The pillar of strength has left, the mentality is about to collapse, emergency rescue is required

Dear,

I am truly grateful to have met Xiao Jing. I am here for you, to offer a hug and support when you need it most.

1. I'm going through a challenging time right now. My spiritual pillar has left, and I'm struggling to cope. It's a difficult situation, and it's taking a toll on me emotionally. I'm wondering if you're doing better now?

It would be beneficial to assess whether you are feeling better. It is possible that physical discomfort can also make us feel worse, and vice versa. Similarly, feeling better physically can also have a positive effect on our overall well-being.

2. It is beneficial to have spiritual support at work, which can provide us with the confidence and courage to face challenges. This is the essence of spiritual support. Despite the difficulties we may face, we can emerge from the most challenging moments with resilience.

At the same time, you might consider cultivating multiple spiritual pillars, such as family, friends, interests, ideals, and beliefs. The balance of these pillars, and having multiple pillars, could nourish and give us strength! You might find it helpful to review your other pillars, and may they give you strength!

Life can certainly be challenging at times. It often involves the daily grind, which can feel quite realistic and mundane. It can be difficult to maintain a sense of detachment from the world.

At the same time, we are born in trouble and die in peace. Even small setbacks and trials can serve as opportunities for growth and learning, such as in the context of work, which can offer not only financial rewards but also the chance to gain valuable insights and experience. It's important to consider the pros and cons of any situation, adjust our mindset accordingly, and ask ourselves how our spiritual pillar can best adapt to face the challenges ahead.

How will you cope with this challenge? You will overcome the suffering, and it will not last forever!

4. It can be helpful to look for small achievements at work, to reflect on why you chose this job in the first place, and to consider your personal achievements. It can also be beneficial to look for small blessings in life. Eating well, resting well, taking care of yourself, building up your strength, and helping yourself get through the darkest moments can all be valuable steps.

I hope this finds you well. I would like to offer you some words from the Mencius, who said, "Heaven will bestow great responsibilities on this person, and first it will afflict his mind, tire his flesh and bones, starve his body, and deprive him of everything."

I wonder if I might ask whether the future will be promising?

Hello, I'm a Heart Exploration coach. Your problem is that you're about to have a mental breakdown and need emergency assistance.

You don't like your job. The shift work is very painful. You haven't been able to find a suitable job. You have a favorite colleague who is your source of strength, but she left. You feel sad and really can't bear the fact that she can no longer appear in the workplace.

You're still in isolation and resist your job. You don't want to face it. You wanted to resign, but quitting without notice means losing your job and insurance. You can't find a job. You feel anxious and miserable at home. You want to know how to face your loss and save your broken heart. I will try to help you.

First, your heart is conflicted.

You can't work because you lack support and have problems at work.

You want to quit your job but are afraid to do so because you'll lose your insurance and be unable to find another job.

You want to quit your job but are afraid. This is an ambivalent conflict.

Second, sort out your problems.

You have two major problems: work and relationships.

Your main problem is money. You need to solve your practical problems.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs says that basic needs like food and safety come first. Then there's the need for love and belonging.

The economy affects the way we think, and what we have affects our spirit. The questioner also got to know your spiritual support during this difficult time. All problems need to be viewed from two sides.

No song is completely good or bad. Every choice has pros and cons. The questioner can do a decision analysis to see what the pros and cons of quitting are. Write them down. Which outcome do you feel you can better handle? Choose whichever one you choose.

Your best friend is leaving, and you have to face life's difficulties alone.

How did the questioner overcome difficulties before meeting a good friend? If your friend had never appeared in your life, where would you be now?

The questioner is lucky to have met someone who can understand and comfort you. Be grateful for every encounter in our lives. The questioner should also be hopeful for the future. In this terrible job, the questioner is lucky to have met a good friend. You may still make friends who are as kind and lovely as your friend.

A good friend has appeared in your life. We can remember this emotion and the days we spent together. Losing someone is painful. Did the questioner have similar experiences of losing friends when they were young?

What helped you get to where you are now? Do you rely on yourself or others?

The questioner is facing loss and feels powerless. I suggest seeking help from a counselor or calling the hotline.

You will get through this. You just need support and encouragement. When you feel pain, talk to someone you trust or write down your feelings. Allow yourself to grieve and cry.

Loneliness, death, freedom, and meaninglessness are the four main existentialist topics.

We all have to face these topics and learn to deal with them, which is also how we grow.

Read Wu Zhihong's books on personal growth, like May You Have a Life Illuminated by Love, to learn to grow yourself.

Growth means both gain and loss.

I hope you get better soon.

Greetings, esteemed questioner.

From your statements, it is evident that you are experiencing a range of negative emotions, including fear, worry, resentment, anxiety, and unease. It appears that you are in a state of distress, akin to a duckweed plant adrift in the sea, unable to find a stable resting place.

It appears that your work has reached a point of such despair that it has become unbearable. The situation seems to be at a critical juncture, with no apparent way forward.

It is evident that the current situation is causing distress and that it is not possible to extricate oneself from it. We will now examine the circumstances that are currently being experienced.

The subject's current reality can be described as follows:

The subject reports a dislike of their current position, citing the work environment and the shifts as particular sources of discontent.

You desire to terminate your employment, yet you are unable to identify an alternative position that would be more suitable.

A colleague with whom you had a close working relationship has departed the organization, and you are no longer able to interact with them on a regular basis.

In light of these circumstances, what strategies might be employed to mitigate distress and enhance resilience in the face of unchanging external circumstances?

The initial step is to "live in the present" and refrain from worrying about the future. It is sufficient to live each day to the fullest and then retire for the night.

The second step is to

1. One must inquire of themselves: "What is the worst potential outcome if the problem is not solved?"

2. Accept the most unfavorable outcome mentally.

3. It is recommended that the subject relax and attempt to improve the most unfavourable outcome that has been mentally accepted.

Step 3: It is important to recall that the detrimental effects of anxiety on one's health should be a primary consideration.

Once this has been completed, we can proceed to the subsequent stage.

It is imperative to conduct a thorough search for the facts. A significant proportion of the global population experiences anxiety due to their tendency to hastily make decisions without fully comprehending the pertinent facts.

The subsequent step is to ascertain the veritable facts. A comprehensive list of all existing conditions pertaining to the task in question should be compiled on a separate sheet of paper.

It is important to note that the facts should be listed without any judgments or ideas.

Once all the relevant facts have been considered, a decision should be made.

Once a decision has been made, it is imperative to act promptly and refrain from dwelling on potential outcomes.

In the event of feelings of anxiety and worry regarding the problem, it is recommended that the following questions be written down:

1. What is the nature of the problem?

2. What are the underlying causes of the problem?

3. What potential solutions exist for the problem?

4. What is the optimal solution?

Once a solution has been identified, the subsequent step is to take action. Without action, any preceding thoughts and deliberations are ultimately futile.

Once action is taken, the problems currently being faced will cease to be problematic.

Dear Sir/Madam,

It is comparable to a song that evokes a strong emotional response in a fan for a city they have never visited, or a text that inspires a similar reaction in an individual for someone they have never met. The phenomenon of falling in love can be described as a relatively straightforward process, as it is often an unidirectional phenomenon that does not necessitate permission, provided that the individual is willing to engage with it.

It is important to allow emotions to flow freely, but it is also essential to learn to recognize and restrain them. Otherwise, we risk being controlled by our emotions and making decisions that we will later regret or be embarrassed by.

Due to the departure of a colleague, we have experienced a shift in our emotional response to our work. This is a normal occurrence, and it is important to understand and accept this feedback. At the same time, it is essential to recognize and guide this emotional response.

Emotions can be challenging to manage, especially when they impede our ability to function effectively. For instance, the current situation where a colleague is leaving and the host is experiencing a sense of loss and reluctance to go to work.

Fortunately, the landlord has considered the situation comprehensively and is not acting on impulse. Indeed, if you quit your job without a smooth transition, there will be a knock-on effect on your career, employment and security. And changing jobs without a clear direction will make it difficult to maintain focus and continuity, affecting your long-term career planning and employment.

Identifying and addressing negative emotions in a timely manner is an essential first step, and the owner has demonstrated commendable foresight in this regard.

It is important to address feelings of lack and work towards a positive resolution. The sense of loss experienced when a colleague departs can be attributed to a combination of personal factors and a perceived lack of resources.

During periods of growth, it is important to focus on areas where we can generate momentum and remediation. When our personal lives are rich and fulfilling, the impact of a colleague leaving is reduced exponentially, making it easier to cope.

In a situation where perfectionism is the driving force, the individual may be perceived as flawed due to their incomplete nature. Once they have achieved a state of wholeness, external factors will have a reduced impact on them.

Please describe the method.

To enrich your life, consider your genuine interests. It is crucial to avoid setting limits and to embrace your work with passion.

It is not uncommon for the list of goals to diverge from the list of desired outcomes. This discrepancy can result in a lack of action on the part of the individual, despite the presence of numerous goals. This inaction can lead to a stagnant and unchanging state of affairs.

It is important to understand that achieving any change requires a process of accumulation and stabilization. It is not possible to accomplish a significant shift in a single step. The most crucial aspect is to initiate the process and then make incremental adjustments while implementing it to achieve gradual improvement.

Once a direction is set, it is important to maintain consistency. Goals should be adjusted actively or passively, and constantly reviewed. It is beneficial to start with the end in mind, and to consider other possibilities in life besides work, study, and entertainment. A single axis with multiple points of contact will prevent you from becoming so depressed when a colleague leaves.

It is beneficial to develop the habit of introspection and dialogue with yourself. It is important to recognize that everyone grows in different ways and at different speeds, but there are general rules that can be followed.

It is important to set aside time to reflect and develop a sense of independence. While it is beneficial to form connections and engage in social activities, it is also crucial to learn to be alone, particularly in order to gain the confidence to stand on one's own two feet.

Once we have achieved stability, we will be able to attract more like-minded individuals as friends. As the driving force behind our own lives, it is essential that we learn to trust ourselves, become comfortable with taking the reins, and establish a sense of belonging at the helm of our own lives.