Should girls be more proactive in dating or should boys take the initiative?

I'm learning in silence.

You seem like an introverted girl who doesn't express her feelings well. You're also confused about relationships and feelings. Are you suffering?

Let's work through this together. I hope it helps.

If you think a guy is nice, treat you well, is motivated, and is your type, you can try to contact him. If it goes against your character, you probably won't feel comfortable doing it. So, within the limits you're comfortable with, take the initiative to send messages to the guy. If he sends you a message three times, you can send one or two messages. If he gives you a gift or invites you to dinner, you can return the favor. This will show your good manners and encourage the guy to be more proactive.

Second, Chinese girls should be reserved to make boys respect them. You can take the initiative, but let the boy take the lead. If he responds, he'll be encouraged. Take the initiative if you're comfortable and it fits your character.

If you're still unsure about taking the initiative or how to contact someone, it means you're not comfortable. Spend your time alone learning and improving yourself. Then, when you're together, enjoy the time you spend together. While you're struggling with how to get along, you can learn to make being alone more down-to-earth and reassuring.

Summary: Learn to be alone, and then be polite and considerate in a relationship. Maintaining independence while loving the other person is good. So learn to get along with yourself, so that you can get along with boys better. Otherwise, it's like avoidant attachment: when you're together, you're constrained, and when you're not together, you miss them and feel lonely. So learn slowly, when you're not together, just busy yourself with fulfilling and worthwhile things, and when you're together, enjoy the sweetness. Being comfortable together is a good relationship.

Learn to have a good relationship with yourself and others.

Good morning, host.

It could be said that love is irresistible when two people are attracted to each other. It may also be helpful to consider that love must be spoken and actively expressed.

Perhaps being too reserved might result in missing opportunities and could give the other person the impression that you are not as proactive as you could be.

There is no hard and fast rule as to who is more active or passive. In general, boys tend to be more active, while girls often respond positively as the main mode of getting along with each other.

This can result in boys feeling more masculine and girls feeling more reserved and introverted, which can lead to a sense of being feminine.

It is, of course, not possible for two people who are in a committed relationship to be together every day. While love is an important part of our lives, it is not the only thing that matters.

Our lives also encompass other important aspects, such as learning, work, friends and family, exercising, and hobbies.

Many people tend to prioritize their work and may sometimes overlook other important aspects of their lives, such as financial stability, maintaining relationships with loved ones and friends, and pursuing personal interests.

It would be beneficial for them to also take care of their own bodies and develop some hobbies.

It is also important for two people in love to maintain their independence, avoid becoming overly dependent on each other, and refrain from trying to control one another.

It is the original combination of two people, as long as they are happy with each other.

It would be beneficial to be willing to show patience and to change your own little flaws in order to make the other person happier.

It is worth noting that a relationship that is constantly in flux can be exhausting. It is my hope that, regardless of who makes the first move, a comfortable relationship will last longer and be stronger.

Love can be seen as a process of finding oneself through another person.

It is a wonderful emotional experience, regardless of who takes the initiative.

I truly hope you are able to have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

I am Warm June, and I extend my love and best wishes to you all!

Dear questioner, Hello! From your question, I can see that you have certain thoughts and behaviors regarding relationships. I can sense that you are very persistent in your own ideas, which I admire! Your confusion lies in the fact that you have not found someone who shares your frequency, so you are also a little confused about these thoughts and behaviors of your own. You want to persist, but you are also worried.

I don't think your thinking is wrong at all! Everyone has their own ideas and thoughts, and that's totally normal. You seem very introverted and delicate, so I think if you want to find someone who shares the same frequency as you without changing yourself, you can start with interests.

You've already expressed what you want, what you think, and what you do. But have you considered that when two people get together, they have to consider not only themselves but also the other person? Even if you have similar interests, there will always be differences. How do you consider these differences?

First, if you want to consider someone with the same frequency as yourself, you can choose activities that interest you to expand your circle of friends. I think you should be relatively introverted and rarely take the initiative to make friends yourself, so your circle may not be very big. But that's OK! The good news is that there are plenty of ways to meet more people of the opposite sex. The first thing to consider is how to break out of your circle.

The best way to meet more people is to break out of your current circle! Otherwise, you'll probably just end up waiting around for people to come to you.

Second, if you love reading, you can join a book club! And if you love traveling, you can join some travel groups. If you have a strong psychological capacity, you can also consider making friends online and meeting some friends! Just make sure you are on some more reliable networks to protect your safety and money.

Third, I highly recommend that you learn to communicate and express yourself face-to-face. These days, many people prefer to communicate via WeChat rather than by phone, but words cannot express emotions well. Especially long texts sometimes require a certain amount of patience to read. Face-to-face communication is also a kind of ability. Sometimes, words and language after all do not convey the same feeling. I highly suggest that you get in touch with real people and things more often, and not just stay online.

Fourth, in addition to considering your own needs, consider the needs of others as well. The development of an intimate relationship is an amazing process of mutual exchange and growth for both people!

And don't forget to think about whether you can meet the other person's needs! If there are frictions or disagreements between the two of you, you just need to know how to communicate and resolve them. Once you've done all that, I'm sure you'll find someone who is in tune with you to be with!

I really hope you find this helpful! It's just a suggestion, but I think it could be really useful for you.

The world and I love you so much!

Hello.

There is no standard answer to who should be more proactive in a love/what-should-one-do-if-parents-have-a-very-poor-relationship-with-their-beloved-elder-sister-and-who-should-one-support-8026.html" target="_blank">relationship. If you must give an answer, it should be who loves the other person more and who is more likely to take the initiative. It's simple: the person who is willing to give way must be the one who is anxious to get to the other side of the bridge. He knows that if he gives way first, he can ensure that he will get to the other side of the bridge faster. If he doesn't take the initiative to give way, he can either catch up with the other person and cross the bridge together or he can afford to wait and not worry about being late for his own business.

Second, being willing to take the initiative does not necessarily mean that you will. Your personality determines whether or not you can take the initiative. Some people may toss and turn at night thinking about it a lot, but when the time comes, they may not be able to perform as well as they had hoped. Even if you do take the initiative, the other person may not appreciate it.

Let's say you take the initiative to send a WeChat message to the other person, but after saying "good morning," you're stuck. You're afraid that no one will care about this kind of initiative except you.

Finally, who takes the initiative also involves the concept of love. Let me be clear: if you are willing to find someone you really like and don't care if they like you back, you will try to find ways to impress them.

Some people prefer reciprocity, basically give and take, gradually deepening the relationship. There's no doubt about it: love is only meaningful if you give. If you just receive, then you can only say that you have met someone who loves you, but the person you love is still missing.

I want to know which one you're closer to.

I hope this helps. I wish you all the best in your relationship!

Dear Questioner, It is my pleasure to respond to your inquiry. In general, it is preferable for the male partner to assume the role of the primary initiator. While men and women are equal in terms of their intrinsic value, traditional social norms often lead to the marginalization of women who are perceived as overly assertive.

It is optimal for both parties to assume an active role at the appropriate juncture. Conversely, an excessively passive approach is also inadvisable.

The individual who holds a greater degree of affection for the other party is the one who assumes the role of the initiator. This act of initiating is indicative of a desire to maintain the relationship and to avoid the potential loss of the other party.

Some posit that gaming is an indication of a lack of romantic attachment. Those who are genuinely in love are eager to marry their partner and maintain their proximity, preventing them from easily departing. If one's partner engages in gaming, it suggests an insufficient level of romantic attachment.

If the two individuals have progressed to the stage of dating, it is not a clandestine love affair. In a relationship, both parties must make compromises, but the one who makes greater sacrifices and assumes the initiative will be more reluctant to terminate the relationship and more committed to preserving it.

To illustrate, if an individual expresses romantic interest in another and pursues them, then that individual can be considered the active partner in the relationship. This is because the degree of interest expressed by the pursuer is higher than the interest expressed by the pursued. Similarly, in a relationship, the partner who loves the other more will be more active.

Individuals express initiative in different ways. Those who are less adept at expressing themselves may take the initiative by acting promptly to satisfy their partner's needs and desires. Some individuals are more verbose and may proactively express their care and affection to their partner, aiming to enhance their partner's happiness. Proactivity manifests in various forms and varies across individuals. However, in a relationship, the depth of love may influence the willingness of one partner to end the relationship.

If one partner has already moved on from the honeymoon phase, while the other remains in it, the former will typically assume the role of the more active partner and take the initiative to maintain proximity to the other.

A healthy relationship is not characterized by a single individual consistently taking the initiative. Rather, it is a mutual dynamic, with each partner having the capacity to initiate actions. In such a relationship, one partner may assume the role of providing support and encouragement when the other is experiencing a downturn in mood. Similarly, when one partner encounters challenges, the other may offer assistance in navigating them. In some cases, one partner may assume a more active role, while in others, the other partner may exhibit greater initiative. However, if one partner consistently takes the lead, it can impede the relationship's resilience.

If only one person maintains the initiative, the relationship will not have a favorable outcome. This is not only true of relationships but also of marriages. If only one party maintains the initiative and the other party is solely responsible for receiving, there will inevitably be a point when they become exhausted. When that point is reached, it may be the point at which the relationship is irreparable. After all, the party that has been receiving for an extended period is accustomed to it and is accustomed to enjoying it. It is challenging for them to adapt and take the initiative to give for an extended period. The result will not be optimal.

It is therefore recommended that those who have historically assumed the role of the active party in a relationship should endeavour to communicate and negotiate with their partner before the relationship comes to an end. It is important to recognise that one cannot always be the active party, and it is therefore advisable to take the initiative in encouraging the other person to assume a more active role and to provide greater levels of support.

Hi there! I'm happy you've reached out for help, and I hope my input can be useful for you.

First of all, taking the initiative in a relationship shows how confident you are and how open you are to new things. If you're too critical or negative about yourself, you'll probably avoid taking the initiative in a relationship because you'll think that others won't accept you. This way, you'll avoid getting hurt by rejection.

Second, if the other person is someone you really like and you're confident enough, you'll want to work hard and take the initiative. Even if the relationship ends, you'll accept it with an open mind and not blame yourself for the breakup. You'll realize that you and the other person just weren't right for each other. Why are you afraid to take the initiative when you like someone? It's often because you lack self-acceptance and confidence. You're afraid of being rejected. This means you think you're not good enough. People who lack confidence often find it difficult to accept themselves. They feel humiliated and frustrated.

So, whether or not you take the initiative in an intimate relationship shouldn't be about gender. It should be about confidence and self-acceptance. What do you think?

It's important to remember that nobody is 100% confident all the time, and nobody is 100% unconfident all the time either. As long as you're aware of how you're feeling in an intimate relationship and you want to get along with the other person, then try to approach them and get to know them better. This way, you can avoid missing out on someone you like who also likes you, because you're afraid of being rejected.

At the same time, work on accepting yourself and building self-confidence so you can recognize your strengths and weaknesses. In your work and in your free time, pursue more interests and passions so you can take more control of your life.

You can improve your ability to manage relationships by learning about psychology, especially when it comes to relationships.

It's better to be wrong than to miss out on love. I hope you'll take the initiative to strive for your own happiness in life.

Best of luck!

Good day.

As a mindfulness coach, I specialize in helping my clients learn to embrace the present moment and discover the value in the journey itself.

From your description, I can discern a number of concerns, including doubts, confusion, entanglement, pain, and feelings of helplessness.

You are experiencing difficulties in your relationship with your partner. I will not go into detail here, but I will provide you with three pieces of advice for your consideration.

Firstly, I would advise you to try to accept your current situation.

Your thoughts are not uncommon. You believe that when you are in love, the first move will be to your detriment. You are also concerned about who will contact whom first.

This is, in fact, a kind of competitiveness, a potential "power struggle." This is a fundamental aspect of human nature.

I recommend that you attempt to accept your thoughts and state of mind, as this will provide you with the mental capacity to consider other possibilities. Otherwise, your mind will be consumed by negative emotions.

It is also important to note that allowing yourself to accept your current situation will facilitate change. This may seem counterintuitive, but it is based on the principle of allowing for no change.

Secondly, I recommend that you objectively assess your own situation.

A rational perspective enables a more accurate understanding of oneself and of reality.

To gain a rational perspective on this matter, it is essential to undertake the following three steps:

It is evident that in matters of the heart, it is unwise to engage in a competitive pursuit. Even if one succeeds, it is ultimately a loss.

In your description, you indicated that you perceive love as a game in which the individual who takes the initiative appears to be at a disadvantage. However, this is an inaccurate assumption. In the context of love, the concept of winning or losing is irrelevant. Even if one party is perceived to have gained, they have, in fact, lost.

For example, two individuals who have mutual feelings for each other are both preoccupied with the question of who should make the first move, so neither takes the initiative. As a result, it may seem that they both benefit, but in the end, if they don't proceed with the relationship, they lose out on the opportunity for a potential partnership.

Secondly, it is important to note that a lack of initiated contact between two parties does not necessarily indicate a lack of interest on either side.

There are numerous reasons why individuals may refrain from reaching out to one another, beyond disinterest or dislike. It could be due to competing priorities, or it could be a matter of character. Some individuals may be less adept at verbal communication and may prefer to maintain distance. This does not necessarily indicate a lack of interest or affection, but rather a lack of confidence or knowledge of how to initiate contact.

Third, it is important to understand that a good intimate relationship is one in which both parties take the initiative, and it is a state of dynamic equilibrium.

In this kind of relationship, neither person views the order of initiative-taking as problematic. Instead, one person takes the initiative more often on a given day, and the other person does so on another day. This approach can enhance mutual understanding and, in turn, strengthen the relationship.

When viewed from this perspective, the various negative emotions may be mitigated, and the question is also addressed.

I reiterate my recommendation that you focus on your own needs and consider how you can manage your relationship with your partner.

For instance, when it is recognized that there is no prescribed order of initiative in a romantic relationship, it is possible to accept the lack of contact from the other person with equanimity. This is because it is understood that the other person may be occupied or less sociable than oneself. In this way, goodwill towards the other person is maintained, and communication is facilitated.

If you are the type of person who prefers the other person to take the initiative, you can inform them directly. This is likely to result in a change of behaviour over time, with the other person becoming more proactive. It is important to be kind and sincere when interacting with your partner. For example, if you are used to communicating via text on WeChat, the other person is likely to understand you and be willing to cooperate with you. It is also important to listen to the other person's true thoughts. This way, the issue of who takes the initiative in communication is less important, and the main goal is to increase mutual understanding.

Regarding communication frequency, this varies from person to person. If your partner is more inclined to share information, then communicate more often. If you are not comfortable with frequent communication, that is acceptable as well. In that case, communicate honestly with your partner and determine the appropriate communication frequency together.

I trust that, after providing this extensive overview, you now have a clear understanding of the necessity for negotiation and cooperation between partners with regard to the contact method and communication frequency during the course of their relationship.

In other words, the process of falling in love requires practice to determine the most effective communication methods for each individual.

I hope this information is helpful to you. If you would like to discuss this further, please click on "Find a coach to interpret – online dialogue" at the bottom of the page. I will then be happy to communicate with you one-on-one.

Sending a hug to a colleague I admire, I hope you are doing well. Here are a few suggestions for you:

You're very rational, and you'll think this through in a relationship. I really appreciate your rationality.

Written expressions are great because they can leave evidence of the relationship and are easy to preserve. I also like them a lot.

In a relationship, there are many ways to express yourself. It's okay to do what you like, and it's also good to accept other people's ways of expressing themselves. You can also try other ways.

Not reaching out doesn't mean there's no interest. It can become a habit. Of course, if there's no initiative, there's certainly not enough interest or motivation. So, there have to be necessary tests and questions. Generally, boys in a relationship are more proactive.

It's normal to not take the initiative sometimes, maybe because you're busy or something. It can just become second nature. Love is not just about words and talk. It also requires practical actions, such as taking the initiative to invite someone out to dinner or to the movies, and expressing interest and taking the initiative in a variety of ways.

During the intense love period, there's generally no limit to how often you contact each other. You look forward to it every day and want to see each other all the time. It depends on the situation of both parties. If you agree, try to reduce the number of meetings as much as possible. Distance is beautiful.

Longing is the most beautiful. After the intense love stage, it may decrease a little, but it also depends on the situation. There's no standard.

I hope this helps, but it seems like your relationship hasn't quite reached the "hot" stage yet. Take your time; there's no rush. The most important thing is finding the right person.