Married for 12 years, two months have passed since the incident, and I still feel incredibly upset. What should I do?

It is important to note that you are currently experiencing a state of conflict and remorse.

Firstly, you are still young and married relatively early, which may have resulted in fewer boyfriends and relationships. This could be a contributing factor to your current issues. Given that it has already occurred, it is important to approach the situation with an open mind.

Take some time to reflect on your current situation. How does your husband treat you? How is your relationship? If you still want to continue, you must make a clear decision to end your relationship with the coach. I believe that your desire to have a close female friend is an excuse. There are many other learner drivers, and the next one will likely be younger and more attractive than you.

Do not be misled by the temporary dependence.

Secondly, learning to drive can foster a sense of independence, which is beneficial. Additionally, consider your work, future plans, solo travel experiences, and the quality of guidance and support you receive from your child's teacher.

It is also possible that there is a need for frequent contact with the opposite sex for guidance and help. It may be the case that you require attention and protection from someone, which could make you susceptible to illusions or dependence.

It would be inaccurate to say that I am particularly fond of this individual.

Third, this is also unfair to your husband. I am unaware of the specifics of your relationship, which you have not mentioned. There may be some kind of miscommunication or other problems. To resolve these issues, both parties must communicate with each other and address them constructively in order to move forward.

I am confident that you will make the right decision based on your feelings.

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Good day, question asker.

From your description, I can discern your awareness, thinking, and feelings of self-blame and helplessness regarding this matter. I extend my support and understanding.

Based on your account, it seems that anxiety during the examination period may have been a contributing factor in your fall, leading to feelings of self-blame and helplessness. Is this an accurate interpretation?

From a moral standpoint, it is possible that you have made a misstep. However, it is important to recognize that nobody has the authority to pass judgment on the events that have already transpired. It is crucial to understand that you were incorrect in your actions, and that it is far more beneficial to acknowledge this than to continue repeating the same mistakes.

I am aware that the questioner is experiencing a high level of distress, so I will provide some advice.

In the event that you find yourself in a situation where you are unable to extricate yourself from an infidelity issue, it may be helpful to seek external support. If you have the resources available, you may wish to consider engaging the services of a professional counselor for one-on-one counseling.

This will assist you in managing your emotions and discussing the matter at hand.

Secondly, refrain from self-blame and address your emotions.

I am aware that this has occurred, and I empathize with your situation. It is natural to experience self-blame and lash out in response. However, this can be detrimental to the family dynamic. It is essential to first take a step back and assess how to approach your husband and family. What decision is best for the family?

Once you have identified the reason for your mistake, you will be in a position to focus more on your family, provide your husband and children with greater warmth and affection, and also relieve your sense of guilt.

Ultimately, no individual is without flaws. This has occurred, so it is essential to ensure that it does not happen again. With regard to whether or not to inform your husband, you may wish to consult with a counselor to ascertain whether you possess the courage and strength to make an informed decision.

Hello, host!

I can see why the host is feeling remorseful right now. This kind of temptation doesn't just happen to one person; it can happen to anyone.

What didn't happen might have been because the temptation wasn't strong enough, or there wasn't an opportunity.

Some people are strong enough to resist these temptations, know what they want, and know what they don't want.

In the case of the host, they've been married for 12 years and things have been pretty stagnant lately. There's another chance on the table, and the temptation is still pretty strong.

You couldn't resist for long. After enjoying the novelty and passion, you realized that, in reality, you still have your husband and children.

The reason the current host feels pain and remorse is because of her guilt towards her husband.

And you feel ashamed when you think about your kids, your parents, and your friends and family.

Even if these things haven't come to light, they've still been eating away at you on the inside.

If these things have become common knowledge, the host will be in an even worse position.

What should I do if these things have already happened?

Are you going to fight through the pain or find a way out?

If the host is stuck in a loop of pain and panic, there's no way out.

Ultimately, it's down to the landlord's own heart and courage to face reality.

I messed up, and it's up to the host to decide whether to face the music or run away!

The pain and fear are caused by avoiding and fearing the consequences.

I can see why the owner is panicking. Is there anyone who can avoid making mistakes and live a trouble-free life?

Maybe these are all just experiences we have in our lives—disasters we deserve to encounter.

Every day, take a moment to reflect on your mistakes and face the consequences. This can help you find a way to move forward and gain a sense of relief.

I'm just afraid that some people are so arrogant that they're unwilling to admit when they've made a mistake and try to blame others instead.

If your husband knows about it and decides to forgive or get a divorce, that's up to him. You just have to accept his choice.

If you decide to forgive, but you know the marriage can never be the same again and you're stuck in a cycle of pain,

The host can also choose to leave. They shouldn't let the other person's endless torment ruin their life.

I hope the host can find some relief from the pain soon!

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Question asker:

Hello! I understand how you feel. You have lost control and must be suffering.

This isn't what you want, and you're having trouble accepting it. We all make mistakes. The important thing is to pull back from the brink. You and the other man both have families, and you don't want to affect their lives.

You can understand your confusion. You can either accept the situation and your mistakes, calm down, and think about how to stop the damage. Or you can try to sort out the following questions:

1. What do you want from this affair? Is it just a temporary thing?

Was it passion? Or is there a problem with your husband?

2. Do you want to stop contacting each other?

3. Can you get back on track? Try to take care of your family?

4. Do you need to tell your husband? Think carefully.

5. What did you learn from this? What can you do better next time?

I hope my answer helps you think clearly and find what you want! If you're stuck, you can ask a counselor.

Best wishes! Thanks!