Why do I like him from a distance but dislike him when I get closer?

Hello, question asker!

I used to be in a relationship with him, but we ended it for various reasons. Now I feel quite fond of him when I see him from afar, but I feel irritated when I get close to him. Looking from afar is like the joy of meeting someone for the first time, but getting close is like the boredom of putting up with someone for a long time. When there is distance, you can only see his vague outline, and the rest is up to your imagination. When the distance is close, you can see the details on him clearly and smell his scent. There is no room for imagination, and all you have is the unpleasant bits and pieces of your past together.

In psychology, there's a concept called the "distance effect." It's about how things look different depending on how far away they are. It's like how people often say, "distance creates beauty." It's also about how things look more beautiful when they're hazy.

It's all down to a bit of a mix-up in space or time, which makes things look a bit blurry. And when you add in people's natural desire to seek out beauty, it's no surprise that the first thing you notice is the beautiful bits, while the not-so-pretty bits get overlooked!

Beauty is a kind of enjoyment, while facing things you dislike is a kind of suffering. We all need beauty in our lives! People watch their favorite movies and TV shows, follow their idols, listen to good music, and read beautiful fairy tales. These are all about pursuing a balance in life. That's why people often have a heart that is good at discovering or pursuing beauty. If we let our imaginations run free, beautiful things will arise naturally!

Your relationship with him may end on a not-so-great note because you're too close, you're both striving for perfection, and you're both feeling anxious. When reality doesn't match up with fantasy, it can create a big contrast. It's natural to feel rejected when you're in this situation, and the conflicting emotions can lead to some tough problems. Unfortunately, this can result in an unhappy ending.

It's important to remember that distance is a good thing when it comes to getting along with each other. It takes time to get closer, but it's worth it! In the long run, you'll find the beautiful side of each other, get used to tolerating the not-so-great side of each other, let go of some bubble-like illusions, and embrace the sweet reality of the situation. This way of getting along should be longer and more comfortable.

Hello, host!

This is totally understandable. In fact, we all look at ourselves the same way.

It's good to take a step back and look at yourself from a distance, but when you get up close, you really notice every little blemish and wrinkle.

And you feel like you just can't accept it.

It's true that our appearance is more important when it comes to making a first impression.

After two people who love each other have been together for a while, they'll start to overlook the little things about each other's appearance.

But when you feel the other person from the heart, you don't care about the little things like acne spots.

The host can get a feel for the other person based on the boyfriend's character, conduct, and attitude towards you.

Find out what you like about the other person and what you can't do without.

The host said they broke up, but why are they together again now?

What was it that attracted the owner to be together?

It's pretty rare for two people to meet, get to know each other, fall in love, and then get married.

You might think there's someone better out there, but you can never predict what the future holds or whether you'll find someone you like.

As it turns out, the things we often dislike about others may also be found in ourselves.

It might be part of you that you don't like, either.

So you also hate others.

When you accept your own imperfections and tolerate the other person's shortcomings,

It doesn't matter what someone looks like. What matters is focusing on their strengths.

This will help you get past your aversion to the other person.

I wish the original poster all the best in their future endeavors!

I'm sending warm wishes for June, and I love you all!