could help you sort through these feelings and also provide support for your mother as she makes her decision.
Your concerns show that you care deeply about your family's future. It's not selfish to think about the practicalities of raising a child at their age; it's being realistic. Perhaps discussing potential plans with your parents might ease some of your worries about the longterm implications.
I can see how stressed you must be, especially with your exams coming up. It's a lot to handle all at once. Taking time to breathe and maybe even meditate might help calm your mind. Remember, it's okay to seek professional help if you feel like it's too much.
You're not alone in feeling this way, and it's valid to be concerned about your parents' ability to raise another child at their age. It might be helpful to talk to other family members or trusted adults who can offer different perspectives on the matter.