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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello!
From your story, I can tell you're feeling confused and helpless. I'm here for you, and I'm sending you an energy hug from across the screen!
My boyfriend is a sweetheart. He likes to ask me what I'm doing, what's wrong, and so on. He really wants to know if he's your first priority. He's just so eager to have a deep connection with you and reach a boundary fusion. But you find this annoying and uncomfortable.
We all have different ways of interacting with others, and this is shaped by the loving environment we grew up in with our parents or other important people in our lives. So, it's natural that when you and your boyfriend start getting close, you'll bring with you your own unique way of relating to others.
In his eyes, two people in a relationship should be able to integrate with each other. He thinks that if you miss me, you should miss me too. If you don't answer his calls right away, he may think that you don't love him. But you may feel suffocated by this kind of love and not be able to stand it. You may think it's not love but control.
It's so important to respect each other's uniqueness. You should respect each other and also deserve each other's respect. And if you ever feel uncomfortable in the relationship, it's really helpful to express your feelings in a way that the other person can accept, and clearly state your reasonable requests. This is also a great way to seek common ground while reserving differences and working through them together.
It's so important to communicate without judgment, respect each other without compromising yourself, have clear boundaries, and work together to maintain a healthy and loving intimate relationship.
I'm a man in the rain, the world, and I love you!
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I understand how frustrating that can be. It seems like you need some space to breathe and not feel constantly questioned. Maybe it's time to have an honest talk with him about your feelings.
It sounds tough. When someone is always questioning you, it can make you feel suffocated. Perhaps setting clear boundaries could help both of you understand each other better.
Feeling this way must be really hard. Have you considered telling him directly that his constant questions are making you feel pressured and unhappy?
This situation sounds draining. It might be beneficial to communicate your needs clearly and explain how his behavior affects you emotionally.
It's important to feel respected in a relationship. If his actions are making you feel undervalued, maybe discussing these issues could lead to a healthier dynamic between you two.