Relationships are everything, but what exactly are they like?

Hello, questioner! My name is Jia Ao, and I'm not sure if I can be of any help to you.

I have taken the time to carefully read through the issues and confusion you have outlined on the platform. I appreciate you initiating the discussion on the fundamental aspects of relationships and the idea that relationships are central to our lives. It's understandable that you might be experiencing some confusion or facing challenges in your relationships, which could be contributing to your feelings of uncertainty. The notion that "people live to be in relationships" and that "without family and friends, we face extinction" can be a difficult concept to navigate. It's natural to question how we can achieve psychological independence when our social connections are so crucial to our well-being.

I'm not sure what your current living situation is like, but I can sense that you may be facing some challenges. It seems that you're trying to navigate the complexities of relationships and the benefits of living alone. It's understandable that you're having difficulty building intimate relationships. It can be challenging to break free from fixed ways of thinking. You're trying to figure things out, and it's natural to feel a bit confused along the way. How can you approach this problem in a way that's more constructive?

If I may, I would like to assist you in analyzing and sorting this out.

1. Definition and explanation of relationships

[Relationship]: Could be thought of as a mutual connection between people, between people and things, and between things.

[Interpersonal relationship]: It could be said that this is the direct psychological relationship or psychological distance between people during activities. It seems that interpersonal relationships reflect the psychological state of individuals or groups seeking to meet their social needs, as quoted from the Baidu Encyclopedia.

From this, we can see that people are not isolated in society. Human existence is the result of the interplay of various relationships. As long as we are alive in this world, it is possible to have relationships with people, whether it is with strangers, relatives, or friends. We will have communication, exchange, and contact with anyone. This is the essence of interpersonal relationships and is a human instinct. It not only reflects human social needs, but also satisfies one's own social needs (spiritual needs). Even if many people are "forced to live alone" for various reasons, they may wish to establish intimate relationships. Conversely, they may need to explore how to live in harmony with themselves.

2. Interpretation of attachment relationships

With regard to the concept of human attachment, it can be defined as a person's physical, behavioral, emotional, and psychological desire to maintain a long-term close relationship with a specific individual. This kind of relationship is often subtle and dependent on the affinity between people. It's important to note that not everyone is capable of forming an attachment, even close relatives may have a distant relationship. In a family setting, the presence of an attachment is essential for a family to be considered a family unit. (Quoted from Baidu Encyclopedia)

It is natural for children to want to be close to their parents and to rely on attachment, given that children cannot live independently and must rely on adults. Similarly, when adults encounter love, they will develop an attachment to their partner and establish a long-lasting and stable intimate relationship.

"People live to be attached to relationships." "Without relatives and friends, we will face extinction. How can people achieve psychological independence?" It is true that people will have many attachments while living. Humans do not yearn for a solitary life. Even the worst person is unlikely to be without relatives and friends. It is just that loneliness is a common experience in life. No one can always be there for us. Everyone is just there for a while. When the time is up, they will get off the bus. You and I are aware of this.

3. [Create nourishing relationships]

"It could be said that relationships are everything, and that everything is about relationships. While it is true that we cannot live alone without relationships, it is also important to consider whether a relationship is nourishing or draining.

As we become more aware of this, we can consider distancing ourselves from relationships that are draining and devote ourselves to nurturing relationships. We can also create nurturing relationships and reduce the draining aspects of relationships.

―From Wu Zhihong's "Have a Life Where You Call the Shots"

From this sentence, we can gain insight into the importance of understanding the true meaning and nature of relationships. By doing so, we can strive to avoid destructive relationships and work towards fostering harmonious and intimate relationships. Given that relationships are an integral part of our lives, it is essential to seek connections that are close, nurturing, and healthy. This approach can help us manage mental depletion and cultivate resilience in the face of challenges.

I encourage you to practice facing any difficulties encountered in interpersonal interactions with confidence and belief in your abilities. I wish you all the best.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. The world and I send you our love.

Hello! You brought up the topic of relationships, which is probably something a lot of us have wondered about. How should we understand relationships?

I'd love to share my views from three perspectives with you, if you'd like!

It's so true that relationships exist objectively.

Everything in the world is connected in some way, and this connection is broadly defined as a relationship. This means that the objective existence of broad relationships is beyond our control, but that's okay!

Have you ever heard of the theory of six degrees of separation? It's pretty fascinating! It basically says that any two people in the world who don't know each other can be connected through a maximum of six intermediaries. Isn't that amazing?

So saying that "when it comes to living alone, one's relationships must be dead" is just an inner feeling. Even if you live alone, even if you are alone, you will still have relationships with other people in the world. It's so important to recognize that!

Let's talk about how relationships affect us as individuals.

It's so true that relationships exist objectively, and so does their impact on us as individuals. The thing is, this impact can be both positive and negative. It can be something we look forward to, and it can also be something we avoid.

People who believe that "relationships are everything and everything is for relationships" are often very knowledgeable about relationships and are conscious about how they manage them. They often rely on relationships more and look forward to the benefits that come with them.

Take mutual support and assistance between people, for example. It's a kind of righteousness that enables us to survive better in this world. We can't do everything on our own, but helping each other can create a wonderful synergy that makes us more capable of overcoming difficulties.

Another great example is the wonderful connection between people, which is our inner support system. When we have a strong connection with others, we can gain strength spiritually and have an optimistic and positive view of the world.

It's so sad when people lose their connections or have poor connections. They can become depressed due to loneliness.

Let me tell you a little bit about the essence of relationship management.

It's totally normal to have doubts about relationships. We all have our own ways of doing things, and sometimes that can make it tough to navigate relationships. It's not always easy to know how to manage relationships well, and that can sometimes make relationships feel like a burden.

But since we can't avoid relationships altogether, it's a great idea to learn how to manage them so we can benefit from them!

The essence of managing relationships is to meet each other's needs. And relationships can only last if they are equal and mutual! So, in a relationship, it's important to consider your own feelings, but it's also a great idea to put yourself in the other person's shoes and think about their feelings, too. A win-win situation is the best state of a relationship!

If you think that "people live to have attachment relationships," it might be helpful to think about your attitude towards relationships. It's natural to want to get what you want from a relationship and to consider your own needs, but if you do this in a way that's demanding, it can make it difficult for the relationship to last.

I hope this gives you a little insight into my view on relationships! It's just my opinion, but I hope it's helpful.

Hello.

I am Kelly Shui.

I really like the topic of the questioner, and it's clear that the questioner is a thoughtful person.

Let's talk about it together.

[Relationships are everything. But what exactly is a relationship?

I am certain that relationships are everything.

Our relationships with the world, our families, our communities, our loved ones, nature, our belongings, and ourselves are all examples of the links between our individual selves and everything else.

Therefore, relationships are the links between our individual selves and everything else, all things, people, and things.

This is my personal understanding, and I am confident in it.

I am going to tell you what a relationship is.

I want to know what the meaning of relationship is.

Some people say, "For example, what kind of relationship does that boy have with that girl?"

I want to know what the relationship is between that beautiful woman and her husband.

The older man is traveling with his bored son. They are going to see the ancient city of Rome in Italy. I want to know what their relationship is like.

I want to know what the relationship between a man and a woman is.

And what about the relationship between a daughter and her parents?

I want to know how this person relates to his colleagues.

The artist loves art. So, what is the relationship between art and him?

This year's pandemic will have a significant impact on the world.

This baby has come into the world. He will have a relationship with the world. What kind of relationship will it be?

This dog waits for its owner to come home every day. It must have a very good relationship with its owner. It must love its owner very much.

There are very few vegetables this year. It's clearly related to the climate!

This is what I mean about our relationship with all things in the world.

I have heard the saying, "When it comes to living alone, a person's relationships must be dead relationships."

This is how I understand it.

Two people in love die together.

Living alone is a choice. Mr. Yang Jiang, for example, lived alone after the death of his daughter and lover, continued to write alone until the end, and finally left this world.

Mr. Qian died first, in his marriage, in the company of Ms. Yang Jiang.

Zhang Ailing was alone in the United States. From the perspective of outsiders, she died lonely and died alone in her apartment. Her lover, Lai Ya, also died beside her. The living chose to live alone.

That's why everyone felt sorry for her, but I'm certain it was a choice.

Death makes no distinction between the rich and the poor, and no one is equal in the face of disease or war.

Birth and death are inevitable, regardless of who you are.

If there were no such cycle, our ancestors would not have died, and we would not exist either.

They are intertwined.

"Relationships are everything. Everything is about relationships."

For example, in the relationship between lovers, it is simple: you are there, so I exist.

Many philosophers have expressed this sentiment. If you were not here, I would cease to exist.

Those who have experienced love and utter loneliness know this to be true.

This is who I am in a relationship. I have experienced loving and being loved, and I have experienced myself closely bound to another person. I know his perception of me, his joys and sorrows, and I am aware of the link between my emotions and moods.

Wu Zhihong, a teacher, once said:

"Relationships are everything. Everything is about relationships."

All types of relationships are included here, including interpersonal relationships, our relationship with society, and our relationship with everything in the world.

Intimacy is the most difficult of all relationships.

In a relationship of love between a man and a woman, we say: "You are everything to me. You are my hope. You are all I have."

This is about working hard together, moving from loving each other to growing old together, changing for the other person, working hard to improve, and giving your all to maintain that love.

We can learn about this through psychology since we didn't learn about it in class.

If you want to understand the mysteries of intimate relationships, resolve the difficulties in your intimate relationships, and understand what is going on with yourself and your partner, read Sharan Hancock's "25 Psychological Lessons for Insight into Intimate Relationships."

People live for attachment relationships.

From the moment we are born, our earliest attachment is to our parents or caregivers. After World War II, psychology began to study the importance of attachment relationships for infants.

Harlow proved the importance of "love" with an experiment.

He separated newborn baby monkeys from their mothers from the first day of their lives and spent the next 165 days with two mothers—the wire mother and the cloth mother.

Wire Mama has a bottle hanging from her chest, while Cloth Mama doesn't. Infant monkeys will drink milk when they are with Wire Mama, but they would rather not drink milk and stay with Cloth Mama. When they are threatened by unfamiliar objects, such as a large wooden spider, they will run to "Cloth Mama" and cling to her, as if "Cloth Mama" can give them more security.

The behavior of the baby monkey is indisputable evidence that infants need warmth and comfort during their development.

This classic psychological experiment proves one thing: contact is the most important variable in the existence of love.

Touch brings comfort, and a sense of comfort is the most important element in generating love between people.

This experiment proves the importance of attachment relationships. The children after World War II, who had no parents and no hugs, are a case in point. Their mortality rates were affected.

These experiments, studies, etc., prove the importance of attachment and how it affects our entire lives.

This is why many people who were neglected by their caregivers in their early years crave intimacy as adults. Others lose themselves in love and marriage because they pursue attachment relationships too obsessively.

Psychological counseling and learning psychology allow us to learn about and explore attachment relationships in adulthood. This helps us grow and establish a sense of security in ourselves, even in the face of regrets and trauma.

It is relative, not absolute.

If we don't have relatives and friends, we are facing extinction. The question is, are people independent?

We all come to this world with parents. Some people are lonely, have bad relationships with their families, or have had bad experiences in family relationships and are afraid of interacting with people.

He will be successful if he has his own interests and hobbies and transfers his feelings for people to his career or hobbies.

This is empathy.

I understand that not having relatives or friends means not being able to form relationships with people. This is because of loneliness and the desire to connect with people, or having psychological problems, which causes conflict and affects health. Ultimately, this leads to death because emotions affect health.

Emotions are related to health.

Relatives and friends simply cannot have their own favorite things.

One can love all things.

A smile makes you look ten years younger. It describes an optimistic, cheerful person with a young, happy mood and a youthful appearance.

Loneliness affects health, so not having relatives or friends also affects health.

It is not necessarily related to death.

Independence is the ability to get along with oneself, just like loneliness. It is a proactive choice to maintain one's own relationship with oneself.

For example, I like being alone. I am more independent. I can and do rely on myself to do things or have the ability to solve problems without relying on family or friends.

Some people like to rely on or depend on others, staying close to their parents or lovers.

I am independent. I read, grow flowers and plants, cook, watch movies, and entertain myself.

I also occasionally contact my family. If I don't have their help, I find other channels to solve problems.

Woolf's fondness for writing is also an option.

These are my personal experiences and understandings.

Thank you for the excellent topic. It provided a lot of food for thought.

I wish you the best.

Good morning.

A gentle pat on the shoulder: There's no need to rush. It's clear that the questioner has many questions about relationships. The complex relationship between independence and relationships can often lead to inner conflict. Let's take a closer look at how "relationships" and "independence" are connected and explore whether they truly have a mutually restrictive relationship.

Could you please clarify what exactly is meant by the term "relationship"? It would also be helpful to understand why a person's relationship is considered to be a "dead" relationship.

What is the nature of a relationship? I have heard a number of different perspectives on this topic. Some say that when it comes to living alone, a person's relationships must be dead. Others say that relationships are everything and that everything is about relationships. Still others say that people live to be attached to relationships.

It appears that without the support of family and friends, we may face significant challenges. This raises an important question: are people truly independent?

It can be said that relationships are defined by the interconnections between people, between people and things, and between things. From this, we can infer that connections can be made between any two things, and at the same time, if there is no intersection, they can also be independent objects.

For instance, consider a bag that is aesthetically pleasing to some and not to others. Personal taste will determine whether it is loved or not. It is a matter of individual perception. When I purchase this bag and bring it home, I will form a connection with it. I will refer to it as my bag, which indicates a sense of attachment.

In terms of interpersonal relationships, it is worth noting that even if we are in the same class, if we never speak and have no interaction, then when the semester ends and we graduate, we may find ourselves going back to our own respective tracks, having no contact with each other, and feeling no sense of connection.

It can be seen, then, that interpersonal relationships with a sense of connection constitute the relationships that provide social support. As a result, people engage in a wider range of intimate behaviors, including strangers helping each other out of love, charity, and workplace colleague relationships, as well as the warmth and strength of support between family members and the tolerance and support between intimate relationships. These many relationships form the basis of a person's social relationships.

Could it be that a person's "independence" is not necessarily indicative of a depressed or unhealthy relationship?

I believe that independence can be understood in two different ways: personal independence and financial independence. A person can be independent and self-sufficient in both their personal and mental lives. This allows them to focus on their mental health and emotional needs, which can contribute to a healthy life even without a strong social foundation of relationships. In this way, they can achieve their own spiritual independence and emotional needs.

For instance, the economic growth of modern society has created an environment conducive to the concept of "living alone." Individuals have the option to purchase a house and become self-sufficient in terms of their living needs. This is a positive outcome of social stability and a shift in social structure.

With regard to the relationship with oneself, there is a concern that the decrease in close relationships (such as with family, close partners, friends, etc.) may result in a gap in emotional needs. It is important to note, however, that this may not necessarily be the cause of depression. When a person is able to promptly observe their own emotional state, provide sufficient care, know how to love themselves, and maintain normal social relationships (with other individuals in society), they can still re-find their self-identity and maintain mental health. This means that they will not be unilaterally affected by the lack of emotional output in close relationships, which can potentially lead to hidden dangers of illness.

Perhaps it would be helpful to understand that there is no inherent contradiction or conflict between "independence" and "relationships."

The questioner is eager to be independent, but at the same time has concerns about the future. It's understandable that someone who is not good at socializing or who does not want to establish intimate relationships might feel anxious about the future.

It is understandable to feel apprehensive about the prospect of living independently, particularly if one is concerned about becoming a burden to others. Such concerns can lead to internal anxiety and may also highlight areas where one may need support.

However, when we look back, it seems that people used to fear old age and going to a nursing home. In contrast, nowadays people appear to be more willing to go to a nursing home for their old age. This change in attitude may be due to a number of factors, including progress in technology and the economy, as well as the progress of a person's pursuit of self-realization. It seems that many of us still want to be respected, accepted, and valuable.

If you have any ideas or ideals, you may wish to consider pursuing and achieving them within your current capabilities.

I hope it will be of some inspiration and help to the questioner in addressing their doubts.

I wish you the best of luck and hope you continue to do well.

Good morning, My name is Jiang 61.

Firstly, I would like to thank you for placing your trust in me by asking a scientific question for discussion. Your question is as follows: "Relationships are everything. What does 'relationship' really look like?"

"Let's discuss this together.

I. Argument

1. What is a relationship?

You inquired about the nature of relationships. One perspective holds that living alone precludes the possibility of meaningful relationships. Another asserts that relationships are central to human existence. A third suggests that relationships are a primary driver of human behavior.

In fact, when it comes to "relationships," there is more to consider than the three points mentioned. The human aspect is just one element of a larger picture.

Please indicate your preference.

2. Your thoughts on this matter are appreciated.

You have previously stated that without our loved ones and friends, we would face extinction. This leads to the question of whether people are truly independent.

I believe this sentence should be the foundation of your inquiry. It is also the question that concerns you.

In addition, it seems that the objective of your inquiry is to address your internal challenges regarding interpersonal relationships and mortality.

2. My interpretation

1. About relationships

You have raised a significant issue. I say it's significant because relationships encompass many aspects. Relationships include family, work, units, bills, labor, securities, real estate, politics and business, the media...the list goes on.

It is challenging to provide a comprehensive response. I will provide further clarification on the relationships you have inquired about.

2. Relationships are the foundation of all business.

It is my understanding that relationships are the foundation of all actions, and that every action is driven by a purpose.

No action is taken in isolation, whether for oneself or for others.

Acts of love

The concept of "acting for love" encompasses the relationship between you and me. This includes public welfare activities, which are also actions driven by a desire to help those in need.

The enforcer's objective is not to seek personal gain but rather to enhance your quality of life in situations that you are unable to resolve independently. This demonstrates his commitment to your well-being and reflects the social care that is essential for maintaining healthy relationships in society.

Visible and invisible links

Relationships are connections between individuals. People interact with each other, creating these connections. Sometimes these connections are tangible, such as direct interactions; sometimes they are intangible, such as the tools we use, the clothes we wear, the food we eat, and the routes we take. These are all intangible connections between individuals and me, and this kind of relationship is the supply and demand relationship that we cannot see.

This applies to all contexts.

Based on the aforementioned points, I concur that without relationships, we cannot operate independently. We are embedded in a complex network of relationships within this global environment.

The term "absolute loneliness" denotes a state of introspection, fortitude, and personal growth that arises from solitude. Ultimately, our actions are driven by a desire to share and connect with others, as we seek to gain insights and experiences from our individual journeys.

A contract is a formal agreement between two or more parties that outlines the terms and conditions of their relationship.

In essence, relationships are a form of contract. For instance, the relationships between a husband and wife, friends, colleagues, superiors and subordinates, suppliers and customers, etc., are governed by the respective contracts of husband-and-wife relationships, friendships, colleague relationships, superior-subordinate relationships, and supply-demand relationships. Failure to adhere to these contracts may result in difficulties in maintaining the relationships in question.

Therefore, actions for love, tangible and intangible links, ubiquity, and contracts all demonstrate that relationships are of paramount importance, and everything is for the benefit of relationships. People cannot exist independently after the dissolution of a relationship.

3. Ontology of Relationships

The essence of the world is not the universe and everything in it, nor is it the relationship between me and you. Rather, it is the relationship between me and you.

1. My relationship with you

My relationship with you is transient; it can only be established on an intermittent basis. In contrast, my relationship with It is enduring. Once I enter into my relationship with you, it is a relationship that lasts indefinitely.

To truly understand this concept, one must experience it firsthand.

Although it may sound illusory, it is, in fact, a genuine connection. As I respond to your inquiry, a direct link is established between you and me, creating a relationship between the question and the answer.

2⃣️, My relationship with it

If my response is simply to inform you of my opinion, our relationship remains between you and me. However, my objective is to have you accept my perspective. My aim is to impose on others when I eliminate the relationship between you and me, and I am establishing a relationship between me and it.

Behaviors such as obedient education and preaching are examples of how a relationship can be imposed. While these actions may be presented as being for the benefit of the individual, they are, in fact, driven by a desire to satisfy one's own vanity. This is the nature of the relationship that is established.

3⃣, The optimal relationship

The optimal relationship is one in which I have not lost my subjectivity, I have not forced you to accept my views, you have not lost your subjectivity, and in the process of interaction, you remain you and I remain me.

You demonstrate a keen interest in interpersonal relationships and death. I believe the optimal approach to forming a relationship is to remain true to oneself, as previously discussed. This is an exemplary interpersonal relationship. Human independence does not signify the dissolution of relationships. Instead, it entails providing oneself and the other person with the necessary time and space to be themselves, thereby fostering enhanced connections. Consequently, independence does not inherently imply the end of relationships.

This concludes my presentation. I hope you found it informative.

In closing, I would like to express my sincerest gratitude and extend my best regards.

I'm pleased to have this opportunity to hear from you.

I believe I may be able to help you understand the concepts of attachment and independence better.

It is possible that certain opportunities, experiences of interacting with others, or things that happened to people close to you may prompt you to reflect on the concepts of attachment and independence. In my opinion, the notion of independence encompasses not only the emotional and personal aspects, but also economic and intellectual independence.

In addition to relationships with others, we also have a relationship with ourselves. Our relationships with others may be connected in four ways.

If we aspire to become more independent, we can consider working on these four aspects. For instance, in terms of finances, we could explore the possibility of becoming financially independent by seeking assistance from our parents while also pursuing our own income-generating activities.

Emotionally, it would be beneficial to move from dependence on others to reliance on oneself, and even have the ability to be relied on and provide emotional support to others. At the ideological and personality levels, it might be helpful to pay attention to observing your own way of thinking and inner beliefs, see your own thoughts, and question whether your thoughts are objective enough or whether there are other possible ways of thinking.

It would be beneficial to keep an open mind, communicate with others, discover people with independent thinking and personality, and learn from them.

You are perceptive and sensitive to interpersonal dynamics. We hope you will continue to reflect and keep up the good work! If you ever feel confused again, please do not hesitate to come back anytime. We are here for you.

The questioner has asked an excellent question!

The amazing thing about relationships is that they're everywhere! It's hard to explain the seemingly ordinary relationships because they feel endless. I bet the questioner came here to ask this question because of this feeling, too!

"Relationships are everything." I absolutely believe this is a "high-level summary" of how interactions and connections between people arise and, in turn, how they function!

Humans are social animals, and we are the product of relationships!

In ancient times, humans thrived in groups. It's through these connections that we survived and thrived. It's no surprise that without "having a relationship" with others, humans would not have been able to thrive to this day at the social and biological levels, and human civilization would not have developed to the point it has today.

In today's world, humans have the incredible ability to use the Internet to avoid establishing direct relationships with others and having direct interactions with them. Despite this, it is still people and relationships of all kinds that support the existence and development of everything!

The information age has made relationships invisible on the one hand, but also brought people closer together on the other, to the extent that "a single hair can move the whole world."

And there's so much more! There are other relationships that we can explore and discover. We can look at our relationship with ourselves, the relationship between humans and nature, the relationship between the earth and the universe, and so many other relationships that we still don't know about.

I absolutely agree with the questioner's statement that "relationships are everything and everything is for relationships."

I have to respectfully disagree with the statements that "when it comes to living alone, a person's relationships are bound to be dead" and "without family and friends, we face extinction." I believe that these statements may be perceived as applying to a certain kind of relationship, rather than all relationships.

This has to do with whether an individual is independent, but it is not the same thing. The great news is that being independent does not necessarily mean having to "live alone," although one can if they want to! And being independent does not mean losing relatives and friends, although one may lose them as a result.

Even if an individual's physical life one day disappears from this world, it doesn't mean they're no longer connected to it! They still have a "relationship" with this world, except that this relationship is hidden in a place that no one "can see" or "knows."

I really hope this has helped the questioner understand relationships better! Wishing you the best!

Dear Questioner, You have inquired, "What are relationships, and what do they truly entail?"

"Firstly, I commend your awareness of the significance of relationships and your subsequent reflection on the subject. Let us examine your query together.

You inquire as to the true nature of relationships. You have encountered the assertion that "when it comes to living alone, a person's relationships must be dead relationships," "relationships are everything and everything is for relationships," and "people live to be attached to relationships."

It appears that the existence of family and friends is a prerequisite for human survival. Consequently, the question arises as to whether people are truly independent. After reviewing your inquiry, it is evident that you have devoted considerable thought to the subject of relationships. You have presented your own perspectives on relationships, as well as areas of confusion.

Let me endeavor to respond to your query and assist you in clarifying your confusion regarding the nature of relationships.

What is the precise definition of the term "relationship"?

A relationship can be defined as the state of things interacting and influencing each other. It can also be understood as the direct psychological relationship or psychological distance between people during activities.

Relationships can be classified as either formal or informal, with informal relationships being more prevalent and enduring than their formal counterparts. The term "relationship" has been used to describe interpersonal connections for millennia. However, the term "relationship" has a specific denotation: the utilization of interpersonal resources to pursue political or economic benefits.

In Western literature, relationships are frequently characterized as "a special relationship" (special relationship). However, the degree of specificity required to define a relationship remains a topic of debate. Additionally, some scholars have proposed alternative definitions, including particularistic ties, friendship, connection, exchange, and social capital. While these definitions offer insight into the multifaceted nature of relationships, they do not provide a comprehensive account of the entire relationship spectrum.

A relationship is defined as a process of social interaction that occurs between two individuals. Various classifications exist within the field of relationship studies.

Some individuals differentiate between emotional relationships and those of a utilitarian nature. However, in practice, the two are often conflated, rendering them difficult to distinguish.

In sociological terms, relationships represent a distinctive form of interpersonal interaction, one that is particularly prevalent in Chinese society. This concept plays a pivotal role in Fei Xiaotong's theory of the differential order pattern. As Fei elucidates, in traditional Chinese society, "social relationships are gradually extended from one person to another, and the social scope is a network composed of these personal connections."

The aforementioned excerpt merely scratches the surface of the term "relationship," which is inherently intricate.

People are driven by an inherent need for attachment. It can be argued that without the support of family and friends, individuals may face significant challenges in maintaining their well-being. This raises the question: are people truly independent?

The question, then, is how a person can maintain intimacy with others in a relationship while also maintaining their independence. I recently read an article that addressed this very topic.

The study of relationships is a lifelong endeavor that requires significant time and effort. Humans are social creatures who rely on group dynamics for survival.

For a group to function optimally, there are certain rules and order that must be followed. These rules are primarily from the perspective of the group, considering how to ensure its continued existence and growth.

However, when living in a group, individuals must adhere to the established rules. In some cases, this may result in a conflict between the interests of the group and those of the individual.

It is not prudent to prioritize one interest over another. Consequently, individuals must learn to navigate group dynamics, cultivate connections with others, nurture close relationships, and simultaneously maintain their autonomy.

I extend my best wishes to the questioner and hope that my response has been of some assistance.

I recently read that being isolated is just as damaging as depression.

Relationships can be simple or complex.

Some relationships are chosen, while others are not.

There are also some things we can't choose.

I see relationships as an intangible asset.

We can use it or not.

It's like you have a blank, beautiful notebook.

It's great to have it, but you can also choose to make the most of it.

If you think a good life is rich and colorful, then relationships are your third perspective.

Our families, friends, partners, classmates, colleagues, and teachers can help us gain different perspectives on the world and gain more experiences through empathy and listening.

If success and wealth are what we consider a good life,

Building up your network of contacts, clients, family ties, etc. is a more effective way to go about things than going it alone.

Sometimes, relationships just require a little bit of luck.

Sometimes, true love and a soulmate find you without any effort.

But more often than not, you need to go through a lot of people before you realize it.

What if you met your soulmate or lifelong partner tomorrow?

What can you do to get ready?

You might think, "I haven't been running lately, my skin isn't in great shape, I have a lot of work/school to do, and I always complain about life with my friends..."

"I'm not quite ready yet."

Imagine there were 10 strangers in front of you. Someone told you that one of them would end up being the most important person in your life at some point in the future.

How would you know it when you see it?

It's tough to judge something like this based on just one conversation or encounter.

So, we need to put in more "relationship practice" and "relationship investment."

Living alone gives us our own space and helps us to be more in control of ourselves.

This is a positive thing.

But it's never a bad thing to socialize.

It's similar to exercising and eating well, going on morning runs and getting enough sleep, and practicing calligraphy and going paperless.

On the other hand, they can actually help each other out.

When we're more independent in our lives, we might be less willing to play by the rules in our relationships.

Is it possible to relax better on your own and still be true to yourself in relationships?

Dear Questioner, Good day. I am pleased to have this opportunity to discuss the issue of relationships with you.

Firstly, I would like to clarify the context of the first sentence: "Regarding living alone, a person's relationships must be dead." I am unsure if the question is about someone who is currently living alone or someone who is considering living alone. I have also read articles about the experiences of many people at different stages of life who live alone.

Or being self-sufficient, positive, and confident to the point of being enviable, or lonely and strong to the point of being emotionally vulnerable.

Below their shared posts, there are different voices: "You will definitely regret it," "I envy your freedom," and so on. I have carefully observed and analyzed their daily lives.

It is notable that despite residing alone, a significant proportion of individuals maintain close connections with others. Even those who are geographically distant from their loved ones can find solace and companionship in the form of pets or leisure activities.

Everyone has a unique approach to life, striving to achieve a sense of comfort and inner peace. Despite external influences, they remain steadfast in their inner direction.

In summary, while the course of life cannot be altered, the scenery we see along the way is a choice we make. If you are confident that your choice will not result in regret, then courageously let go of everything that does not align with your goals, so that you can more effectively embrace the life you desire.

The second sentence, "Relationships are everything, everything is about relationships," and "People live to be attached to relationships," is reminiscent of a common refrain: "All troubles come from interpersonal relationships." The central message of these words is the importance of interpersonal relationships.

I am unsure if you have experienced difficulties in your relationships since childhood. For instance, perhaps your mother was not present to provide companionship, and you craved warmth but were unable to obtain it.

At the outset of your academic career, did you have the benefit of friends to provide companionship and mitigate your apprehensions? Frequently, we are significantly influenced by relationship issues without being fully conscious of it.

It would be beneficial to take stock of our current and past experiences by opening our hearts and thinking about what problems have caused the same feelings. This can be done by looking at ourselves from the perspective of the present.

It is important to analyse the situation rationally and objectively, and to avoid deceiving either yourself or others. With this approach, we may be able to find an answer that is convincing to all parties.

It is my belief that no individual exists in isolation. Despite the growing trend of individuals in modern society choosing not to marry or have children, they remain connected to society.

Nevertheless, we remain connected to our parents, friends, and colleagues. Independence does not entail isolation or the dissolution of all relationships.

It is preferable to address relationship issues in order to gain greater autonomy and contentment.

I highly recommend that the original poster read "Social Psychology" by Miles. I came across this book a year ago and it has proved invaluable to me ever since. As the author says, "To live a wiser, more valuable, and more passionate life."

I hope you will find my comments and this book to be helpful.

I wish you a life full of happiness and success.

Hello, question asker! I'm Evan, and I'm thrilled to be here!

I'm not sure what the questioner's views on relationships are, but I'm excited to find out! It seems like the questioner has some interesting ideas about relationships and how to live alone in society.

The questioner may have experienced some challenges in their relationships with others. But here's the good news: the way we interact with others is often influenced by the way we communicate with our parents in our original family. So, if the questioner lives in the city and interacts with others at work, there's a great opportunity to establish some simple, positive relationships with others. And who knows? The questioner might even consider going to the mountains alone to live a reclusive life.

From the moment we are born, we are surrounded by all kinds of relationships! There are our parents, our parents' parents, our relatives, and as we grow up, we also make friends, some of whom we even become close to and have a good time with!

These relationships are constantly being built up as we grow up, and it's an amazing process! These relationships are often the connection between us and other people, the connection between us and society, and even the connection between ourselves and society.

What is a relationship? If you search for it on a search engine, you'll find that a relationship is the mutual connection between people, between people and things, and between things.

The relationship the questioner refers to is all about the connections between people and the links between them. I don't know what the questioner has been through, but it's great to see them thinking about relationships in such a positive way!

This got the questioner thinking about relationships. And you know what? Living alone or having your own relationships isn't necessarily a bad thing.

I think this sentence is still too general. But it's missing something! From ancient times to the present, many people have lived alone in seclusion in the mountains and forests, severing their worldly ties and not having excessive connections with others except for some necessary survival needs. And they are living well and have no problems!

I think the phrase "death" is really about the disappearance of interpersonal relationships, one's own links to people and things in society, and one's own sense of existence in society. It's a fascinating concept!

"Relationships are everything, everything is about relationships," and "people live to be attached to relationships." These sayings are all about the incredible fact that if a person needs to survive and develop well in a society, they really cannot do without various relationships.

China is a society of human relationships, and it's a wonderful thing! It's often expected to develop relationships with people, and some people even consider it a source of pride to have various relationships and the ability to solve problems in relationships. Of course, if the questioner can solve the problem of survival through their own channels, they can reduce the interaction between these relationships.

Because everyone's needs are different, relationships can be a wonderful, exciting adventure!

About independence: I'd love to know what the OP thinks about independence!

If you're ready to live independently, then go for it! Living alone is a great way to live your best life.

Embrace the challenge and be prepared to face difficulties on your own! Living alone means you're ready to take on the trials and tribulations of life with confidence, relying on yourself and your abilities.

This is the act of a brave person. I wonder if the questioner is also prepared for something similar? To bear the consequences of your own life alone, and to face all the problems that arise in your life, big and small, alone—it's a thrilling adventure!

Absolutely! Even if the questioner is already prepared to live independently, they can still maintain a certain connection with the outside world. Living alone does not mean cutting off all contact with the outside world. It means facing various problems in life alone and relying on one's own abilities to solve them.

Absolutely! Relationships can help people establish links with society. And if you don't want to have too many attachments, or want to live alone and contemplate your own life, living alone is also a great way to go!

It's amazing how letting go of everything can give us a whole new way of living! I really hope my answer helps the questioner.

This question from the original poster brings to mind an answer from a book I greatly admire: "The purpose of relationships is to allow you to create who you are."

It could be said that relationships are an opportunity for us to show who we choose to be in the moment. While relationships may appear to be about other people, they are, in fact, about who we choose to be.

In a relationship, it's not so much about having a specific person, but rather about the experience of being in a relationship. Without a relationship, it can be challenging to fully understand who you are. Just as without left and right, there is no existence, without hot and cold, there is no existence.

Perhaps one of the biggest myths about relationships is that we use them in the wrong way, so that they never bring us what we want, no matter what it is. It's possible that we think of relationships as being about how well we can meet other people's expectations and how well other people can meet our expectations, rather than how well we can meet our own expectations.

When you focus on other people, you may find yourself feeling a bit confused. It's possible that you'll get lost in the different standards of expectation that everyone has. It's like, for some people, a 120-pound girl is very thin, but for others, she is too fat. The word expectation can sometimes have a negative effect on relationships. It can make a person do things that are not their own and seek the love of another person.

It's similar to what many parents tell their children: "You have to get first place in the exam, or I won't love you anymore." This can lead the child to subconsciously believe that love is conditional and that love is a transaction.

Furthermore, children may experience feelings of anxiety. In a school setting, there are often hundreds or thousands of students in each grade, yet only one individual can receive this love. It is understandable that such a situation could lead to feelings of anxiety. Even if they do receive it, they may also become afraid of losing it, unless they can consistently achieve the highest grades.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the following: watermelons are often larger and sweeter than strawberries. Could it be that watermelons are therefore more valuable than strawberries, and that only watermelons are worth liking?

I don't believe there is a right or wrong way to live. Each person's experience is unique. For some, living alone has its own benefits. Being alone can help people gain wisdom. When you are always in a crowd, you may find yourself influenced by the collective consciousness, which can sometimes prevent you from thinking independently. Living alone allows you to find inner peace, which can help you observe things more calmly and rethink whether the things that the collective consciousness has always taken for granted are really beneficial to you.

If I might offer my personal advice, it would be to consider whether it might be more beneficial to live alone if you are unable to live with someone who you can be 100% yourself in front of, or who can accept you completely, love you unconditionally, is wiser than you, or with whom you can feel at peace. If it doesn't make you a better person, then perhaps it would be more beneficial to live alone.

Hello! I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and I'm sending you a 360-degree hug.

This is a really deep question. At the end of the day, relationships are really everything, and we all live for relationships.

So, what exactly is a relationship? I think a relationship is the connection between one person and everything else, and the interaction between two or more individuals who are independent but connected.

But these relationships have a hierarchy and are classified. From what I've seen, there are three levels of relationships that are most important to us.

The first level is all about your relationship with yourself. This includes how you see yourself as a person, your own value, your own position, and so on.

The second level is about relationships with other people and things. This could be intimate relationships, parent-child relationships, friendships, or even relationships with certain things, like pets or hobbies. You can also view other people and things as objects. This means having a relationship with something, rather than with a person or animal.

The third level is the relationship with society, with an object, which is relatively specific and has a name and surname. For example, there's Zhang San, Li Si, and Wang Ma Zi. The relationship with society is more abstract.

It could be the neighborhood property management company, the company, the shopping mall, the government agency, etc., or even the "relevant department" that no one has heard of.

I believe there is a fourth level of relationship, which is a relationship with abstract meaning or a certain concept, such as studying for China's rise and fighting for people's happiness. In fact, there are many people in China who have lofty ideals and meaning.

I believe that life is not only about the stars and the sea, but also about our everyday experiences.

The most basic relationship we have is with ourselves. When we're in sync with ourselves, it's easier to navigate our relationships with others and with things around us.

I'd also recommend reading Adler's individual psychology. His views can be summed up very simply: our lives are our own choices, people can change, and our ultimate goal is community with others. Another good read is Kishimi Ichiro's book, "The Courage to Be Disliked," which explains Adler's ideas in a simpler, more accessible way.

The relationships that affect us the most are our relationships with other people, like parent-child relationships and intimate relationships, as well as friendships.

In China, many people live for their loved ones, their families, and their children. They're our deepest concerns in this world, and they're also a way to combat loneliness and emptiness.

In the past, I didn't feel it, but now I feel that these deep ties give my life meaning. After all, I don't have any lofty ideals.

So, if you can, I'd suggest you put some emotion into managing your own relationships, especially those with your family.

The third level of relationship is the social relationship. This is also related to the relationship with the self. People who are in tune with themselves may also find it easier to handle their relationships with society.

I like to think of this relationship as functional.

For instance, property management serves property owners. Think of it as a service organization with rights, obligations, and rules. You have to interact with it and follow the rules. But at the same time, the specific service personnel are flesh-and-blood individuals, so you can't interact with them in a cold-blooded manner.

This is because they may not have a lot of power or earn a high salary, but if they are not managed properly, it can cause significant issues. This is why it is important to get the relationship right.

Another example is work, cooperation with colleagues, and the company as a mutually beneficial exchange. But when it comes to a specific colleague, they're also a real person with emotions.

How we handle relationships is related to how we see ourselves and others.

I'd also recommend reading books like "Social Psychology" or "Sociology" to gain a better understanding of the underlying logic of society.

Ultimately, though, I think relationships are about your relationship with yourself. I suggest you talk to a counselor.

I'm a counselor who's often Buddhist and sometimes pessimistic, occasionally positive and motivated. I love the world and I love you.

Good day, landlord. I am grateful for the opportunity to engage in this discussion with you.

With regard to the term "relationship," we may glean the following insight from Baidu:

It could be said that relationships refer to the state of interaction and mutual influence between things.

It would be beneficial to consider the direct psychological relationship or psychological distance between people during an activity. It is also important to acknowledge that relationships can be divided into formal and informal relationships, with informal relationships being older and more common than formal relationships.

From the above description, we can gain insight into the sociological significance of relationships. They play a crucial role in our survival and development, enabling us to thrive and lead better lives.

1. Could you please elaborate on how relationships affect us?

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, it could be said that relationships are closely related to our needs.

It would seem that when the basic physiological and safety needs are being developed, they require a certain material foundation as a guarantee, plus the support of an emotional environment.

For instance, an emotional environment in the family could be defined as a context where family members have relatively high-quality responses to their emotions and feelings, which fosters a sense of closeness among them.

At the third level, we find the concepts of love and a sense of belonging, as well as the need for respect. These require that individuals be placed in groups, whether that be a school, a community, or even a larger collective, such as a state or society. This allows for greater productivity, the allocation of greater social resources, and the two-way development of the individual and the collective.

For instance, over the past three years of the epidemic, the close relationship between the state and the people has led to nationwide protests to ensure the utmost protection of life within the limits of their capabilities. This is an excellent illustration of the state's commitment to fostering a strong sense of belonging for its citizens.

Ultimately, once the aforementioned four needs have been met, the fifth level of needs is "self-practice."

And it could be said that this part also encompasses the relationship between the self and the world.

It could be said that the process of moving from the "small self" to the "great self" involves a greater degree of giving, dedication, and selflessness.

For instance, many of us are acquainted with the actor Hu Ge. His numerous public welfare activities suggest that he plays a significant role as a communicator, yet it is unclear who his primary audience is. It could be the general public.

It is also worth noting that the relationship between the communicator and the receiver can become more influential and radiating as the communicator gains more influence.

2. Could you kindly elaborate on the different types of relationships?

From a psychological perspective, relationships can be broadly classified into three categories: self-relationships, attachment relationships, and object relationships.

The original poster also shared some interesting observations, including the idea that a person's relationship with solitude can be seen as a kind of relationship with death, that relationships are central to our lives, and that we tend to seek connections with others. These are some of the phenomena that occur at different stages of personality development.

It might be helpful to think about relationships in terms of both independence and interdependence.

For instance, during infancy, the growth of self-relations and attachment relationships tends to occur relatively quickly, with these two aspects of the relationship becoming prominent during this period. However, the development of self-relations is also a crucial aspect of personality development, and therefore, it is essential to consider it in a more integrated manner. It is important to recognize that these relationships are both independent and interdependent, and they do not develop in isolation.

I believe this is also a cause-and-effect relationship that is in sync with the level of our personality development.

The above all discusses the potential for developing relationships that position us as individuals within society.

Perhaps we could consider looking at things from a different perspective.

3. Could you kindly elaborate on the benefits of developing different types of relationships?

It could be said that relationships play a significant role in determining our sense of well-being.

I would like to respectfully respond to the original poster's question: "It seems that without our loved ones and friends, we face extinction. If this is the case, are people independent?"

It could be said that this is because people are social animals, and the communities and families we belong to are our bases and backgrounds, allowing us to settle down and find our place in the world.

In today's social context, the advent of the Internet and artificial intelligence often offers significant convenience, while also potentially reducing the distance between things.

However, data indicates that the emotional distance between people cannot be entirely eliminated by artificial intelligence alone. This suggests that the happiness we seek may be more closely tied to the depth of human interaction and communication.

For instance, it is likely that more visitors will opt to communicate with the consultant offline, even for private activities like online consultations, if they have the opportunity to do so. This is because it allows for a more authentic and interactive experience.

Happiness is a significant indicator of the quality of life for human beings. Our needs are perceived, seen, and met.

Similarly, it could be said that others also need the same emotional feedback and nourishment. With these links, there is the potential for the happiness of the whole life and even the social group to be continuously improved to a greater extent, and it also provides a very important support for the living standard.

In light of today's topic, the respondent offers some thoughts and insights in the hope of contributing to the discussion.

Perhaps we could encourage each other?

After reading your question, I have a feeling that you're looking to improve your interpersonal skills. It seems like you're struggling a bit in this area, which is totally normal! We all have our own unique challenges when it comes to relationships. I'm here to support you and answer your questions as best I can. Let's dive in!

Have you ever wondered what a relationship is? Well, according to the lovely folks at the Baidu Encyclopedia, a relationship is defined as:

A relationship is all about two people interacting and influencing each other. It's also about how close or distant we feel from each other when we're doing something together.

So, it makes total sense to talk about relationships on this platform, because they're so closely linked to psychology.

When it comes to living alone, it's natural for a person's relationships to take on a different shape. It's not that they're any less meaningful, but it's just that they're different.

First of all, let's chat about living alone. I'm not sure if the original poster is living alone, but it has its perks! You can do the things you love, whenever you want, without being bothered by other things going on. Especially for those of us with families, having a private space is a real treat!

On the other hand, living alone doesn't mean being isolated from the world. You can go out to buy food and cook, go to the supermarket to buy various daily necessities, order takeout, call a technician to come up and fix some electrical equipment, and even enjoy the fun you get from playing online games more than playing stand-alone games. So even if you live alone, as long as you want to ensure a certain quality of life, you will inevitably have relationships with the people around you.

And the more you have good relationships with the people around you, the more you'll get out of it. You'll get things like the vegetable seller giving you a little extra, or the repairman working a little harder.

I think this statement is spot on: a person's relationship is bound to be a relationship of death. From the definition of physics, we ultimately cannot avoid death, which is the final and necessary path for all living things.

But there's another way of looking at this. We can make the most of our time on earth, doing things we love and trying to be happy. There's no need to be so pessimistic.

It's all about relationships! Everything is connected to relationships in one way or another.

As I mentioned earlier, no matter how much you live alone, you still have to interact and cooperate with others. We all need each other's skills, and other people need you too!

Furthermore, humans have always needed to learn how to communicate, interact, and cooperate with others to achieve various goals. We need to integrate everyone's professional skills and strengths to achieve larger goals. For example, China's economic miracle would not have been possible without cooperation between people. Even if you have a unique secret technique, you are still part of a larger goal, and you need to combine the strengths of others to bring your value into play. This is how business management and teamwork came about.

We all live to be attached to relationships!

I truly believe that attachment relationships include relationships with parents, husband-and-wife relationships, and parent-child relationships.

Your relationship with your parents is one of the most important relationships you'll ever have. It starts when you're young and needs protection from adults. You learn to get along with your parents because you need their protection to survive. And your parents' words and actions have a big impact on your growth.

Marital relationship: Many of our needs and desires are driven by genetics. While lying down and single-mindedness are now popular for various reasons, our human instincts will inevitably develop sexual needs and the desire to reproduce offspring when we reach adulthood. We hope to combine with our partners to produce physical and mental pleasure; to psychologically identify with each other, support each other, and jointly fight against the uncertainties of society and nature; and in a higher dimension, to achieve a high degree of spiritual unity with our partners and become a perfect couple.

Parent-child relationship: When you have a child, you will feel love, you will become more responsible, feel the need and strength to protect and care for this little life, and at the same time become more tolerant of your partner and everyone else in society who is related to you. It's so wonderful to be a role model for your child and to be able to bless them in return! You hope to get along well with other people and pave a better path for your child in the future.

I truly believe that our children teach us how to become better people. It's so important to recognize that. Many companies are starting to pay attention to whether you're married when hiring because they know that a person with a sense of responsibility in marriage and family will be more mature, behave more appropriately, be more comfortable in handling relationships, and create greater value.

It's funny how we humans are wired to need family and friends. Without them, it's like we're facing extinction! So, are we truly independent?

It's so sad when people feel like they have no ties to the world and no value in connecting with others. It's like they feel worthless. This is a real problem that many people face. I don't know if the original poster has encountered similar problems. If so, we are willing to help the original poster. There is still so much beauty in the world waiting for us to embrace!

I think we can all agree that independence is a wonderful thing. It means being able to rely on yourself, take care of your own needs, live your own life, and not cause trouble for society. But I also believe that the highest level of independence is having a strong ability to independently achieve certain goals and create value. It's about attracting more people to follow you, cooperate with you, and form a team to achieve even greater goals and create even greater value.

I hope I've managed to clear up any confusion for the original poster. If you'd like to chat further, please feel free to send me a private message.

Hi! I'm excited to chat with you about the relationship between independence and attachment in relationships. When I think about these terms, I'm drawn to the extremes—the extremes of relationships and the extremes of independence.

Regarding living alone, a person's relationships must be relationships of death. It seems that without family and friends, we face extinction. But what if we could be independent and still have those relationships?

Living alone is a lifestyle, not a sign that a person has no social relationships. If a person feels that living alone can meet most of their needs, then why not? There is no standard answer to how everyone should live that is correct, so live your truth!

Independence is both spiritual and material. It's about having the freedom to be who you are and make your own choices. And relationships? They're the foundation of our personalities and material well-being. They're also essential for our emotional health. Independence and relationships are two sides of the same coin. They're not mutually exclusive. They support each other! Sometimes we need an independent material foundation to support our independent thinking. But we also need relationships to bring us back to reality and put our thinking and ideas into action.

In other words, it's essential to have the right relationships and the freedom to be alone when you need it.

Everything is about relationships!

It also makes me feel a bit paranoid. But there's a way to strike the right balance! If you emphasize relationships, don't fall into the trap of thinking that they're the whole of life. And if you emphasize independence, don't end up lonely! The most ideal state is to be aware that you're an independent individual, but also be flexible about how much time you spend alone and how much time you spend in social relationships. This way, you can be in a comfortable state most of the time!

People absolutely live to have attachment relationships!

From the moment we are born, we get to attach to our mother to gain the energy to survive. This innate attachment is necessary, and it may continue until we can truly take responsibility for our own lives before we can go out on our own and not be attached to our family. But this lack of attachment is also an ideal state, provided that the environment your parents give you is enough for you to grow into a physically and mentally healthy person.

It's great to have attachments! But it's not quite right to say that the purpose of living is to have attachments. Why not say that the purpose of living is to make oneself comfortable? Or to make oneself happy?

Have you ever wondered why people live for attachment? Well, I have an idea! Once you experience how to make yourself comfortable and happy, you can live for so much more than just attachment.

That's all for now! I really hope this helps. Take care!

Hello, I'm Zeyu, and I'm thrilled to be here!

What is a relationship? There's no one right answer to this question. There are as many interpretations and understandings as there are people!

The Baidu dictionary defines relationships as the mutual connections between people, between people and things, and between things. But for individuals, relationships are so much more than that!

It doesn't matter whether we live alone or in a group. We ultimately belong to nothing more than death. And death also means that physical relationships come to an end. I agree with the author of the question: "Regarding living alone, a person's relationships must be relationships of death." Not having relatives and friends does not mean facing death. And such people are able to remain independent. Independence does not mean that relationships come to an end. It means that they have reached a new stage!

I absolutely believe it depends on how we perceive and position this "relationship." For example, in reality, there are examples of people who simply cannot live without each other, such as Naruto and Sasuke in the Naruto anime. Of course, there are also so many other kinds of relationships between people!

Our understanding of "relationships" is determined by our own emotional, affective, cognitive, cultural, social, and even material pursuits. And it's all so fascinating! But where does the relationship go? The most fundamental thing is what meaning we attach to the relationship and what we put into it?

This is just my own personal take on relationships, but I think it's a pretty good one! It all depends on us and comes from us, so we can make it whatever we want it to be!

Hello, host!

After reading the original poster's question, I feel that they're currently feeling a bit confused and disordered when it comes to relationships. It's totally normal to have doubts about relationships after experiencing setbacks in interpersonal interactions.

I've been in a similar situation before, too! I'm not particularly keen on or good at interacting with people, and I'm also someone who is particularly curious and wants to find the answer to everything from the very beginning.

I totally get where you're coming from!

First of all, I just want to say that it's totally normal to have different opinions on this topic. After all, relationships are as unique as we are!

Sociologists will tell you that people have social attributes, that our lives are closely intertwined with those of others, and that relationships are the key to it all. Isn't that so true? Biologists may tell you that we have the genes of ancient humans flowing through our veins, and that these genes have already adapted us to group living. It's so interesting how we've evolved to rely on other people, isn't it? This is a genetically determined human instinct. Philosophers may put it this way: human relationships are the outward manifestation of the inner self and the outer self. Our relationships with others are actually used to reflect on ourselves. It's so fascinating how our relationships shape our inner selves!

And for you right now, after reading different answers, do you still feel that relationships are like air, something that is everywhere but cannot be seen or understood? I totally get it if you do!

My experience is that you don't have to figure it out. Just as we don't always have to pursue the philosophical question of where we came from and where we are going.

There are so many unanswered questions in the world! We'll slowly piece together our own answers to those that are difficult to answer for the time being along the way of life. So, there's really no need to rush to reveal the answer so quickly.

Please don't misunderstand me — I'm not asking you to avoid the question. I just want you to relax and read the rest of my words calmly.

I know lots of people have already given you great answers to your questions about the different types of relationships. I'm going to try to answer your questions from a different angle.

It's totally normal to have some doubts about relationships. It's not so much about the relationships themselves, but more about yourself. It's natural to feel a bit confused about your identity sometimes.

So, why not transfer this doubt about yourself to doubt about relationships? If you agree with this perspective, I'd love for you to try to understand yourself.

If you don't see things my way, I'd still love to share my thoughts on relationships with you. I hope they'll help you see things a little differently.

This insight is related to the "independence" you mentioned in your question. What is a relationship?

I think we can all agree that there must be two ends, right? One end is yourself, and the other end is another existence.

When you take a closer look at the word "relationship," you'll see that it's a reminder that you're a unique person with your own thoughts, feelings, and experiences. It's a way of acknowledging that you and other people, things, and beings are all different, but equally valuable.

I think the heart of your question is about whether relationships are essential for survival, whether they're an end in themselves, and whether independence requires isolation from relationships. I feel that relationships aren't an end in themselves, and that human relationships aren't entirely necessary for survival in today's society. But we can't deny that we don't live in a vacuum!

Even if you live alone, you are still connected to other people or things in some way. I don't think we should be too cautious about relationships. Even the air you breathe is made by trees through photosynthesis! The relationship between other people and you is just a connection between you and the world around you.

This brings us back to the confusion you mentioned above about "independence." I totally get it! People have subjective initiative, and this is the basis of our sense of independence.

Our society encourages us to be independent, and there's a good reason for that! It means that each of us is not only an independent individual in the biological sense, but also that we should have our own thoughts, logic, and judgment system, and be able to make our own decisions. The pursuit of independence allows us to better understand ourselves, clarify our own position, and ultimately allow us to control our actions and even our thinking, and thus control our lives.

Independence is also a relative concept, and its opposite is precisely the concept of attachment, which you mentioned. When the human brain thinks about concepts, it always compares them. In order for people to improve themselves and for society to progress, they need a reference.

So, our pursuit of independence can only be realized in relationships. If we are by ourselves, there's no way to talk about independence. But, even in a modern society full of relationships, it doesn't stop you from pursuing your own independence!

I like to think of relationships with others as a mirror. They help us reflect on ourselves, become independent, and embark on our own journey of life experience.

I hope you find these views helpful! I wrote them all in one go, so they might be a bit self-indulgent, but I really want to help you.

I really hope you'll find the answer you're looking for one day. And when you do, it'll be the perfect answer for you!

Your relationships reflect your inner character. Your character influences the type of external relationship you have, and relationships are a reflection of your destiny.

A study conducted by Harvard University over a 75-year period concluded that a good and stable intimate relationship can contribute to an individual's overall happiness. However, the study did not indicate that the absence of such a relationship leads to significant distress or even extinction.

Ultimately, everyone will die. Therefore, the outcome is inconsequential because it is ultimately the same. What is important is the process, and the process should be engaging.

Additionally, it is important to consider the concept of a friend in a broader sense. A friend does not necessarily have to be a person; a book, a hobby, or even a sport can also serve as a source of friendship. The key is to engage with these elements from the bottom of your heart. If your personality is such that you prefer to live alone, then it is perfectly acceptable to do so.

If you are seeking a positive and stable intimate relationship but are currently unable to establish one, it is important to recognize that this is a common experience. Meeting a soulmate, or a partner with whom you have a spiritual connection, can be challenging, and it is not something that can be forced.

The question of how one should live one's life is a philosophical one with no clear answer. There is no prescriptive model of how to live one's life. The key is to enjoy your life as it is, to find pleasure in it, and to be happy.

Based on the experiences of those in my circle, I have found that a fulfilling, enriching, and enjoyable life on one's own is often preferable to a less optimal relationship.

I hope this information is useful to you.

Hello, landlord! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I am reminded of an amazing quote from Zeng Qifeng about relationships: People are social animals. The more relationships you have, the more nourishment you get, and the faster and better you grow! A nourishing relationship should be one that is full of trust and friendship, and one that gives and takes, nourishing both love and freedom.

And the best part is that the more nourishing, loving relationships a person has in their heart, the more bold they can become in pursuing happiness and success!

Indeed, as human beings, we really cannot do without relationships. And the great thing is, within a relationship, we can still be independent. Independence and dependence are not actually contradictory, nor are relationships and solitude. What we need is actually a balance, so that we are not weighed down by relationships, but can be ourselves in relationships and realize our own value in them. What we need is more of a nourishing relationship, that is, a supportive relationship, rather than a draining one. A "toxic relationship" is of course even worse than being alone, and our relationship with ourselves is actually also a relationship, and the most important one at that.

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From an evolutionary psychology perspective, we absolutely need relationships! It is only in relationships that we feel safe and have a sense of belonging.

Our ancestors in the primeval forest faced incredible challenges, from floods to fierce beasts. If humans were alone, they would have been eaten by wild animals and swept away by floods. Those who were used to acting alone would have been eliminated by nature. But those of us living in the modern era have the amazing ability to stick together for warmth and cooperate with each other. It is through cooperation that humans have defeated wild animals, escaped many dangers, and become the "masters" of the earth!

So, if we're isolated from relationships and social interaction, we'll feel a strange, indescribable fear and tension. We'll feel insecure, without a sense of belonging and security. But, if we're together with others, we'll feel safe and at ease! I'll never forget that year when Henan was hit by severe flooding. People trapped on the lower floors came together with those on the upper floors, and they felt at ease! Being together with others makes us feel safe.

So, this is why we need relationships! And it's because we feel uneasy when we're isolated and helpless.

2. Independence and the need for relationships are not at odds with each other. In fact, we can be our authentic selves in relationships!

The good news is that true independence doesn't mean having no relationships at all. It also doesn't mean being completely independent of anyone. Especially in modern society, where the division of labor is becoming increasingly clear, we will become more and more inclined to cooperate in a division of labor. We need to maximize our own advantages and complement each other's strengths to realize our respective values in society.

However, we all have our own value in relationships! It can also be said that it is difficult for us to realize our own value if we are not in a relationship. If no one eats the food we cook, then it is difficult for a chef to realize his value. If a writer's articles are not read, then it is difficult for him to realize his value as a writer. If a teacher has no students to teach, then it is difficult for him to feel his value. But we can change this!

Absolutely! We can absolutely live our lives independently without family and friends. We need to take responsibility for our own lives. We are not in relationships to completely rely on others and make them responsible for our lives. Rather, we need to be ourselves in relationships. When you want to be a certain kind of person, if you don't have a strong enough belief or encounter some obstacles, wouldn't you feel more motivated if you have the encouragement and support of your family and friends?

Absolutely! We can absolutely rely on each other and be independent at the same time. When they are in trouble, we can help them within our abilities; and when we are in trouble, we can also seek help from others with an open heart. It is precisely because people can support and help each other that our human society continues to develop and progress, right?

There are so many kinds of relationships! We can choose to socialize selectively and manage our relationships with ourselves. When we are internally harmonious, we will be more harmonious when looking at the outside world.

There are so many kinds of relationships in life! Some relationships drain you and make you feel inadequate, inferior, attacked, and doubted. These are not healthy relationships. But other relationships make you feel very comfortable, where you are nurtured and supported, and can inspire you to break through and challenge yourself to become a better version of yourself. These are healthy, supportive relationships!

So, let's make a change! We need to selectively socialize and spend more time with those who can nourish and support us. This will help us feel good, like ourselves more, become more confident, and become more independent.

And there's more! We also need to pay attention to our relationship with ourselves. You know what? When you feel that other people don't like you and don't recognize you, you may feel that there is something wrong with the relationship.

But the great news is that we can change our relationship with ourselves! According to the psychological projection effect, if we don't like and approve of ourselves enough, we will feel that others don't like and approve of us either. But we can change that! At this time, if we still haven't changed our relationship with ourselves, we will always feel uncomfortable when we are with others. But we can change that too! Even when others approve of you, you will find it hard to feel it. But we can change that!

So, it's really important for us to focus on our relationship with ourselves. When we expect others to recognize us, we learn to recognize ourselves. When we expect others to like us, we learn to like ourselves. When we need others to respect us, we learn to respect ourselves. And when we long for others to care for and love us, we learn to care for and love ourselves!

Best regards! I'm so excited to see you soon!