My husband and I were university classmates. This month, he returned from a distant place and proposed a divorce. What should I do?

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First of all, you two have been together for a long time and have built a strong foundation for your emotional lives and your lives in general. The recent series of conflicts has indeed triggered conflict and division, but you can overcome this!

We've made it to this point today, and it's been a gradual process, but we've made it! We just need to accept and understand each other, and we'll be there in no time.

Second, if you want to solve the urgent problem, then you should calm down for a few days and find an opportunity to talk to him again. You should summarize and sort out your shortcomings, and also express your hopes and feelings for him, and listen to what he thinks and how he feels. If you reconcile, how do you plan to live in the future? If you continue to break up, you should also be prepared mentally and discuss how to handle follow-up matters such as property.

Third, the most important thing is you! Your feelings and physical and mental development are the most important things in the world to you. As a woman, you have experienced a series of things such as a miscarriage, and you have suffered a lot physically and mentally. But you have also experienced a lot of emotional and psychological fluctuations, and you have come through them all!

It's time for you to take stock of your life and reflect on the amazing journey you've been on so far. You've got this! You need to gradually regain your independence and strength when it comes to love, family, and work. And who knows, maybe the two of you will get back together. Either way, you'll be independent and free in your own right.

From a male perspective, there are so many factors that go into whether he is determined to divorce. It's not something you can make a simple generalization about. Best wishes!

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I can sense the sadness and unfairness of the host through the screen. Please let me give you a sincere hug.

From what you've told me, it's clear that you and your husband have a strong bond. It's unfortunate that some conflicts have led to the marriage being on the verge of breaking up. I can tell you still care about him and don't want him to divorce you.

I'm not sure if you have kids from being together for so long. What were the main reasons for previous disagreements?

If you have the time, you can go over your feelings from the past few years. What conflicts do you think you've had? What's worked well together?

If there's still a chance, have a sincere conversation with him.

If you're having trouble controlling your emotions, you can write to each other using traditional paper and pen to express your honest thoughts and expectations for the other person.

If there's something you're both struggling with in the relationship, if there's still a chance, talk about what small changes you can make to improve things.

It's important to keep your marriage strong. Love alone isn't enough.

Some sincerity, some skills, some compromises, and some commitment are all part of trying to get back on track.

Give it your best shot. If you find it difficult, it's a good idea to seek advice from a counselor or family therapist.

If you've reached the end of your rope, just let go with grace and respect each other's decisions.

I hope the host can find a way out of his troubles soon!

Hello! I'd like to extend a warm hug from afar to you.

You may feel your heart is full of grievances, longing to be understood and accepted.

It might be helpful to consider that the 10-year relationship between you has been marked by a certain fragility, with periods of separation and reunion in different places. This dynamic could potentially give rise to feelings of unease in each other's hearts.

It would be helpful to try to be aware of what your distrust of your husband is really about. Is it because you are always apart from each other and you worry that your husband will abandon you, betray you, and stop loving you? It seems that a large part of this is also your lack of trust in your inner self. You may benefit from believing that you are worthy of love and that you can manage this relationship well.

In an intimate relationship, it can be helpful to remember that we are in a relationship with our inner selves as well as the other person. When we can fully accept ourselves from the inside out, with a sense of self-worth and love, we may find that we can truly receive love from the other person.

It might be helpful to allow and accept your current painful emotional feelings, as this is a common experience when facing sudden emotional loss. This could be seen as the true expression and reaction of your body and mind. It might be beneficial to try to be aware of your painful emotions and feel what the real needs behind them are, such as the desire to be accepted, understood, and loved.

Could you perhaps try to respond to and satisfy this part of your needs through your own efforts? That is, could you try to learn to fully accept yourself, respect your true physical and emotional feelings, and treat yourself the way you want to be treated?

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Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing in response to your query.

From the information provided, it appears that there are significant issues between you and your husband. It is possible that he is aware of problems that you have not yet identified, which may explain his proposal for a divorce. Your description indicates that he expressed sadness and distress, which suggests that he still has feelings for you.

It is possible that insufficient communication has occurred to enable an in-depth analysis of the problem. It would be beneficial to engage in a comprehensive dialogue with your husband to ascertain the underlying reasons for his desire to separate. It is important to maintain emotional objectivity and refrain from making judgments during this process. Adopting a third-party perspective can facilitate the identification of problematic aspects and their underlying causes, which can then be addressed through constructive solutions.

It is also contingent upon whether the husband desires to remain in the relationship. Should he wish to confront the issues together and resolve them, he may be amenable to seeking the guidance of a counselor.

If the husband has expressed a desire for a divorce, it is indicative of a significant underlying issue. It is advisable to maintain an objective perspective and refrain from letting emotions cloud judgment. It is possible that the husband has reached a point where he is no longer able to cope with the ongoing conflicts and arguments between the couple, leading to the proposal of separation.

The aforementioned information is solely a personal perspective and is intended for informational purposes only.