My boyfriend always gives me a bad face every day, I don't know what he means?

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First and foremost, it is not about whether he treats you well or not. It is about how you feel, and whether you believe he does not like you. It seems you are still dragging your feet about separating.

This is a crucial point to consider. It would be helpful to determine whether your feelings are accurate.

Could I ask you to consider whether he really likes you? Or is there another girl?

It might be helpful to consider these things through communication and in everyday life. If he doesn't seem to like you, it might be worth thinking about your current approach.

Secondly, you mentioned that your boyfriend feels pressured to ask you to return. Could you please clarify who or what is exerting this pressure?

Could you please clarify whether the pressure is coming from family, friends, or you? Or is there something else?

It's not entirely clear yet. It's also worth noting that you two are not yet married, so you have the freedom to leave or stay, and it's unlikely that other factors or the outside world can exert significant pressure on him or you.

Third, it would be helpful to consider why you still stay in the relationship, despite knowing that he doesn't like you. It might also be beneficial to reflect on why you tolerate his moods.

I believe this is the most important thing to consider.

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Questioner:

Hello! I saw your question. You want to know how you can adjust your mindset and not get hurt so easily because of your boyfriend's bad attitude, right?

Let's analyze it together.

The questioner stated that her boyfriend mistreats her daily, yet is cordial and kind to others. This has persisted for months, and it's evident it's negatively affecting you. Have you attempted to rectify the situation?

I don't know how you and your boyfriend started. You chose to let go of him, but got back together because he sought you out. You think he only got back together with you because he was under pressure, but you need to figure out where that pressure came from.

Tell me, do you think he doesn't like you, or has he explicitly told you that he doesn't like you?

The questioner is unwilling to break up and is saddened by the other person's attitude. He wants to adjust his state of mind, but I think this process may not be easy for you. You should consider the following questions:

1. Find out if the other person really dislikes you and if his bad attitude is as bad as you think.

2. If the other person doesn't like you, you need to ask yourself why you're reluctant to break up. What can you get from the other person?

3. If the other person keeps acting this way, how long can you continue to put up with it? You need to stop the relationship before it's too late.

4. You must ask yourself whether there is any external force supporting you to persevere. And you must ask yourself whether this external support can bring you happiness.

5. Define true love for me.

You must adjust your mindset so that you don't get hurt by the other person's attitude towards you.

1. You must accept him. You must have the strength to accept the harm he has caused you.

2. Communicate positively and tell the other person how hard it is for you. If they're not willing to understand, console yourself.

3. Know your place in a relationship, lower your expectations, and be content with yourself.

4. Have your own hobbies and interests to distract yourself.

5. Make sure you have a good support system in place so that when you are having a hard time, you have a place to talk or get support.

6. You must understand your own heart and the reasons for your persistence.

Love needs to be mutual, and it's challenging for anyone to keep giving when there's no reciprocation. I'm confident my answer will help the questioner recognize the core issue and find the happiness they truly desire!

I appreciate it!

Hello, host!

I totally get where you're coming from. It's never nice to be on the receiving end of a hard time, especially from someone you love.

This is especially true in intimate relationships. It's so tough when this happens! Give yourself a big hug. You've been wronged, but you're going to be okay.

So the host can take a little time to observe the boyfriend's attitude to see why he's been acting this way recently.

1. Have you moved on from the infatuation stage and into the adjustment period?

The theory of intimate relationships has three stages: infatuation, adjustment, and integration.

It's totally normal for even the most loving couples to feel a bit bored or tired of each other after a while. It's often during this stage that couples start to drift apart.

After this period, they will enter the integration period, when they will really start to get to know each other better, accept each other's shortcomings, and enter a relatively stable stage.

Hey there! I just wanted to share some interesting findings from scientific research. It turns out that the longest period of infatuation is about a year and a half!

It really depends on the situation, sweetie.

We all have different situations in our lives, and that's perfectly normal!

2. Try to avoid any direct confrontation and remember to empathize with your boyfriend's emotions.

It's possible that the boyfriend is going through a rough patch at work or has had a disagreement with someone else. It's only natural that he'd take out his emotions on the person he thinks understands him best, which in this case is his girlfriend. It's likely that the boyfriend already sees the poster as the person closest to him. In families, it's often the case that the closer the relationship, the more likely it is for people to lose their temper, while strangers are usually much more polite.

So when your boyfriend gives you the cold shoulder, we can use the four elements of Nonviolent Communication to help you through it.

1. Observe 2. Feelings 3. Needs 4. Request

Take a moment to observe your boyfriend's attitude. Try to tell it calmly, without any emotions.

And this attitude makes the hostess feel sad and upset. (Express the hostess's feelings)

I would really love it if my boyfriend could treat me tenderly.

I really hope that in the future, you won't always give me a hard time.

We all get a little short-tempered sometimes in close relationships. It's only natural! If our partner doesn't immediately do what we want, it's easy to feel impatient.

So, it's really important to avoid direct conflict, show respect, be tolerant, and try to understand the other person's perspective.

This mode of getting along is great for any stage of your relationship, especially during the adjustment period. If you use it well, it can last a lifetime!

I really hope the poster can control her emotions and also be able to influence her boyfriend's emotions, without being affected by other people's emotions. It's so important to be the master of your emotions!

And finally, I just want to wish you a happy life!

I'm Warm June, and I just want to say that I love you all so much!

Dear Questioner, I appreciate your willingness to share your concerns. From your description of your boyfriend, it is evident that you are currently experiencing a high level of distress and anxiety. It is commendable that you are seeking a way out, adjusting your mindset, and re-evaluating this relationship. I encourage you to continue caring for yourself by sharing your concerns here. Best regards, [Name]

Firstly, you perceive that your boyfriend does not offer you positive reinforcement on a daily basis, yet he is consistently smiling at those around you. When he interacts with you, his demeanor is noticeably sad. You are uncertain as to why this discrepancy exists.

It is possible that an unpleasant event has occurred in your relationship, such as a disagreement or argument over a particular issue. Have you discussed this event and resolved it to your satisfaction? It is also possible that there are still unresolved issues, which may be causing your boyfriend to be indifferent to you or have misunderstandings.

You indicated that this situation has been ongoing for several months. I commend you for your resilience in persevering through this period. From your account, it is evident that you hold a profound affection for him, despite his apparent lack of reciprocation.

Despite having previously chosen to end the relationship, you have allowed it to continue due to his reappearance in your life. You have acknowledged that he does not reciprocate your feelings and that he sought you out under external pressure. However, you have chosen to remain in the relationship. Why is that? A relationship between two individuals must be an equal partnership. Love is not a passive emotion; it is a sincere and enduring passion. I can sense your grievances and sense of injustice from your unilateral accommodation.

Perhaps you have a strong affinity for this individual and have been willing to overlook certain shortcomings, but you are not fulfilled. It is likely that this is not the lifestyle you desire.

Perhaps today you have recognized this and are seeking to adjust your mentality so that you no longer feel so sad. It is possible that you already have a resolution in your heart, and it is time to consider this relationship.

You are aware that he does not reciprocate your feelings, yet you still desire to remain in the relationship. This is a challenging situation. It would be beneficial for you both to discuss your boyfriend's stance on the future of your relationship. The most mature approach is to decide whether to continue the relationship or to move on, but this decision should align with your personal goals.

Please take some time to reflect on the situation and consider your feelings.

I wish you the best in your future endeavors.