The boyfriend's family introduced her, they were in a hot romance phase, should she continue this relationship?

Dear question asker,

You are inclined to forgive him, but you are concerned that this incident may have severe consequences. If you do not forgive him, you are uncertain about your ability to find a suitable marriage partner, which creates a dilemma for you.

If one were to be informed that all men are unfaithful, would one be willing to forgive the transgression? It is unlikely that one would do so.

Opinions on the subject of male infidelity vary considerably. Some individuals are able to accept such behaviour, whereas others are not.

Ultimately, the decision is an individual one. Can the individual accept the fact that the man in question cheated on them during the relationship?

His behavior did not manifest in this manner prior to the inception of the romantic relationship, but rather during its course.

If he truly values you and the relationship, he will be concerned about the potential loss of your partnership and will evaluate the risks associated with pursuing other romantic interests. If the potential consequences are significant, he will likely refrain from such actions.

If he is a sex addict with some extraordinary sexual needs, it is unlikely that he will alter his behaviour after marriage.

You have indicated that he is gentle and attentive and that he is a suitable marriage partner. It is evident that he provides a substantial degree of emotional value. It is reasonable to conclude that he has learned this from numerous women, as otherwise it would not be explained why so many women have agreed to marry him.

One must consider whether this individual is truly the optimal choice for a lifelong partner, or if the infatuation is clouding one's judgment.

The institution of marriage is contingent upon a man's sense of responsibility and commitment. The subject in question displays a proclivity for irresponsibility towards other women, exhibiting a tendency to abruptly terminate relationships without assuming the obligations inherent to matrimony. In the event of an unplanned pregnancy, the prospective mother-to-be must consider the consequences of such a decision.

The question thus arises as to whether he is truly capable of assuming the responsibilities inherent to the role of a husband in the context of marriage.

Ultimately, this decision is up to the individual in question.

A prolonged period of distress is preferable to a brief one. It is not merely a matter of finding a husband; it is also about identifying a suitable father for one's children. It is likely that you will make an informed decision based on your own judgment regarding the suitability of the prospective father for your future children.

I wish you the best of luck.

If I might offer a different perspective, I believe this issue can be viewed in this way: since the questioner believes in his heart that he is a suitable marriage partner, and the other party has also promised not to make the same mistake again, it might be a good idea to give him a chance to observe his performance in the future before making a decision.

From a psychological perspective, it's possible that the other person's actions were driven by a combination of physical and psychological needs. This approach allows for the fulfillment of both the body and mind, which may not be currently available to the questioner. Despite the intense love that the two individuals are experiencing, it's understandable that the questioner may not have a comprehensive understanding of the other person's thoughts and needs.

Since it has already happened, it would be helpful to understand why it happened. For example, could you ask the other person why they chose to do that rather than express their needs to you? Is there anything in the middle that prevented him from expressing them?

Trust is like a mirror. Once it is broken, it will be very difficult to restore. It may be that the questioner is now reluctant to believe in the other person's promises, but she also really wants to marry the other person. She is very conflicted and doesn't know what to do. If you can figure out the above question and understand why the other person did it, the questioner will also have a new understanding of themselves. If you want to continue to be with the other person and get married, then the questioner will have to make some corresponding changes. If you don't want to continue to be together and don't want to get married, then you don't have to change.

It is important to note that changing oneself is not enough. If the questioner truly wants to marry the other person, they must also accept and let go of their reluctance and unease, and trust the other person again. At the same time, they should observe his behavior and communicate more deeply with each other. If the questioner is unwilling to trust the other person's promises and still wants to marry the other person, it is also possible. However, entering into marriage with this mentality and emotional state may prevent the couple from developing a harmonious relationship and cause many obstacles in the marriage due to a lack of mutual trust. Such a marriage may become a painful ordeal, and it is worth considering whether marriage is the best option.

The above are my personal opinions, which I hope the questioner will find helpful to consider.

Dear Question Asker, Thank you for your inquiry.

From your description, it seems that you and your boyfriend are dating with the goal of getting married. Your partner's family relationship is harmonious, your partner's parents have left a very good impression on you, and you are very satisfied with each other. However, you recently discovered that your partner had been dating other people during your relationship, which caused you to become upset.

You are considering ending the relationship, but the other person has provided you with significant support and you are influenced by their statements. You do not believe their statements rationally, but you do believe them psychologically. As a result, you are uncertain about whether you want to continue the relationship. I understand your feelings.

To answer this question, it may be helpful to understand the other person's past experiences. Men's perceptions of dating behavior can vary. It may be beneficial to explore the reasons behind the other person's actions and whether it has become a habit.

This is a significant issue for you.

Your inner consideration is that if you miss this person, you won't be able to find a better one. This kind of thinking will limit your ability to break out of this relationship. You have identified that this man may be a repeat offender and will cheat after marriage. However, your emotional response is that the family is very good and the other person is very good. You have a tendency to see only the positive aspects of this situation and to minimize the negative impact of this incident.

Your assumption is that all men are the same, and that it is therefore preferable to settle for this one. After all, this man is good to you, and the family is also quite good. However, is this assumption necessarily correct?

It would be inaccurate to assume that all men behave in this way.

It is not possible to find a superior alternative. Therefore, your perception determines your thinking, and you believe this person is the best.

Furthermore, you believe the other person's parents to be amiable, however, this is merely an impression, and you have not yet had the opportunity to interact with them on a more substantial basis. While it is undoubtedly important to be cordial towards your boyfriend, it is also essential to consider a few key questions regarding his parents. It is not uncommon for the attitude of the other person's parents to shift before and after the wedding, therefore, the most crucial aspect to evaluate is whether the individual you are dating is a reliable and responsible partner.

In the context of dating, it is important to consider whether you would be willing to accept your partner's infidelity. Once you have a clear understanding of the reasons behind your partner's decision to date, you can then assess whether you would be able to accept their actions.

This information may assist you in making an informed decision.

I hope this information is useful to you. Best regards,

Hello, host! I'm so honored to answer your question. From what you've told me, it seems like you and your boyfriend were introduced by your families.

You have a wonderful personality and are absolutely perfect for each other! You're also very kind and can cook like a dream. You pay attention to detail and both of you are aiming for marriage, which is so exciting!

I told my parents, and they think the world of you both! The other party's parents are also very honest and kind, so there'll be no conflicts between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

With careers being such a big issue, it's no surprise that you and your boyfriend are at different stages in your lives. After coming back from your trip, your relationship has taken a further step. When you were determined to marry your boyfriend, you saw the dating information on your boyfriend's mobile phone, the kind that randomly pops up out of the blue.

You and your boyfriend had just had dinner together that day, and this happened while you were still feeling all warm and fuzzy inside. You broke down and proposed to break up, and I kept begging you to stay, promising that it would never happen again.

And he promised to treat me better. I'm just not sure if his promises are worth anything, sweetie.

I'm just not sure if I can get past this, sister. I'd really love to know your thoughts on whether it's better to break up or if this is just a one-off with my boyfriend.

I might as well stay with him. I'm just afraid that I won't meet someone better, and I'm also afraid of the issue of my boyfriend cheating on me.

My boyfriend is absolutely the right person for marriage!

I'm really sorry, but I'm also a man, not a married sister. I think a male counselor would have a lot to say about analyzing male infidelity.

It's so lovely to hear that you and your boyfriend are so in love! He treats you so well and is so caring and attentive. It's true that most guys will show some degree of aggression when they're with a girl to prove their masculinity and strength. But what he shows when he's with you, being gentle and attentive, is a defense against the aggressive and invasive attributes of his masculinity.

He's a very polite, gentle, and meticulous person, but he can also be quite defensive. You two get along really well, but he's wearing a mask and armor, and he's willing but afraid to show his true self.

It's so tiring to put up a high-intensity defense, both physically and mentally. Especially when you're trying to hide the real you, you'll do everything you can to make it better, which is totally understandable. But it can lead to some pretty intense situations. Like the day you had dinner, your boyfriend chose to go on a date to release and vent himself.

My personal opinion on dating during a relationship is that it's best for both parties to take a deep breath and tell their boyfriend that they hope he can relax in front of them and show his most authentic side. This side may not be perfect, but it's the real you, and that's what matters. You are both adults and have enough confidence and ability to face and accept the imperfections of your significant other.

Have a chat about your future plans together and see if your boyfriend has a place for you in his future plans.

If you don't work together to end the idea of living apart, you might find clues in the details that reveal your boyfriend's motives and subconscious thoughts about cheating. This is an important basis for determining whether you will get married in the future.

I'm so happy to be in a relationship! The world and I love you!