We are very ambiguous in other people's eyes. I don't know if it's possible to be with him.

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Hello, I'm Fly, your heart coach. I've seen the confused "love" that makes your heart flutter. Youth is full of beauty, sunshine, passion, and happiness.

You like him, but he only sees you as a friend. You want to know if there's a chance of you being together. Let's look at your questions.

1. Love makes people lose their judgment.

When people are in love, their bodies make a hormone called oxytocin. This hormone makes them want sex and helps them bond with their partners.

This includes the idea that you like him because of love hormones. You like him because you're attracted to him.

I admire your courage and confidence. You like someone and tell them how you feel. It's not love, just admiration. During adolescence, boys and girls explore their identity and discover how they are different from others.

They care about how others see them, especially the opposite sex. This can lead to confused feelings.

Puppy love or love can happen at this age, but middle school students don't understand love yet. They also don't have stable values or outlooks on life. This is called "social time," which means that each age group has their own main occupation.

Love comes at university when you have a stable social foundation and mature ideas. In middle school, loving each other may help you study harder and encourage each other towards a common goal.

If you're in this situation, you're also confused and distressed.

2. You care a lot about the outcome because you need satisfaction.

You're torn between being together. Every emotion has a need behind it, and every action has a positive motive.

Do you want to prove you like him, that you're "love at first sight," or that you're worthy of love?

Or will it make you believe in love?

In an ambiguous relationship, you can see your feelings and what you need. You need to be loved, cared for, protected, and feel safe.

Ask yourself what else can satisfy your needs.

Every experience is valuable. You are happy now. You have someone you like. You have expressed your feelings. You are still good friends.

I hope this helps you see things differently and gives you more options. And I love you.

To continue the conversation, click "Find a Coach" in the top right or bottom. I will communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

From your question and the story you tell, it's clear that when you were in junior high school, you confessed your feelings for the boy you liked for the first time. He said he would like you, but not at that time. It's obvious that his heart was somewhere else, probably on his studies.

After confirming the relationship, you broke up a week later. The guy said he didn't like OP after getting to know her. OP's feelings weren't the confused infatuation of adolescence. OP is devotedly in love and has decided on one person. She's willing to wait for him unconditionally. But your feelings weren't returned with the same level of care.

Just because you like someone doesn't mean you have to be with them.

When we like someone, we fantasize about being with that person. We also fantasize about many good things. The other person's frankness hurts the questioner. However, the other person's frankness allows the questioner to know the other person's attitude. In terms of relationships, the other person's lack of concealment tells the questioner not to waste time on him. The other person is unable to reciprocate your feelings.

We have the right to like someone, and the questioner has not affected the other person because of this liking. This silent guarding by the side of the other person is really touching. We know that touching cannot buy affection, so if you like someone, even if you cannot be together, we will also bless the other person when we see them happy.

Don't let others influence you.

The boy has probably forgotten that the questioner still likes him and is still waiting for him. You may have a connection, but he's made it clear that he only sees you as a friend. This makes the questioner realise that he values the friendship between you, but that he doesn't feel anything for you. If you still have feelings for him, then seeing him with someone else will hurt the questioner.

Many people believe that pure friendship between men and women is impossible. This is what the questioner's classmates think. When the questioner gets closer to the boy, they start a fuss. Their behavior causes trouble for the questioner and the boy. It makes the questioner more hopeful and think that the boy likes her. It also causes the boy trouble. He has already made his attitude clear. He may distance himself from the questioner afterwards to avoid suspicion. This is so that he can continue his normal life with the boy.

Look at the reality, and don't be fooled.

From junior high to high school, the questioner has loved this boy. The boy has always had the same attitude towards her: he doesn't like her. However, he values the friendship between you. This is the reality of the situation.

If you keep hoping, you'll only make it impossible for the questioner to move on from this guy. You might even miss out on meeting someone who's better for you. The guy isn't always single, so his lack of interest means what it originally meant. It's not just about schoolwork.

You need to face reality. You may have met the wrong person at the wrong time. You may have to let go. You may have spent little time together, and you may have fallen for him, but you have to let go. If you don't, you'll never get love.

☀️ Start over.

In this situation, the questioner has spent several years paying and expressing, but the guy has already clearly expressed his attitude. You need to learn to let go. Letting go will be sad, but it's the only way to empty your heart.

Distract yourself, keep your sadness at bay with your daily life, and make time for exercise and study. When you're ready, more people will see you. I hope my answer helps the questioner, and I wish you all the best.

Hello, dear questioner! I'm Jia Ao, and I'm here to help in any way I can.

I can see the problems and confusion you described on the platform. It's totally normal to have relationship management issues! You met a guy you really like. You were once a couple, but broke up not long after. You have been waiting for him like crazy. In other people's eyes, it seems like you are dating, but you are not really together. I totally get it! You want to know if there is still a possibility for you to be together.

I'm happy to help you answer your question! Let's take a moment to analyze and sort things out together.

Take a step back and look at the relationship with a cool head.

Even if you have a great relationship, it's still just friendship for now. There's a big difference between friendship and love, and it's important to recognize it. The other person has made it clear that they see you as a friend. Even though you still have strong feelings for them and have been protecting them, they've told you that it's unlikely there will be anything between you. This shows that they don't have other feelings for you. It's okay to feel disappointed, but it's also important to stay calm and think things through.

There's no such thing as forever being ambiguous, my friend.

It can be really tricky when you're in a situation where you have a good impression of someone but you're not quite ready to reveal your feelings. It's easy to get caught up in the ambiguity and think you're in a relationship when you're not. "We're just good friends." "We're good buddies..." But you're not really understanding the other person's feelings and you're scared to mess up this friendship. Even if you can't be friends, this kind of ambiguity can also turn into love, except for one-sided affection. So, it's really important to figure out whether he has feelings for you before you make any decisions.

The exclusivity and monopolization of love — it's a beautiful thing!

It's actually pretty easy to tell what someone else is thinking. You can figure it out from some small things and details. If you really like someone, you can see if they're jealous and possessive. If you see the person you care about getting close to their best friend or sibling, it'll bother you. This shows that there's still a glimmer of hope. Whether it's a secret love or an obvious love, even if it's a vague liking, the two people who are in an ambiguous period will show it. The way they act will show you whether they're interested in you, whether they'll care for you without fail, take care of you, put you first, and whether there'll be further intimate contact. You can feel it all!

Take care of yourself, sweetheart.

If you can, you should try it as a friend to see what he thinks. No matter what the result is, you have to accept your emotions, put your feelings first, take care of your emotions and feelings, and learn to face problems bravely. The worst that can happen is knowing that the other person has no feelings for you and that you have liked them for so long in silence. You've already thought about the result countless times in your heart, so you'll be okay either way!

Mutual love is a beautiful thing!

It's such a beautiful thing when you like someone and they like you back. But just because you like someone doesn't mean they'll necessarily like you back. Love is the most unpredictable thing of all, and you should know that better than anyone. You can try to declare your feelings once, to show him how you really feel. Even if in the end the other person doesn't return your feelings, at least you won't have to keep your love to yourself. Love that goes both ways is meaningful and the sweetest thing there is. I sincerely hope that all the good people you meet will be good for you, and that you won't have to be alone and sad. I wish you all the best!

I really hope my answer helps! Sending you lots of love ?

Hello, my dear. I can see that you really like this boy. Even after he rejected you, you still ask, "Is there any chance that you and he could be together?" I'm sure you already know the answer in your heart.

I just want to say, you have such courage in loving. Even though your friend made it clear that the two of you were a mismatch and treated you like iron, you're still so brave and strong, and you still have expectations for this relationship.

1. I'd love to start by asking you a few questions. You were together for a week and then broke up. What do you think caused the breakup? If you were to get back together, would these problems still exist, and how would you solve them?

Secondly, one-sided love is on the side of the pursuer. After a period of devotion, they often find themselves in a tricky spot. They feel hopeless but are reluctant to give up. They know the chances of success are slim but hope for a miracle.

The wonderful socialist psychologist Erich Fromm once said in his book The Art of Loving: "If you are in love but don't get a response from the other person, that is to say, if your love as love doesn't elicit love in the other person, then your love is powerless and is unfortunate. If you, as the lover, don't make yourself a loved one through your life expression, then your love is powerless and is unfortunate."

Love is a wonderful thing, and it's something that can only be exchanged with love.

3. Finally, you cannot force a relationship. It's okay! You just need to understand that if the other person does not accept you, it is not because you are not good enough, but because they really don't feel it or it's not a good match. Get rid of those unrealistic thoughts in your heart and dare to look directly at the other person's true thoughts.

It's okay to try to find a way out and turn your attention to other meaningful things. We all need to know when to advance and when to retreat in love.

As the former Soviet writer Isaakovsky said, "Love is the spark that comes from the collision of two hearts, not the beating of one heart against another!"

Oh, my dear child, I truly believe that you will find a wonderful man who will love and protect you and give you his heart in return!