What does it mean when a guy doesn't respond to messages, doesn't delete them, and doesn't block you?

Once a relationship has been confirmed and it should be amicable, it is important to note that a lack of responsiveness to messages can cause discomfort. It is crucial to understand that the other person may also be experiencing similar feelings of unease.

I would like to share a story with you. A man and a woman fell in love. One day, the man began to feel depressed and was late for dinner. The woman then began to question whether she had neglected the other person, whether she had done something wrong, or whether something had happened, or even whether she no longer loved him. The two of them could no longer hold back and, after communicating with each other, discovered that the man's favorite team had lost the game. This is one situation, and there may be others.

One of our key strengths as humans is our ability to interpret problems from our own perspective and then seek out evidence to validate our assumptions.

Please take a moment to relax and reflect. What factors contribute to delayed responses to messages or a lack of response for an extended period? What is the underlying negative interpretation? What is actually occurring internally? In this scenario, what expectations do you have of the other party and how do you assess their performance? What potential outcomes exist for the other party, what are their expectations of you, and how do you evaluate your own performance?

Then, consider what initially attracted you to this individual. If that initial interest remains, try to focus on other tasks you need to complete while he is not responding to your messages, such as work or study.

It would be beneficial to speak with close friends and colleagues, go shopping, or go out, and take care of yourself first.

It is relatively simple to experience the initial stages of infatuation, but much more challenging to maintain a long-lasting romantic relationship. To foster a more fulfilling connection, it is essential to strive to be the best version of ourselves. Let's take the initiative to make it happen!

Hello, my name is Ah Bai.

Let's try to cheer up together!

I'd like to give you a big hug first!

Could you please tell me what the mentality of someone who doesn't initiate contact with you in a relationship, and doesn't delete or block you, is? I'd also like to know what the situation is.

It's natural to feel confused when you're unsure of what you want. Many people feel this way when they're attracted to someone but not sure if they're in love.

It can be particularly unsettling when the other person is not nervous and not taking the initiative.

First of all, it's important to recognize that having expectations shows that we've placed the other person in our hearts. It's possible that the reason you're not taking the initiative is because you're also waiting for the other person to take the initiative.

It's natural to wonder why the other person doesn't contact us or why they haven't deleted or blocked us. There may be a number of reasons for this, which we can explore together.

1. Playing hard to get

It's possible that the other person is waiting for the right moment to contact you. They may be using a strategy of "let them go, then catch them" to encourage you to make the first move. This could involve initially arousing your interest, then going silent, and waiting for you to make the first contact.

2. There is a possibility that you are the backup plan.

It may be the case that the man is in no hurry to contact you because he has a new love interest.

3. He is the King of the Sea.

It's possible that the other person has been involved in other relationships and may not have been thinking about you.

It may be the case that ambiguity is simply a way for him to comfort his lonely heart. When he is caught up in an ambiguous relationship, it is possible that he may not even remember who you are.

4. It seems that the other person is very busy.

It's possible that the other person is a workaholic, has a strong sense of purpose in their career, is very confident, and doesn't prioritize relationships as highly as you do. They may have assumed that you feel the same way.

If the other person is not contacting you and has not blocked or deleted you, how might you go about resolving this situation?

At this point, it mainly depends on our attitude towards the relationship. If you feel that the relationship has reached a certain level or if it has been confirmed, you could consider asking directly, "Why haven't you come to see me for so long?"

If someone truly loves you, it is likely that they will always have eyes for you. When you express a need, they will probably try to respond in some way.

If I might suggest, the first step is to determine your own position in the relationship. Once you have done that, you can begin to address the issue at hand.

1. In the case of an ordinary relationship, it might be best to let nature take its course.

If it's just a casual friendship, perhaps it's not necessary to be concerned about whether the other person initiates contact. It might be helpful to consider whether blocking or deleting them is the best approach.

It is generally accepted that a normal friendship will involve some degree of contact when there is something going on, and a certain amount of silence when there is nothing going on. Over time, this can result in a gradual drift apart and the pursuit of individual interests.

2. If you have real feelings, it might be helpful to consider taking the initiative.

If you are sincere about the relationship and want to continue, you might consider taking the initiative in the relationship rather than waiting for the other person to take the lead.

It is understandable that being proactive can be exhausting, especially when the relationship has been going on for a long time. It is natural to want to conserve one's time and energy, and this is something that should be respected.

3. It might be helpful to confirm whether the other person is a heartbreaker, and then consider deleting and blocking them.

There are many flowers blooming all around us!

In a relationship, it's not so much about who takes the initiative as it is about who knows how to cherish the other person more.

I hope you find someone who will run in both directions with you in love.

I hope things work out for you.

Hello!

Host:

After carefully reading the post, I can feel from the content that the poster has some anxiety and is puzzled by her boyfriend's behavior. At the same time, I also noticed that the poster has actively expressed her distress on the platform and sought help, which is great because it shows she's taking control of the situation!

This will undoubtedly help the poster to better understand and know themselves and their boyfriend!

And now for something really interesting! I'm going to share my observations and thoughts in the post, which I'm sure will help the poster gain a more diverse perspective.

1. Let's explore the boyfriend's possible psychology!

From the post, it can be observed that the poster mentioned that after confirming the relationship with her boyfriend last month, the guy became indifferent. Before that, he had always been very nice and gentle, but then slowly the frequency of his replies became lower and lower. It seems that she also sometimes doesn't reply to messages in a timely manner and becomes indifferent. Then, the past two days, the guy stopped replying to messages. After answering the phone yesterday, they had a few words and he said he was busy, but then he disappeared again. However, he didn't block her or delete her as a friend, but still didn't reply to her messages.

I totally get it! If I were in your situation,

You will think a lot and feel some emotions. Then, let's explore the possible psychology behind your boyfriend's behavior!

Guess what! There are so many reasons why a guy might not reply to a message. And it really depends on the guy!

You didn't mention much about your boyfriend, so I'm not sure what his problem is. But let's discuss the possibilities together!

Guess what! Some people may have an avoidant personality.

This type is often full of longing for a relationship but also has a healthy dose of fear.

It's not a relationship, but when it's close, he can't feel the unease and wants to push away and distance himself. Of course, there are also some guys who just don't care, which is great because it means they're not in a relationship with you!

There are also other circumstances, such as some people's personalities being like this, being busy, etc., which are all possible. Specifically, for the original poster, you may have to analyze specific problems specifically – and you can do it!

2. Explore yourself!

I'm really excited to hear from you! I'm curious to know what kind of feelings you have inside right now. I'd love to hear how these actions of your boyfriend make you feel!

And what makes you seek help on the platform?

These questions can help you explore and understand yourself better, and also understand your own heart better. Many people in relationships will worry about what will happen, and they will even think too much, wondering if their boyfriend is doing something wrong, if it is their problem. So, for the poster, you can't control what he will do, but you can take control of your own thoughts and feelings!

It's time to focus your attention back on yourself and discover what kind of feelings you have inside! Why do you feel this way?

Now, it's time to explore yourself in this way!

3. Absolutely use the relationship to grow!

It is observed in the post that you mentioned, "Should you let go in this situation?" I think the answer to this question can only be given by you yourself, and I'm excited to hear what you decide!

For now, focus on yourself and use this relationship to grow! Find out what kind of relationship you want and go for it!

What kind of person do you need? Absolutely anything is possible! Sometimes we may not be able to figure it out, but we can also use this time to learn and grow.

Go read books about intimate relationships! I highly recommend "Intimate Relationships" and "If Only You Knew Before Marriage." You can also take some relevant courses to help you grow.

I really hope this has been helpful and inspiring for you! I'm a heart exploration coach, Zeng Chen.

If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for one-on-one communication, companionship, and growth. I'm here to help!

Hello!

A relationship is the most sensitive period.

If you're apart, it's easy to imagine things.

If you don't communicate well, you'll worry and feel anxious.

You've been dating for two months. You're in different cities. Things were going well at first, but now he's cold. You're confused.

Why did he change?

You don't know because he didn't tell you and you didn't ask.

Passion fades after relationships are confirmed.

There are many reasons.

From your description, we don't know if you're sending more or fewer messages.

But you feel like you don't reply to messages in time and seem cold.

Why don't you reply to messages promptly?

Are you busy, annoyed, or in a bad mood?

If you try to see things from someone else's point of view, you may understand why.

There are also these general situations:

1. Relationships have a period of passion, then things return to normal.

People have ups and downs. When they're in a bad mood, they don't want to deal with anyone.

3. Once a relationship is confirmed, there's no need to try to impress.

The contrast between before and after falling in love can cause misunderstandings between lovers.

Some people think it's because they haven't recognized the person, and it's the other person who has changed.

They feel secure and can be themselves after confirming the relationship. They don't need to hold on to the other person.

The problems you mentioned are just symptoms. You need to talk more to understand the real situation.

There may be other reasons too:

If you don't reply to messages quickly, people will think you don't like them.

This isn't the reason.

2. Some people lose interest after a relationship starts.

He's always looking for the perfect partner.

3. They may also be afraid of intimacy. As they get closer, they become more afraid and pull away.

4. Practical factors like distance, money, your situation, and exhaustion can also play a role.

5. If the other person is insecure, they may wait for a chance to get back at you if you don't respond to messages quickly and seem uninterested.

6. Use tricks to make the other person unsure of you, arouse their suspicions, pay more attention to you, and take the initiative.

While you're trying to figure out what's going on, tell the other person how you feel.

If he loves you, he'll take care of your feelings and let you know what he's thinking and where he's going.

If you can't reply right away, say so later.

If he can't think of this, you can agree to it and stick to it.

Speculation is unreliable, especially in long-distance relationships. It causes conflicts and misunderstandings and tires the two people in love.

If you're not competing with each other because you're both slow to respond and indifferent, you can try to think from his perspective and express your understanding more often.

Today is Qixi. He should contact you.

Could his indifference mean he has something planned for tonight?

If he doesn't contact you by evening, you can ask him about it. If he's still indifferent, you can let go.

I'm Yan Guilai, a counselor. I hope all lovers become family!

Hello, My name is Jia Ao, and I'm not looking for anything.

I saw your questions and confusion on the platform. It seems you've encountered some problems in your relationships. You met a guy on a social media app, and you both had feelings for each other. After confirming the relationship, he slowly began to distance himself from you and became cold. You can't get in touch with him no matter what. What's going on here, and what should you do next?

I just wanted to have a quick chat with you.

"Don't reply to messages, block, or delete." It seems like you two had a good relationship before, so why did you suddenly become distant after confirming your relationship? Apart from unexpected circumstances, what unpleasant things happened between you? Did you have any misunderstandings or conflicts? Did he stop replying to your messages because he was really busy or because he simply didn't want to reply?

Did you get a chance to talk on the phone? I'm curious why his attitude was so cold.

No matter what happens, you need to find a chance to communicate properly and not let misunderstandings persist. Even if you really don't want to continue being together, it's better than dragging things out like this, which will only make things more complicated for you.

It's possible that he has a sudden emergency and doesn't have time to explain, or that he's trying to avoid the issue by dragging his feet. It seems like he doesn't want to be with you, but he doesn't want to take the moral responsibility of breaking up with you either, so he's just dragging his feet. The longer he drags his feet, the more you'll be separated, and you'll probably give up and stop pestering him.

Take care of yourself emotionally and don't forget to love and be kind to yourself. Try your best to face whatever the outcome is and accept it with an open mind. This time you met the wrong person, but next time you might meet someone even better. Always believe in the beauty of the world and its people. I wish you all the best!

I hope this helps. Best regards, [Name]

Perhaps it would be helpful to reply to him clearly and let go.

First of all, you met online and only spoke on the phone and video chat. Given the short time you've known each other, there may not yet be a strong emotional foundation.

Given the relatively short time you have spent together, it might be helpful to consider how well you really know him and his family and friends.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that if he already showed indifference when you were just starting out, it could indicate that he doesn't value you very highly.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether he should care about everything you say and do.

It's also possible that he doesn't really believe you without having met you. Perhaps he has some concerns about your motives.

It's also possible that he feels you're being a bit too casual. Perhaps making a few phone calls and saying something sweet to get a guy is not the best approach.

I have chosen to ignore you.

If you still don't want to break up, it's possible that in the future, if you stay together for a long time, you may find yourselves constantly in conflict, and you may have to comfort him.

It might be worth considering that if you make someone feel tired and uncomfortable from the start, it could become even more exhausting to maintain the relationship in the future.

Some say that love can be reconciled, but I'm going to tell you a true story.

My husband's cousin and her former boyfriend often engaged in heated discussions. The young woman had a range of opinions about him.

The gentleman in question would often become upset, and she would do her best to calm the situation.

They hail from the same hometown and typically work in Fujian.

After a disagreement, the young man simply returned to his hometown without offering any explanation.

At a later point in time, she informed us about their situation. At that time, I suggested that she consider ending the relationship.

I'm not sure what she was thinking, and I don't know if she scolded me.

After some time, the girl became pregnant.

On New Year's Eve, they decided to get married.

I wonder if I might inquire as to whether that marked the conclusion of the narrative. It would appear that they proceeded to have a daughter.

Subsequently, when their daughter was less than a year old or just over a year old, they decided to divorce. The daughter relocated to the South.

If you were in this situation, would you consider breaking up or getting a divorce?

In my opinion, it's not a good idea to spend too much time in a relationship that isn't right for you.

Good day, my name is Strawberry.

After reviewing the details of your case, it has come to my attention that the questioner and her boyfriend have been acquainted for a period of two months. They initially made contact on a social networking platform and have since engaged in an online relationship. The two have developed a positive rapport, and the boyfriend has demonstrated a high level of consideration and care towards the questioner. Consequently, they formalised their relationship as a couple last month.

Despite having viewed each other's photos and videos, the questioner and her boyfriend have not yet met in person due to the pandemic. Following confirmation of the relationship, the questioner observed a shift in the other person's attitude, accompanied by a reduction in communication frequency and a decline in the quality of their responses.

It is evident that the initial appeal has diminished.

The questioner and the other person are engaged in an online relationship, which inherently limits their ability to fully comprehend each other's intentions and emotions. This lack of clarity has led the other person to be uncertain about his feelings for her and to have only made the decision to be with her because he genuinely cares for her.

There is often a sense of novelty when two people first connect. In this case, the questioner developed feelings for the other person online. Apart from the online connection, there was no real-life contact, which will reduce the length of time you can maintain the sense of novelty. The questioner recalls that usually when they chat with the other person, they have a good time and always have plenty to talk about. If this is the case, then the sense of novelty will not disappear so quickly. If it is any other situation, then it is possible.

Initially, there were other intentions.

In the current digital landscape, social networking apps have evolved beyond their original purpose of facilitating casual conversation and establishing new connections. Some individuals and entities are exploiting these platforms for illicit activities, including fraud and pyramid schemes.

There are a variety of individuals on the internet. The questioner is unfamiliar with her boyfriend and is unsure of the veracity of the information provided by the other person. I have encountered similar situations on other platforms, where the initial intention was to establish a friendship. However, after a brief interaction, the other person revealed their true intentions, which were to develop a romantic relationship and ultimately obtain financial gain. I was aware of the typical progression and was therefore able to avoid being taken advantage of.

Once the relationship was confirmed, the other party reduced the frequency of contact and did not block or otherwise sever ties. This could indicate that the contact number was no longer accessible or that the target had shifted to another individual. Over time, they gained a better understanding of the situation and may have determined that investing further time in the other party was not worthwhile.

Please note that the two analyses may differ. As the questioner provided limited text, we kindly ask you to correct any errors you may find.

What are the potential consequences of waiting?

Given the relatively short period of time that the questioner and the other person have been acquainted, it is possible that the other person may lose interest and ignore the questioner. This could potentially lead to a situation where the other person's feelings for the questioner become indifferent due to their own feelings once the two individuals are in a more serious relationship.

If you have a positive impression of the other person or a favorable opinion of them, you would not treat your partner in this manner. At the very least, they would inform you if they are unavailable and unable to reply or get in touch promptly. The other person's attitude is, in fact, a clear indication to the original poster.

If the other party ignores you when you could have expressed yourself clearly in just a few words, you may wish to consider that their style of handling things is irresponsible. If their attitude continues to affect the questioner, you may wish to take the initiative and take control of the situation.

Please take care of yourself.

Although we have only recently become acquainted, I have invested a great deal of effort into this relationship. When contemplating its future, I still experience a degree of sadness. I allow myself the necessary time to process my emotions. The source of the questioner's sadness is not the other party's actions, but rather their sincere efforts have been let down. When experiencing sadness, it is important to nourish your body and sleep well, engage in meaningful activities, and allow the sadness to gradually dissipate.

It is also advisable to find someone to talk to and "spit out" the bitterness in your heart. As the saying goes, it is not a rapid process. It is important to choose the right listener, as this individual can provide comfort, understanding, and suggestions that allow you to view the situation from different angles.

I hope this information is useful to the original poster. Best regards,

Good day.

As a heart exploration coach, I believe that learning is the key to personal growth.

From your description, I can discern a number of conflicting emotions, including hesitation, worry, and a sense of being overwhelmed.

I will not delve into the specifics of your frustration with your boyfriend's lack of response to your messages. However, I will provide three pieces of advice.

First and foremost, I advise you to communicate with your boyfriend in a sincere manner.

Effective communication is a key factor in resolving issues in any interpersonal relationship, including partnerships.

The objective of the communication is to convey your genuine thoughts to him.

However, there are two key considerations when communicating with him:

One strategy is to adopt his perspective and attempt to comprehend his point of view, which will facilitate his ability to "hear" your message.

You have indicated that you have previously been slow to respond and indifferent. Is he attempting to remind you of the importance of responsiveness? Additionally, is he genuinely occupied and unable to dedicate more time to communication? It would be beneficial to consider his perspective. The objective is to facilitate more effective communication.

In the second case, it is advisable to begin with a personal pronoun and discuss your feelings in greater detail. It is also important to avoid using the second person pronoun "you" at the outset, as this may lead to feelings of rejection and blame, which could impede communication.

For example, you can say to him, "I'd like to have a productive discussion with you. I've noticed that we've been communicating less frequently recently, and sometimes I haven't responded to your messages in a timely manner. Is that because I've offended you? Have you been occupied with other matters recently? I'd like to understand your perspective, because I want to maintain a positive working relationship with you. Is that acceptable?"

After you have communicated with him in such an open and honest manner, he will likely provide you with the necessary information, which will then allow you to take the appropriate action.

Secondly, I recommend allowing him some time and contacting him a few times during that period to monitor the situation.

If, after communicating with him in a sincere manner, he has not indicated a desire to terminate the relationship, nor has he provided any compelling reasons for doing so, then it would be advisable to allow him some time. During this period, it would be beneficial to take the initiative and contact him more frequently, communicate with him regularly, and share with him the interesting people and things you encounter during the day. This will allow you to ascertain whether he is willing to respond to you, and you can determine during this time whether the relationship is viable.

Timely responsiveness is an important indicator of the authenticity of a romantic relationship.

I advise you to prepare for the possibility that he will not change and to focus your attention on your own needs and goals.

After communicating with him in depth and allowing him time to respond, and after taking the initiative to communicate with him on numerous occasions, it is evident that he remains indifferent to you. He neither replies to messages, blocks you, nor deletes you. At this juncture, it is crucial to accept the reality that he is currently not interested in pursuing the relationship further. This acceptance should be followed by a self-assessment to determine whether you are willing to continue with someone who is not interested in you.

There are two potential scenarios. One is that his current, less proactive demeanor is indicative of his true character, and once he has confirmed the relationship with you, he may become more assertive. The second is that he regrets being in the relationship and is reluctant to take the initiative, which has resulted in a gradual distance between you.

However, based on your account, he only became indifferent after you confirmed the relationship. Therefore, it is unlikely that he has lost interest in you, as if that were the case, there would be no need for him to confirm the relationship. It is more probable that he has simply been preoccupied recently. You and he should have a discussion, and it is likely that you will find the answer.

Even if he truly regrets being in the relationship, you may wish to consider letting go, given the effort you have invested and the extent of your commitment.

Then direct your attention to your own needs, allow yourself time to recuperate, and resume your life's pursuits while awaiting the emergence of a suitable alternative.

I hope my response is of assistance. Should you wish to discuss further, you are invited to click on the link entitled "Find a coach to interpret – online conversation" at the foot of this page. I will then be pleased to converse with you on a one-to-one basis.