4873
23
37
By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'll give you a hug from afar first.
From what you've said, I can see that you feel helpless and powerless when you're ignored, neglected, and rejected. You want to be understood, listened to, valued, cared about, and concerned for.
It seems like you've chosen to hide your true feelings when your girlfriend rejected you. This means she's not aware of how strongly you feel ignored, unappreciated, and unimportant. You need to figure out what you're worried about and afraid of by hiding your feelings.
Why not tell your girlfriend what you really want at that moment? You could say that you want her to understand, pay attention to you, accept you, and care for you. If you tell her this in a sincere way, it will probably help her to open up to you.
If you're concerned that she's too busy to take better care of herself and you want to offer her support, understanding, and consideration, why not try saying that at that moment you feel sad for her having to spend more time working? That way, she'll know you see, understand, and care about her.
So, try to be open with her about how you feel. When she knows you see her, understand her, care about her, and value her, she'll be more likely to give you the same in return. What do you think?
Hi, I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.
Helpful to me 809
disapprove0
Comments
I can relate to feeling distant when both people are so caught up in their routines. It's tough when you're trying to be supportive but feel like your concerns aren't acknowledged.
It seems like the distance is taking a toll on you. I hope she realizes how much you want to connect despite her workload. Maybe suggesting less pressurefilled ways to stay in touch could help.
The struggle of wanting to support someone while feeling sidelined is real. Perhaps it's time to have an honest conversation about your feelings and see if there's a way to reconnect without overwhelming her.
Feeling unimportant when you're trying so hard to understand must be disheartening. It might be worth discussing how you can both maintain some semblance of a relationship amidst the chaos.
When one person is always too busy, it can make the other feel neglected. Maybe proposing more structured checkins can give you both something to look forward to, even if it's just quick updates.