Three-year-old kids can be especially spoiled and clingy; I truly don't know what to do?

Hello! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I'm excited to hear if there's been a recent separation! Has your child started going to kindergarten?

If so, separation anxiety may need to be addressed, and we can help with that!

It's so important to establish a sense of ritual when it comes to separation.

So, how do we separate from our baby? Well, the answer is simple: don't sneak away, and don't cry with your baby!

It's so important to have a nice, happy goodbye ritual!

When you say goodbye to your little one, let them know you'll be back in a little while to pick them up. This way, they'll know you'll be back on time and they can look forward to playing with you after you leave!

Before you know it, your little one will understand that it's okay for you to leave, and that you'll be back on time to play with them!

And now for some quality time when you get home!

Leaving and returning is a promise between you and your baby. When you meet again, give your baby a big, warm hug!

Let your baby know that going to school is something to be happy about! Show them through your words and actions that it's something to look forward to, not something to be afraid of.

While you're at home, get creative and do some fun, intimate activities with your little one that are just for the two of you! Try bath time, storytelling, or even lulling your baby to sleep. Make your short time together even more special and make it worth your baby's while to look forward to it all day long!

I highly recommend a fantastic picture book called "Magic Kiss"!

The mother leaves a kiss in the palm of the little raccoon's hand, and whenever the little raccoon misses her mother, it presses the palm gently against its cheek. It's so comforting! The little raccoon doesn't feel lonely or afraid.

It's the perfect solution to separation anxiety! It's been proven to be extremely helpful, and it's so effective!

Every morning before going to school, let your child hold out his hand for a kiss, and let him kiss your hand back. He can take your kiss to kindergarten with him, and look at it when he misses you!

Guess what! When a friend of mine used this method, something pretty amazing happened. The child missed his mom so much that he kept touching his face with the hand she had kissed, as if he had a toothache. The teacher reported, "The separation anxiety has indeed improved, but shouldn't he see a dentist? He keeps covering his face with his hand..."

The Magic Kiss does make him feel safe and can totally ease his separation anxiety!

As your child grows, they'll meet all kinds of new challenges—and you'll be there to support them every step of the way. And along the way, you'll create so many wonderful memories, just like my friend and her baby!

I truly believe that as long as we find a way to solve the problem, we can definitely get through this period smoothly and help our baby to open the door to a new world smoothly and with anticipation!

I'd also love to share some insights into the fascinating psychological development of children at this stage.

The great news is that from a developmental psychology perspective, children's behavior is totally normal!

He's on an incredible journey of self-awareness and development! He's in the "self-centered" stage, which is an essential part of his growth.

The term "self-centered" applies to children over the age of three and those under the age of three who are eager to explore the world around them. While they may not yet consider the perspective of others, they are quick to put their own needs first and eager to try new things.

Children are amazing! They have so much potential and are constantly learning and growing. Their cognitive abilities, analytical abilities, and emotional control are not yet fully developed, which means they are still learning how to see things from other people's perspectives.

Piaget's "Three Mountains Experiment" is a great example of this phenomenon. "Self-centeredness" is not the same as selfishness. It's just a stage in a child's psychological development. With the right guidance, children can learn to see things from the perspective of others and enhance their social skills by "de-centering."

So, when kids are in that "self-centered" stage, let's not call them names like "selfish," "domineering," "unreasonable," or "unwilling to share." Instead, let's embrace it as a totally normal, natural phenomenon!

It's totally normal for kids to be self-centered! When they're born, their vision is pretty limited, so it's only natural for them to focus on themselves. As they grow, we can help them learn to share and interact with others. When they have a conflict, they can use their creativity to find a solution.

As the brain develops and cognition develops, it's so important to focus on children's social development. This is a great time to help them learn to consider things from other people's perspectives, understand that they can have their own ideas and that others have their own ideas, and find a balance through coordination when conflicts arise. It's a wonderful opportunity to guide them in this exciting journey of growth!

If your child is still stuck in the egocentric stage at age 4-5 or even 6-7, don't worry! You can help them out of this stage with some simple, effective parenting techniques.

1. Create an environment that's all about the kids!

It's so important to give our kids the freedom to explore and discover the world around them! But we also need to be careful not to overdo it. If we do everything for them, they might get a bit too used to having everything done for them. And that can make it harder for them to fit in with other kids when they're older. So let's give them the space to learn and grow!

It's so important to treat children as independent individuals and let them try to solve problems within their abilities! This is a great way for them to get to know themselves properly and also care about others. It's especially beneficial for their future social development.

2. Guide children to learn to put themselves in other people's shoes and see the world through their eyes!

Guiding your child to get to know, understand, and sympathize with others is a great way to help them move from "self" to "other" and consider not only themselves but also the feelings of others. There are so many fun ways to do this at home! You can play games like "commander training," "group training," "role-playing," and "rule training," which will help them learn to handle peer relationships and acquire some interpersonal skills. You can also tell stories and play games that encourage them to think from other people's perspectives. These activities will help them understand that they can't always do everything themselves and that it's important to consider others' feelings.

It's so important to avoid preaching and punishment and instead use the methods mentioned above. This is a great way to help children experience what it means to put themselves in other people's shoes and to empathize. These experiences are so meaningful for them when resolving conflicts outside!

3. Go out of the home and have fun participating in group activities regularly!

Children will eventually have the amazing opportunity to venture out into the world and experience all that it has to offer. "De-centering" is a crucial step in their journey of future social adaptation. So, let's seize the chance to take our children to participate in social and group activities and expose them to the wonders of society!

It's so important to encourage children to play with other kids more often! Games like "commander training," "group training," "role-playing," and "rule training" are a great way to help them experience the joy of cooperation, try on different roles, learn to handle peer relationships, and gain some valuable interpersonal skills.

When children play together and a conflict arises, it's a great opportunity for them to learn and grow! We can let them deal with it themselves, observing and providing guidance when needed. This is the perfect way to help them develop social skills and become confident, independent individuals.

So, there's no simple answer to the question of why children are selfish.

When children are in the "self-centered" stage, it's important to accept their natural state and let them develop normally. Don't force them to share and think from others' perspectives — they can do it! They just need a little guidance.

When children reach the age where they need to "decenter," it's an amazing opportunity for them to learn to put themselves in other people's shoes, to understand others, to avoid developing a "selfish" character, to promote the perfection and development of their personality, and to become a person who can adapt to society.

Wishing you the very best!