The question is a bit immature. I just want to ask if it is possible to get back together with him now?

Hello!

I find this question difficult to answer.

"If I ask her to get back together, will it work?" You want an answer.

I'd be happy to help.

1. Find out what you can't let go of.

"I don't know if I love her." Did you feel loved with her?

Some people think love is a feeling.

Some people think it's love, others don't.

You have feelings for her and never wanted to part. She wanted to separate.

You've tried to win her back three times.

You're a little reluctant.

What can't you let go of?

Love has three elements.

Passion, intimacy, commitment.

Are these three things in your relationship now?

What do you like about her?

Do you know why she wants to separate from you?

If two people separate, it just means they weren't right for each other.

Now that so much time has passed, you can see how likely it was that you two would end up together.

Has she ever had expectations for you?

Have you become the person she wanted you to be?

Or you understand each other better and are willing to make changes for each other.

Love makes us become ourselves.

Are you happy in this relationship?

We may take the next step.

2. What does it mean when she can't visit a space and posts updates on a small red book?

There are many reasons for this.

She might still like you and want to know what's going on in your life.

You may understand her expression on Xiaohongshu.

As someone who doesn't know her, it's hard to know what she needs.

How do you interpret her listening to music with a guy for 1,000 hours?

She can't let you go, so she listens to music with someone else?

Or...

Can she still contact you?

If she wants to get back together, will you let her?

3. See if we love someone or not.

Many couples break up and then get back together.

Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse have been together again and again.

Love is mutual.

If you still want to spend the rest of your life with her, tell her.

If you can't let her go and you can't forget her, see if there's still a chance to be together.

You know each other and have feelings for each other.

Just going back together may not be the result we want, but at least we have no regrets.

We also need to see if we're just unwilling to let go.

We don't want to let go of a relationship we've invested in.

It's normal to feel reluctant.

If you love someone, you'll value their needs.

Love is about making the other person happy.

Love is a lifelong lesson.

Loving yourself is the key to getting along with others.

When we love ourselves, we can love others too.

Then we'll know what we want.

Read The Art of Love.

Best wishes!

Hello, question asker! I can see that this relationship is on shaky ground and is confusing you. You're not sure whether you're unable to let go because of love or something else. You also want to know what will happen if you try to get back together again. It's a tough spot to be in!

When you think about it, it seems like the sunshine in your world has been blocked. Let's try to restore some normalcy to your life together!

Take a look at what it means to be stuck in the "not letting go" and "unable to let go" mindset. This can help you gain insight into your own situation.

Can you tell me what it was like after you broke up with your ex after a year together? You tried three times in three months to get her back, but it didn't work.

Do you find yourself looking for signs of her in places where she might be? Do you often study the signs you find, such as her posts on social media?

Or did you not really think about it until you found out that she'd been denied access to your space the day before Valentine's Day?

If you've tried three times and still haven't been given the opportunity, and afterwards you've never let her disappear from your life, always find it hard to stop thinking about her, always remember the good times you've had together, and feel disappointed and sad, then it's possible that you've placed too many expectations on this relationship and can't let it go. So every time you find out something new about her, it'll remind you of your feelings for her. For example, you think there's a link between her visiting your space and Valentine's Day and what's happened with her little red book, and that she wants to get back together.

If you're not constantly grieving and you don't constantly miss her after the breakup, and it's her access being denied that's rekindling your interest, it's possible you haven't yet "let go" of this cooling-down relationship.

You want to know if you love her very much. I think you can gain more insight into your own state of mind by exploring it. This can help you see if you are more "in love" or more "reluctant."

Be open about your feelings and let your actions show what you really think.

It doesn't matter what state you're in. If you get caught up in your thoughts, it'll affect your emotions and throw your life out of balance. I don't think problems can be solved with emotions. You have to take action. Can you try solving all your speculations with action?

When you found out that she had been denied access and there was a development that made you think about it, why didn't you try to express your feelings sincerely and contact her to find out her attitude?

Maybe you're worried the answer won't be as good as you think, but the truth is, you can't predict the future. If things are meant to be, you can't change that by thinking about it. Just imagine, if you had asked for the truth on Valentine's Day, would you not be so sad and disappointed now that you see her listening to music with someone else for 1,000 hours?

If you really want to get back together with her, you should try to express that. This is the first step you can take to get yourself out of your worries. You may be rejected again, but if you really are, you'll have the awareness and strength to really say goodbye to this relationship.

"Topic separation" is a way of protecting yourself and respecting the other person.

From what you've said, it seems like your ex is more set on moving on than you are. So, you need to "separate the issues" before you take any action.

You're feeling anxious after the breakup, you want to get back together, you care a lot about her being with someone else, and you want to work hard to restore your intimacy. This is your topic, and you can work hard to complete it. But love goes both ways, and you can decide whether or not to work hard, but you cannot decide the outcome of the effort because it's related to how she completes her topic.

She might not be as anxious as you, might not want to get back together as much as you, and might even have a new relationship. So whether or not to get back together is not her problem. She might not need to take responsibility for any of your conclusions.

You can only change yourself. Attempting to change someone else may throw you off balance, so it's best to separate the issues.

I love you, and I hope you can follow your heart and pursue love, say goodbye to love, and believe that perfect love has been waiting for you. You should search hard!

Dear Sir/Madam, Thank you for your question. Best regards,

The question appears to be seeking a decision, but the limited information provided is insufficient for either party to accurately assess the other's thoughts.

Please find below an attempt to provide a psychological analysis as close as possible to hers. The remaining judgment work is to be completed by the questioner himself.

1. After a year of dating, a disagreement led to a breakup due to a lack of emotional connection. Her personality can be described as straightforward and inclined to follow instincts over planning. Such individuals are also more emotionally reactive.

2. She has made it clear that she no longer has feelings for you and has rejected your attempts to reconcile for a month. From a love perspective, there is no longer any passion, intimacy, or commitment, which suggests that her love for you has come to an end.

3. Access to your space is blocked, and then "collect high-quality copy, unrelated to love." This is the most intriguing, and the most difficult to analyze to give an accurate answer. Collecting copy naturally does not mean using copy to find you back together, but more likely it is to be posted on another platform, or expressed in a literary and emotional way by handwriting or taking photos. "Unrelated to love" seems a bit insincere. This is most likely a kind of "I've been heartbroken, I'm in a bad mood now, but I don't want to say it to make you feel sorry for me, but I do want to find some love-related copy to comfort myself." This is the complexity of the other person's psychology.

4. After listening to 1,000 hours of music with a male associate, it is natural to desire a reconciliation with the aforementioned associate. This is most relevant to your own psychology.

The male respondent who was listening to music naturally assumes that it is not you. After imagining her loneliness and sadness, you have an impulse to reconnect and hope to warm each other with love. However, her emotions are more likely to come from the male who was listening to music with her. You need to ask yourself whether the warmth and love you are offering at this time is what she really needs.

It is also important to consider how she would view your proposal to get back together. Would she be interested in rebuilding your relationship, or would she see it as a mere substitute? If you can answer this question, you will have a better understanding of her perspective.

The respondent perceives her as having a strong personality but also as somewhat casual. Despite his desire to reconcile with her, he acknowledges that he still harbors feelings for the other person. However, in psychological terms, these feelings may not be solely rooted in pure love. They may also be influenced by other complex psychological factors.

It is my hope that the above will prove useful to the questioner and that they will be able to find the answer they are seeking.