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What should I do if I can't let go of my best friend and feel sad when I think about her? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I have become an awkward stranger to my best friend. I often think about her, and it makes me sad and cry (I have hardly ever cried since I was a child).

I can't help but keep an eye on her. When I see her, I get annoyed and embarrassed, and my heart starts racing. So I avoid her, but I'm always right behind her. It hurts to see her chatting with her friends.

I can lie in bed all night long, thinking about her. I tried hard to get close to her before, hoping to go back to the old days, but we are still drifting apart.

I often dream that one day I will go back to the old days. I miss her so much that I want to hurt myself.

I want to hug her. It's been more than two years and I'm still like this. What should I do?

David Rodriguez David Rodriguez A total of 7020 people have been helped

Hello! I'm sending you a hug.

I'm glad you asked for help. I hope my advice helps.

We often can't let go of someone because we're trying to fulfill an emotional need that we haven't met in a different way.

When you miss a friend, try to think about what you needed and wanted from them. This is something you can learn to do for yourself.

What do you think?

Also, try to see if you blame yourself for the breakup. If you don't, you'll still feel guilty and blame yourself.

The key to changing your situation is to grow. Also, be more objective about why you separated.

The end of a relationship is the result of two people interacting. There is always something that could have been done better.

Try to be aware of what you did well and where you fell short. Then, learn and grow to improve yourself and manage relationships better.

You should also work on your weaknesses as you grow. This will help you be happy and healthy.

I'm Lily, a Q&A Pavilion listener. I love the world and you.

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Jamin Davis Plough deep while sluggards sleep.

I can totally relate to how painful this feels. It's like a part of you is missing, and seeing her just emphasizes that loss. The old days seem so far away now. I wish there was a way to bridge that gap again.

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Barak Davis Teachers are the motivators who push students to reach for the stars.

It sounds like you're carrying a lot of hurt inside. Maybe it would help to talk to her about your feelings. Expressing what you're going through might open up a path for healing and understanding between you two.

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Blaise Davis Time is a continuum, a seamless flow of moments.

The intensity of your emotions shows how much she meant to you. Sometimes, taking a step back and focusing on selfcare can give you the strength to deal with these feelings. Try to find peace within yourself first.

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Mason Jackson Forgiveness is the gentle rain that washes away the stains of bitterness.

This must be incredibly tough for you. Holding onto the past can be comforting but also painful. Could finding new ways to connect or making new friends help ease some of the sadness you feel?

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Manuel Thomas A person's honesty is the lantern that lights the way in a dark forest.

Missing someone this deeply can make life challenging. Have you thought about writing her a letter? Even if you don't send it, putting your thoughts on paper could offer some closure or clarity on how you feel.

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