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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, question asker!
From your description, it's clear that you and your boyfriend have an emotional foundation. Despite problems and arguments, you're both committed to making it work. So, questioner, you need to ask yourself what you want here. Do you want to know if he loves you?
I'm going to give you some tips on how to handle your relationship better.
The questioner said that your relationship is pretty good. However, being in different places makes it difficult for him to spend time with you. From the beginning, he reported everything to you, but now he says he feels tired, which makes you feel uncomfortable. You expect him to be there for you, but being apart for a long time makes you feel insecure. Is that right?
The questioner said that he used to want to please you, but now he ignores you. I know you feel uncomfortable about this, but he needs to consider why he was willing to do so before. There has to be a difference between your attitude and words before and now.
It's normal for couples to argue, but it's also damaging to your relationship. Now that you're here, I know you have certain expectations. So tell me, what are they? When you meet your expectations, will there be a difference between you?
Tell me what efforts you have made to achieve your expectations.
I don't know the specifics of the questioner's situation, but I'm going to give you some suggestions that will definitely help ease your relationship.
You need to learn to put yourself in the other person's shoes.
While most women are passive in relationships, the relationship is mutual. If you consider things or do things from the other person's perspective, it will enhance your relationship.
You need to express your thoughts directly and refuse to go cold.
You both need to find a way out of this situation. Tell him your true feelings and express your thoughts directly. You want him to be there for you and love you. A cold war is not good, so tell him that. What do you think, question asker?
You need to learn good communication skills.
For example, when you have problems, don't be stubborn. Express your thoughts in a sweet and indirect way. What do you think?
You need to give yourself a sense of security.
Love is an additive to life, but it's not the only thing. If you devote your energy to improving yourself and your hobbies, your relationship with him will undoubtedly improve.
Love is the icing on the cake, not the coal in the snow.
Know yourself better and think about your own actions. A relationship is stronger when both people are invested. What do you think, question asker?
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I can totally relate to how you're feeling. It's really tough when the person you love seems distant and uninterested. Maybe it's time to have an honest conversation with him about where you both stand and what you need from each other. Communication is key, and sometimes we just need to be clear about our feelings.
It sounds like you're going through a really hard time right now. Longdistance relationships can be challenging, especially when work gets in the way. Perhaps you could try setting some expectations for communication that work for both of you. Even if it's just a quick message during his day, it might help you feel more connected and reassured.
Feeling this way must be incredibly draining. It's important to take care of yourself too. Maybe consider talking to a friend or a counselor who can offer support. Sometimes, getting a fresh perspective can help clarify your thoughts and emotions. Also, give him space to reflect on his feelings; maybe he'll realize how much you mean to him.