Why can't I sleep at night after my article is included on the platform for the first time?

Good evening, questioner.

I saw your article on the platform and I'm really happy for you. I admire you and think your article must be very well written. It's great that the platform included it as an outstanding work. It must feel good to finally get some recognition for all your hard work.

You take care of the baby at night, but the baby is a little excited and doesn't want to go to sleep early. You get a little frustrated and yell at the baby. The baby is scared and cries. You feel like you're not a good parent again, so you go and talk to the baby about emotions. The baby falls asleep, but you stay awake. You're not sure if you're suffering from insomnia because of the article or because of comforting the baby's emotions or because of a physical reaction. You want to figure out the reason. Is this it?

From what you've said, I get the impression that you're a young mother, and the child is still quite young too.

Secondly, the relationship in the narrative is only between you and the child. You patiently and meticulously talk about emotions with a child who needs to be coaxed. I'm not sure where your other half is.

Why don't you talk to the child's father about how you're feeling and how tough it is to raise the child on your own? You need to take a break and relax.

Third, you say you have insomnia, sleep late, and wake up early. Ask how long it's been going on, whether you need to go to the hospital, whether you feel anxious, and what the source of your anxiety is. You could keep a diary, practice meditation, or ask yourself what kind of life you really want, what kind of life you love yourself, love your children, love your family, and achieve unity of knowledge and action. That should help you fall asleep.

You come across as a very nice person, and I feel like I've met you in person when I read your words.

After reading this description, I felt my emotions go on a roller coaster ride with yours. I couldn't help but sigh: the difference is really quite big! Then I thought, and I want to say to you across the screen: I am sincerely happy for you that your article was accepted by the platform. Your efforts have finally been recognized, and I can fully understand the excitement and thrill you felt when you received the news.

Then I saw in your description that you said, "Later, my heart quickly returned to peace, and I took care of the children and got everything done before bedtime. We both went to sleep." This sentence made me think that you'd responded to the situation yourself to "return your heart to peace," which was to "take care of the children and get everything done before bedtime, and then go to sleep with them." It showed me that you're methodical in your life, but some unexpected factors in the process disrupted your emotions. You couldn't find a way to accept your emotions, so you subconsciously released them on the children. In the process, the children became your container. Then after you calmed the children down, their emotions subsided and they fell asleep, but you were unable to sleep.

It seems like you were excited and thrilled because your article was accepted for publication, but that wasn't the reason for your insomnia afterwards.

After going through the process you described, I felt like you pay a lot of attention to your child but don't take care of yourself as much.

You did take a moment to focus on yourself at the start of the description, when you openly expressed your excitement and emotion. But you quickly got caught up in the day-to-day and let that energy fade. It's likely that the state you described at the end is a result of not allowing yourself enough space to process along the way.

So, you can really give yourself some rewards for this and praise your child. For example:

Treat yourself and your child to a nice meal to celebrate your article being included.

In this process, the child becomes the vessel for you to release your emotions. Even though you don't know if he did a good job, it wasn't easy for him either. Give him a compliment; it might inspire your sense of pride, which is also a kind of strength! When you praise your child, remember to praise him specifically, praising his qualities from specific things, and thank him for being the vessel for your emotions.

Give yourself a break. You deserve it!

You are truly excellent in every way.

Life goes on, but how you live it is up to you.

Take care of yourself.

Good morning, my name is Strawberry.

After reading the question and the answer, I am pleased to inform the poster that her efforts have been acknowledged by professionals. From the description provided, it is evident that the poster typically dedicates a significant portion of her time to family and child-related responsibilities. The inclusion of the article she wrote in her spare time in the collection is a testament to her abilities and a source of personal satisfaction.

Given the significant time investment in family and children, there is often limited opportunity for pursuing personal interests. In many cases, our aspirations are constrained by practical realities. It is not possible to have everything, so it is necessary to prioritize and make compromises.

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Upon learning that the article had been accepted, the system message must have provided the questioner with considerable encouragement. It conveyed the message that there are numerous avenues for demonstrating one's abilities and that there is reason for pride. The questioner was eager to share this positive outcome with those who matter to them and to continue showcasing their capabilities. At that moment, the questioner was looking forward to having their own time soon.

The questioner took the child and provided care at the usual pace, intending to resume her own activities once the child fell asleep. However, the child did not fall asleep according to the scheduled time, and the questioner's own time was limited, causing her to feel anxious.

The objective was for the child to go to sleep early. However, the desired outcome was not achieved, which led to feelings of anxiety and frustration.

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After an unfortunate outburst, the individual in question felt a sense of regret. She recognized that she had lost her patience. After identifying a promising new avenue for demonstrating her capabilities, she was eager to dedicate more time to exploring it. However, her child's actions impeded her plans.

I must commend the questioner for her exemplary responsibility and dedication to her child's care. She demonstrates a keen understanding that when she is tending to her child's needs, she should be wholly focused and committed to that task. Similarly, if she wishes to pursue other endeavors, she maintains the same single-minded focus, avoiding the tendency to divide her attention between multiple tasks while attending to her child's needs. This approach ensures that she is able to accomplish her tasks efficiently and effectively.

While the surface may appear calm, deeper emotions may be present. Happiness and excitement stimulate the activity of the cerebral cortex, creating a sensation of restlessness.

During this period, it is also important to assess one's abilities. On this occasion, the questioner was included. The questioner's temper was lost with their child because they were unable to get him to fall asleep. Consequently, there is a possibility that the next time a good idea is conceived and shared, the questioner may be less inclined to spend time with their child.

It is important to maintain a normal state of mind.

As a creator, I have experienced the same circumstances as the questioner. Whether or not my work is included affects my mood. I recall the first time I participated in Yixinren. A colleague who signed up together had his first article included, but mine was not. I began to doubt my own ability and whether I was really that much worse than other colleagues.

At the time, I had received feedback from professionals regarding the article. Apart from the word count being insufficient, the popularization of psychology was also not thorough enough. After identifying these shortcomings, I was able to develop a plan of action. After being included, I was still affected by my emotions. Later, I conducted an internal assessment and realized that if I wanted to be a creator, I would be easily controlled by my emotions, which would not be beneficial for me.

What is the objective of my output? My goal is to apply the knowledge I have gained in my personal life and present situations I have observed in a way that allows the general public to learn from a variety of perspectives. To achieve this, it is essential to focus on one's initial intentions and have a clear understanding of one's objectives. This will help maintain composure during the creative process and prevent external influences from affecting the outcome.

Let's encourage each other on our creative journeys. I hope my response is helpful to the questioner. Best regards.

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I can tell you're experiencing some uncomfortable feelings. I admire your awareness and courage in facing your own problems and actively seeking a solution.

When you become aware of it and try hard to find a breakthrough, you are already on the path to change.

You were happy to have your article accepted on the platform. You were also uncomfortable because your child wouldn't go to sleep at night, even though you read to him. You lost your temper with him. After you lost your temper, you calmed down, but you felt guilty inside, thinking that you shouldn't have done that. Is that right?

You were clearly delighted when you described how your article was accepted by the platform. However, during the noise from your child, you lost your temper. This has resulted in you not being able to sleep and feeling somewhat confused. Is this correct?

Do you typically experience this level of sleep disruption each time, or is this a unique occurrence prompted by your recent inquiry?

It's important to understand that our emotions change from day to day. It's not realistic to believe that we only have one emotion at a time. In fact, we may experience several emotions within an hour. This is normal. I want you to be aware of the feelings you have now about not being able to sleep. Apart from the discomfort, what other emotions do you have? What do you want to explore from this incident?

It is normal for parents to lose control when dealing with their children's noise. You can't sleep, and you may feel some self-blame towards your child, as well as joy at having your article included. You are likely feeling a mixture of these two emotions, and it is more likely that it is some self-blame.

I will give you some small suggestions that can help you with these uncomfortable emotions.

First, accept your emotions.

It's time to accept that our emotions linger when we encounter them. We don't allow ourselves to have negative emotions, but you've already noticed this step. If we want to change, we must learn to accept our emotions and allow the existence of excitement, sadness, hesitation, and other negative emotions. Only when we accept and allow the existence of these emotions can we see them face to face and live in peace with them.

② Learn to forgive yourself.

In life, we will always do things that make us uncomfortable. You may feel that your children are very cute and obedient, but you get angry with them. This causes you to feel a little self-blame inside. These feelings of your own will cause some other negative emotions, keeping you in this place, unable to reduce your burden. You have to learn to forgive yourself. You love your children, but sometimes you can't control your emotions. In the future, you will slowly learn to control them. You have to learn to forgive yourself so that you can move forward less heavily. You will be able to constantly improve and move forward with a lighter load.

You must learn to relax.

In life, you must learn to relax, especially when it comes to sleep. Getting a good night's rest is a form of meditation, but you shouldn't focus on the physical act of sleeping. Instead, relax your mind. Your emotions can impact the quality of your sleep, so it's essential to learn to relax. You can do this by listening to soothing music, meditating, or closing your eyes and taking deep breaths. When you're calm, let go, and your body will be more relaxed, which will improve your sleep.

Adjust your mindset.

A good attitude towards our biological clock is a reassurance for us. It allows us to be less excited when encountering good things and less sad when encountering bad things. It is a feeling of being at peace with everything. Just like chrysanthemums, no matter what you look like, I will always be there for you.

Once you've adjusted your mood, you'll start to make progress with your articles, even if it's not a huge amount. And if you get too excited, it won't affect your life. The best thing we can do for our children's intestines is to let them be and accept their feelings and current situation. This requires a good attitude and not trying to control others. Just do your own thing.

Finally, I want to tell you that when you don't get enough rest, you can practice relaxation to calm yourself down, which will help. For writing articles, it's not just you who'll be happy; I'll be happy too. I remember the first time I wrote an article on the platform and participated in an activity on Yi Xinli, and I won 200 yuan. At that time, I was especially happy, and many people showed off, and I was happy inside to be rewarded.

No matter what, we are always going to be ourselves. It's important to stay calm and focused on our own things, and not worry about too many things.

Good day, host. My name is Xiang Yuchenghuan, and I am a heart exploration coach. It is my hope that the following answer will prove beneficial to you.

As a mother and a certified writer on the platform, I am able to empathize with your feelings. I recall when my articles were initially accepted by the platform, I experienced a range of emotions, including happiness, excitement, and emotionality. Similarly, it is not uncommon for parents to experience heightened emotions when their children do not adhere to established rules. It is important to note that occasional difficulties in sleeping at night may not be a significant concern, as emotional states can influence hormonal activity in the body. For instance, when we are highly excited or emotionally charged, our bodies secrete adrenaline, which contributes to feelings of excitement, elevates our heart rate, and increases the contractility and oxygen consumption of the heart muscle. This is a natural response aimed at maintaining a positive mood.

The secretion of adrenaline is also increased when people are angry, which results in an elevated heart rate and a state of excitement within the nervous system. Consequently, the excitement and happiness associated with the inclusion of an article, or the anger and excitement caused by a child's behavior, will keep the sympathetic nerve in a highly active state, preventing sleep.

It is this author's recommendation that the following course of action be taken:

The process of accepting and understanding oneself, identifying the underlying causes of sleep disturbances, maintaining a non-judgmental attitude, and avoiding excessive anxiety about sleeping late can collectively enhance the quality of one's daily routine.

In many cases, the impact of occasional late-night and early-morning sleep schedules on overall well-being is minimal. It is our resistance to staying up late and anxiety about waking up early that cause distress, not the act of staying up late and waking up early itself. Accepting one's natural sleep patterns and allowing for occasional late nights and early mornings without excessive concern about daily sleep duration can help restore a more stable sleep schedule.

I also experience occasional difficulties with sleep at night. I have found that the more I dwell on the fact that I am staying up late, the more I fear the potential harm it may do to me, and the more anxious I become. Conversely, when I am able to allow myself to stay up late occasionally and wake up early the next day, I find that I will not be as anxious or nervous, and I can quickly adjust back to my normal state through regular sleep over the next two days.

It is therefore recommended that you relax. It is normal to have difficulty sleeping when your nervous system is active due to two exciting events that happened one after the other. Indeed, it is evident that many celebrities also occasionally have trouble sleeping, as evidenced by the cases of Mr. Yu Minhong and Dong Yuhui. However, this does not prevent them from being outstanding.

It is important to recognize that we are all ordinary individuals. By accepting our imperfections and allowing ourselves to have some shortcomings, we can enhance the overall quality of our lives.

2. What is the appropriate response when one encounters anger directed at one's children for exhibiting behavior that may be perceived as "deviant"?

Indeed, many mothers exhibit similar behavior when they are particularly angry, uttering statements to their children that are not genuinely from the heart. In such instances, it is essential to adjust one's state of mind. It is evident that you effectively managed the situation initially and subsequently engaged in a patient and careful discussion about his emotions.

Following a discussion of the infant's emotional state, the infant fell asleep rapidly. This indicates that the soothing techniques employed were highly effective.

Indeed, the pressure on adults is intensifying. Each individual bears a unique set of responsibilities and pressures, assuming numerous roles. When we refrain from displaying anger, we are particularly attentive to our children and meticulously attend to their well-being.

However, when one is experiencing emotions, the situation is distinct.

The notion of "good" or "bad" emotions is a fallacy. For instance, "trouble" is a common companion in our lives. Many negative emotions serve as reminders that some of our inner needs remain unmet. Identifying the underlying causes of these emotions can lead to the resolution of many problems.

Nevertheless, this is a highly intricate matter. We offer psychological counseling services to assist clients in identifying the underlying causes of their emotions and in resolving their issues.

In the event of a conflict between a parent and child, it is advisable to take a moment to compose oneself before responding. This can be achieved by stating, "I am currently experiencing a strong emotional response; I require a brief period of solitude to regain my composure." It is then essential to identify an appropriate space for the release of these emotions.

In the case of minor emotions, it is possible to implement a series of simple relaxation techniques, such as inhaling and exhaling through the nose three times in a controlled manner. Should the subject be unable to achieve a state of relaxation through this method, it is recommended that they leave the immediate vicinity without delay. This should be done in a calm and controlled manner, with the individual leaving the room, the child, and proceeding to another room where they can express their emotions in a controlled manner. This could include striking an object, such as a pillow, or utilising the facilities in the room to express their frustration in a controlled manner. Once this has been completed, the individual should return to the original location.

It signifies the necessity of discharging one's emotions through various means, preventing their accumulation within oneself and instead allowing for their expression. It is imperative to refrain from allowing one's emotions to reach an explosive point, as this is an irrational state of being, and expressing such emotions in a rational manner is not feasible.

Upon returning, it is advisable to reassure the child that the parent has now regained their composure. It may be helpful to explain that while emotions may have been intense, they have now dissipated. It is important to emphasise that the child should be encouraged to sleep, as it is bedtime. The opportunity for play can be made available the following day.

This is one method of achieving a state of calm and relaxation. By employing this technique, we can facilitate a shift in our approach to parenting, reducing the likelihood of engaging in yelling and other forms of negative communication. This, in turn, can positively influence the development of our children's habits.

3. In instances where the sympathetic nervous system is particularly active and sleep onset is challenging, the utilization of box breathing can facilitate the reduction of the heart rate and respiration rate, the activation of the parasympathetic nervous system, and the promotion of relaxation, thereby enhancing the likelihood of sleep initiation.

The specific steps of box breathing are as follows: 1. Exhale all the air from the chest and hold your breath for a count of five seconds. 2. Inhale through the nose for a count of five seconds.

Maintain a state of expiration (count to five). Then, exhale through the nasal passages (count to five).

This constitutes one cycle, which is referred to as "box breathing" due to its four-part structure, reminiscent of the four sides of a box.

In the event of insomnia, the aforementioned cycle may be repeated at will. When the parasympathetic nervous system is activated, the individual will experience a gradual relaxation and subsequent onset of sleep.

This is due to the fact that when the body is in a state of heightened excitement, the pulse and breathing rates increase, the blood vessels narrow, and the blood pressure rises. Breathing and meditation have the potential to influence the parasympathetic nervous system, resulting in a slowing of the heartbeat and respiration, an improvement in blood flow and digestion.

Furthermore, breathing and meditation influence the brain, enhancing mood, concentration, and the capacity to complete daily tasks. Therefore, if one is amenable to practice, one can dedicate five to ten minutes daily to this breathing cycle, which will also facilitate emotional stability.

The aforementioned information is provided for your reference. Best wishes!