What if you are rejected and feel that life has no meaning?

Hello, I'm Wang Tusi Rui. Thank you for sharing your story and your thoughts so openly.

This girl is a source of light in your life at this stage. Her existence provides you with a goal and meaning to strive for, should she agree to be your girlfriend, and to strive for the person you are attracted to.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider that if this particular girl is not the one for you, there may be other opportunities in the future where you can find someone who is worth fighting for.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider that by eliminating this possibility, you may inadvertently be contributing to a somewhat less vibrant and inspiring quality to your life.

It is unfortunate that people often meet the people they want to protect when they are not in a position to do so. If you were to meet the same exciting girl in the future, would you be able to give her the life she wants and provide her with a stable support system then?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you like this girl, or whether you want to give your life a sense of purpose.

Many people find motivation in striving for their family and loved ones.

And for yourself?

Could I ask what kind of changes you would like to see in your life?

Perhaps it could be said that life itself has no inherent meaning. Rather, it is our actions and decisions that imbue it with purpose and shape our experiences.

As Lu Xun insightfully observed, "There is no path, but when many people walk on the same path, it becomes a path."

A laborer may spend his life in a somewhat aimless manner. If he is content with this, satisfied with just enough to eat and keep warm, and free from illness and trouble, then he will likely not experience significant distress. However, when one's abilities fall short of one's desires, when one is unwilling to accept the status quo, and when one is uncertain about how to proceed, it can lead to a sense of suffering.

You have just graduated, and there are still many possibilities ahead of you. If you are open to new opportunities and connections, they could potentially bring about a significant change in your life. If you are willing to put in the effort, you will likely meet the right people. However, if that does not happen, it is still important to live your life to the fullest and prioritize your physical and mental well-being.

I encourage you to persevere!

This student is quite proficient. Currently, many young people are reluctant to pursue romantic relationships. Being rejected is a natural consequence of being accepted.

It is important to study hard and to develop your abilities.

I would like to take this opportunity to tell you a little about myself. When I was younger, whenever I encountered a setback, I would look around to see if there was anyone who could provide assistance, encouragement, and support, as well as help me overcome the challenge. However, as I grew up, I realised that this kind of approach was too passive. As a result, I made the decision to take control of my own destiny and become a source of support for myself and others.

I am unaware of the reason behind the existence of the sun. However, I am aware that it exists and that I can also serve as a source of inspiration, illuminating every corner of people's hearts and melting every inch of ice in their hearts. With this belief, I have achieved this goal within a few years.

Many of my friends, both male and female, young and old, whether they are working or continuing their studies, will confide in me when they are facing challenges. I provide them with encouragement and guidance to help them gain resilience and strength.

I consistently reiterate two key messages to my colleagues: "Believe in yourself, you are the best. There is no challenge that cannot be overcome, and never, ever, ever give up on your goals."

"I am most gratified when individuals inform me that, when confronted with challenges, they have drawn upon the insights I have shared with them and have emerged with enhanced confidence and resilience. They have devised solutions to their difficulties and have even developed previously untapped capabilities. They have endeavored to assist those in need and have become sources of inspiration to others. It can be said that everyone around me is to some extent influenced by me.

Everyone can be influenced and can also influence others. It's simply a matter of willpower. The individual with stronger willpower will ultimately prevail.

Another significant lesson I learned was how to become a source of strength for others. Despite the time and effort required, this lesson has had a profound and lasting impact on my life, and I can confidently say that it has been a valuable lifelong skill. Everyone can benefit from this lesson.

Hello! Everyone has been young and has had emotional experiences. I understand your current state of mind very well! There are also many similar cases. Let's talk about the truth from the perspective of brain science.

1. Feelings after being rejected

1. Let's get to the cause.

You have believed for a long time that she is the one for you. You have reinforced this belief in your brain. However, when your confession was rejected, your brain expressed your current state of mind.

2. How the brain works:

It's normal to have emotional needs when you're young. Your brain already wanted to date a girlfriend before you knew about it. Maybe you couldn't contact girls because you were busy with school and didn't want to show your feelings. There weren't many girls in your college computer science program.

When you got to know her and kept in contact with her, it triggered an emotional need that had long existed. You may have filled in the blanks in your mind, which would create a beautiful picture in your brain. It would bring pleasure to your brain, and in time, your brain would unconsciously continue to fill in the blanks. In the end, you would think, "She is the one you are looking for," and your future together would seem wonderful. Each time you imagine it, it will be reinforced.

Your subconscious mind generates all this information. Being rejected is a rational perception. The conflict between consciousness and subconscious mind forms your state of mind. The stronger the subconscious mind, the more intense the conflicted state of mind.

You're an emotional child, and your subconscious mind is too strong.

3. The truth:

You met her a year or so ago. If you replace her with another girl, you will still think the same way. But other things might also affect your thoughts. These could be things you have done in the past, girls you have met, or even your mother, sisters, or relatives.

When you think "she is the one," it's just your brain. There's a love effect in brain science. Once you fall in love, you'll become "stupid," which is determined by the brain. The brain repeats "she is the one," so this person will be the only one in your eyes. Everything else will become unimportant.

If you meet another girl, you'll probably feel the same way. You'll forget about the previous girl, or only think about her when something reminds you of her. This has nothing to do with morality. It's just how the brain works. Different people have different experiences, so they show it to different degrees.

These are scientific truths, so don't worry. You spent time together, and you both feel something. If she doesn't want it now, that's fine. But I think your confession was correct. It's better to say you love someone than to keep it inside. At least you know the possibility.

If you meet a girl you like later, you can keep expressing your feelings. You can also learn online about getting along with girls. Some skills make it easier to express your feelings.

2. About jobs

The most basic thing for a person is to be self-reliant. This includes being physically and mentally independent, as well as financially. Being independent in all aspects is the meaning of life.

2. It's your choice to continue studying or find a job now. The logic is cost-effectiveness. Is it easier to find a job after undergraduate studies? Is there a difference in future income levels? Does academic qualification have a greater influence or is self-accumulated professional ability more important? You can communicate with your seniors and teachers or use other methods to understand and judge these aspects. If you choose to study for a degree, the country should have student loans now, and the interest rate seems to be very low.

Money shouldn't be the most important factor.

3. People should keep learning throughout their lives, especially computer science majors. Most work involves continuous learning. So, study or get a job, just keep learning and working hard. You will be ready for your "luck" to come. While you are learning, pay attention to the cutting-edge development direction of this field and adjust your efforts.

4. If you get a job, get one that supports you. Keep analyzing how your job helps you grow. Switch jobs often, weighing the trade-off between income and ability growth.

That's all for now. I hope it helps.

Hello. I can see you're sad about being rejected and worried about your future.

Let's look at rejection. You've been prepared for it, but when it happens, you still feel uncomfortable and worry about the consequences.

Liking someone is your own business. Whether the other person likes you back is their own business. You worry about the other person's future because you like them.

However, we should understand that the other person is not destined to be with you. Everyone will have their own life in the future. What kind of people and things the other person will encounter in the future are unknown. We don't need to worry about bad things in advance.

Even if the other person encounters bad things, what can you do now? You can help them then.

There's nothing you can do now, so why worry?

Let's look at your worries about your future. You've just graduated from university with a degree in computer science. From your description, I feel that you are not very optimistic about the future prospects of this major.

After entering the factory and doing the same work every day, you feel hopeless and numb. You are an outstanding person, and others admire you.

We can adjust in the following ways:

1️⃣ Know yourself and build confidence. Know your abilities and emotions.

Know yourself. Don't deny your needs. Believe in yourself.

2️⃣ Make a plan for your life and future career. Even if you don't like your major or are not confident, you should still make a plan. You can get help from teachers, seniors like Snow, or other professionals.

We feel fulfilled when we have a goal and work hard towards it. When we achieve a personal goal, we feel accomplished and find meaning in life.

3️⃣ Keep improving yourself. The questioner is a junior college student and can't find a job.

Why not improve yourself in other ways? If you can afford it, go ahead and improve your education.

The questioner wants to find a partner to share their goals with. I tell them that they're young and will meet someone special when the time is right.

When we become good and strong, we will attract good and strong people to us. Perhaps then, you will meet your special someone.

Hello!

Ellis's ABC theory of emotions teaches us that it is not the event itself that makes us feel a certain way, but our perception of the event. To adjust our emotions, we must adjust our beliefs or perceptions of events.

When faced with something undesirable, imagine terrible consequences. This makes people ignore problems and solutions.

A mistake, failure, or child's temporary underperformance can make an individual feel like their life is ruined, that they'll never succeed, or that the child has no future. This kind of belief often leads to extreme fear, anxiety, and despair.

Control what you can, accept what you can't. Manage your emotions to stay positive.

Accept the situation if you can change it. If you can't change it, learn to live with it.

Greetings, It is my hope that the following response will prove beneficial to you.

Perhaps, in your expectations or assumptions, she would not reject you. However, the reality is that she has politely declined, which is difficult for you to accept. What you find difficult to accept is not just her rejection, but also the self that expresses failure. You feel that this is a strong denial and blow to yourself. However, it is important to question whether our value and hope can be entirely based on another person's liking and acceptance of ourselves.

It is this author's recommendation that you consider the following advice:

It is important to recognize that her rejection of you does not signify a failure on your part. There is a distinct possibility that you will meet someone who is emotionally compatible with you in the future.

The rejection of the other person does not signify failure on your part or a total rejection of you. It merely indicates that the other person does not consider you to be a suitable match. The other person is an independent individual, and relationships are a matter for two people. The other person also has the right to choose. You may wish to consider why you like the other person.

What are the qualities that attract you to her, and what needs can she meet in your relationship? The reason she is so attractive to you is that in your relationship, she can meet these needs for you. However, it is important to note that these needs are not the only ones she can provide. In the future, you will meet someone who is truly right for you, someone who loves you enough to meet these needs. Furthermore, it is essential to learn to love yourself and satisfy these needs independently, as this will enhance your autonomy in relationships.

2. Distinguish between matters that are within your own purview and those that concern others, and learn to compartmentalize disparate topics.

You inquire as to whether she will encounter an unsavory character at some point in her future or if she will meet someone she finds attractive and engage in questionable behavior. It appears that you believe that only when she is in your company will she experience happiness, security, and protection.

However, she has elected to decline the proposal. It is her prerogative to do so, and she is prepared to accept the consequences of her decision. It is important to note that she is not being contradictory; rather, your concern is a personal matter that requires introspection and resolution.

The question of whether she will be happy and who she will choose to spend the rest of her life with is a matter for her alone. Similarly, the decision of whether to continue pursuing her or to give up is a personal choice. One may choose to pursue her, with the possibility of rejection, but also the possibility of success. Alternatively, one may choose to give up, with the subsequent need to face the consequences described. The decision of how to proceed is a personal one, and one may choose to bear the consequences of that decision.

It is essential to recognize that each individual possesses intrinsic value and autonomy. It is crucial to discern the distinction between external issues and one's personal concerns. Avoid becoming entangled in the affairs of others and instead focus on addressing your own challenges. This approach will facilitate a greater sense of clarity and purpose.

3. If the meaning of life is entirely contingent on a single individual, we become excessively passive. To achieve genuine happiness and a meaningful life, it is essential to be true to oneself.

From your description, it appears that you are wholly reliant on a single individual for the meaning of your life. This not only places significant pressure on that person but also makes you highly passive. The meaning of life is, in fact, multifaceted, and individuals possess limitless potential for growth and development. In the everyday, we can also cultivate a sense of romance and excitement, and enrich ourselves through novel experiences and challenges. We do not require reliance on a specific person for this, but rather, we must take action independently.

You have indicated that, in essence, you seek to find a partner with whom to share your life, and to whom you can dedicate your efforts. However, it is possible to fulfil this role yourself. Indeed, a person's most valuable relationship is with themselves, and they should regard themselves as their most important asset. It is important to recognise your own worth, to respect yourself, and to appreciate your own achievements. You should also encourage yourself to become a better version of yourself, in order to live a life that is meaningful and valuable.

It is this author's recommendation that you read "A Suitable Solitude" and "The Gift of Life."

The aforementioned information is provided for your reference. Best wishes!

Hello! I'm Gu Daoxi Fengshou Slender Donkey, your heart exploration coach.

From what the questioner said, it's clear they care about the other person. But remember, it's not our job to worry about the final result. We can express our concerns, but we can't control what happens.

From how the other person rejected the questioner, it seems like she's a strong-willed person who dislikes rejection and has a high level of emotional intelligence. She also cares about the questioner's feelings and avoids hurting or offending her. Even if she's faced with someone who's not very nice, the questioner probably doesn't need to worry about her getting hurt because she was rejected and lashed out.

The questioner is worried about the harm she may encounter, but there's also a chance she'll be really happy! It might help to think about how she usually deals with people.

There's a saying I love: "I love you, but it has nothing to do with you." Maybe when you really like someone, it's not about wanting their life to be better than yours, but hoping they'll have a great life all on its own. The questioner might want to think about which of these two types they fit into.

It's true that being rejected by someone you like can be pretty hurtful. It can take a while to accept it and move on. But it doesn't mean that the person who rejected you is bad or unworthy. It just means that you two aren't meant to be together.

It's like looking for a job. If the person you like doesn't like you, and you like the job but don't think it's a good fit, it's not really fair to say that the job and the company aren't worth better development, is it?

The questioner may try to be aware of:

I know it can be tough to think about life without her. It's natural to feel that way. But it might also be that your plans just aren't as exciting or meaningful as you'd hoped.

Oh, these are two very different things!

It's only natural to have high hopes for love, but when things don't work out the way we imagined, it can be tough. It's easy to feel down and wonder if we're not good enough. But the truth is, there are so many factors that go into finding the right person for you, like your values and standards for a partner. If every love story could be answered, there'd be no more sad love songs!

~ Why not go back to the beginning, before you wrote that confession letter, and ask yourself if you were hoping to fight for yourself for once and give an account for all those years of feelings? Even if the other person rejects you, you have already tried your best, so perhaps you don't have to feel too sorry.

~ Life is like a line made up of individual dots. Even if you can't see any direction for development in the present, don't worry! There's always a way forward. Ask yourself what kind of life you want, and start building your road with little steps. Before you know it, you'll be closer to your goal!

Take a moment to think about what you hoped your life would be like with her. Is it possible to achieve that without her?

You know, trying to return to the goal itself might help to reduce that internal conflict you're feeling.

It's so true that the number of people around me who went from campus to wedding dress is limited, and the number of people who went from the beginning to marriage is also limited. When we were young, we always thought that love was everything. But as we get older, we realize there's so much more to life than love.

I once read a story about a poor scholar who was so heartbroken when his fiancée married someone else that he fell ill.

A kind wandering monk took a mirror out of his bosom and asked the scholar to look at it. There, on the beach, lay a murdered woman, naked and alone.

A kind passerby took a look and, seeing that the scholar needed help, walked away. Another passerby took off his clothes and covered the body, then walked away.

Another kind passerby went over, dug a pit, and carefully buried the body. The monk said, "That female corpse is the former life of your fiancée."

You are the second person to pass by and once gave him a coat. She fell head over heels for you in this life just to repay you.

But the person she ultimately has to repay for a lifetime is the last one to bury her. The scholar has an epiphany and is healed.

Some people come into our lives for a little while, while others stick around for a lifetime. When we're lucky enough to have people in our lives who brighten our world and walk with us through life's journey, it's so important to thank them. They deserve our gratitude and appreciation for making our lives better. And when we're truly grateful, it helps us to cherish the present and look forward to a brighter future.

In "The Courage to Be Disliked," the author suggests that we avoid external attribution and recognize that whoever is responsible for the final result is the one with the problem. This can be tough, but it's important to remember that the excuse for not changing oneself is because of others. When we feel that our misfortunes are caused by some factor of others, it can make us avoid self-growth. But when we feel that we should be responsible for our own lives, it can help us become more positive!

I'd highly recommend reading "Growing Up for Life" and "The Courage to Be Disliked" if you get a chance!

Wishing you all the best!

First of all, I totally get it. It's totally normal to feel a bit lost and depressed after being rejected.

But I want to tell you that this does not mean that your life has collapsed, nor does it mean that you have no aspirations or hopes!

You have expressed your feelings for her sincerely and with respect for her feelings. She has responded to you as a friend, and although this may not be the result you were hoping for, it is her true feelings.

You need to accept this and respect her choice!

Now, let me share some advice for your future!

Don't give up on your pursuits and expectations! Your value is so much more than whether you have a partner. It's about your own growth and development.

There are so many ways you can improve yourself! You can learn, work, socialize, and more to become better and more attractive.

The future is full of possibilities! While it's natural to feel anxious and worried about the future, you can deal with these uncertainties by setting goals and plans.

Think about what kind of work you want to do and what career goals you want to achieve, and then go for it! Work hard and make it happen!

There are so many possibilities out there for you! Don't limit yourself to computer science. You've studied computer science, but you can try to expand your field and interests.

For example, you can learn new skills or get involved in volunteer activities, which are a great way to make new friends and expand your social circle!

Don't ignore your emotional needs! You might feel lost and depressed now, but this is also an amazing opportunity to grow.

You can absolutely learn to better handle emotional issues and become more mature and stronger by reflecting on your emotional needs!

In the end, I want to say that there are so many amazing things in life worth pursuing and cherishing! Things like friendship, love, and a fulfilling career. But we also need to learn to accept and face some of the less desirable things.

This is the only way we can grow and develop better and embrace a brighter future!

Hello, host! I'm thrilled to answer your question. As stated in the information, I'm a junior intern and will soon be finishing up. My object is a sophomore, and we've only had the chance to meet and communicate for two or three months over the past year. During this period of contact, we've had some great interactions, and I've been really drawn to her from the very beginning.

If you scare the girl off, you won't get her. But what if you could change that? After a year of normal study and communication, graduation is approaching, and you may never see her again. You choose to confess your love in writing, and the content of your expression is just to express your feelings, but you can respond or not.

But it is precisely this attitude of yours that makes the other person feel ambiguous, so the other person can only choose to politely refuse. I'm a girl, and I can only choose to politely refuse. But that's okay!

You mentioned that you can accept the other person's rejection, which is great! However, you still long for the girl to be more proactive and help confirm the relationship. I believe that in this situation, the girl is not willing to be more proactive, which is totally understandable!

You wanted to play hard to get, and the girl gave you a push, which put you in a difficult situation—but also in a great position to win her over!

I really, really hope my junior sister will accept my confession! I'd love to work with her to create a bright future. If she rejects me, I'll be okay with it.

The other person tactfully rejected you. You don't know what to do. You don't want to give up this intimate relationship. You are unwilling to do so, after all, you have been dating for a few months and you still know each other a little. You continue to pursue the other person fiercely. Have they given you a clear signal, which makes you lack confidence?

Refusing is a tactic, not an art. It's clear that your junior colleague didn't understand the key point here. But here's the good news: giving you a clear signal is the least harmful thing you can do! This kind of tactful refusal, on the contrary, has made you lose sleep and eat with anxiety. But now you know better, and you're ready to take control.

Most people who have been there think about regrets more and remorse less. But you can avoid regrets! All you have to do is actively confess your love to your junior sister face-to-face. Then you can die with a clear conscience!

If you're lucky enough to be together decades later, reminiscing about these things will mean so much to each other!

I am so happy dating in 1983! The world and I love you!

Dear Sir/Madam, I empathise with your predicament and can discern a certain conflict, unease and confusion in your written lines. I would like to reassure you that I am here to offer you support and guidance.

It appears that you hold a great deal of affection for this sophomore student, and you are a junior intern who is nearing the completion of your internship. Now, due to the confession, you are uncertain as to the outcome and experience a sense of loss, anxiety, unease, and helplessness regarding your employment situation after graduation. Indeed, when we encounter these two factors, emotions and work, we will all experience a similar sense of unease and difficulty in making a decision, correct? Warm regards.

During the internship, I also considered the notion that my experiences were representative of life itself, and that the quality of one's life is contingent upon one's approach to it. In this society, the majority of individuals engage in work, performing the same tasks on a daily basis. I have devoted considerable thought to this matter and have ultimately concluded that I seek a companion with whom I can engage in mutual support and advocacy. However, it is challenging to find such a person, and it is even more difficult to find someone with whom one is romantically attracted. In the absence of a partner with whom to share one's struggles, the meaning of life becomes obscured.

In a manner similar to the prevailing social outlook, I will compare it and express disdain. I lack a vision for the future and a sense of hope. This is akin to what I previously conveyed when I spoke with her: a life that is easily discernible in its conclusion. It appears that your internship has led to a realization that life is not particularly promising, and your relationship status seems to have instilled a sense of hopelessness. I am intrigued by the fact that you typically demonstrate a strong work ethic. When you did not encounter this sophomore acquaintance and did not participate in an internship or a part-time position, what were you investing your efforts in at that time?

What were your expectations at the time? After going through all this, you now see that in your mind you want to fight for the person who has captured your heart. This is actually a direction full of expectations and beauty. Here is another curiosity: How are you heading in this direction now, and why does it give the impression that there is no hope at all?

The aforementioned inquiries represent merely a sampling of my curiosity. I empathize with your situation, as it is not uncommon to experience feelings of disorientation, distress, and helplessness when confronted with emotional challenges and uncertainty. In light of this, it may be beneficial to allow oneself a period of reflection and recuperation to process these emotions.

It would be beneficial to accept and release these emotions. Given the strength of your emotional reaction to her emotional feedback, it is understandable that you care about her.

This is an inherent aspect of human emotion and a defining characteristic of our species.

We can then proceed to discuss these issues together, with the hope that it will prove beneficial.

In response to your initial inquiry, it appears that she has declined your proposal of marriage, which is undoubtedly a challenging circumstance. However, it is essential to recognize that each individual possesses the autonomy to make their own choices and decisions. Her decision does not imply that you are undeserving of love or that your value is diminished.

Although this may be a painful and disappointing experience, it also presents an opportunity to re-examine one's values and life direction. This experience can be viewed as a learning opportunity, from which one can draw strength and wisdom to better face future challenges.

The following methods may be employed to alleviate emotional distress:

It is important to accept the reality of the situation. Even if the rejection is painful, it is necessary to acknowledge that it occurred. Attempting to alter the reality of the situation will only exacerbate the pain and anxiety experienced.

Self-reflection is the process of considering the lessons and insights gained from an experience and determining how they can be applied to enhance one's personal growth and development.

It is recommended that you seek support by sharing your feelings with close friends or family, or by seeking the guidance of a professional counselor.

It is important to prioritize self-growth and development, which can be achieved through a variety of means, including learning new skills, engaging in hobbies, exercising, and other activities. These efforts can assist in rebuilding confidence and self-esteem.

In response to your second question regarding your career plan and future prospects, it is essential to exercise careful consideration. Despite the fact that your academic qualifications may not be particularly high, it is still possible to succeed in the field of computer science.

One may enhance one's competitiveness by engaging in continuous learning and skill enhancement. Additionally, alternative avenues for realizing one's aspirations may be pursued, such as business ownership or freelancing.

Regardless of the chosen path, it is essential to demonstrate determination and confidence in one's abilities and potential. During this process, it is beneficial to seek guidance and advice from mentors or professionals to facilitate more effective career development planning.

The following suggestions may prove beneficial:

It is essential to establish clear objectives and a corresponding plan of action to achieve them.

It is also advisable to learn new skills on an ongoing basis, including those related to programming, design, and project management, among others.

It is also advisable to cultivate a network of relationships by connecting with peers, attending industry events, and expanding one's circle of contacts.

Seek feedback and advice from a mentor or professional to facilitate personal growth and development.

It is inevitable that there will be instances in life where circumstances do not align with one's expectations. However, it is crucial to resist the temptation to abandon one's goals. Instead, it is essential to cultivate the ability to adapt and navigate these challenges, thereby facilitating personal growth.

One's value is not contingent on one's career or relationship status; rather, it is intrinsic to one's identity as a person. Each individual is valuable in and of themselves and deserves happiness and a bright future.

It is recommended that you maintain a positive outlook, confront life's challenges with fortitude, and have confidence in your ability to overcome them. Should you require further assistance or guidance, it is advisable to consult with a qualified professional counselor.

Such professionals can provide more specific and in-depth advice and guidance.

Furthermore, it is inevitable that one will encounter periods of both triumph and adversity in life. However, the manner in which one responds to these challenges is a matter of personal choice.

One may opt to confront such challenges in a constructive manner, thereby acquiring new insights and advancing one's personal growth. Rather than evading or succumbing to these obstacles, it is preferable to confront them head-on. It is essential to have confidence in one's abilities and potential, as well as the belief that one can overcome these challenges.

Additionally, it is crucial to prioritize one's physical and mental well-being, adhere to a healthy lifestyle, and nurture positive social connections. These elements serve as vital sources of resilience during challenging periods.

It is my sincere hope that my response has been of some assistance. Best regards, [Signature]

In conclusion, it is important to note that individuals facing similar emotional and professional challenges are not alone.

It is imperative to cultivate self-belief, to have faith in the future, and to believe that one will ultimately find happiness and contentment.

I totally get it. I know how you're feeling. Being rejected can really mess with your head, especially when you've got strong feelings for her.

But, you know, life is always full of uncertainties and challenges, and these are actually great opportunities for us to grow and exercise.

You said that her rejection made you feel like life had no meaning. I can see how that might be, as I'm sure it would be for anyone in your situation. It's natural to feel this way when you're uncertain about the future and questioning your self-worth.

But remember, your value doesn't depend on whether she accepts your confession. You are a wonderful person with amazing professional knowledge and skills. These are your valuable assets.

As for your worries, such as whether she will meet a scumbag in the future or whether she will do something detrimental to the person she likes, these are things you have no control over. Everyone has their own life trajectory and choices, and you need to accept this fact. I know it can be hard, but try to remember that you have so much going for you!

You can control how you face this reality and learn and grow from it.

You said that without someone to strive for, life feels meaningless. But remember, the meaning of life is so much bigger than finding a partner!

You can fight for your dreams, your career, your family, and your friends. There are so many wonderful things in life that are worth pursuing and cherishing!

I know that a computer science job can sometimes feel a bit repetitive and monotonous, but every problem and every project is a new challenge! You can choose to find joy and fulfillment in your work, or you can use your free time to learn new skills and enhance your value.

You also said you feel hopeless about a life with no prospects. But here's something to think about: the excitement and possibilities of life are often hidden in these seemingly ordinary days.

You can try to discover your interests, make new friends, or travel and experience different cultures and lifestyles. These are all great ways to enrich your life!

Finally, I want to tell you that being rejected does not mean that you are not good enough or worthless. Everyone has their own unique charm and value, and that's a wonderful thing! It's not something that can be measured by whether they are accepted or not.

You are worthy of love and respect. Believe in yourself and know that you can face life's challenges with courage.

I've got a few tips for you to help you through this tricky time:

It's so important to give yourself time and space to deal with your emotions. I know being rejected is a painful experience, but it is also an opportunity to grow.

It's okay to feel sad, but remember that you can get through this difficult period.

It's time to revisit your values and life goals. And remember, don't pin all your hopes and happiness on a relationship or a person.

Take some time to think about what you really want, and then make a plan to go after those goals.

It's also a great idea to develop new interests or learn new skills. This will not only take your mind off things, but also allow you to make new friends and discover new possibilities in the process!

It's so important to seek support when you need it. There's nothing wrong with sharing your feelings and experiences with your family and friends. They'll be there for you, offering you support and encouragement.

If you think it would help, you can also look into getting some professional psychological counseling.

In short, being rejected doesn't mean the end of the world, it's just a new beginning! Please believe in yourself and your ability to face this challenge head on and learn and grow from it.

There are so many wonderful things waiting for you in the future! I really hope you can get out of this slump soon and find your own happiness and satisfaction.