Midnight, couldn't resist messaging the one I like, not sure what to do?

Hello classmate! Your text is clear and well-organized.

You're capable and trustworthy. It's rare to meet someone you like, and this person is still around, so why not try?

You've liked him for years, but you haven't had the courage to act. I think you care about him, but you lack motivation.

Second, you know he works and wants to stay in Shanghai. You've been in touch, and he doesn't reject you.

You also want to know if he's single. When a guy has career goals, he wants to find a partner.

If you confess your feelings, it will succeed or fail.

If he says yes, you'll be happy. But think about why he said yes.

Do you know each other well?

If the confession fails, it's no big deal. Think about why it failed.

Do you have things to talk about? Do you have plans?

It takes time to prepare.

The message you sent at night shows he cares about you.

You're torn between conflicting emotions. You want to take action, but you're afraid of failure.

Hugs!

If you don't confess, he'll meet new colleagues and friends at work. Everything's new, and he might meet new friends of the opposite sex.

If you confess now, you might not know enough about each other and he might not accept you. You have to be prepared. Are you ready?

It's better to act than dwell. Plan your actions.

If you don't try, you won't know how thick it is.

Come on!

Good afternoon.

It appears that you are a young woman who is capable of rational thought and displays a wide range of emotions.

We will now address your most urgent inquiry.

You transmitted a message to him at an unspecified time of night and then promptly retracted it.

He inquired as to the nature of your distress.

His response was notably prompt.

This indicates that he either viewed the message or is intrigued by its content.

If he saw the message and inquired about the situation,

This indicates that he does not disapprove of your confession.

You indicated that you did not respond, which is acceptable.

You may now respond to him with the following:

I was in a state of somnambulism last night and sent you a message in a dream-like state, I believe.

I am unable to recall with certainty whether I did so.

There are a plethora of serious matters at hand. It would be beneficial for both parties to adopt a more lighthearted outlook, which would undoubtedly lead to a more positive emotional state.

Given your mutual interest and his stated intention to remain in Shanghai,

One might inquire of him today:

Given the favorable circumstances of the weekend, it would be prudent to consider spending time with one's romantic partner.

It is reasonable to posit that the answer to your query will be forthcoming.

In the event that he is in a relationship, it would be advisable to adjust your expectations accordingly.

It would be advisable to cultivate a friendship with him.

It would be prudent to ascertain whether he is married.

In the event that he is not currently in a relationship,

It is often possible to engage in conversation with this individual about matters pertaining to both work and life in general.

It is important to note that one should pay closer attention to the other person's activities and engage in discussions about one's own affairs in a manner that is appropriate and relevant.

If one wishes to pursue a romantic interest, it is essential to first provide them with what they desire.

It would be advisable to treat him with kindness, to pay attention to him, and to offer encouragement.

Additionally, it would be advisable to engage in some lighthearted flirtation.

It is advisable to refrain from making a confession.

I believe you previously indicated that you had experienced a confession.

Furthermore, it is likely that the opportunity to take the initiative will be lost.

One might be forgiven for questioning whether girls are anything more than immature infants.

One might inquire as to the rationale behind declaring one's love to them. It is a challenging endeavor for males.

From my perspective, it is evident that the boy in question possesses admirable qualities.

He is employed at a design institute in Shanghai.

It is inevitable that there will be numerous exceptional women surrounding an exceptional man.

All parties are engaged in a fair and competitive process.

In the adult world, strength remains a primary quality.

The appeal may lie in the individual's outward appearance or in their inner qualities.

It would be prudent to aspire to the ideal type, regardless of its unattainability.

I am eagerly awaiting your favorable response. Should you have successfully attracted the attention of the man you desire, I would be grateful if you could inform me.

It is my sincere hope that you will be able to cope with the situation.

Hello. I get the feeling you told a junior you like a little bit that you like them, but you didn't feel any better. It seems like there's something holding you back from getting together. What are your feelings right now?

From what you've said, I get the impression that you're someone who can face up to conflicts and resolve them. It seems that when it comes to this guy, you're not quite so brave. So let's think about this: if you confess to him and he rejects you, what will happen? Is it really impossible to be friends?

Is it you who can't do it, or do you think he won't be friends with you anymore? I can see that you haven't been in touch very often recently, but he responded pretty quickly when he saw that you had deleted your message. What do you think this means?

If you really think that you can't be friends after being rejected, you might want to think about this situation. It seems to me that your friendship is not as close as you think, but it is not as fragile as you might think.

The beauty of relationships is in their purity. When you find yourself thinking about the relationship between "him" and "the ideal type" after you have confessed your love for a junior, will you be able to move on and invest in a new relationship? Are you willing to be more courageous and show it more purely?

Are you willing to try to resolve the relationship problems with "him" first? Would you be willing to use more sincere expressions to maintain a romantic or friendly relationship?

Sincere expression might not always get the result you want, but it's definitely not going to lose you the world. Go for it, girl!

Hello, my dear friend! I'm here to help. I'm your heart detective coach, and I'm ready to listen to your emotional story with warmth and sincerity.

He senses your admiration for him, but you are innocent and afraid that if you confess your feelings, he will reject you and you will lose the chance to be friends. It can be really tough when you lack confidence, especially when you're a shy girl.

It's these feelings that make you so enviable! You're loved, and you love someone. You're experiencing first love, secret love, passionate love, and even unrequited love. All of these will be beautiful and sweet memories for you in the future.

You've got to start somewhere, my friend!

From what you've said, it's clear you two get along really well! There's a saying that goes, "Classmates for life, relatives for three lifetimes." It doesn't matter if there's love or not, there's still a special kind of bond between you. It's like the simplest, purest form of affection, like that between family members.

It's so lovely that they have a shared experience (being alumni). It really adds a sense of intimacy and empathy.

Sometimes love doesn't give you advance notice, and it doesn't explicitly ring the doorbell. But you know what? That's okay! You get along well, you trust each other, you feel at ease, and you enjoy spending time together. Even though you don't talk about love, who can say that it isn't love?

As a girl, you have the proper reserve and maintain a distance from him, considering his first love and your pursuit experience. You're so sweet, suppressing your favorable impression of him and speculating in your own mind: Does he like me?

Oh, what if he has a girlfriend? What if he rejects my confession?

It's totally normal to feel a bit nervous when you're thinking about something new. It's like when you're trying to learn a new skill and you're not sure if you'll succeed. You've been thinking about "what ifs," which is totally natural. Let's just add more "what ifs" and see where they take us: "What if he has a crush on you too? What if he wants to confess his feelings to you? What if he's afraid of being rejected?"

We're all adults with our own thoughts and opinions. We're not so naive as to turn down a confession just because we like the other person and think we can't become friends. If that's really the case, it also proves that he's not your ideal type.

So, if you feel it, just go for it! The worst that can happen is that you get rejected. But if you do get rejected, you can let go and start pursuing your own true happiness.

Love and marriage are two different things. Love doesn't require rationality, while marriage is all about long-term companionship and making smart choices. Falling in love is the only way to truly live up to the word "youth."

2. Everyone has the right to love and be loved!

It's a common misconception that boys actively pursue girls and that it's the man who proposes to the woman. The truth is, there's no explicit rule to this effect.

It's not a lack of self-confidence, but shyness in girls, to be afraid to express oneself. We'll all have a thousand and one self-troubles before we know for sure whether the other person likes us or not. And that's okay! We're all in this together.

Self-confidence is a wonderful feeling of trust in oneself and in the future. It's so important to remember that we shouldn't doubt ourselves or have negative thoughts because of what we've done, haven't done, or what we've done wrong.

Low self-esteem is when you have a negative view of yourself. It's like you think you're not good enough.

People with low self-esteem often believe they are inferior to others and think their abilities aren't good enough to do anything. But, as it turns out, this self-evaluation is wrong!

All those ideas swirling around in your head will eventually lead you to one conclusion: I don't have enough confidence, and I don't feel I'm good enough for him. It's only natural for the brain to "rationalize," and it will automatically search for "evidence" to prove that this viewpoint is correct.

If you believe this, it can make you afraid to confess your love. If the other person rejects you, it can feel like proof that you're not good enough or worthy of him.

Love is a capacity, and everyone has the right to love and be loved. You are just exercising your rights, my dear friend.

Tell him, it'll make him so happy!

I really hope this helps you out, and I just want to say that I love you so much ?

If you'd like to keep chatting, just click 'Find a coach' in the top right or bottom of the page. I'd love to keep talking with you one-on-one!

I perceive a certain degree of confusion on your part, and I offer you my support and encouragement.

It would be beneficial for you to allow me to offer you a warm embrace once more, given that you are currently experiencing some relationship difficulties.

It is my understanding that you got up in the middle of the night last night, confessed your feelings to the individual you are interested in, and then retracted.

He inquired about your well-being this morning, yet you were uncertain how to respond, speculating that he might be involved with a new romantic partner.

It is imperative to understand that if one does not express one's feelings to a male, one will never truly know the state of his heart.

Should you choose to divulge your feelings to him and he prove to be unencumbered by a romantic partner, there is a possibility that he may accept your proposal.

However, if one does not disclose one's feelings, one may forfeit a valuable opportunity.

If an opportunity is missed, it may result in regret.

One of the most significant regrets in one's lifetime is the absence of a meaningful romantic relationship.

It is therefore recommended that you seize the opportunity and make a bold confession of your feelings to the young man in question.

In matters of the heart, it is imperative to take the initiative.

It is my sincere hope that the issue you are currently experiencing can be resolved in the near future.

I have no further suggestions at this time.

It is my sincere hope that the responses I have provided will prove both helpful and inspiring to you. I am the solution, and I invest a great deal of effort into my studies on a daily basis.

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