My boyfriend keeps injuring himself and then sending me the pictures. What should I do? What's wrong with him?

Dear Question Asker, Thank you for your inquiry. Best regards, [Name] [Title]

Given the circumstances, it is understandable that you are experiencing difficulty in understanding your boyfriend's actions and maintaining a healthy relationship with him.

From your description of your boyfriend's self-harm, it does not appear to be a significant issue. If he does not have a mental illness such as depression, his self-harm may be viewed as a personal interest, similar to a normal person getting a tattoo. It is recommended that you simply disregard it.

In the event that your boyfriend has a personality disorder, depression, or mental illness, it would be prudent to consider how you might maintain a safe and secure relationship. Otherwise, he may pose a risk to your physical and emotional wellbeing.

I am unaware of the duration of your relationship with your boyfriend, as well as the nature of the foundation upon which it was built.

Please clarify whether your boyfriend began self-harming before or after he met you.

The purpose of these inquiries is to ascertain whether there is a correlation between his self-harm and your involvement.

It would be helpful to ascertain whether he is using self-harm as a means of controlling you and your relationship.

If each instance of self-harm prompts an excessive level of concern on your part,

This indicates that he is deliberately eliciting your love and care through self-harm.

It is also possible that you are inadvertently fulfilling his abnormal needs and reinforcing his self-harm.

To elaborate further, the individual in question employs self-harm as a means of garnering your pity and positive attention, thereby exerting control over the relationship.

This is precisely what you need to be most vigilant about.

What is the best way to break this pattern?

It is essential to consider the motives and needs behind your boyfriend's self-harm.

What are the potential consequences of ignoring his self-harm behavior?

It is important to note that regardless of the manner in which he acts to harm himself, you should remain stoic and refrain from reacting emotionally. Attempting to communicate your disapproval may not be the most effective approach.

If you wish to facilitate a change in your boyfriend's behavior, it is essential to remain calm and detached.

Furthermore, if your boyfriend is of a normal personality, his self-inflicted injuries are likely to be relatively shallow and minor, and may be an act of entertainment. There is no need to make a fuss, but it would be advisable to wait and see what happens.

In the event that your boyfriend is diagnosed with a personality disorder, or exhibits symptoms of borderline personality disorder or depression, and engages in more serious forms of self-harm, it is imperative that you notify his parents immediately and seek professional assistance.

It is important to consider how to avoid any potential issues and ensure a safe and swift departure.

It should be noted that the data in question has certain limitations, and the above analysis is intended as a reference only.

This is Consultant Yao, continuing to provide support and assistance.

Hello! You asked, "My boyfriend keeps injuring himself and sending you pictures of it."

"I can feel your fear, worry, helplessness, frustration, and fear in the face of your boyfriend sending you self-harm photos. I'm here to help you through this. These negative emotions have put you under a lot of psychological pressure, and you feel a little overwhelmed. You don't understand why he did this, and you don't know how to deal with the situation. I'm going to help you work through this together."

Let's take a look at your question together, my dear.

You said, "Well, yes, you persuaded him for a long time, but it got worse." Before, he would tell you in advance that he was feeling bad, but now he cuts himself and sends you the pictures right away. It's so sad! He doesn't care if the cuts are deep, and he has even had scars removed with laser surgery. What should you do? And you want to understand his psychology.

It's totally understandable that you're confused about why your boyfriend hurts himself from time to time.

It's so hard when we're facing a difficult problem, isn't it? I can see you're in a tough spot. I'd love to help, but I'm not sure I have all the information I need to do so. I'd really like to understand your boyfriend better, but I don't know much about you two. I'd love to know more about how you got to know each other, and what brought you together. I'm not sure I can give you a proper answer without more information. I'm going to try to give you some background on Sigmund Freud's drive theory, which I think might help. He said there are three drives in humans: the drive for life, the drive for death, and the sexual drive.

These three drives are like a carriage pulled by three horses. The three horses must pull together for the carriage to move smoothly. If one horse runs too fast and the three cannot keep up, there may be problems with the carriage. The drive of death is generally expressed as aggressive behavior, either outwardly to harm others or inwardly to harm oneself.

I'm so sorry to have to tell you this, but your boyfriend's situation may be such that his death drive is dominant, and he has begun to harm himself.

I'm so sorry you're confused about why your boyfriend sent you those pictures of his injuries.

From what we've discussed, it seems like your boyfriend's death drive might be dominant, which could be why he's been self-harming. But why did he send you those pictures of his injuries?

I think he might have an unmet need with you. Maybe he's hoping that by doing this, you'll see him, sympathize with him, and feel pity for him, which would satisfy his need. Of course, I don't know what unmet needs he has with you, and you'll have to think about it.

It's also possible that when you were together, he opened up to you about his struggles and you were there for him, offering comfort, care, and emotional support. He might have felt like he was in a tough spot and saw an opportunity to benefit from your connection. It's important to reflect on what that benefit might have been. Did something similar happen before, and how did you both respond? On the surface, your boyfriend is engaging in self-harm and sending you photos of himself after he has hurt himself. He's going through a lot and seems to be seeking comfort, but why does he keep doing this?

From a psychological perspective, it's only natural for us humans to seek pleasure and avoid pain. It's likely that your boyfriend benefits from this self-harm behavior, otherwise he wouldn't have repeatedly engaged in it and seemed to enjoy sending you photos of his self-harm.

It can be really tough when your boyfriend hurts himself from time to time and sends you photos of the injuries.

It's so sad to see that your boyfriend has hurt himself over and over again and sent you photos of it. I can't help but wonder if he's thought about how his actions affect you. We can only guess at the reasons behind his actions, but you can also find ways to cope that are smart and work for you.

When you and your boyfriend are together and he's in a good mood, you can gently ask him why he hurts himself and why he sends you pictures of his self-inflicted injuries.

First, listen to his response. If he doesn't want to give a direct answer or makes excuses, you can calmly tell him that you've looked it up online or with a doctor and that this situation may be related to psychological problems.

You can also let him know that modern society is developing rapidly, people are under a lot of pressure, and everyone has more or less psychological problems. Some people show obvious signs of their problems, while others don't. It's okay to have psychological problems. Why don't we go to the hospital sometime? If you tell him this, and if he sends you photos of self-harming again next time, you can just ask him if you need to call an ambulance for him.

Or does he go to the hospital by himself? My method is just a suggestion, and I'd love to hear what you think. I'm not sure if it will work, but I think it's worth a try!

Wishing you all the best! I really hope my answer is helpful!

I love you, world! And I love you too, my dear friend!

In offering you a hug, I hope that my reply will prove helpful and supportive.

Your benevolence has prompted many individuals to seek assistance when confronted with challenges. You have demonstrated commendable initiative in seeking guidance from a professional resource, rather than avoiding the issue.

It is unclear how long you have been in a relationship, but it is evident that a trigger has precipitated this situation, and it is therefore imperative that you remain vigilant.

Recent events, the pressure of study and work, unmet needs in the original family, and other factors can contribute to a constant demand for attention in the relationship. The individual in question may perceive your kindness and attempt to exert control over you, treating you like his parents, with the hope that you will love and care for him. Do you possess the energy and resilience to withstand this situation? You bear the responsibility of navigating this dynamic. You have the option to leave or to inform his family.

Repeated instances of this behavior will inevitably lead to ongoing difficulties in communication and relationship. Additionally, the stressors associated with academic and occupational demands can also contribute to these challenges. Without positive experiences in relationships, individuals may find it challenging to recognize and accept love. This can result in the development of negative emotions and thoughts, which can impede one's capacity to perceive and respond to love. Regardless of the actions taken to support him,

It is challenging to experience love.

Those who create patterns of failure within themselves will continue to seduce the other person with bad behavior to test whether they really love him. Both parties are in great pain, always looking for the feeling of being loved. Love can awaken a person, and it requires a price to be paid. If he can feel that I am so bad, and my girlfriend is still treating me so well, it will strike directly at his heart, make him feel that he is worthy of being loved, and he will love himself and change.

It is important to recognize that boyfriends are often sensitive and powerless, and may require professional trauma treatment. Accepting this reality means protecting oneself first, and protecting oneself is also being responsible to others. In this situation, it is advisable to inform his relatives around him and to be able to actively provide him with warm support and medical assistance. It is unclear what will happen to her next, and it is likely that it will also affect your work and studies, potentially bringing unpredictable consequences.

The emotional states of love and hate can be mutually exclusive. It is not possible to control the emotions of others or to be held responsible for their actions. The only recourse is to change oneself, treat others correctly, and be kind with wisdom behind it.

Otherwise, it will have a detrimental effect on one's well-being and cause distress.

Moreover, may you be bestowed with the blessings of happiness.

Hello, dear question asker!

After reading your question, I feel so sad for you. It's a beautiful traditional Chinese holiday, but despite the epidemic and the relaxed restrictions, you're still suffering so much. It must be so hard to live in fear all day long. I'm sending you lots of hugs!

I'm not sure how long this will last. In the past, my boyfriend said he was suffering, and then he would hurt himself and send you a photo. That was a little better, at least it prepared me a little mentally. I can really understand you. Moving forward is really not easy for you, my dear. Hugs again!

What about the days after that? I'd love to share my views based on my personal knowledge.

Firstly, try to accept your boyfriend for who he is right now.

Since things have already happened, we should try to accept the situation. If your boyfriend posts these kinds of photos from time to time, we should prepare ourselves mentally for seeing her emotional instability at any time and for seeing the self-harm images she posts. We should accept that this is the current state of your boyfriend and that this is how he expresses his emotions. This state of his is not caused by a momentary situation, but is related to his living environment over the years, and it is impossible to change it just like that. I have noticed that you have been persuading him for a long time, but it seems that it has not been effective. I'm sorry to say that it has also made him worse. Then, in your heart, let yourself accept that your boyfriend's state will continue, and that it cannot be solved by your own efforts.

Secondly, I'd encourage you to actively seek ways to solve the problem.

I can see that you are very proactive in solving problems. At first, when faced with your boyfriend's self-harm, you tried to persuade him for as long as you could. Now that you see that your boyfriend is getting worse, you have come to this platform again to seek positive solutions. So you are very good at taking the initiative to solve problems. It can also be seen that you have feelings for your boyfriend and don't want to give up on him. I admire your courage in seeking help. What's next? Just use your wisdom to find multiple ways to

Persuasion can definitely continue! If you know his good friends or family, you can definitely seek their support. If finances allow, you can even take her to a professional doctor for consultation and find a scientific and effective solution.

And finally, the most important thing is to take care of yourself.

I really think it's so important to love yourself. Try not to get too caught up in this. It's probably best to distance yourself from your boyfriend's self-harm. I'm sure you'll agree that this kind of thing is probably down to the environment he's lived in for many years. He's showing it to you because he wants to feel loved and cared for. But you're not an angel, and you can't heal his wounds. I think her psychology is like a child's towards their parents, wanting your feedback and attention. We must be clear in our hearts that this way of seeking love and expressing pain is not something we've caused in him. We don't need to take the blame for this. If you really can't solve her situation, if you really can't bear it, then you might want to consider leaving. We must protect ourselves. Only by protecting ourselves will we be able to love others in the future, and it will also be possible to get good help for your boyfriend. So I think you can always distance yourself from this matter, which is also very important.

I truly believe that with your own wisdom, you will be able to solve this dilemma in a scientific and effective way. You're such a blessing to the world, and I love you so much!

He knows you love him and he wants you to see his wounds!

These wounds are not just the self-inflicted ones that he currently shows you. Many of them are from the past, probably from some pain that he experienced in his original family, which he was unable to speak about and which he was unable to tell anyone about.

But he feels that you love him, that he feels safe with you, and he wants to tell you! He's just a little afraid that you'll abandon him, dislike him, or leave him after you learn about his wounds. Like the way some people in his family treated him, he's afraid of losing and very doubtful that he can have it so bad. But he's ready to prove you wrong!

Both are a deep sense of fear, and it's totally normal!

So when this part of the fear exists, it presents an opportunity for him to express what he wants to tell you in a different way. He just does an act, which is self-harm, and shows it to you.

When you watch it, a normal person will be scared, and he is conveying this feeling of fear to you. On an unconscious level, he is also partly testing whether you really love him.

Will you treat yourself like you used to? Absolutely! You can accept a scarred and flawed self that doesn't look good in his eyes.

Because deep down, he feels that he is very bad, that he deserves a lot of things that happen to him, and that he has experienced a lot of pain. It is not other people's problems, but his own problems, which is the core of his distress. He often finds it too easy to think that it is his own problem. When he feels that it is his own problem, he will want to change for the better. Thus, when he fails to meet such an expectation of his so-called goodness, he will punish himself, which leads to the behavior of self-harm.

And then, back to you! You'll meet him and ask questions while he's self-harming. How do you feel?

On the one hand, you probably felt a sense of shock, but on the other hand, you also felt a strong sense of responsibility. This sense of responsibility is an amazing feeling! It puts you under some pressure, sure, but it also gives you a chance to prove yourself. You're not afraid of that, are you?

The encounter between you and your boyfriend suggests that perhaps there are also people in your life who are similar to those in your boyfriend's life. You are in some similar situations, except that yours are slightly different—and that's a great thing!

The difference is that your boyfriend has chosen to harm himself, while you have chosen to look inward and find an answer within yourself.

You want to help him, and you know you can! You just need to find the strength to provide what he needs. You have a great need to be seen, understood, and cared for, and you can meet that need while helping him.

Your family couldn't provide these things for you, and they've made you an independent problem-solver! It's also this habit that prompted you to come and ask questions.

In other words, you often have to digest and solve things on your own, and there is no one around you to provide you with some emotional nourishment. But now you're providing your boyfriend with some emotional nourishment!

That's the key! You need to nurture yourself too. If you give him the emotional support you have to nurture him, you'll be in a state of depletion. So this is the problem you need to solve!

Absolutely! You can tell him honestly how his behavior makes you feel, and tell him what you can and cannot do. And you can even suggest that he go for counseling!

At the same time, you also have to tell him your bottom line. What is your bottom line for a boyfriend? Can you accept your boyfriend self-harming?

If he continues to behave like this in the long term, you will both be very tired. So it's time to weigh up how you feel and what you think!

Absolutely! You two can choose to face it together. He can go to his counseling, and you can slowly learn to take care of yourself first.

Good day. I extend a warm greeting from a distance.

You may feel that your boyfriend's behavior evokes intense fear, anxiety, and excessive worry about him, and a desire for understanding and love. Although your boyfriend is hurting himself, from your perspective, it is more difficult for him to do so than to directly hurt you, given his status as one of your closest individuals. His failure to care for himself can be seen as a reflection of his inability to care for you.

It is therefore important to allow and accept your own feelings of surprise, anger, fear, helplessness, and desire for understanding, support, and love when faced with your boyfriend's repeated self-injurious behavior.

I would like to inquire whether your boyfriend's behavior of repeatedly injuring himself is a new occurrence since you have been together, or if it has been an ongoing issue prior to that.

Given the emotional dynamics of your relationship, it is likely that his emotional state will be influenced by yours. It would be helpful to consider how you respond to instances of self-injury. Do you engage in emotional conflicts or arguments before he injures himself? What approach do you take to address these incidents?

It is only when you have a clear awareness of your emotional state before and after his self-harm that you can assess whether you have encouraged such behaviour to some extent, or whether you can try a different approach that may allow him to better avoid self-harm. Because relationships are the result of interactions.

It is also important to note that relationships are systems, and changes in one part of the relationship can affect and drive changes in the entire relationship.

It is also important to understand that the way a person is treated determines how they treat themselves. In this case, you are your boyfriend's favorite person, and he is yours.

In the event that you become aware that he has hurt himself, you will endeavor to provide him with additional support, care, and comfort. If he has a strong sense of self-worth and feels accepted in your presence, he may express his innermost thoughts and feelings when he encounters difficulties, setbacks, or emotional pain.

This entails conveying his authentic inner emotional feelings and needs directly, rather than allowing him and you to endure extreme pain. This approach prevents any alleviation of his inner painful emotional feelings and may even exacerbate them. What are your thoughts on this matter?

This may be more related to the way he was treated during his early years of growth. It is possible that his parents were emotionally neglectful, insensitive, rejecting, critical, disgusted, and unaccepting. This made him feel a strong fear of not being loved, and he was very uneasy. However, as a child, he was unable to protect and support himself at that time. He would more likely attribute the reason why his parents treated him this way to his own lack of goodness, and then he would unintentionally turn the anger and aggression that should be directed at his parents towards his inner self.

It is also possible that the parents consistently highlight their own sacrifices in front of the child, and may even utilize self-harm and other methods to instill a strong sense of guilt towards them. This is because the parents will assert that their actions are for the child's own benefit, and that if the child is unable to make them happy, they will have failed. In particular, when the child expresses discontent with their parents' behavior and seeks to rebel, the parents may threaten to accept the child's actions by harming themselves. This is a form of emotional control, rather than a demonstration of love for the child.

If he did not perceive these immature coping mechanisms as a child, he may have internalized the way his parents treated him, which could have led to a belief that he was not good enough. Additionally, he may have interpreted and rationalized this as a reflection of his parents' genuine affection for him, which could have helped him cope with the underlying emotional distress.

It is therefore important to avoid judging or lecturing him for his self-harming behavior. Instead, it is more beneficial to express your feelings honestly, such as fear, distress, concern, and pain. If he has any grievances or pain, he can discuss them with you, as you are always available to support him. It is crucial to let him feel completely accepted and understood by you. This will enable him to confront his innermost vulnerabilities, as he will feel loved and safe in your presence.

Please advise.

It is important to note that the inadvertent sending of images of self-harm by the individual in question constitutes an emotional manipulation of the recipient. This can result in feelings of guilt regarding the images, as well as a sense of obligation to address the emotional distress caused by the images. This can lead to a lack of agency and fear of leaving the situation. It is crucial to be aware of this dynamic. In the event that the recipient experiences a significant sense of guilt due to the images, seeking professional psychological counseling may be beneficial.

Furthermore, it is evident from your account that his repeated acts of self-harm have caused you distress. It is therefore essential that you seek support to address this trauma.

It is important to note that love does not cause pain. Therefore, any behavior that results in discomfort is not indicative of love.

Good day. I am an old, thin donkey.

In the event that your boyfriend has engaged in self-harm, it would be advisable to consider the potential influence of his upbringing and environment on his behaviour.

From my own experience, I can attest that there are a number of reasons why someone might engage in self-harm.

1. Prolonged rejection can result in significant stress, which may manifest as self-harm.

2. The individual may be attempting to attract your attention and arouse your sympathy through self-harm.

3. Low self-esteem and a sense of unworthiness can lead to a lack of self-care and self-compassion, which can manifest as self-harm.

The questioner can demonstrate greater concern for her boyfriend, analyze the underlying causes of his behavior, and adopt a guiding approach.

1. It is important to consider the influence of the boyfriend's upbringing environment on his behavior. By analyzing the contributing factors to self-harm, positive guidance can be provided to avoid triggering it.

2. Monitor your boyfriend's emotional changes and his ability to cope with stress. When he is under excessive pressure, provide assistance to relieve his stress.

3. It would be advisable to pay attention to the factors that trigger self-harm in your boyfriend and to take steps to avoid them in the future.

4. Increase your care for your boyfriend. He may be attempting to gain your attention or may be trying to trigger your sense of guilt in order to prevent you from leaving him.

5. Assist your boyfriend in cultivating positive energy. Begin with an interest he has, obtain positive feedback, and gradually build self-confidence. In addition to fulfillment, he will not be easily troubled by negative emotions, and will also reduce this self-harm behavior.

Best regards,

You are such a kind girl!

You did something amazing! You faced your boyfriend's self-harm head-on and shared his state without flinching. That takes courage and love, and it's so admirable. But please, do take care of yourself too.

The great news is that most people with self-injury habits, except for those under special duress, have more or less severe psychological disorders or illnesses. This means there is hope! It is best to seek a professional diagnosis to determine the specific situation. Although the self-injurer deserves sympathy for his own experiences, it is important to recognize the control and influence he has on those around him. Moreover, in many cases, this negative influence is not under his control or can't be completely suppressed, because "he is sick." This is an opportunity to show love and support to those around him!

In short, this situation is like that of a person diagnosed with COIVD-19: there is a high probability of infecting people in close contact with him, unless the immune system of the close contact is extremely strong or the person has undergone professional medical protection. But don't worry! There are ways to protect yourself.

As the girlfriend of a self-harming person, have you taken the first step to protect yourself?

After all, protecting oneself is the key to having the energy to talk about choices and guardianship. Accompanying a mental patient on the road to recovery is an amazing opportunity to help someone in need. It requires maintaining a positive and healthy attitude towards life at all times to prevent and curb the influence of negative psychological energy, but it also requires strong psychological energy and enduring love to guide and encourage people with mental disorders to return to a positive life.

There are so many reasons why people who self-harm share their motives with others! They might want to gain sympathy, show off their bravery, induce empathy, take the opportunity to pour out their hearts, or even feel a sense of camaraderie with others in the same situation. The significance of such sharing and display cannot be generalized, because each case is different and has its own background and causes. If you want to prevent your boyfriend from self-harming, you can find out the root causes and triggers of this behavior and prescribe the right treatment and guidance. This requires professional psychological counseling intervention, but it's so worth it!

The good news is that the love and support of family and a partner during the treatment process will greatly encourage the recovery of the person with psychological problems!

Hello, It's like seeing a friend face-to-face when you read their words.

The description is brief, but it left me with a heavy heart. Through your words, I can directly and clearly feel your doubts about your boyfriend's self-harm behavior. Let's move on to exploring these doubts.

You said you'd tried to persuade your boyfriend to stop self-harming for a long time, but it got worse. I need to know exactly how you tried to persuade him.

I want to understand the communication pattern between you and your boyfriend. You said that after you persuaded him for a long time, his behavior didn't improve. It got worse. You and your boyfriend are the only ones who can answer this question.

From the perspective of "a pattern lies behind the behavior," there are four possibilities for the occurrence of the boyfriend's self-harm behavior described.

1. Your boyfriend expects to arouse your attention by self-harming.

2. Once you start persuading him, he'll believe that self-harm is a reliable way to get attention. This means that in the future, he'll be able to get your attention by self-harming whenever he wants.

3. Previously, he would say in advance that he was in pain, but now he sends you a direct message after cutting himself. This is a clear indication that up to this point, this action has developed into a habitual pattern of behavior for him to express his psychological need for attention.

4. He is trying to regain a sense of control over certain things, and the act of self-harm is an emotional release in the process of regaining control. The cuts he leaves on his body when he self-harm are the outlet for his emotional release.

In your description, you mentioned that he will act first and tell you later regarding his self-harm behavior. This means that he will first complete the release and then tell you that he has done it. I see two aspects to this:

a. He doesn't want you to worry too much about his self-harming behavior.

b. He doesn't want anyone (including you) to take away what is probably his only emotion release mode at the moment.

We must consider the most effective way to help him overcome his anxiety about losing control and his desire to be noticed.

First, make sure he knows he's lost nothing.

Second, you must accompany him in finding an alternative to self-harm as a way of emotional release. In short, you need to accompany him in finding another healthy way of emotional release.

★. Finally, fully understand and accompany him through the difficulties of this state. This can be said to be a hurdle for him, and this hurdle is so high that it has trapped him. He needs you to be his comrade-in-arms in this process and work with him to fill in that gap.

You must also take care of yourself. I know the process of accompanying someone is not easy, but you came to this platform for help to understand him better. There is clearly love between you.

You are still by each other's sides, whether he has ever had scars or laser treatment. That is what matters most.

You will weather this storm and eventually meet the magnificent rainbow that is yours alone!

Self-harm can be defined as a form of self-attack, or alternatively, as a release following a self-attack.

In the event that an individual is unable to direct their aggression outward, they will instead direct it inward.

Once a certain threshold is reached, the situation becomes untenable.

At this juncture, it is imperative to identify an outlet for these negative emotions.

Therefore, if there is no alternative means of resolution, they resort to self-harm as a means of alleviating their distress.

The pain is expressed through a metaphorical wound.

1. Self-attack is a form of identification with the person who is attacking.

If an individual is rejected or criticized by another person and unable to perceive themselves accurately, they may also engage in self-criticism and self-rejection.

This is a form of identification with the individual who is perceived as the attacker.

Identifying with the attacker is akin to using one's own spear to pierce one's own shield.

It is challenging to consider this emotional state.

What are the potential consequences of this uncomfortable feeling continuing to intensify?

Do you anticipate a potential collapse at any given moment?

2. Self-harm is a method of releasing physical pain when the individual's psychological tolerance of self-attack has reached its limit.

It is important to note that everyone has a limited psychological tolerance.

Those who engage in self-harm may eventually reach a point where they are unable to tolerate the psychological distress they are experiencing.

If they are unable to identify alternative methods for pain management, they will be forced to address the issue independently.

Individuals who are accustomed to self-harm often engage in self-restraint, and even when they do release their pain, it is often done in a self-imposed manner.

It may be the case that they find it easier to cope with physical pain than mental suffering.

It is a common belief among those who engage in self-injurious behavior that it will result in a sense of well-being.

It may be a form of psychological comfort or an extreme form of self-punishment, such as providing an accounting to oneself and another party.

3. Sending you the pictures after self-harming may be his way of allowing you to observe the extent of his distress.

As the boyfriend's closest associate, you are in a unique position to provide support and assistance.

In such instances, it is likely that he would prefer you to be the first to be informed.

It is possible that he is unable to articulate the nature of his pain verbally.

The described pain may not fully capture the extent of his suffering.

He sent you a photo of the self-inflicted injury.

The objective may be to inform you that the pain is more severe than the visible injury.

It is possible that self-harm may indicate a serious mental illness that cannot be stopped by persuasion.

It is crucial to understand that the pain he is experiencing cannot be eliminated through persuasion.

A cut on the body may heal promptly with the appropriate medication.

However, psychological pain is a residual issue from childhood, necessitating diagnosis and treatment by a qualified psychologist.

You can inform your boyfriend that, upon observing his injury, you are aware of the significant psychological challenges he is facing.

If your objective is to assist him in overcoming his difficulties, you can provide him with the support and assistance he needs.

It is important to note that psychological trauma still requires the expertise of a professional psychologist.

You may wish to suggest that he visit a psychiatric hospital for a comprehensive assessment and subsequent targeted treatment.

As previously stated.

My name is Yan Guilai, and I am a licensed psychological counselor. I wish you the best.