What are the benefits of unconditional self-love? Can it heal psychological problems?

Good morning, I extend my best wishes to you in the form of a 360-degree hug.

I will now address the second part of your question, namely whether unconditional self-love can cure all psychological problems.

My response is negative.

While unconditional self-love can resolve internal conflicts, it is also essential to address the external relationships we have with others, groups, society, and the world. Solving these external relationships can be facilitated by resolving internal conflicts.

As the adage goes, when seeking a partner, be a good person yourself and then find another good person.

We will now discuss unconditional self-love. It should be noted that unconditional self-love cannot be considered complete, as all actions must consider the impact on others. Harming others to satisfy oneself is unacceptable.

The initial step in developing unconditional self-love is to accept oneself. Many individuals struggle to love themselves because they are unable to fully embrace their authentic selves.

The real self may include characteristics such as originating from a disadvantaged family background, lacking physical attractiveness, being below average height, or lacking proficiency in communication.

These are our inherent characteristics, which may be unchangeable. Additionally, there may be traits such as a lack of generosity, selfishness, laziness, and a lack of motivation. These are also part of our intrinsic identity.

The real self is analogous to a deck of cards that has been dealt. It may not be optimal, but it is the only one we have and cannot change. This is the real self that we need to accept: the one and only self.

It is important to note that accepting one's shortcomings does not imply passivity. Instead, it entails taking action to identify potential improvements.

For instance, if one's appearance is perceived as lacking in attractiveness, one can make minor adjustments to one's personal grooming. Similarly, if one's height is below average, one can enhance one's temperament by increasing one's reading material.

In short, utilize your resources to achieve the best possible outcome.

I suggest you read Adler's book, Accepting the Other Imperfect Self.

Additionally, you may wish to consult with a counselor.

I am a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes depressed, occasionally positive and motivated. I extend my best wishes to the world and to you.

Hello, host. I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you.

I used to have doubts like this: unconditional love can and will heal me. We may not have received unconditional love from others, but we can still love ourselves unconditionally.

If we truly love ourselves unconditionally, it will bring us many benefits and heal our hearts.

I am convinced that this is true based on my experience with "Rebuilding Your Life" and Mr. Zhou Fan's Self-Love Power course.

I have some suggestions for you.

You must practice and cultivate the ability to love yourself.

Let's be real: many people are born unable to love themselves. It's only through cultivation that they learn how to love themselves. Many of us didn't get enough love from our parents during our growth process. Our parents were also living their own lives full of exhaustion and fear. They would scold, restrict, compare, ridicule, and ignore us when we were young.

We have unknowingly internalized these thoughts: "I'm not good enough," "I'm not worthy of love," "I'm not that important, other people are more important." These are all our limiting beliefs, and they prevent us from loving ourselves.

We must awaken and grow to re-examine our lives and our thinking, dispel our old limiting beliefs, and achieve a transformation and upgrade of our thinking patterns.

Yes, we are born without knowing how to love ourselves. However, many people, including Louise Hay, the author of "A Life Reborn," Master Zhou Fan, and myself, have developed the ability to love themselves and accept themselves unconditionally through practice.

You can do it too.

2. You must practice unconditional acceptance of yourself to love yourself.

Is there a condition to your love for yourself?

Let's be real. Many people's love for themselves is conditional.

I love myself when I am young, beautiful, healthy, and have a good figure.

I love myself when I am capable, wealthy, and have made the right decisions. My career is flourishing, and I love myself for that.

But when you start to age, develop spots on your face, and have belly fat, you will loathe yourself.

When they encounter things they can't do anything about, go bankrupt, get into debt, or make the wrong decision, get fired, demoted, or retire, they doubt themselves and deny themselves. This is not loving yourself.

This is not loving yourself. It is loving only the "good" self, not the whole self, the real self.

We must learn to love ourselves completely and unconditionally.

The earth loves all creatures it gives birth to, and the sun loves everyone, no matter who you are, where you are, or what you have done. It shines on you all equally warmly.

There are no deals, no conditions, and no judgments. The earth gives birth to all things and loves them equally. The sun shines on everyone with the same warmth, regardless of who you are, where you are, or what you have done.

Give yourself this unconditional love, and all your problems will disappear.

Give yourself this unconditional love, and all your problems will be resolved.

Your illness will be completely cured, your financial problems will be resolved, you will experience abundance and richness, you will begin to have intimate and trusting relationships, and many other miraculous and wonderful things will continue to happen in your life. Just like the author of "Rebuilding Your Life," Louise Hay.

Your illness will be completely cured, your financial problems will be resolved, you will experience abundance and richness, you will begin to have intimate and trusting relationships, and many other wonderful things like miracles will continue to happen in your life. Just like the legendary life of Louis Hay, the author of "Rebuilding Your Life."

3. Practice unconditional acceptance of yourself.

3. Practice unconditional acceptance of yourself.

First, you must establish self-acceptance as your goal.

Psychologist Geoffrey Sumber is clear: "Self-acceptance begins with intention." He says it's crucial to set a goal to transform a world full of blame, doubt, and shame into one of inclusion, acceptance, and trust. This idea is simple: self-loathing does not lead to a satisfying life.

Sambur stated, "I will start a chain reaction within me to adapt to a peaceful life by setting the goal that a life of self-acceptance is much better than a life of self-hatred."

We must establish the goal of self-acceptance in our hearts and treat ourselves with a self-accepting attitude, especially when we want to attack and deny ourselves.

Record your strengths.

Write down one of your strengths every day, affirm your value, and see your strengths. You will discover your strengths. Play to your strengths and feel more confident than if you try to correct your weaknesses.

In today's society, our shortcomings can be compensated for through cooperation, and our strengths will reflect our unique value.

You must also engage in constant dialogue with your best self.

Imagine interacting with your best self. Your best self is deep within you. It has left your body and is looking at your current living environment or situation. What would it suggest you do?

This visualization of separation allows you to transcend the current self or suffering self and facilitates healing by using your inner wisdom.

This exercise teaches us how to be our own best parents and show compassion and love for ourselves. You must spend a few minutes meditating and doing this exercise when you encounter a crisis or need some guidance or self-comfort.

Finally, I want to be clear: keep practicing unconditional acceptance of yourself. The more you accept and love yourself, the more harmony you'll find within. This is the foundation of loving yourself. When you accept and love yourself fully, the whole world will come to love you.

I wish you the best!

In response to the question that was asked, I don't think I can really say whether it's possible or not. It has to be explained in several ways, as follows:

There are several advantages to this approach.

First of all, this would definitely have some short-term benefits. You'd take care of your emotions in the moment and not get caught up in an emotional whirlpool due to excessive moralistic entanglements. You'd be very happy, but this happiness would often disappear quickly, and several vicious circles would ensue.

It's a vicious cycle.

? 1. Low sense of well-being

As your emotions run high, you may feel that you should focus on yourself. This can make you more sensitive to others. You may feel that your emotions are being suppressed in certain situations. This can happen in other situations in the future. You may find it harder to tolerate things. This doesn't mean you shouldn't have your own emotions. It just means you may become more subjective. This can make you more demanding of happiness and satisfaction. It can also make you less happy.

?② We all have a social nature.

If you take care of your emotions without any conditions, you'll start to think you can change everything in the outside world to suit your emotions. This is a bit idealistic, and it makes you overestimate your role in solving problems, completing tasks, and other social activities. This kind of deviation from objectivity may lead to more setbacks in social activities and collaboration, and it will also affect your personal emotions and sense of accomplishment. People are social animals. I'm not very social myself, but I still think that human social nature is undeniable based on my experience. Just imagine, even if we are stably provided with the needs of survival, development, entertainment, etc., it is really impossible for us to shut ourselves in a small dark room forever and survive without any social interaction.

?③ Reflective consciousness

It's important to understand that reflection isn't just about thinking about yourself. It's about considering your own feelings and those of others. If we don't address our emotions in a constructive way over time, we're more likely to find ourselves in a negative emotional state. We might think that as long as we're happy, everything is fine. But when we're faced with things that upset us, we might lash out emotionally. This can cause us to lose sight of reflection and not think about why others are affecting our emotions. But understanding the reasons is crucial. Whether they're right or wrong, knowing the reasons will help us avoid future behaviors that cause distress and offend others. It also allows us to empathize with the other person's reasons for acting this way, preventing us from constantly hurting ourselves with emotional outbursts. Ultimately, we can't change others, but we can strive to be a better version of ourselves.

In a nutshell, while there are some short-term benefits to taking care of your emotions without conditions, the disadvantages are also significant in the long run. You need to learn how to take care of your emotions in a reasonable way and accept some reasonable criticism. You also need to accept that you'll have some emotional setbacks while taking care of your emotions. Only in this way can you maintain a relatively stable and healthy state of mind. Coupled with a sense of reflection, which means thinking about yourself and others and truly understanding the root causes, you'll not indulge in bad emotions too much, break the vicious cycle, and form a virtuous spiral of life.