My son and I are the only two people living on an isolated island. Do I need crisis intervention?

Good day. I extend my sincerest support and encouragement in the form of a 360-degree hug.

From your description, it is evident that you are facing significant challenges. You have undergone a divorce, are experiencing feelings of helplessness, and are struggling to find meaning in life. Additionally, you lack the support of a spouse or partner. Your son is an adult and has started working, but you have noted that he is withdrawn and has a poor relationship with you.

Please indicate whether you require crisis intervention and, if so, whether you believe there are any ways to survive.

Should you require crisis intervention, we advise you to seek the guidance of a counselor at the earliest opportunity. We believe that if you feel the need, it is necessary.

You are the best judge of your own needs, and I advise you to seek the counsel of a qualified professional, even if it is only for companionship and support. Such a consultation will provide you with a sense of connection and warmth from other individuals.

I am unaware of your age or employment status, but in light of your circumstances, I would like to offer a few suggestions that I believe will be beneficial.

First and foremost, it is essential to maintain a forward-thinking mindset.

As demonstrated by Fugu in To Live and the living version of Fugu in Tan Tan Traffic, maintaining a forward-thinking mindset is crucial.

Furthermore, it appears that the only viable option is to look forward. It can be argued that we have reached rock bottom, and if we remain in this position, it will have a detrimental impact on our future prospects.

If you wish to avoid remaining in a state of prolonged decline, it is essential to adopt a forward-thinking approach.

It is evident that you are endeavoring to effect a change. Seeking psychological assistance is an indication of your willingness to embrace a new perspective and move forward.

I encourage you to take action.

Secondly, I recommend that you take steps to connect with yourself.

For example, you may choose to engage in a workout, yoga, mindfulness meditation, a walk, or even dancing in the square. However, given the current pandemic risk, dancing in the square is not recommended.

It is common to seek external sources for social interaction and stimulation, even when engaging with digital content. This can result in a lack of connection with one's inner self, body, and mind.

Furthermore, the physical changes brought about by exercise, such as soreness and sweating, can facilitate a deeper awareness of one's body.

I therefore recommend that you engage in physical exercise and refer you to the book "Exercise to Transform the Brain."

Thirdly, I would like to suggest that you consider using writing as a means of establishing a connection with your inner self.

Once you have completed the physical relaxation process, you should begin the mental relaxation process. The recommended activities for this stage are reading and writing, which can be performed simultaneously.

Writing is about articulating your thoughts in a clear and concise manner, regardless of your writing skills. You can write on any topic you choose, whether for public or private consumption.

There are two main advantages to consider when deciding whether or not to go public. On the one hand, there is the advantage of having a conversation with yourself, which is something that cannot be achieved when you are in the public eye. On the other hand, there is the advantage of being seen, but there is also the disadvantage of being criticized.

I suggest the following books: "Writing to Heal: Using Writing to Get Rid of Anxiety, Procrastination, and Bad Moods," "The Healing Power of Writing," and "Writing as Healing: Rewriting Your Life through Writing."

Fourth, cultivate an interest outside of work.

If you prefer not to meet people in person, you can find like-minded individuals online and join their groups.

Given the extensive development of the internet, it is now possible to find people with similar interests at any time.

In conclusion, I recommend consulting with a counselor to address your current state of mind and the dynamics of your parent-child relationship. It is essential to prioritize your personal well-being before engaging in a discussion about your child.

As a counselor, I often find myself navigating a complex inner landscape, oscillating between Buddhist principles and depressive tendencies. Despite these challenges, I remain committed to fostering a positive and motivating approach in my work. I extend my deepest respect and love to the world.

Hello! I just wanted to send you a warm hug from afar.

I'm happy to have seen your request for help, and I hope that my sharing can give you some support and help.

From what you've said, I can see that you're feeling lonely, uneasy and longing for companionship, understanding, listening, comfort and support. It's obvious that you can't give yourself what you need, so you're looking for it from other people, like your son.

It's important to understand that for your son to respond to and satisfy this part of your needs, he needs to have the means, be willing, and know the extent of your lack. Given these three aspects, it's unlikely that your son will respond well to this part of your emotions and emotional needs because he needs to live his own life well and receive strong emotional support from you.

We can't expect anyone else to meet our needs. In particular, we have to meet our own needs that we lack due to a lack of growth. And we know ourselves better than anyone else.

The reason you can't meet this emotional need yourself is that you don't know what your real psychological needs are and you don't accept yourself. You have painful emotions and think of yourself as bad, lonely, abandoned and unloved.

Emotions aren't good or bad, right or wrong. They're often a sign that something needs to be met or an expectation hasn't been met. That's why it's important to see, accept and respond to emotions, especially negative ones.

Keeping an emotional diary is a great way to get to know your emotions better. You can become aware of them, experience them, feel them, sort them out, explore the needs behind them, and find more appropriate ways to respond to them in a timely manner.

For instance, developing some personal interests and passions can help you to enhance and nourish yourself.

Hi, I'm Lily, the little listener at the Q&A Center. The world and I love you.