Loving for seven years, married for three, is the husband willing to divorce even if he has to leave everything behind?

Hug the sad, confused, and hurting you.

The length of your marriage doesn't affect whether you get divorced. If one person wants out, there's nothing you can do.

The same is true of marriage: two people must want to stay together.

Secondly, when you were in love, there were minor conflicts that got worse when you were apart. It's not clear what the problems were, but there must have been reasons on both sides. For example, a lack of security, empathy, or pressure tolerance.

Some people are skeptical about marriage.

Third, he proposed divorce in front of your parents when you needed care and love after a miscarriage. This shows he's irrational and immature. Marriage is a matter of two families, but you should discuss and communicate about getting married and divorced. There's no point in pursuing whether he has a mistress.

Take a break, think about yourself, and let him think about it before talking again.

A happy, long-lasting marriage has nothing to do with the length of the relationship. If you're struggling, it's better to end it and try again.

You will get better.

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I'm sending you a warm hug from afar to bring you some comfort!

From the questioner's description, I can sense helplessness, confusion, fear, and uncertainty. Coupled with the miscarriage, I empathize with the questioner. I'll hug you again.

It's undeniable that two people who like each other will face conflicts. These conflicts are like demons and monsters, but you can overcome them.

As a married couple, you should face this together. Your husband has filed for divorce, and it's not because of a third party. It's about money.

The questioner needs to think about the real reason why he wants a divorce. Is it really just because of the average financial situation?

After 13 years of hard work, the financial situation may have been average at the beginning. Set aside your husband's standards for a moment. What does the questioner think? Does she feel constrained or aggrieved financially?

If the questioner feels the financial constraints and grievances, or complains about the husband's grievances,

The man's pride is getting the better of him. He can't provide his loved one with the ideal material life, so he's proposing a divorce.

If not, the questioner has never shown it. Or, no matter what the economic conditions, as long as you are with the one you love, willing to suffer together, willing to bear the financial burden, and still want a divorce, there must be something else going on.

The truth is, he doesn't say it explicitly, and he doesn't tell you, so there's no way to know.

If he won't talk about it, you stand your ground. You're not just getting a divorce and walking away. Marriage is serious, and there should always be a reasonable reason that is acceptable to everyone.

In life, we will undoubtedly face numerous challenges. As adults, we must courageously confront these issues head-on, rather than avoiding them.

The questioner will get out of the pain sooner and find his own direction and way out.

Here at Yixinli, the world and I love you, and I know you will have a happy life.

Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

I can see you're feeling really helpless and powerless right now, and I know you're longing to be understood and accepted.

From what you've told me, it seems like you and your partner have been in conflict for quite some time. I can understand why you might feel like your trust was broken when he returned from a different place. I'm guessing that this was a big factor in his decision to divorce?

Then, you need to try to understand why you don't trust him, and what the reason behind your distrust is. For example, during your pregnancy and miscarriage, you didn't receive strong support, companionship, or comfort from him, which made you feel strongly that you were not valued, cared for, considered, or loved. On the contrary, it made you more firmly believe that money might be more important to him than you. So, you felt a strong sense of disappointment in him, but you didn't sincerely tell him these true feelings from your heart, that is, what kind of support you longed to receive from him and how you wanted to be treated in order to better feel his love.

But instead, you chose to suppress and hide your true feelings, and you showed him a strong distrust. Behind this, you were pushing him further and further away, when the truth is that you, who are currently in the most vulnerable state both physically and mentally, need his support, companionship, consideration, and care the most, right?

I know it's tough, but I really think you should try to bravely and sincerely tell him your true feelings during this period of pregnancy and miscarriage. That is, tell him how much you need him. I know you're hurting, and I know you feel neglected and hurt. But I also know he needs to know how you really feel. He needs to know you especially need him.

Hi, I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you!

Embrace the flow! It's a great attitude to have.

If you can't save your marriage, letting it go is also an attitude. He cares so much about money that he wants a clean break and a divorce, so it seems that he is really determined.

People only think of turning back when they have reached a point of no return, but not every time they turn back can they have a second chance. There is an old Chinese saying that I love: "You reap what you sow." This saying is not just derogatory; you reap what you sow even if you do good deeds!

In other words, you are the captain of your own ship! You get to decide the state of your life. Learning to be responsible is the only way to truly grow up. It's the key to unlocking your potential and becoming the amazing person you were meant to be!

In other words, even if your husband really divorces you, the result is actually not as bad as you think! There are no accidents in life, everything is inevitable. You and your husband have been planting the causes of divorce in the past, and today you have reaped a result. But this is an opportunity for you to start over!

So, embracing the natural flow of things is also an attitude!

Take a step forward and start over!

In this relationship, you have the amazing opportunity to examine yourself and review yourself to see if there is anything you have done that has hurt your husband's feelings. If he gives you a chance and you are ready to make a change, you can absolutely change yourself and start over!

But you don't have to be humble. You can't force this kind of thing. If you try to keep him against his will, he won't be with you, and you'll both suffer more. This is called a broken mirror that cannot be reunited.

So just do your best, and leave the rest to fate. But whatever the outcome, you can absolutely change yourself to become stronger, more confident, and more beautiful!

Who says women can't get divorced? Who says divorced women don't have love? Absolutely no one! You can still pursue love and wealth. Your husband leaving you only means that someone who no longer loves you has gone away. But that just means you have the power to be loved by all the men in the world! You are still that same young girl, confident and beautiful.

Thank you so much!