Marriage and love problems, not sure if you want to go forward with your current blind date?

Good day. I extend to you a warm embrace from afar. I perceive your inner helplessness, confusion, and desire for understanding and support in the present moment.

From your description, I can discern a sense of inferiority, lack of self-confidence, and an inability to accept yourself. Without a clear understanding of these aspects of yourself, it is challenging to ascertain your genuine desires and identify the optimal choices for you, as you lack a comprehensive self-awareness.

Your internal inferiority and lack of self-confidence result in a psychological status of "I am good, you are not" in your relationship. This perception of yourself makes it challenging for you to manage a close relationship effectively. Even if the other person is a suitable partner, you may miss the opportunity due to your avoidance of facing the inferiority and lack of self-confidence caused by your inner lack of self-improvement. This avoidance manifests as a tendency to reject and belittle your boyfriend.

When faced with a decision, it is important to respect your true feelings, both physical and mental. When you feel love, respect, understanding, support, and consideration from your boyfriend, it is advisable to let go of your rational judgment, as your physical feelings will not deceive you.

It is also important to develop self-acceptance and self-confidence. When you can accept yourself fully, recognize your strengths and weaknesses, and believe in your own worth, you will be better able to accept others, accept their differences, and avoid unrealistic expectations.

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Hi, I'm Strawberry.

You want to get rid of your problems, but you can't. You haven't thought about how to get out of them until the anxiety/i-have-a-good-impression-of-the-blind-date-candidate-but-does-he-contact-me-it-feels-like-waiting-for-a-lottery-draw-1735.html" target="_blank">blind date.

The questioner is now unsure whether to continue with the other person. He has also carefully analyzed various situations, such as their finances, family, and age. He is very interested in the questioner and will not judge the questioner based on other factors. He is genuinely interested in getting to know the questioner.

Is this person right for you?

From the questioner's description alone, outsiders cannot answer because we don't know you. You know how you feel and how the other person treats you. If he is nice to you, he won't look down on you. Everyone thinks differently. What we pay attention to is not necessarily what the other person pays attention to. The questioner feels that some problems in his family may not be a big deal to the other person.

Blind dates are about getting to know each other's financial and family situations. If the other person wants to get to know you after a blind date, it means he has a good impression of you. Therefore, age will not be a problem for you. You will know better whether he feels relaxed and free or constrained.

Why do you feel insecure?

A blind date is a way to get to know someone without any preconceptions. But if you don't have a connection, it's still limited. The questioner mentioned that the other person's salary is lower and they're younger. You should have known about this before the date. Why did the questioner go anyway? It shows that age isn't the most important thing. But it does raise the question of whether the other person has any thoughts about it.

Before your blind date, you'll get to know each other's background. After you meet, if you still want to get to know each other, it means you both like each other.

If the other person makes less money than you, you might not like their current financial situation. But this can change. You might find more good qualities and strengths about them. Then, will the lower salary still be a problem?

It's hard for two strangers to feel secure in each other. You have to build trust and a sense of security. If you say you don't feel secure, it's probably because you're anxious about too many things.

Method: Give each other more time.

It takes time for two people who love each other to get along. It takes time to find a way of getting along that suits each other. The questioner and the other person have only known each other for a short time, so it is normal to have a lot of thoughts in your mind. This makes you anxious and prevents you from getting a better answer from within.

Spend more time together and try to understand each other. Ask about their words and actions, education, and parents. You can also get to know them by talking about their home. This is an important issue for the questioner.

Method: Eliminate anxiety and improve problem-solving.

People get anxious when they don't know the answers to their questions. Overthinking makes you anxious.

In the animal world, anxiety helps them escape danger. It doesn't harm humans, but helps us make good choices.

If anxiety affects you, pay attention to it. Try these methods:

1. Exercise: If you can exercise for a certain amount of time every day, it will benefit your body and make you more energetic. Choose an exercise method that suits you, such as jogging, walking, cycling, or jumping rope. If you exercise outdoors, you can enjoy the scenery.

2. Meditation: Meditation and yoga are similar because they both help us relax. This is why yoga is good for building character. Meditation is easier than yoga. We just need to relax and gain answers. Persistent meditation can help improve sleep.

3. Writing therapy: There is no set rule for writing therapy on how to list problems or write ideas. For example, while making a planner, write down the sentences or stories you want to write while looking at your content.

I hope this helps.