Is it really love if you only crave a boy's kindness?
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
I met that guy in high school. We were in the same class in our first year, and then suddenly one day, he bought some candy and put it in my drawer. I was curious about him, and from then on, I really wanted him to be nice to me. Every time he was nice to me, I would be very happy. But I felt a very inexplicable feeling towards him. I don't know if I like him or like the way he treats me. I also like to chat with him. He is a very gentle and delicate boy. But after I got together with him, I didn't want to talk to him or be with him. I just kept thinking about breaking up. Every time he spent money on me, I felt a sense of guilt, so I would give him a red envelope as a return. But after we broke up, I kept thinking about the good things he did for me. How do I get out of this situation?
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Comments
I can totally relate to feeling confused about my emotions. It's like I was drawn to his kindness, but once we were together, everything changed. Maybe I just enjoyed the chase and the way he made me feel special at first. Now that it's over, all I can think about is the good times. How do I move on from that?
It sounds like there was a shift in how you felt once you started dating. Sometimes what we think we want isn't actually what makes us happy in a relationship. It might help to reflect on what you really value in a partner and focus on that moving forward.
The guilt over spending his money and feeling the need to repay him shows how much you value fairness. Perhaps this experience taught you more about your boundaries and what feels right for you. It could be a chance to learn more about yourself and what you truly desire in a relationship.
It's interesting how you felt after the breakup. Sometimes we only appreciate someone once they're no longer part of our lives. Maybe taking some time to journal or talk to a friend about your feelings can help you process and understand them better.
I wonder if the issue wasn't with him, but rather with the idea of being in a relationship. It seems like the pressure of being a couple changed things. Maybe you needed space to figure out what you really wanted. Now that you've had that space, it might be easier to see what you truly value in a connection.