Which model of husband and wife is better: the "man is strong, woman is weak" or the "woman is strong, man is weak"?

Hello, question asker!

You have asked a great question!

I'm excited to explore this further with you! Is a strong man and a weak woman or a weak man and a strong woman a better model for a couple? And is it more conducive to the growth of women or men?

I don't think there's a standard answer to this, which means there's plenty of room for different perspectives!

I would absolutely love to share my personal understanding with you!

Let's explore together!

1. I absolutely believe that matching is the determining factor!

It's impossible to say which model is better, whether it's the man being strong and the woman weak or the woman being strong and the man weak!

That's the beauty of it! People are different.

Sometimes, the man is strong and the woman is weak. This is a great model! The woman is happy to be a good wife and helpmate in the family, with the man taking the lead in everything. The man is also happy with this model, which satisfies his need to be the dominant male.

And the same goes for a strong woman and a weak man!

If a man is relatively indecisive and weak, and he prefers a stronger woman, and the woman who becomes his spouse is strong inside and full of motherly love, then the model of a strong woman and weak man in this family is a great one!

And then there are the evenly matched couples, where each person is good and the other is not bad!

It doesn't matter which model you choose, as long as it's a good fit for both partners and makes them both feel comfortable. This is a great way to help each person grow and to support the development of the marriage and family.

In a mismatched relationship, for example, in a family where the man is strong and the woman weak, the man feels tired and under pressure, and hopes that the woman can share some of the burden—and what a wonderful thing it is when she does!

Or a woman feels that she has not yet fully tapped into her advantages, wants to stand out, and is ready for a change. However, she is still learning and sometimes resents her husband. As a result, conflicts accumulate, which is not beneficial to either person.

It's like everyone in the family has a relatively stable position. A good couple can happily complement each other, be tolerant and understanding of each other. No matter what the model is, it is a positive interaction that will naturally get better and better!

If the relationship is not harmonious, there's room for improvement! If they feel like they don't fit together, or if they're not happy with their role in the family, they can work on that. And if they can communicate better, it'll be a win-win!

2. How can we achieve a happy balance between our own personal development and that of our family and other family members?

I truly believe that a great relationship is one where everyone is both independent and intimate. Whether it's an intimate relationship or a relationship within a family, it's so important to find that perfect balance!

First of all, everyone is independent and can be at ease being themselves, which is great!

He has the freedom to have his own time and space and to make his own plans!

However, he may have the opportunity to take into account the plans of his family or his partner.

Let's dive right in with a simple example!

A couple, the husband wants to go abroad for further studies.

At this time, in order to support the future development of the family, the wife, while supporting her husband's decision, may need to take on the responsibility of caring for the family. This is an amazing opportunity for her to show her dedication and commitment to her family!

If at this stage, the wife thinks that it is not the right time for the husband to go abroad for further studies, and that she cannot shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the family alone, then perhaps they get to renegotiate and find other solutions!

Also, one spouse wants to start a business!

And there will be times when you'll need support from your partner!

In life, you will encounter all kinds of problems—and you'll learn and grow from them!

As long as two people share a common goal, such as wanting a happy family, and respect each other's pursuits, they will absolutely find a way to deal with conflicts. Neither party will restrict the other's personal development, but instead will find ways to support it.

Absolutely! Everyone in the family can be themselves and support others at the same time.

Because good relationships are so much more than the sum of their parts!

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If you're interested, you've got to read "Deep Impact"!

All relationships are about cooperation, not about winning or losing—and that's a great thing!

Warmest regards!

Hello!

I'm a heart exploration coach. Learning is a treasure.

From your description, I can tell you're confused and want to know the answer.

I won't go into the problems with the husband-wife model. I'll just share some of my views.

First, which husband-and-wife model is better?

There's no absolute standard. A strong man and a weak woman isn't good, and a weak man and a strong woman isn't bad.

A good marriage is a result of both partners working together.

There's also a question about what it means to be a weak woman and a strong man, or a strong woman and a weak man. There's no specific standard because everyone has strengths and weaknesses.

As long as the two people cooperate, this is a good model for a couple. This varies from person to person. Some husbands are not ambitious, but they support their wives, who are ambitious. So can we say that this is a model of a strong woman and a weak man?

A husband who supports his wife and takes care of the family is strong too, right?

The second is about which couple model helps both parties and the marriage and family grow.

This question can be boiled down to what a good couple looks like.

A good marital model is the result of cooperation between the two parties. What kind of cooperation can lead to a good marital model?

There are two types: positive symmetry and effective complementarity. In positive symmetry, one party's language and behavior stimulate similar language and behavior in the other party.

Positive symmetry means they inspire each other to be positive.

In a good relationship, people recognize each other. This positive message always stimulates each other.

For example, the husband might say to his wife, "Thank you for supporting me." The wife might say to her husband, "I feel lucky to have you."

The husband and wife will be grateful for each other.

Another characteristic is effective complementarity. This means that one person's language and behavior provoke completely different language and behavior in the other person.

The wife asks her husband to apologize, and he does. This is an effective complementarity. During an argument, the wife stops talking until her husband calms down. This is also an effective complementarity.

In raising children, one parent can play the "bad guy" and the other the "good guy."

Effective complementarity means understanding each other and working together.

A bad couple model is one of negative symmetry and ineffective complementarity. This is a couple model that is not conducive to mutual growth and family happiness.

Third, about balancing personal and family development.

A good approach is to focus on integration, not balance. Balance treats personal, family, and other members' development as contradictory. Integration is more important.

A woman may experience conflicts at times as wife, mother, and employee. She should consider how to best integrate these roles. Being a good employee does not mean she has to give up being a good mother. The two roles can be reconciled.

This requires understanding, support, and encouragement among family members. A partner with positive symmetry and effective complementarity will strengthen the family and help personal development.

These are my views. I hope they help you. Click "Find a coach for an interpretation – online conversation" at the bottom to talk to me.

Hello, host! I'm Ma Na, a psychological counselor, and I'm thrilled to share my thoughts with you, hoping they'll be helpful.

You're thinking about a better family model and configuration, hoping that family members can develop their own values without harming family relationships. You'll think about this question. I think you're very capable! Do you encounter any difficulties when making family decisions?

The fact that a couple comes together because they appreciate each other means that there must be something about the other person that shines or that satisfies certain needs in some way. And these shining points and needs will change in the marriage—it's all part of the adventure!

Everyone wants to realize their full potential and make a meaningful contribution to society, not just take care of the elderly and children at home for the rest of their lives.

There's no absolute standard for strength and weakness, and it's only through comparison that we can see what makes us tick! Money and status are probably the most common carriers of comparison.

The general meaning of the social level is that whoever earns more is the stronger one, and whoever earns less is the weaker one. But here's the good news! If one of the husband and wife can indeed make the whole family more resilient to risks and provide a better material life, the other party may need to spend more time and energy on the family. And that's okay! It doesn't mean that they have to sacrifice everything for the family and take care of the elderly and children as their only mission.

In my opinion, it's great when both the man and woman in a relationship earn money. It's a win-win! As long as there is a clear division of labor in the family, with someone mainly responsible for earning money and someone else taking care of the elderly and children at the same time, and as long as everyone is comfortable with the situation and shares the workload,

Absolutely! Family relationships should be seen as a whole, and as long as the needs of the family are reasonably met, it is in the best state.

Absolutely! When you're satisfying the needs of the family, you might have to make some personal sacrifices. But in the traditional beliefs of many people, it's mostly the woman who makes those sacrifices.

The good news is that today's society gives women and men the same right to work and the same social roles. Women also want to use their talents in the workplace, and they are just as capable as men!

It's not easy to make personal sacrifices, but it's so worth it! At this time, both parties need to put the needs of the family first and try to minimize the sacrifice of personal rights.

The absolute best model is for the two people to support each other's choices and complement each other when the family needs it.

Absolutely! Everyone needs to feel valued and secure. It has been proven that a woman who sacrifices her whole life to stay at home, taking care of the children and the elderly, and taking care of her husband's meals and daily life, may not end up happy.

Luo Zijun in "My Life Before" has done something amazing! She's helped so many women realize that they can only be confident if they rely on themselves.

You simply have to watch the TV series "Our Marriage"! It features the family patterns of the strong man and weak woman, as well as the difficult strong woman and weak man. By the end, both spouses have gained their own development space by giving each other more understanding and space.

In a husband-and-wife relationship, it's not about who's stronger. It's about who can support each other and overcome any challenges together!

If two people work together to face life, there will be a solution to any difficulty! But if you only think about how the other person can sacrifice more, conflicts will arise within the family first.

I love you, world! And I have the courage to overcome any difficulty!

The question seems to be looking for one perfect solution to many problems. How did the questioner come up with this idea?

Is a strong man and a weak woman or a weak man and a strong woman better for women? Which husband and wife model helps men grow more?

Which marriage model helps partners grow? Which model helps marriages and families develop?

What does "strong and weak" mean? What does "women's growth" and "men's growth" mean?

What are the key things to think about when developing a marriage and family?

The question "How do you balance personal development with family development or the development of other family members?" seems to suggest that the questioner believes these things are mutually exclusive.

To satisfy everyone, balance is needed.

The questioner may be asking how couples, parents, children, men, and women can live together harmoniously and achieve mutual success.

This is something we need to talk about.

I think "strength, weakness, growth, and balance" are all relative. They depend on how each person feels and understands them.

It depends on the time period and background. Each problem needs to be analyzed.

Some families have a man who earns money and a woman who takes care of the home and children. This can be a good system if both husband and wife are happy with it. The family is also balanced.

If both people think that making more money and being successful at work makes you strong, and that anyone who isn't is weak, and if they also think that whoever makes more money and is more successful at work has more say, then it will be difficult for them to live together peacefully. It would be good if they didn't mention growing up and didn't undermine each other.

Any new ideas after reading this? You know how to solve the problem.

That is personal growth. It means becoming a more complete person. You live with resilience, being kind to yourself and making life comfortable. You achieve yourself and others.

This may be our goal, even if we don't know it. Everything we experience helps us move towards it.

I think my reply will help you. Best wishes!

Good day. I am Strawberry.

From the question posed, it is evident that this is a topic that is of significant interest to the majority of individuals, and one that they are keen to resolve. Regardless of whether the man is the stronger partner and the woman is the weaker one, or vice versa, such a dynamic is ultimately unhealthy for the couple. It is only when there is equality in status that the likelihood of long-term compatibility is increased.

In cases where one spouse is in a weaker position, the stronger spouse will be more inclined to suppress the weaker spouse on a regular basis. Additionally, the stronger spouse may be less willing to address the underlying issues between the two due to a greater focus on their own concerns, which can result in a lack of consideration for their weaker partner.

No unified model exists.

Among the various patterns of how couples interact, there is no singular, universally applicable pattern. Rather, each couple is a unique match of individuals with distinct personalities and patterns of behavior. For a relationship to flourish, it is essential that these patterns align and coexist harmoniously.

In terms of a healthy relationship, couples should respect, understand, support, tolerate, improve, and grow together. This may seem simple, but it is actually quite difficult to put into practice.

It is a fallacy to assume that a good relationship is devoid of conflict. Indeed, the process of identifying and resolving issues during an argument can serve to strengthen the relationship and enhance intimacy.

It is essential to adapt one's approach to change in accordance with the specific circumstances at hand.

Given the inherent differences in personality and patterns of interaction between individuals in a couple, the process of change is bound to vary from one case to another. In order to gain a better understanding of this phenomenon, it is useful to consider the following points based on our own reality.

1. Identify problematic situations and implement solutions in a prompt and effective manner.

In many families, the problems that arise at the beginning are minor. However, it is important to note that there is no such thing as a minor problem in a marriage. Many couples grow apart and their marriages break up because they fail to address minor problems in a timely manner.

When expectations are not met, disappointment ensues. When the underlying issues are finally identified, they often present as a complex, intractable problem. If left unresolved, these accumulated problems can lead to significant distress. Therefore, it is crucial to address and resolve issues promptly and effectively. Prolonged periods of emotional distance or physical violence can have a profound and damaging impact on individuals.

2. It is a fallacy to assume that a quarrel between a husband and wife has a clear winner or loser.

It is not the quarrels themselves that are problematic, but rather the manner in which they are conducted. During a quarrel, each partner tends to prioritize expressing their emotions and attempting to persuade the other to acknowledge their feelings. This often leads to a sense of competition and a desire to emerge as the "winner" of the argument. However, there is no clear victor or loser in a quarrel between two individuals in a relationship. While the individual who is more invested in winning the argument may initially come out on top, they may eventually lose the respect and trust of their partner and their family.

It is a common misconception that displaying vulnerability in a relationship necessitates compromising one's position. However, this is not the case. For instance, if I prepare noodles and my husband expresses dissatisfaction with the cooking, I can choose to either take his criticism personally and engage in a conflict, or I can adopt a more diplomatic approach. By acknowledging his feedback and expressing my own inexperience in cooking, I can encourage him to take the initiative in the future.

3. Provide each other with face

Both men and women value face. Depending on the situation, giving one's partner face will make them feel respected. Relationships are reciprocal. When we show our partner respect and give them face, they will respond in kind.

It should be noted that saving face does not entail allowing one's partner or oneself to exploit the situation. Engaging in behaviors such as yelling at one's partner or other forms of accusatory conduct in the presence of others is already disrespectful. Therefore, it is essential to exercise moderation when attempting to save face.

4. It is imperative to communicate more and exchange more.

In many families, unhealthy patterns of interaction arise precisely because of a lack of communication or a refusal to communicate. Some partners are unable to communicate because their upbringing has had too great an influence on them. In such cases, professional help may be necessary.

Communication serves as the foundation for any relationship, and it is a vital aspect that should be nurtured continuously. It is not only in times of conflict that communication is crucial, but also in the everyday moments when we cultivate the habit of sharing our thoughts and listening to each other. Beyond their role as partners in status, individuals in a relationship also become partners in spirit.

It is my hope that my response will prove beneficial to the original poster. Wishing you the best.

Dear questioner, It appears that you have posed a number of inquiries. However, the crux of the matter seems to be the manner in which the relationship between men and women can be balanced in order to facilitate mutual advancement. Do you believe that this can be understood in the following manner?

The accelerated pace of modernization has afforded men and women a more equitable range of options. The conventional gender roles of men as the primary breadwinners and women as homemakers are also evolving. Women's status in society is on the rise, as is the divorce rate, which can be viewed as a consequence of social advancement.

Furthermore, an increasing number of practitioners are contemplating the means of harmonizing their familial obligations with the pursuit of personal growth. The advent of the Internet has facilitated a convergence between online and offline realms, offering convenience to a growing number of individuals who possess both the fortitude and the ambition to achieve their goals. Without ever leaving the comfort of their homes, individuals can now expand their horizons through strategic planning, diversions, and the establishment of connections between online and offline realms. This affords them a greater array of challenges.

In their professional lives, they are successful, and in their personal lives, they assume responsibilities. Everyone desires a supportive and nurturing environment. In life, there are no examples of strong women who have not had the support of a man and have had to rely on themselves, moving forward alone. After working hard for many years, they have nothing but loneliness, apart from money. Only growth can bring a sense of joy and long-term development.

A family can be conceptualized as a warm harbor. In a family environment that is characterized by warmth and love, the husband and wife have a harmonious relationship, the children are healthy and happy, and they have ideals and aspirations. In such a context, the husband and wife are motivated to work hard for the benefit of their family members. This kind of strength is conducive to the flourishing of the family unit and the individual's career.

Some individuals dedicate their entire lives to proving themselves, seeking external validation through the accumulation of power and wealth. This pursuit often results in a lack of inner strength, leading to persistent internal conflict and an inability to achieve inner peace. They are constantly engaged in a struggle to surpass others, driven by a fear of being outdone. This form of success is ultimately unsatisfying and unsustainable.

The ability to enjoy a material life is contingent upon one's inner peace of mind. When confronted with a significant decision, the capacity to make a U-turn with equanimity is indicative of profound wisdom and sound decision-making, and is the consequence of years of experience and accumulated knowledge.

The power of example is a significant force. In a family unit, the presence of an emotionally stable, influential, and creative individual with the capacity to discern the underlying truth, emotional stability, a robust personality, and a willingness to acknowledge vulnerability can profoundly influence the collective progress of the group.

In today's society, personal development is constrained. Collective progress is a catalyst for long-term, sustainable, and stable development. A group of individuals can achieve more, and there is untapped potential in each person. The ability to recognize the strengths of others, learn from their advantages, and gain experience within the group provides a comprehensive understanding of each individual.

Those who are able to accept their own shortcomings, maintain a positive outlook in the face of adversity, and demonstrate resilience in the face of failure, becoming more determined with each setback, are well-positioned to succeed in any endeavor and serve as role models for others.

In the process of fostering a harmonious relationship with one's spouse, it is essential to pursue mutual growth, personal development, and a humble disposition. Additionally, cultivating an altruistic mindset and providing encouragement and support to others is crucial. Despite the transient nature of life, these principles remain constant. Adapting to change with resilience and consistency is vital.

It is my hope that this reply will prove somewhat helpful to you.

Hello, question asker. A husband-and-wife relationship is like a dance, with one person taking the lead and the other following, and with free spins.

It's about understanding each other, knowing when to push forward and when to take a step back, and working together. A man who is strong but a woman who is weak, or a woman who is strong but a man who is weak, can navigate the challenges to make the relationship work.

But this adjustment is often painful and sometimes difficult. Some people say that changing someone's mindset is easy, but real change begins with habits, and habits are often deeply rooted.

First, let's talk about the relationship between strength and weakness. Some men are very strong on the outside, but when they get home, they're like little sheep and obey their wives. Then there are people who are gentle and considerate outside, and gentle and refined, but when they get home, they're always like a roaring lion. Couples who handle their relationships well are often able to respond to each other's actions and turn hostility into peace through conversation and laughter. Strength and weakness aren't fixed, and this is the principle behind the balance of yin and yang.

That means handling marital relations is also an art that needs to be learned.

Second, some people say that marriage is not just about two people, but about six or more families. We often say that it is a marriage between two families. Each family has its own cultural heritage and habits, and these cultural genes will always be presented in different ways in your new family relationship, which may lead to conflicts and differences with the other family's culture or living habits. For example, some families have the habit of having a family reunion and eating together, and the elders cannot start eating before the children, while some families spoil their children and don't care about so many formalities, which will lead to conflicts.

Some families are very egalitarian when it comes to cooking and housework. In other families, the husband will not enter the kitchen. If he does, the mother-in-law will take over the housework from her son, and problems will arise between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. So, the way relationships are handled, which was learned in the original family, is a big problem before and after marriage.

Thirdly, the relationship between a husband and wife is about mutual achievement or making sacrifices for the benefit of the family. This is also a matter of dealing with relationships between those who are more powerful and those who are less powerful.

We often hear the saying, "You take care of being beautiful and I'll take care of earning money to support the family." But in the end, it's usually the man who earns the money and plants flowers outside, and he often has another family. Therefore, a balanced relationship is the basic principle for maintaining a balanced family and marital relationship.

Everyone is an independent person with their own great job. Together, they make an unbeatable team—that's the best kind of relationship.

At the end of the day, the family is a training ground for the couple, where they learn to navigate each other's lives together. Over time, you become more in sync with each other. Your partner is a mirror that shows you a different side of yourself. They're also a playmate, a source of endless joy, and a teacher who teaches us to put ourselves in other people's shoes, understand each other's differences, discover beauty with curiosity, and create beauty for the two of you with appreciation and praise. With love and sincerity, and friendly cooperation, you can win-win and create a happy future together.

Hello, questioner!

Your question is very thought-provoking! If we replace the word "strength" with "yin and yang," it might help you understand it better. A family needs two kinds of forces to drive and nourish it: one kind of yang energy is active, decisive, thoughtful, and discerning; the other kind of energy is accepting, emotional, and capable of building connections between people.

The essence of marriage is mutual promotion and support. Men can be weak and foolish, and women can be far-sighted—and that's what makes marriage so exciting! The most important thing is to agree on a mode of getting along and communicating at the beginning of marriage. Marriage is like starting a company: setting good business goals, doing a good job of dividing up personnel responsibilities, and regularly reviewing and summarizing are all very constructive ways to proceed. Investing too much time and energy in winning or losing is selfish and childish—so let's not do that!

Women's creativity is amazing!

Women have a unique creativity that allows them to nurture life and provide nourishment. This makes them perfect for using yin energy! Nurturing life and providing nourishment is really important for a family, and women are the best at it. Winnicott's book "Mommy's Psychology Class" shows us just how much of an impact the mother-child relationship has on a person.

Feminine energy is a wonderful thing! It's not just useful for children, but also for family members because everyone has a weak, childish side. The emotional nourishment in the family can make a person strong and stable inside. This is why the ancients said that half of the world's affairs are in the hands of women, which makes perfect sense. When men and women achieve yin-yang harmony, the family thrives and prosper!

A marriage based on a thorough understanding of both partners is a marriage that will surely stand the test of time!

It's just like running a company: you need to make the most of your strengths and avoid your weaknesses in terms of division of labor. With a good understanding of each other and friendly communication, you can do a great job of dividing up the family responsibilities. At different stages, the family's tasks are different. For example, in the stage of getting married and preparing for pregnancy, you get to plan for the career development of both parties and prepare financially. Once the baby is born, you get to face the task of raising the child and paying the family bills. Then naturally, whoever is better at which task will be mainly responsible for it. I don't know which stage of marriage development the questioner is in, and whether they have a good understanding of their own and their partner's talents, strengths, and personalities. There are many testing tools on the Yixin platform, so you might as well take more tests to know yourself and your partner better.

[How to balance personal development, family development, and the development of family members]

It's so great that the questioner is thinking about this! Balance is a really useful concept in life. It's all about weighing up the costs (time and money) of something against the benefits. And the best place to start is by loving yourself. Once you've got that sorted, you'll be able to love others too! So, use your resources to meet your own development needs first. And don't forget about your family. They're an important part of your life, too!

Appropriate sacrifice and commitment are the keys to a fulfilling personal love!

When we go above and beyond, we might face some disappointments along the way. But that's all part of the journey! Mothers are the epitome of unconditional love, and it's natural for them to feel a sense of power over their children. However, when expectations are too high, it can lead to some challenges in family relationships. But that's where the fun begins! It's an opportunity to learn and grow.

Love is not an innate ability; it is an art that requires time and careful study. I highly recommend the "Art of Love" by psychologist Erich Fromm. When you truly understand the true meaning of love, you'll actively develop your entire personality, allowing it to form a creative personality that will succeed in all your love attempts!

I'm Zhang Huili, a psychological counselor, and I'm thrilled to be able to help you! I hope you'll live your life in order, peace, and happiness.

Hello, It doesn't matter if it's the man who's strong and the woman who's weak, or the other way around. Either way, neither of these models provides a very good growth process in life. It's the same for both parties.

It basically means that one of us has to make sacrifices and become the weaker partner. The other becomes the stronger one.

The help that the weak can provide to the strong is always limited. Over time, the strong will often start to dislike the weak.

The weak will always stay weak, and the strong can't grow stronger by relying on the weak.

It's like someone who makes 3,000 yuan a month being with someone who makes 200,000 yuan a month. How much help do you think the person who makes 3,000 yuan a month can be to the person who makes 200,000 yuan a month?

If someone with a monthly salary of 200,000 yuan is living with someone with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan, will the person with the higher salary feel like they are being held back?

In a good relationship, they are definitely equal.

This display of equality isn't about who's in charge in life. It's about inner equality.

It seems that in many couples and romantic relationships, the man tends to shower the woman with attention, or vice versa. So is the person who receives the most attention necessarily the weaker party?

Or is the favored party necessarily the weaker party? Not necessarily.

They're really more about mutuality, which means being able to receive love and giving love to others. They're very equal relationships.

They won't feel like anyone is more important than anyone else.

Equality is really important in an intimate relationship.

People who are similar can often help and support each other better.

A good investor looks for people with an equal mindset, not those who pity them.

If you need help with emotional growth between the sexes, I can help. I provide quality services.

I really hope you find happiness and joy in your life.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a pretty modest and humble person, and I try to be as consistent as I can be.

I think a dynamic balance is the best!

The old saying "the man is in charge of the outside world and the woman is in charge of the home" is a conclusion drawn from the general environment of the past. At that time, it was thought that "a woman's lack of talent is a virtue." Nowadays, this division of labor model is difficult to adapt to the development of society, so neither the man being strong and the woman being weak nor the woman being weak and the man being strong is feasible.

In a husband-wife or family relationship, the most harmonious relationship should be a dynamic balance. It's so important to give each other space to excel in areas we're good at. For example, a husband can be given more freedom to excel in areas he is good at, and a wife can be given more freedom to excel in areas she is good at. They can also cooperate in areas where they are both good at, and discuss and learn together to improve in areas where neither is good at.

Nothing in life lasts forever. Any relationship will lose its balance under the influence of different forces. But don't fret! The best state for this is that we can try to resonate with each other as much as possible and make progress together, so that we can find a good rhythm.

Let's talk about how to balance family and personal growth.

We have to admit that our hearts are insatiable, and we also have to admit that our energy is limited. Because we expect the best, we grow roots downwards and upwards. Home is our root, and relationships are the nutrients for our roots.

It's so important to recognize your own strengths and weaknesses when it comes to balancing family and relationships. We can't do everything, but we can do our best! With a cooperative mindset, we can grow together, and the rewards will be easier to reap, and the relationship will be a little healthier.

As we grow up, we tend to focus our energy outward, which is great! It means we attract people around us who can progress together with us. If you can't do that, don't pressure others with your growth. A healthy and beautiful relationship should be diverse and inclusive.

Is it better for a husband and wife to be the strong one and the other weak, or the other way around?

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1. Is it better for women to be in a relationship where the man is strong and the woman is weak, or vice versa? Is it better for men to be in a relationship where the man is strong and the woman is weak, or vice versa?

Which marriage model helps both partners grow? Which model helps marriages and families develop?

How do you balance personal development with family development?

Hello, questioner! I'm an old, skinny donkey.

There is no difference between good and bad ways of getting along. It depends on whether they are suitable for oneself and the other party. We judge more on strength and weakness, possibly based on family financial responsibility. People around me have both the woman being strong and the man being weak, and the man being strong and the woman being weak.

Some couples have equal financial resources. Some people say that the term "male dominance and female weakness" or "female dominance and male weakness" refers to the personalities of both parties.

They use it more because of having a family and responsibilities. For example, buying a house, taking care of and tutoring children, supporting parents, and other things that require one party to devote more energy to the family, while the other party earns a living to support the family.

In this situation, I think the family needs both partners to contribute. It depends on which partner can devote more energy to the family.

There's no need to think about who's stronger or weaker. What families need more is understanding and tolerance. As long as the husband and wife communicate well and are willing to work together, it doesn't matter how they get along.

If you think about your own social value and growth potential, you can talk to your partner about how to use your energy and time. You can hire a domestic helper or ask your parents for help so you can focus on different things. This will help you grow together.

Marriage requires both parties to be considerate and tolerant of each other. It's best to consider the whole family when making decisions. If one person's needs are ignored, the relationship will suffer. This can lead to arguments and conflict, which can damage the relationship.

If it's about character, avoid confrontation, be considerate and tolerant, and don't add fuel to the fire when the other person is emotional. This is more conducive to a harmonious relationship!

I'm excited to answer your questions! First, I'll share two value models for female development.

The first is self-fulfillment, which means you get to focus on your own self and pursue your interests, career, and growth. You'll have the chance to set aside personal time to devote to your interests, work, and improvement plans. You'll also have the opportunity to prioritize your role as a wife and mother, which is a great way to balance your personal and family life.

The second is the compound realization type. You reasonably allocate your energy and time within the three roles of individual, wife, and mother. Although your degree of self-realization becomes limited, and you even have to give up many goals with a personal orientation, you still feel fulfilled because you have the incredible opportunity to include the energy invested in the roles of wife and mother in the scope of self-realization.

The characteristics of these two models of fulfillment are similar to two circles intersecting, and the intersection is marriage. The more the intersection, the less the individual part; the less the intersection, the more the individual part.

The choice is yours! It depends on your own understanding and weighing of the value and meaning of life.

A man-dominant and woman-submissive couple is perfect for a couple that wants to achieve together! A woman-dominant and man-submissive couple is ideal for a couple that wants to achieve on their own. And there are also couples that are evenly matched, which is great!

Now, here's the really fun part! It all depends on your own definition of good and your definition of women's growth and development. Once you have clarified these definitions, you can ask yourself which of these things you value more and then make a choice and trade-offs.

It's human nature to always want to pursue the best path for everything, and there's no doubt about it! There's no such thing as the perfect couple model, but that's okay. There are always trade-offs and compromises. How do you balance personal development with family development or the development of other family members? Once you understand the above and have come to a conclusion, I believe you can find a way on your own!

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This is an interesting question. You've asked two questions, so let's take them one at a time.

The first thing we need to figure out is which model of husband and wife is more useful. Is it the man being strong and the woman being weak, or is it the woman being strong and the man being weak?

The question of what kind of couple is better shouldn't be based on the strengths and weaknesses of the man and woman. It should be based more on the character, personality, values, and perceptions of both parties.

When we talk about strengths and weaknesses, we're usually talking about the ability to earn money. But the ability to earn money is only one of many abilities a person has, and it's not even the most important one.

So, it's tough to say who's better for the couple and the family.

Some people are great at making money but not so good at communicating, understanding others, or forming attachments. They may not be able to motivate their partners. It's also possible that someone is good at making money and has strong cognitive skills, but their partner is unwilling to be motivated. No matter how strong you are, you can't motivate someone who isn't willing to be motivated.

Some people aren't great at making money, but they're excellent at other things. They're great at life, communication, empathy, and cognitive skills. They don't need to be driven, but they can drive their partners.

So, there's no clear answer, and it's a pretty complex situation.

Ideally, the husband and wife would be evenly matched.

Host Yang Lan once said, "The bond of marriage is not about children or money, but about growing together spiritually. In your most helpless and weak moments, there is someone who will hold up your chin, straighten your back, make you strong, and be by your side, sharing your fate together."

At that point, you'll have a strong, loving relationship built on loyalty, trust, shared growth, and a deep sense of gratitude.

So it's not about who's stronger or weaker between a husband and wife. It's about being able to grow together and having a growth mindset. It can't be said that whoever is stronger has to help others grow, help the family grow, and maintain the happiness of the family. That would be unfair to the stronger person.

A family should be working together in the same direction, and no one should have to carry the burden of everyone else. That would be unfair.

You can't just say, "I'm weak, so I'm justified."

The second thing to think about is how to balance personal development with family development or the development of other family members.

This is a tough issue to navigate. Typically, it falls on one family member to put in a little more effort, and that's often the woman. For the sake of the kids and the family, many women's career development gets stalled.

However, if a woman's contribution is visible to a man and the man is willing to contribute to the family and to the woman within his means, then the family can develop in both genders.

If someone makes a contribution but it goes unnoticed or is taken for granted, and if someone's contribution is used to enable the success of others, it's not fair to the person who made the contribution.

So, it's important to find a balance that works for everyone in the family. Sometimes, one person might contribute more than others at different stages.

For instance, when the kids are young, the mom should put in a little more effort, while the dad should give her more psychological and practical support. When the kids are older and the mom can go back to work, the dad should also put in a little more effort.

This issue is actually related to how the two people in a specific marriage perceive things, empathize with each other, and take responsibility. So, no generalizations can be made, and each family may have a model that suits them.

Some women are willing to make personal sacrifices for the sake of the family. Regardless of their decision, they deserve respect.

This question is too complex. My view is that first, both partners should be good people and clear-minded individuals, and then find another good person and another clear-minded individual to work together for the family.

I'm often both Buddhist and pessimistic, but I'm also motivated and positive. I'm a counselor, and I love the world and everyone in it.

Dear question asker,

From what you have shared, it seems that you are hoping for a more peaceful family atmosphere.

Indeed, when you are uncertain and seek guidance here, you have already taken a significant step forward.

Well, it's not so much that there's a clear-cut distinction between good and bad, but rather that what works for both parties is the best solution. As you mentioned, a man who is strong and a woman who is weak, or a woman who is strong and a man who is weak, may be different for each person. For instance, a woman is often more soft-spoken and shy, so if the man is strong enough, it could be beneficial for the family. Similarly, if the man is more soft-spoken and the woman is stronger, it could also be a good match.

It is often the case that complementary personalities are more conducive to harmonious family life.

While nothing is absolute, if you desire a harmonious family that is conducive to the growth of both men and women, it would seem that tolerance, accommodation, mutual progress, and leadership are essential. I personally believe that these things are necessary. Tolerance and accommodation are the only way to resolve conflicts within ourselves. We must each take a step back and make progress together. In every family, money is the foundation, and we all need to work hard to build our family together. We must work hard, grow up, and strive to obtain our own resources. If we can obtain certain economic conditions during our growth, it would seem that we will be happier with our family.

If I might humbly offer my perspective, I believe that leading by example is still the best way forward. When you want to encourage someone to become a certain kind of person, it's important to guide them in that direction. This hope is not something to be discouraged, but rather something to be nurtured.

Ultimately, the challenge lies in finding a balance between personal growth, family development, and the growth of other family members.

Perhaps the best solution would be to learn to communicate effectively with family members, that is, your other half.

I believe that effective communication is an important factor in maintaining a stable and happy marriage.

Appropriate weakness: Everyone has emotions. When the other person is emotional, it is important to be tolerant and to show weakness in a way that is respectful and considerate. When I'm not emotional, I can also show weakness in a way that is appropriate and respectful.

It would be beneficial to learn to be appropriately coquettish. Coquetry can be a valuable addition to a marriage. Everyone appreciates praise, rewards, and feeling needed. Regardless of gender, it's important to learn to be appropriately coquettish. Men can also benefit from this approach. There is no reason to feel embarrassed in front of your wife.

It would be beneficial to establish a sense of boundaries between husband and wife. Since they are the closest, they should also give each other space in moderation, establish a sense of boundaries between the two, and avoid stepping on each other's toes. This could help to make the marriage less tense.

Hello! I'm happy to see that you're interested in discussing the model of partner relationships. It's great that you're looking for a clear answer to the question of who is right and who is wrong, who is stronger and who is weaker. It's a very wise and good question!

I'm a psychological counselor, and I just want to share my understanding from a psychological perspective.

The best relationship model in a partnership is a secure attachment relationship. Both men and women respect each other, talk things through with each other, discuss problems together, and find ways to resolve conflicts that work for them.

This is something that two people can work out together through negotiation.

There are also insecure attachment relationships in a partner relationship, which can be safe or insecure (conflict-prone, avoidant, chaotic). In these relationships, there will also be a conflict, which can be strong or weak. One person will often try to control the other, which can lead to sadism and masochism. However, if both people understand each other's character traits and respect each other, they can still communicate effectively. Couples can maintain a kind of dynamic balance. For example, men tend to be better at rational thinking, while women are often better at handling emotional issues. Couples will take care of the person who is disadvantaged as long as one person is capable. This requires mutual communication and an effective exchange of ideas. If one person believes they have an advantage and belittles the other to show off, the relationship will also be unequal. The other person will tolerate and suppress their feelings in a disadvantaged state. This can lead to conflict-prone arguments where both people end up loving and hating each other, or it can result in the coldness of the avoidant type, or the chaotic pattern of the chaotic type.

The second question is how to handle it. In a partnership, two different individuals from their respective families come together to run their own nuclear family. First, understand yourself, and respect each other's character traits. Be tolerant, understanding, and supportive of each other. Pay attention and manage your marriage with all your heart. Home is a place of love, not a battlefield of reason. It takes a lifetime to slowly get used to each other, and it takes a process to turn love into affection. Go experience it!

If you want to receive love, you have to learn to love yourself first. The world and I love you, and you should love yourself too. You can do it, whether you love a man or a woman. Come on!

Hi there!

"The man is strong and the woman is weak" or "the woman is strong and the man is weak"—which is better for a husband-and-wife relationship?

Looking at the traditional model of husband-and-wife relationships, where the man is the breadwinner and the woman is the homemaker, it seems that the "man is strong, woman is weak" model is more in line with social expectations. Men are encouraged from an early age to develop externally and improve their problem-solving skills. It seems that career success is the only way for men to prove their strength. The image of the woman as a diligent homemaker and a good wife and mother is more in line with the public's perception of the female image.

But with the growth of modern civilization and the social and economic development that has come with it, we're living in a more diverse world. Women can use their personal abilities to achieve economic independence, and their income can even sometimes exceed that of men. This is also why modern society has gradually entered a complementary relationship model. Men and women can support their families and also be a strong backup for each other. Running a good family means that there is no need to argue about which relationship model is better.

Which relationship model is better for women's growth? Or is it better for men's growth?

When we focus on "strength," we often overlook the impact of the relationship on both parties. This can make problems seem isolated and one-sided, but we can't see the whole picture. In a husband-and-wife relationship, for example, when we find a problem, we tend to think that the other person is limiting our abilities and living space. But in reality, unilateral sacrifice and compromise won't bring permanent stability and harmony. And emphasizing the other person's responsibility won't really bring freedom and happiness to one party.

If we all know our own abilities and limitations, it'll help us see what the other person really needs. We'll be more willing to change ourselves and give the other person more freedom. Then, in any relationship, both parties can use their strengths, contribute to the family, and get the respect and understanding they deserve.

How do you strike a balance between your own growth and that of other family members?

A stable and harmonious family structure is important for giving family members a sense of stability, security, and belonging. Even if there are conflicts in the development of family members, they also need to respect each other's boundaries and give each other the necessary room for adjustment. This helps them avoid being disturbed by more negative emotions, sever trust and support, and return to rational thinking in time to solve problems without causing excessive interference to the other party.

In families where things are chaotic and disorderly, with conflict and distrust all around, the connection between family members can sometimes break down. This can make things even more difficult for them, as they feel troubled by negative emotions. While they limit their own abilities, they also interfere with each other.

So, there's no one-size-fits-all relationship model. What works for one couple might not work for another. It's about finding a way of getting along that suits you both. You should feel free to express your feelings and thoughts. You should feel trusted and supported. And the stronger your sense of love and connection, the more motivated you'll be to move forward.

Best of luck, and keep up the great work!