She is very good to her friends but she feels under immense pressure, not providing what she truly needs.

She's a good friend, but she feels pressure and doesn't get what she needs.

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Happy Horse

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Little Pearl

Good answer.

Your friend is in their third year of high school. They focus on their studies, and buying them things won't help.

It's because of your friend's age.

Everyone has their own goals and views.

Friendship

Some people like to be with people who are not as good as them because it is less stressful.

It's easy to be with someone simple and clumsy.

Some people like to be with independent people. They admire independent people and only make friends with them. They believe that independent people will not rely on others, will not overly instruct and rely on friends, and will not do anything to make friends lose face. Over time, they will only be with independent people.

Some people have fixed tastes and ideas about friendship.

If people don't meet his standards, he'll stop interacting with them.

Selecting friends is good for you and others.

In family, friendship, or other relationships, there needs to be a limit.

Separating the wrong people early is good for everyone.

This is why universities have to specialize. Even if everyone studies together, they have different preferences, talents, and strengths.

Forcing the wrong people together is hard to bear. Life is long, and the pressure is too great to always tolerate it.

If you stop him using his strengths, it will hurt him and make him lose confidence. He needs a companion who can meet his needs.

If he's with people who don't help him, he'll feel bad. It's not his fault.

He just doesn't fit in. As long as he leaves the current circle to find one that suits him, he will also use his strengths and work hard to live his life.

Support each other.

Treat the other person as an ordinary friend. If you've done your best to be nice and it still doesn't work, she may need to keep trying. She'll be happy when she gets what she wants.

Love yourself and others.

I hope you have a happy life!

Hello, my child! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

You can actually explore why she feels so much pressure, and what exactly she feels pressured about. Is it your expectations for her college entrance exam results? Is it the fact that your kindness towards her makes her feel that she needs to reciprocate in the same way? Or is it something else? And what she really needs, you can only find out through effective communication between you. It's hard to guess, but it'll be worth it! If what she wants is not something that costs little but means a lot, or not even material things, but just emotional support and encouragement, then giving her things is just as unlikely to satisfy her needs. So it's important to communicate effectively.

I've got some great advice for you!

It's time to explore why you want to be good to her and to yourself!

You feel that you have a good relationship with her and you want to show her your care and attention. Then, have you ever wondered why you want to be nice to her? Why do you want to spoil her so much?

What do you want from the relationship? What needs do you want to satisfy?

Is it respect and recognition from her? Or being seen and noticed?

Or is there something else? And when she said you put a lot of pressure on her, how did you feel?

Are you ready to find out what you need to treat her differently? Do you feel that some of your needs are not being met? And what do you want to get in return if you want to treat her differently?

This is a great way to discover what you really need!

2. Let's explore why she feels pressured when you are nice to her. What are her real needs?

Let's find out why she feels so much pressure when you're kind to her! Could it be that she's already feeling the weight of the college entrance exam, and that other people's kindness just adds to that?

It's possible that she doesn't want to receive too much attention from others because she feels that she has to give back the same amount, which will instead drain her of more energy. I don't know exactly what it is, and maybe she doesn't know it herself either. This is something we can work on together! By being aware and exploring this together, we can find out what her real needs are and give her the help she really needs.

3. Communicate effectively. A healthy and good relationship is one of mutual nourishment and support! It's a relationship in which each partner gives the other what they really need.

Once you've identified your own needs and can clearly understand the other person's needs, you can give each other what you really need in the relationship! This will help your relationship grow and flourish, allowing you to nourish and support each other in this relationship and maintain a long-lasting friendship.

Ready to achieve this state? It's all about learning to communicate effectively in a relationship! There are two simple steps. First, you and your partner need to communicate in a calm state. Second, you can't use criticism or blame. Once you've got those two things down, it's time to share your feelings, needs, and requests.

For example, you can say to her: "I feel a bit confused when you say that buying you food makes you feel stressed. I really want to help you in any way I can during this difficult time. Can you tell me how you'd like me to help you? Then just listen to what she has to say and what kind of help she really needs. Just listen attentively and give her the help she wants, rather than insisting on caring for her in your own way, which will only make her feel worse.

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!

Hello, question asker.

I don't know if you're a guy.

If you treat her like a younger sister, how would she see you?

If she saw you as a brother, will your enthusiasm pressure her? Do you like her as a girl?

If she's stressed, be there for her.

She won't buy something if she feels embarrassed about it.

She's in her last year of high school, so she might not want to think about things on her own because her emotions could affect her studies.

If she needs your help.

If she's stressed and wants to talk, listen.

If you listen patiently, you'll support her.

If she needs to talk, she can ask to speak to you.

You can choose not to contact each other, but it won't affect your relationship.

Be nice to others, even if it's not what you think is nice.

If someone likes apples, they won't like bananas.

You meant well, but it caused trouble.

You can't control what others think, but you can minimize the impact. I'm sure you'll also put her studies first.

Good luck!