We've known each other for three years, and she tells me everything. What's a guy to think? Why is she doing this?

Good day. I am a heart exploration coach, Gu Daoxi Fengshou Slender Donkey.

After reviewing the questioner's text, I can discern a certain confusion. I would like to extend my support and understanding to the questioner.

I am curious as to whether this individual typically has a large number of acquaintances. Is he introverted?

It is possible to discern the questioner's feelings towards the other person's message, and it would be advisable to respond in a more proactive manner. It is human nature to seek and maintain connections with individuals who are willing to interact with us. Consequently, the other person will likely continue to send messages to the questioner, and the questioner may also respond in a timely manner.

It is important to note that nobody is an expert in reading minds. When attempting to discern another person's thoughts, there is a possibility that the interpretation may differ significantly from the original meaning. If the individual in question is uncertain or if you inquire directly with them, you will likely receive a more accurate response, reducing the likelihood of misunderstandings caused by guessing.

Additionally, feelings of loneliness may prompt you to message someone who responds, effectively transforming the other person into a source of emotional support. When you have a reliable outlet for your emotions, it's crucial to assess whether the other person's actions align with their feelings for you.

Even the most introverted individual will experience discomfort when expressing their affection towards someone they are interested in. If the other person does not display any of the aforementioned behaviors, it is likely that they are simply seeking companionship. It may be helpful to ascertain which of these behaviors the other person is exhibiting.

It is important to be aware of other people's opinions, but it is more crucial to understand your own boundaries and needs. Do you find such a friendship beneficial? If not, it may be advisable to maintain a distance.

It is worth noting that women may be more sensitive than men when it comes to boundaries. If the other person's sharing causes discomfort or distress to the questioner, it may be more appropriate to try to refuse.

The questioner should consider why they want to know the other person's intentions in approaching them. Is it because they are bored or jealous of the other person liking them? The other person may be showing off to the questioner and competing with other girls for their attention.

Determining the intentions of other individuals can assist in formulating an appropriate response. Identifying and clarifying one's own confusion can help in taking better care of one's feelings and in assertively declining unreasonable demands.

Listening to your inner voice and acting in accordance with it may help the questioner feel more at ease.

I would like to suggest the following reading material: Between People.

Best regards,

From your description, this guy's behavior is really intriguing! He sometimes chats with you, sometimes keeps his distance, and also shares some interactions with other girls, which makes you question his intentions.

However, it's not easy to accurately judge what he is thinking because everyone has different communication styles and social habits, which makes things really interesting!

First of all, the reason he shares his interactions with other girls with you is probably because he thinks your relationship is close enough to share these daily events. This is a great sign! It shows he values your relationship and wants to keep you in the loop. It doesn't mean that he doesn't have special feelings for you or that he just thinks of you as a brother.

Some people love sharing their lives with friends of the opposite sex! It doesn't necessarily mean they have feelings for their friends that go beyond friendship.

Second, the trade-off he proposed (such as letting you buy dinner or drinks) may just be his way of joking or flirting. It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't respect you or care about your feelings, which is great!

However, if you feel uncomfortable with this approach, you can definitely tell him how you feel! You can then work together to find a mutually acceptable solution.

Finally, regarding your relationship, if you have feelings for him, you can try to express your feelings more directly and see how he reacts. If you just consider him a friend, then you can continue with the status quo, but maintain a certain distance to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings.

In short, relationships are an amazing adventure! They require mutual effort to maintain and understand, but it's worth it. When unsure of the other person's intentions, it is important to maintain open and honest communication.

Hello! I give you a 360-degree hug!

From the short description of the problem, it's clear that you have a lot to learn! It seems like you're confused about what the other person is really thinking or what they really want. Imagine they're like a couple, but they talk to you about other girls.

You say you are like brothers, but it doesn't seem like it. This makes you very confused, but it also makes you an exciting puzzle to solve!

In fact, the other person probably doesn't know what he thinks or what his intentions are. Even if you ask, you won't get an accurate answer.

Even if he thinks he is expressing his true thoughts, it may not be his true thoughts, and it is not his true intention subconsciously – but that's okay!

It's not about what the other person says or does. It's about how you feel in response to it!

So, how do you position your relationship with the other person? And what direction do you want your relationship to take?

This is your own, and it's related to you! Your words and deeds, and even the decisions you make, are based more on your understanding and interpretation of the other person's behavior.

Your understanding and interpretation have nothing to do with the other person, but everything to do with your own perceptions, experiences, and ideas—and that's a great thing!

It's like when a parent criticizes their child harshly. In the parent's eyes, they are criticizing their child out of love, to make them improve. In the child's eyes, it may be, "My parents always criticize me. They must think I'm no good. Am I really no good? I must be no good." Then the child may become cautious and develop low self-esteem. But here's the thing: the child can choose to see things differently! They can choose to see that their parents' criticism is not a reflection of their inherent goodness, but rather a chance to grow and improve. They can choose to develop a healthy self-esteem and a positive outlook on life.

Some children may feel that you are criticizing them for no reason, and they may rebel against their parents. But here's the great thing: everyone interprets the same situation differently, and we respond according to our own interpretation.

This explanation may have nothing to do with the other person, and it is just our own interpretation of the situation—but it's a great one!

He thinks this girl is really nice, and I get along great with her! But his words and actions make you feel a little uncomfortable.

It doesn't matter what the other person thinks! What matters is how you feel. We can't read other people's minds, and we can't even read our own minds — but we can trust our feelings!

Intuition is your best friend right now! If the other person gives you an uncomfortable feeling, trust your gut and stay away.

It's totally pointless trying to figure out why. Even if we do, our feelings probably won't change. Especially when it comes to the things you mentioned, it feels like no matter what the other person says, it's hard to feel comfortable.

Trust your feelings and follow them! If you don't feel comfortable, just stay away. You can simply not reply.

If you don't respond after the first or second time, it simply means you've made up your mind and you're ready to move on. If an adult doesn't have this self-awareness, they should stay away.

You can talk to a counselor! Talk about your views on the relationship. You have given relatively little information, but don't worry! The answers given are for reference only.

I am a counselor who is often both Buddhist and pessimistic, but I try to stay positive and motivated! The world is a wonderful place, and I love you all!

Hello, You're guessing a guy's feelings for you. You may be guessing the other person's feelings because you have a good feeling about him. If you want to be more than friends, you need to let him feel your charm. But if he only sees you as a friend, then there is nothing wrong with that.

If he likes another girl, you need to adjust your mentality. You can either continue to like him or find someone more suitable. Either way, respect his choice. Relationships are mutual and cannot be forced. If you really like him, you should want him to be happy.

To know someone better, talk about things that interest you. This will help you understand each other better. If you don't see each other often, keep in touch. Don't let your busy schedule stop you from sharing things with each other.

Tell him you're happy for him but feel lost when he chats with other girls. Let him know how you feel without accusing him. If he explains, try to understand. Maybe he just wants to share his happiness and doesn't realize it makes you sad. If he doesn't explain, ask him.

Take a deep breath and think about your relationship. Talk to your partner and respect their choices. If they don't respect you, it's time to end the relationship. Know what you want and communicate it clearly.

Best wishes.

Hello, question asker! Thanks for the question.

I think the way the boy's been acting has left you a bit confused and intrigued. Let's take a closer look at it together.

We can look closely at this boy's thoughts and actions from different angles.

First, in terms of time, you've known each other for three years. During that time, he's been in touch sometimes and not so much at other times. This kind of contact can reflect the fact that he has mixed feelings about you.

Maybe at one point he was really interested in you, but then at another point he wasn't so interested. This back-and-forth might mean that he's also emotionally conflicted and uncertain.

Second, the details of his life that he shares with you, such as getting concert tickets, his experiences with other girls trying to get tickets, and pictures of other girls, may all be ways he is trying to get closer to you. He may want to get closer to you by sharing this personal information.

However, this approach might also make you feel confused or uncomfortable, especially if he often talks about his interactions with other girls.

On top of that, his offer to trade the celebrity support bag for dinner or drinks might be his way of trying to interact with you more offline. This offer might seem like a simple exchange, but it could actually be his way of trying to get in touch with you further.

It's also possible that this is just a social skill on his part, an attempt to strengthen the relationship through reciprocity.

From a personality standpoint, this guy might not be the most direct person when it comes to expressing his feelings. He may prefer to convey his intentions in an indirect way, possibly because he's afraid of being rejected if he makes a direct confession or because he's hoping to gradually get closer to you in this way.

However, this approach might also leave you feeling confused and uncertain, as you may not be able to accurately judge his true intentions.

It's also important to think about cultural differences and personal experiences when you're trying to understand his behavior. Different cultural backgrounds and personal experiences can affect the way a person socializes and expresses themselves.

So, we can't really judge his true feelings based on his actions. We need to learn more about his background and experiences to understand his motives better.

Generally, a guy's thoughts might include a few different motives, like affection for you, testing, seeking attention, and consolidating the relationship. His actions might reflect both his character and the influence of his cultural background and personal experiences.

It's not easy to understand what he really wants.

The most important thing is to stay calm and think things through. You can try to communicate more deeply with him and ask directly about his thoughts and intentions.

It's also a good idea to be open about your feelings and needs. This will help you protect your rights and feelings. If there are misunderstandings or uncertainties in your relationship, it's worth trying to resolve them through honest communication.

It's also important to think about the nature of your relationship. If you see him as just a friend or a brother, you can tell him how you feel and hope that he'll respect your decision.

If you have feelings for him and want to develop the relationship further, you can try communicating more proactively with him and expressing your thoughts.

In any case, you should try to keep your independence and sense of self-worth. Don't let his actions affect you too much emotionally or in your daily life.

Remember, you have the right to choose who you like and decide your own lifestyle. It's important to stay rational and confident when dealing with complex interpersonal relationships.

You can also ask friends or family for advice and support. They may be able to give you a more objective view and help you handle the relationship better.

At the same time, you need to listen to your inner voice and understand your true needs and feelings. That's the only way you'll be able to make the right decisions for you and find happiness.

In a nutshell, the best way to handle boys' complicated behavior and ever-changing thoughts is to stay calm, communicate rationally, and be clear about your needs and feelings. This will help you understand his true intentions and make informed decisions to protect your rights and feelings.

Also, don't forget to maintain your independence and sense of self-worth, and remain rational and confident when dealing with interpersonal relationships.

Wishing you all the best, and I love you!

Good day.

I recall a colleague suggesting that men can be likened to Wi-Fi. They will respond to any woman who indicates she is interested.

I believe this man is somewhat reserved. He has a tendency to engage in flirtatious behavior with women to gauge their interest. He has been probing your interest, but your response has been somewhat tepid. He has not received a clear indication of your interest, so he has not yet taken the next step.

It seems reasonable to conclude that, given his willingness to share personal information and his interest in discussing girls, he must have developed a romantic interest in you. This suggests that he has not yet given up on the possibility of a relationship.

Now that he is either idle or has no other targets, he has begun to send you subtle signals again, constantly touching you to see how you react.

Regardless of the nature of the relationship, whether it is amicable or romantic, I believe that his behavior indicates the following:

Instead of speculating about his thoughts, we should examine our own. Regardless of the relationship, our thoughts are the most important factor. We should use our thoughts to determine the relationship and decide on the next step.

It would be prudent to take a moment to calm down and explore the depths of our hearts to gain clarity on our true feelings. Do we have a positive impression of this individual?

What type of relationship are we prepared to maintain with him? Are we willing to maintain a purely platonic friendship, or is there more to the relationship than that?

Are we prepared to accept a secondary role in the relationship, or does he have some level of attraction for us? Does he evoke a positive sentiment and a desire to influence his trajectory?

Ultimately, it is essential to rely on one's own true thoughts. In order to maintain a friendship, it is vital to have clear boundaries.

Without the language of attraction and ambiguity with the opposite sex, there is no opportunity for the other person, and clear boundaries are established. This also ensures the purity of our friendship.

If we can facilitate a transition towards a romantic relationship, we can accelerate progress, reinforce the connection, demonstrate goodwill and a certain degree of trust, and take the initiative to provide both parties with the opportunity to advance towards the desired relationship.

Our actions are driven by our genuine needs. When these needs are not clearly defined, the relationship becomes ambiguous, which can be exhausting for both parties.

It is advisable to maintain clarity in relationships. If there is uncertainty about one's own needs or feelings, seeking guidance from a counselor can be beneficial.

It is important to recognize that the world has positive regard for you, and you should extend that same regard to yourself.

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan, a counselor at Jingliu.

From the questioner's description, I can tell the questioner is confused. When a guy shares his life with the questioner, it's because he has a good impression of the questioner.

It depends on how the guy feels about the questioner.

The questioner thinks this boy is your close friend. But some of his actions have confused him. He may trust you. This may be why he shares the details of his life with you.

He shares the trivial things in his life with you, but seems calculating. For example, he wants to interact with you through concert tickets and support bags.

He may have posted screenshots or photos of his interactions with other girls to test your reaction and see if you have special feelings for him.

Some people just like to share their lives with friends. He may just want to share his experiences with the questioner.

He may think that how you interact is a way to maintain the relationship.

His behavior may also show that he has some feelings for the questioner, but he's not sure what they are. He may want to stay friends, but also wants a more intimate relationship.

It's also possible that the other person sees the questioner as a close friend and wants their attention.

People have different communication styles and motives. He may not realize his actions confuse the questioner.

It depends on how you interact and how you present yourselves to each other. If you have feelings for him but he only sees you as a friend, you can talk to him honestly to find out what he thinks.

The subject can choose a good time to talk about your feelings and doubts. You can ask him why he did it and what he thinks of the subject. If the subject just enjoys the friendship, then the status quo can continue. But you should take care to maintain an appropriate distance to avoid misunderstandings.

The questioner can decide to stop interacting with the person if they feel uncomfortable or disrespected.

For example, "If there is a similar event in the future, I hope to have the chance to take part." It's important to respect the feelings and needs of the questioner.

I hope my answer helps.

Related books:

Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People helps readers build better relationships.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray explains the differences between men and women.

Intimacy is a great book by Roland Miller that looks at intimacy from a psychological point of view.

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg is a way of communicating that aims to reduce conflict and harm between people.

The Art of Communication by Ronald B. Adler and David F. Rodman is a comprehensive guide to communication.

Reading People by Joe Navarro teaches you to read other people's emotions and thoughts from their body language.