Online dating, what do you do when same-sex couples are too possessive?

Hello, question asker! I'm Jia Ao, and I'm here to help!

I can see the problems and confusion you described on the platform, but I'm here to help! Are you having trouble with relationship management? You said you are a same-sex couple who fell in love online and are currently in a long-distance relationship. It sounds like your relationship is very pure and beautiful!

You said that you have slowly realized that you have a very strong sense of possessiveness towards her, and that you often get jealous of her friends and girlfriends. You understand that the other person loves and cares about you, but you can't help but think irrationally, become particularly sensitive and suspicious, and feel scared. You don't understand what's wrong with you, and how you should regulate your negative emotions in the future. But don't worry! I'm here to help.

I'm happy to answer your question! Let me help you analyze and sort it out:

Embrace your emotions as they are!

Couples in love will always encounter various problems and issues, and the problem between you is more of a psychological one. You are insecure on the one hand, but also care about her a lot on the other. This conflict makes you feel sensitive, paranoid, jealous, suspicious, scared, and fearful, and you react strongly to these emotions: "heartbeat quickens, breathing becomes rapid, hands shake, it's hard..." But you can overcome this! Try to accept your emotions, both the good and the bad. Deal with your emotions before solving the problem. Take care of your emotions and feelings, and don't deliberately suppress your negative emotions. Because you love her and care about everything she does, the more you care, the more insecure you will become. You will become cautious, worrying that you might lose her at the slightest sign of trouble. But you can conquer this! Everyone in love is actually the same.

Trust is the foundation of love!

You can do this! You just need to trust the other person more, trust her fully, and have a little more confidence in yourself. Try to understand her from her perspective more often, and don't be petty about her because of some trivial matters. Don't keep worrying that the other person will leave, because this will only make the other person feel tired and exhausted, and you yourself will never be happy. Everyone has their own self and space, their own friends and girlfriends. She is no exception, and has her own life and social circle. You can try to fit in, but don't try to interfere too much, because this will only push her further and further away, and she will become more and more disappointed with you. But you can do this!

Keep those boundaries clear and strong!

People with too much possessiveness usually have a strong desire for control. But you can learn to give the other person a little more time and space, show more respect and understanding, and maintain an ordinary heart. Love will naturally experience all kinds of flavors, sweet, sour, bitter, and spicy. You can learn to view the various problems you encounter with a positive and optimistic attitude. And you can avoid constant control, interference, and suspicion, which will help your relationship with each other. You can have a happy ending, and it'll be great!

Express your love in the right way!

If you care about and love the other person very much, you can also find another way to let the other person know. Blind control will only arouse the other person's aversion and rejection. Instead, show your care and love for the other person in a gentle way, and this will make the other person feel good about you. The relationship between you will become more and more harmonious and long-lasting. Love is just love, and it has nothing to do with anything else.

Appropriate distraction is a great way to keep your mind off things!

When those bad emotions come a-knockin', try to distract yourself by focusing on yourself and doing things you like! You can also cultivate your interests and hobbies, such as exercising, reading, making friends, traveling, shopping, and more! Make yourself more fulfilled, and when you are really busy, you won't be left alone to ruminate. Your strong sense of possession will also be appropriately reduced, and the negative emotions that follow will naturally be much less!

And now for the best part: strengthening your inner self!

Meanwhile, there's so much you can do to help yourself! Constantly improve yourself, strengthen yourself, and learn some psychology knowledge as appropriate. You'll be amazed at how well you can regulate your emotions! I wish you all the best!

I really hope my answer helps you! The world and I love you ♥