The woman is pregnant and about to give birth, and she finds out that the man has been cheating. What is a wise way to handle this situation?

Good day, question asker! I am Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I am honored to have the opportunity to address your question on Yi Xinli.

I have taken the time to read your description and empathize with the woman's challenging situation of being pregnant while facing her husband's infidelity. I truly sympathize with her and extend my support in whatever way I can.

Since I am unsure whether the questioner is the woman or the man, I will tentatively analyze this question from the woman's perspective.

I hope the following suggestions will be helpful in responding to your concerns.

It is a challenging process for two people to get married, and it is important for them to cherish each other.

It is worth noting that a couple must often endure significant challenges before they can enter the marriage hall. It is believed that the key to a happy and successful marriage lies in fidelity to each other.

The woman is trying to get pregnant, but the man is unfaithful to her. This is a serious matter that the woman finds difficult to accept. With something like this happening, it may be challenging for the couple to resume their relationship as it was before.

It would be beneficial for the man to take the initiative to admit his mistakes to the woman and promise not to make them again. As for whether the woman forgives the man's mistakes, it is up to her to decide.

2. It would be beneficial for the woman to calmly communicate with the man about the reasons for his infidelity.

There are two possible outcomes to this conversation.

(1) If the man is willing to take the initiative to explain the reasons for his infidelity and shows remorse, the woman may be open to the possibility of giving him a chance to correct his mistakes.

(2) If the man is reluctant to share the reasons behind his infidelity, the woman may wish to consider whether it would be beneficial for them to separate. Given that the man has made a mistake and continues to hide the truth, it could be perceived as an irresponsible display.

It is not necessarily a cause for concern to make a mistake; however, it can become problematic when the same mistake is repeated on a regular basis.

It is important for the woman to make this decision calmly.

It is undoubtedly a challenging situation for the wife to navigate, particularly while pregnant. I hope she can find the strength and resilience to persevere.

If the woman is unsure of how to proceed, she may wish to consider seeking guidance from trusted family members or friends, or alternatively, consulting with a lawyer who has experience in this area to ensure her legitimate rights and interests are protected.

It is my hope that this marriage can continue, but it will depend on the joint efforts of both parties. If they communicate well and find a solution to the problem, there may be a chance for the matter to turn around and a way forward.

I hope my answer will be helpful to the woman.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and your loved ones.

Hello, question asker. I think it's important to recognize that this is a challenging situation for women. As a man, I'm also angry when I hear about this. I hope the woman can quickly regain her good mood. I also appreciate the wisdom of the question asker. Instead of focusing on right or wrong, she's seeking a solution. However, since I don't know the specifics, I'll explain some of the "wise" ways to solve this problem from my understanding:

First, we can assume that the man made a mistake due to confusion.

1. Men are creatures who are very concerned about face. First of all, don't make a scene and don't publicize it. We've seen too many cases of men cheating to ignore this fact. In fact, when men cheat, most of them are carrying a guilty conscience. They will feel remorseful and hope that someone will understand and give them a way out, giving them a chance to repent and turn over a new leaf. If handled appropriately, they will return to the family.

If he returns to the family in this way, the man will be grateful. In the process of getting along with his wife, the woman can take advantage. If I feel I am right, I will make trouble and let the whole world know about his affairs. He is immoral. This situation is counterproductive. He will break up with you. Men have a rebellious streak. If you don't give him face, he will do terrible, irrational things. He will risk everything to the bitter end.

2. Refer to the "narration" in "The Five Love Skills" and talk to your partner alone. Don't judge their behavior, but tell them, "I'm pregnant and risking my life to give birth to your baby and start a family with you, but you've found someone else. This makes me feel wronged and sad." "This family needs you to provide protection for my mother and me and give us a sense of security. Both my baby and I are waiting for you to return to the family."

3. This sentence structure has the following advantages:

(1) Don't criticize or accuse. Give the man his dignity.

The first sentence describes how I feel, and it arouses pity in the man because deep down, men like to protect the weak.

The second sentence elaborates on one's own needs and dependence on a man, amplifying a man's self-esteem, sense of strength, and sense of family responsibility. In fact, deep down, a man really hopes that the woman he loves, or some weak person, needs his protection and care. When he gets this need, it will instead stimulate his confidence and love for this family, and naturally return to this family.

4. There's another way of looking at this issue. It's possible that a man's infidelity is the result of constant friction in the process of getting along with the woman. This friction slowly wears down the degree of favor and, just by chance, leads the man to find solace outside the marriage. This makes a mistake out of confusion. I don't mean to accuse the woman here. In fact, before and during marriage, constant friction leading to a continuous decline in the degree of favor between the two parties is very common.

We can learn how to better manage our marriage. "The Five Love Languages" mentions that improving one's ability to love can make the relationship more fulfilling. I can use my gentleness and consideration and show empathy, so that the man often feels it. He will still not go out seeking comfort.

He probably longs to go home every day and spend time with his wife and children. There is a systematic approach in the book, but I won't go into detail here. It is better for the man to learn together because men also have their own family responsibilities.

2. The methods mentioned above all assume that the man is just confused for the time being. However, if the man has no sense of morality and wants to separate from the woman, he is a scumbag. In this case, it is best to separate as soon as possible. Let go of your expectations for this man, take care of your own and your baby's health, and communicate with your family as soon as possible about helping with the baby care in the future.

Hello, I'm Strawberry!

When I read the original poster's question, I feel so sorry for the woman! She's been pregnant for ten months and is about to give birth to the child, and then she finds out that her husband has been cheating on her. What a blow this must be to her! But it's also a chance for her to start fresh. She can choose to focus on the happiness she imagined for herself.

No matter what the relationship between the man and woman is, since the woman is pregnant, the man is also responsible. If he cannot guarantee her happiness, why did he choose to get close to her in the first place? It can only be said that the man is more self-centered and selfish—but that just means there's room for improvement!

It's so important to understand the attitude!

The questioner's question is about how to handle it wisely. From this sentence, it can be seen that if the man is willing to return, it seems that the woman will also choose to continue living with the man. If the man's infidelity is just a way to satisfy his own desires, it also shows that the woman is not satisfied with him. The man can do it once, but there may be another time.

The woman became pregnant, but the man cheated on her. This is an amazing opportunity for the woman to understand her man better! Does he have any other feelings for her? It's time for a good discussion! The woman needs to understand clearly, and it is best to sit down and have a good discussion with the man. It's okay if it's difficult to have a calm conversation with the man because of the pain of being betrayed. The woman must try to maintain a good mood and talk to the man, and decide how to choose in reality based on the man's attitude.

Follow your heart!

Perhaps most people would say that there is no point in keeping a man who cheated on his pregnant wife. But we cannot put ourselves in the other person's shoes and judge their relationship. It is the two of them who get along with each other, and only they know their relationship better. Sometimes it cannot be resolved just by leaving.

When the person you love cheats on you, the woman is the one who suffers the most. But she can also be the one to save the relationship! She can do this by asking herself more questions: "How can I salvage this relationship?" and "What can I do to prove my love and commitment?" The thorn in her heart stabs her from time to time, reminding her that the trust between them has been lost. But she can choose to turn this into a positive by using it as motivation to prove her love and commitment to her partner.

If you love someone enough, you'll never want to hurt them. You'll do everything you can to make sure they're happy! So, if the man loves the woman enough, she can give him some time to think carefully and listen to the answer within.

It's time to face the facts and make a rational decision!

It's time for her to fight for her own interests! If they're married, she can get evidence of his infidelity and take legal action against the third party to get back the money that belongs to both spouses.

If they're just boyfriend and girlfriend and the sex was consensual, then you've got the perfect opportunity to use morality as an argument! Don't cry at this point, because that will only drive the man away. Instead, face the situation rationally and know that you can solve the problems that lie ahead!

Let's dive into this from two different angles. First, there's the man's return. If the woman is ready to forgive and move forward with the relationship, it's important to keep an eye out for any potential issues. Even if they've been together for a while, it's essential to maintain a sense of mystery and keep the spark alive. Prioritize yourself, your family, and your partner. When these things are in order, you're more likely to have a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.

Another option is to move on and fight for your own rights and losses. If the man has lost interest in the woman, it doesn't mean she has to give birth to the child. She can choose to start a new life! Is she capable of taking care of everything after the child is born? Absolutely!

Using a child to control a person is irrational. Children are the most innocent, and they deserve to be loved and cared for! Adults will also be unable to get out of this pain because of an unresolved relationship. They will either be tortured by lingering feelings or cut ties completely. Perhaps the woman can take the initiative and make a choice, rather than waiting for the man to make a choice.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner out! Wishing you the best!

Hello, questioner! I am Jia Ao, and I'm not looking for trouble.

I have read your confessions and requests for help on the platform, including the additional content in the comment area. It is clear from the lack of description that the woman has been greatly hurt in this matter. You said that the woman is pregnant and about to give birth, yet the man is still joking about cheating. The woman wants to know what reasonable and safe way to handle this matter is. She also wants to know the man's attitude towards this matter.

The attitude of the man is unclear. Does he want to continue making the same mistakes? Or does he truly want to repent? It's not yet evident.

A man who cheats on his pregnant wife is not a good person. It doesn't matter if it's because of lust or something else; we all know that during pregnancy, there are indeed many men who do such things. They are used to thinking with their lower bodies. Or maybe they are selfish and disrespectful to their wives at heart. Such behavior is unacceptable to everyone. The wife has been hurt both physically and mentally. She has worked hard for the man and carried his child for ten months, only to be betrayed so deeply in return. She cannot remain calm and rational. There is no absolutely wise way. You just have to see if there is a way to temporarily minimize the harm.

☆ Simple analysis and sorting out:

1. Take good care of yourself.

It is crucial for the woman to prioritize her safety and that of the child in her womb, regardless of whether the infidelity is real. It is essential not to take things personally and to avoid engaging in strenuous exercise. Punishing yourself for the man's mistakes is not the answer. Accepting your emotions as they are and taking care of your emotions and feelings is the most important thing you can do.

It is crucial to find a way to calm down as soon as possible, even if you are angry and furious. Refrain from acting impulsively and avoid doing anything that could harm yourself or your child. The baby is about to be born, so it is vital to pay close attention to the things related to the birth. First and foremost, ensure the baby's safe delivery. The rest can be handled later. Whether you divorce or not is up to you. "When you are in trouble, there is always a way out." There is always a solution. Believe that things can't always be so bad.

2. [Establishing positive communication]

The woman stated that she cares about the man's attitude and wants to know how the other person feels before making a decision. However, the man's attitude is unclear, and he has been reluctant to communicate directly and has avoided the issue. In this situation, the woman should be more assertive. After all, the man is at fault, so why should the woman put up with such a man?

If the man is unwilling to sincerely repent and express his desire to return to the family, the woman should not hesitate. She should not blindly sacrifice herself for the sake of the greater good, because this will only make things worse. Even if the other party is temporarily forced to return to the family due to public pressure, their heart will never return. The woman needs to communicate clearly with the man. Some wounds can be slowly forgotten over time, but the prerequisite is that the man is clearly aware of these wounds and is willing to truly reform. If he is not willing to correct his mistakes at all, the woman will only continue to be hurt, which will also be detrimental to the growth of the children in the future.

3. Pay attention to your true needs.

No matter what the final outcome is, you must ask yourself: can you really bear to lose? Can you really cope with a divorce?

You must decide whether you still have faith in the marriage after the birth of your child. You must also decide whether you still have feelings for your husband.

You need to decide if you're willing to give the man one last chance. The prerequisite is that he's ready to turn over a new leaf. You can let him stay with you, take care of him, and then calmly communicate and negotiate about the future.

The baby is almost born, so there's no need to dwell on other things. If there's something big on the horizon, wait until you and the baby are safe before talking about it. You've got this. Nothing is too difficult to overcome, and you can get through this. If you need help, don't be afraid to ask for it. You don't have to do this alone. You need your own spiritual support and backing. I believe in you!

I'm sure my answer helps. The world and I love you ♥

Hello, friend! I'm thrilled to answer your question.

First of all, I don't know what role you play in the relationship between the man and the woman, but I think this matter is best handled by the woman herself. From your question, I feel that you don't want to break up the couple, which is great because that means there's still hope for them! I will now give my suggestions for your reference.

There are two possibilities. One is that the man doesn't know that the woman has found out about his infidelity. This is a great chance for the woman to show more concern for the man in her words! Specifically, during the woman's pregnancy, the man had a hard time having sex with her, so she should thank him for being considerate and for doing the housework.

That's one thing. The second thing is that the woman, in their usual chats, talks about the behavior of other couples during their wives' pregnancies. You can find things like this online, or you can make it up yourself. There are two kinds of situations here. In the case of a husband behaving badly, like you, you can say that in the end the man had a miserable ending and he regrets it, and so on. There is also the case of a husband behaving well, and tell him that I hope you are also this kind of responsible husband. This is called combining kindness with firmness, and it works wonders!

Another situation is when the man knows that the woman has found out that he has been cheating on her. In this case, the woman and the man should be honest with each other. The woman should show her understanding first, for example, by saying that it was not easy for the man to have no sex with her while she was pregnant. Then, she should ask him, "Do you think what you did was right? Can you live with yourself and the child?"

It is an amazing thing for a woman to carry a child for ten months! Ask him what he wants to do.

The good news is that you can help him find a way out. Divorce may not be his first choice, and he has to think about the child too. If you don't divorce, he'll always feel guilty towards you. So, use kindness and firmness to help him find a solution that works for everyone!

Remember, don't argue! Just look really sad. If the man repents, then don't mention it again. But if he doesn't, the woman gets to decide again after the baby is born!

Hello, question asker!

I'm here for you. Let's get through this together.

A woman in the late stages of pregnancy is in a vulnerable position that requires protection, care, and love. If you discover your partner has been unfaithful, regardless of who you are, you will undoubtedly feel hurt and betrayed.

And, sometimes we may want to lose our temper, but we know we should try to reduce our anger as much as possible. This may make you feel a little aggrieved, helpless, and sad.

First of all, you showed great courage in asking this question. You are a sensible and intelligent woman. Although your description was brief,

This incident has undoubtedly caused you distress.

Second, decide which is more important: this matter or taking good care of yourself and the baby. For practical reasons, you can weigh up which needs to be given top priority.

You mentioned that the man cheated on you. How did you find out?

Tell me, what did this mean to you?

Fourth, we need to think about the future. If the couple separates or stays together, we need to weigh the pros and cons and make a decision.

You need to give yourself time to rest and recuperate, and then make a decision. What do you think?

I don't know you, but I'm going to share some tips with you anyway.

1. You need to communicate with him. Write him a letter or send him a WeChat message. Tell him how you feel. (You need to stay calm, even though it's difficult.)

2. Focus on yourself and your baby. You have a lot to arrange at such a critical time.

You have to take care of yourself if you want to take better care of your baby.

If you're struggling to cope, take three deep breaths, get a piece of paper and pen, and write down your feelings. Then, tear up the paper.

I am confident that this will be of help to you. I also wish you a speedy recovery.

Hello. I have read your request for help and I empathize with you. You are in your third trimester and pregnant, so you are not feeling well. At this time, you encounter your husband cheating on you. Your emotions must be filled with grievances and anger. Do not worry about dealing with his cheating just yet. Both parties should calm down. There is still a one-month cooling-off period before the divorce. Do not lose your composure. I can see that you are seeking a wise solution. I believe you are also a very wise woman. What you need to do now is take care of yourself and the little life inside you. Remember: as long as you are alive, you will never run out of firewood.

I'm going to explore and analyze this issue with you and see if I can help you in some way.

You're looking for a way to handle this situation wisely and save your marriage. I know you're not giving up on your husband. Let's start with the first step.

He cheated on you during your pregnancy. It's likely he was looking for a release because his sex life with you was unsatisfying. This is a high-risk period for many men to cheat. Have you talked about it?

If this is the reason, his attitude is key. If he cares about his family and children, he will return to the family. It just takes a little time.

Don't stand on the moral high ground and push him too hard, and don't make a big deal out of it. It's not going to be easy to clean up. Women are very likely to lose their heads and do irrational things. Don't get so angry that you damage your health, and what about the children? Spare him a little face so that you can meet again in the future.

Retaining the marriage gives you a chance to repair the relationship. Losing the marriage means giving it away to the mistress. Retaining an unfaithful husband and saving a broken marriage is really a test of a woman's wisdom and patience. No marriage is free of problems, and the person you love the most in life is often the one who hurts you the most. You must be wise and pick up the pieces and make a new armor to protect yourself. If you are strong enough, this hurt may become your hardest armor after scabbing to protect you for life.

You can negotiate a solution regarding the raising of children. If you want to save your marriage, we can let the bullets fly for a while longer and talk about it after the baby is born. The child is connected to the parents by blood, and the father and son meeting may rekindle the flame of family love. Are you willing to take a happy adventure for you and your unborn child?

If your relationship is irreparably damaged and infidelity is just a consequence, it can be a bit troublesome. However, the law does tend to protect women's rights during marriage, especially if the wife is pregnant at the time of divorce. In short, infidelity during marriage is not illegal. If you are the innocent party, you can ask the other to pay compensation during divorce.

Just imagine what he'll say if you ask him to pay compensation. It could be the worst outcome, but it could also be a good start. And it's always good to know when to stop.

I want to make one thing clear: taking care of yourself and your children is the most important thing. Hugs, love, and take care!

My name is Gu Yi. I am a modest and unassuming individual who is true to myself.

The obligations and responsibilities inherent to a marital union.

It is unwise for those who have not experienced a situation to advise others on how to respond. Similarly, those who have not experienced a situation cannot offer advice that is too sympathetic. In the midst of chaos, we can only find the strength to do what we should do by taking courage from other people's stories.

It is imperative that the baby is kept in a positive frame of mind. With regard to the ultimate outcome of the marriage, it would be prudent to maintain a positive outlook and ensure a smooth delivery, followed by a full recovery.

The current situation has already placed us in a disadvantageous position, necessitating care and attention, both emotional and physical. Therefore, it is prudent to focus on the present and allow yourself to enjoy it. From your perspective, a smooth delivery and a perfect confinement period represent optimal self-care.

The significance of the child to the mother.

I would like to reiterate that relationships are developed through spending time together. We carried a child for nine months and gave birth to it. The careful care we provided after the birth reinforced our bond, and it was only through this that we could give that little baby a stronger sense of security. We shared physical and emotional intimacy, which strengthened our relationship.

It would be beneficial to discuss these assumptions with your husband before making a decision. Our expectations for marriage will influence our attitude towards this matter.

The child will be the most significant aspect of your future life with your husband, and I believe this is also what your mother expects. As you mentioned, divorce will negatively impact the child, so let's first assess the potential harm to ourselves and then make a decision.

It is not advisable to yield entirely to the influence of others simply because of the child. If you accept this course of action, it should be because you genuinely want to do so.

I hope this message finds you well.

Hello! I just wanted to give you a big, warm hug!

This question is short and sweet, but there's so much packed into it!

Your question is so wise! It really depends on the situation, what you're capable of, and who's asking. So, we'll have to look at each situation on its own.

In psychological counseling, the interests of the client come first, and the counselor is on the client's side. This is similar to how a lawyer in a lawsuit is on the side of their client, even if the client is a murderer.

Of course, lawyers have to stick to the law when defending their clients. They can't just say "black is white" just because it's their client.

The counselor standing in front of the visitor also has to abide by the law. In this case, regardless of the identity of the visitor, it's so important to protect the rights and interests of the child and the woman first and foremost.

At the very least, we have to make sure that the child's interests are protected, especially when it comes to the things they need to grow up happy and healthy. After all, the child is innocent.

In this question, we're not sure who asked it or what they're hoping to achieve. If it was the wife, maybe she's hoping to save the marriage or maybe she's looking to move on.

If it's the man, I'd love to know if he'd like to return to the family or find true love by getting a divorce.

So, what is it that you're hoping to achieve from this meeting? It's understandable that not all of us will see eye to eye on this. For instance, if a man wants to leave his wife and children and let her move on with her life, some counsellors might find this a little difficult to accept.

After all, counselors are more than just counselors. They're real people with their own opinions, just like you and me!

So, tell me, who are you? And what is your goal?

Everyone's different, so it's important to understand what you're dealing with.

I think this question would be better answered by a lawyer, rather than a counselor. I'm guessing the person asking isn't the woman in question.

It could be the man himself, his parents, or friends, or even the third party he cheated on his wife with.

I'm a counselor who's often a bit pessimistic, but I try to stay positive. I love the world and I love you!

Hello, I am Xin Tan, Coach Fei Yun.

These few words present a complex question.

1. First of all, it is not certain who the questioner is. It could be the woman, the man, or even a third party.

2. The desired outcome is not clear. Is the relationship/marriage to be ended or continued?

I will share and discuss some personal experiences.

1. The woman is pregnant and about to give birth, and she is risking her life to give birth to the child for this man. She also has to bear the enormous pressure of betrayal by her partner, whether of feelings or of marriage, as well as the resulting grievances, anger, and difficult choices.

2. The man cheated on his wife, and the affair was uncovered just before she was due to give birth. He took a big risk apart from the wrongdoing and betrayal of the affair itself. The woman decided whether or not to have the baby in the end, and had no control over how the affair would adversely affect her delivery.

The questioner's wisdom is evident from the phrase "What is a wise way to handle this?" because this question does not dwell on who is responsible but focuses on the solution, rather than the course of events. Therefore, from the perspective of the outcome, preservation is one of the advisable ways.

Preservation is the best way forward. By preserving the marriage and rebuilding the relationship, you can ensure a positive experience for the woman before and after giving birth. It also provides an opportunity for the man to make positive changes. Most importantly, it sets the foundation for a healthy future for the child.

Once a consensus has been reached, the next step is to work out a solution.

Cheating is wrong and extremely immoral. It is a sign of disrespect for the woman and a sign of self-loathing.

Take the initiative to admit your mistake, apologize, and make amends. Be open and honest about your emotional needs. Use this opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your partner and gain insight into your own emotions and marriage.

Effective communication with emotion is key. Reach a consensus and meet each other's needs within the limits of both parties' abilities to find a solution to the problem together. Two people heading in the same direction shows they are on the right track, but as they go along and live their lives, the way to achieve that direction has deviated.

2. For the woman: This is not about compromising or getting by. It is about showing more understanding and tolerance out of respect for the relationship and for yourself.

Nobody is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Infidelity is definitely the other person's fault. In this situation, though, the most important thing is to prioritize. The mother's health is the most urgent and important thing. It's essential to ensure a smooth delivery, so the mother needs to stay in good condition.

The other party made a mistake, but the woman must also accept responsibility. Has there been less communication between the couple since the pregnancy? Have you been focusing more on the baby and ignoring the other person's needs?

Are you focusing more on the baby and ignoring the other person's needs?

A relevant survey has found that there are several concentrated stages when men cheat, one of which is during a woman's pregnancy. Men cheat during pregnancy because they are unable to satisfy their partner's sexual needs due to their own condition. Coupled with a lack of emotional communication, it is very easy for men to cheat during pregnancy.

This is not an excuse for a man to cheat, but it is important to remember that emotional communication between partners is necessary and important. When love is involved, it is unwise to argue because winning the argument will lose the relationship.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. The world and I love you. ?

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