Hello, question asker. I am the Heart Detective coach, Gu Daoxi Feng Shoulu.
Let me be clear: most people share the questioner's confusion, especially employees of private enterprises. I have witnessed the company's large-scale store closure strategy and also felt the distress of many colleagues whose stores were closed. I understand the questioner's feelings. In fact, I empathize with them.
I was impressed when a colleague from a good relationship in a different city told me he lost his job on the first day and then found a new one the next day. Our industry isn't great, but we still get people from outside who want to come in. There's a flow of people coming in and out. When the boat reaches the bridge, it naturally straightens out. The questioner doesn't have to put too much pressure on himself.
The state-owned enterprise where the questioner works is either laying off staff or cutting the entire department. If it's the former, the questioner can maintain stability by making himself the one with outstanding performance. If it's the latter, the questioner needs to make plans early.
Life is difficult because you can't have it all. When we choose something, it may mean giving up something else. The questioner must sort out their current problems, list the advantages and disadvantages of seeking stability and development, and then weigh and score them to give themselves an answer. Taking calculated risks is the only way to go.
The questioner must decide whether to take risks or to be more stable. Understanding your own character traits will help you analyze your tendency to choose. In general, making choices that go against your character will greatly reduce your motivation and even cause procrastination.
Finish first, then perfect. Don't worry about longer-term planning for now. You don't need to change your nationality just because you start working. But the experience you gain while you're young will give you more opportunities when you face choices in the future.
If you are talented, you will have opportunities to shine. It doesn't matter whether you choose to stay in your current job, go abroad, or take up other job opportunities. I am certain that you will not be left in obscurity, and there will be a stage for you to show yourself.
Plan before you act. In "iPartment," Zhang Wei said, "When opportunities come at me like rain, I dodge them one after the other." Don't let Zhang Wei's regret haunt you. Expand your professional abilities while doing a good job in your main job. You'll be more competitive in the future.
This quote is spot on: Success is choosing a goal, determining the price to be paid, and then paying it in full without fail! I'm sure this will encourage the questioner.
You should read Lifelong Growth, A Thoughtful Turn.
Best wishes!


Comments
It sounds like you're at a crossroads, and it's completely understandable to feel uncertain. I empathize with your situation. The decision you're facing is deeply personal and involves many factors. Staying in your current job provides stability and the comfort of being close to your family, which is incredibly important. At the same time, the thought of a longterm future in an industry that's declining can be unsettling. It's also clear that your wellbeing has improved in this environment, which is a significant positive. However, considering your ambitions and desires for a fulfilling life, including the ability to love and be loved as a lesbian, might mean that exploring opportunities abroad could offer more freedom and acceptance. Yet, the challenges of adapting to a new country, especially with health concerns and potential marginalization, are not to be underestimated. Ultimately, the choice will depend on what you value most at this stage of your life.
I hear you. Your situation is complex, and it's natural to feel torn between staying and going. On one hand, your current job offers a friendly work environment and the stability of being near your parents, which has been beneficial for your mental health. But the downsizing within even the leading companies in your industry signals a concerning trend. As a lesbian, finding a place where you can live authentically and build a family is crucial. Moving abroad could provide a more open and accepting community, but it comes with its own set of challenges, such as leaving your parents behind and navigating a new culture. It's also worth considering whether there are ways to advance within your current company or explore other opportunities within China that align better with your longterm goals. Balancing these factors will help you make a decision that feels right for you.
Your dilemma is truly challenging, and it's clear you've put a lot of thought into both paths. Staying in your current job offers the security of a stable income and the support of your colleagues, which has been instrumental in maintaining your mental health. However, the industry's decline and the recent salary cuts suggest that this stability may not last. As a lesbian, you also face the reality of societal expectations and the desire to live openly and find a partner who understands you. Moving abroad could offer more opportunities for personal growth and a potentially more accepting environment, but it's not without risks, especially given your health concerns and the importance of being close to your parents. Perhaps a middle ground could be to look for opportunities within China that offer more flexibility and potential for advancement, while still allowing you to stay connected to your family. This way, you can explore new possibilities without completely uprooting your life.