Why do people increasingly not believe in love, with the divorce rate and the increase in nominal marriages?

Hello, my name is Kelly.

If you're interested, I can share my thoughts on marriage. I've been married for 23 years, and I've experienced periods of depression and considered divorce. I've spent long nights reflecting, but ultimately, things worked out.

With regard to the divorce rate, it seems pertinent to consider the issue of monogamy. We would do well to pay attention to a quote from the Dry Goods Encyclopedia public account:

It is worth noting that, since ancient times, China has traditionally practised monogamy. However, it is understood that, in the past, the ancients were permitted to take concubines, although only one wife was allowed.

Following the establishment of New China, the one-husband-one-wife system was firmly established, and the practice of taking concubines was prohibited.

It is worth noting that in some minority autonomous areas in China, there is still a practice of one wife and multiple husbands, which is meant to protect family property from being divided.

I must admit that I was also somewhat confused by what marriage was like in ancient times. Let us take a moment to talk about our talented woman:

Li Qingzhao was born into a family with a strong tradition of scholarship. Her father, Li Gefei, was also a highly regarded literary figure of the time, known for his close friendship with individuals such as Chao Buzhi.

Li Qingzhao was gifted with both talent and intelligence, and from an early age she had the privilege of being exposed to literature, which enabled her to write many great works. If we were to discuss her and her husband, they could be considered a perfect match. This sounds almost like a reference to a soulmate. There is a line in Nalan Rongruo's poem that says, "The fragrance of spilled tea while gambling over books." It tells the story of their love.

It is said that Li Qingzhao was married for a second time, divorced, and that this is recorded in history.

It is not common to find someone who has the option of getting a divorce.

"If you are born a hero, you will die a hero; even now I think of Xiang Yu and refuse to cross the river to the east." Although she said she loved her husband dearly, this poem also revealed her thoughts. She and Zhao Mingcheng had a disagreement in their hearts. They both said that women are as capable as men, and that sometimes women's heroic words or ambitions are no worse than men's. Li Qingzhao is also indisputably a talented woman.

Modern women enjoy greater freedom, independence, and distinction. There are more divorces, and society is more diverse. There is a wealth of information, but love remains a constant and enduring theme.

Could it be that if you believe, you can have it?

Love is not necessarily tied to the times, but rather to the values of trust, loyalty, and commitment.

It is for others to say whether it is good or bad.

You have the option of enjoying solitude, and if you encounter someone who loves you or someone you love, you are encouraged to love and enjoy.

I hope you find happiness.

Good morning,

It may be worth considering whether rising divorce rates and increasing numbers of marriages without legal effect could be contributing to a decline in belief in love.

I believe this idea is worth exploring further.

Many young people are encouraged by their parents to consider marriage at a certain age. If the financial situation of the two sides is compatible, they may decide to hold a wedding banquet to announce it to relatives.

When couples live together, it can sometimes lead to disagreements when things don't go as well as hoped or when habits from their respective original families are brought to the relationship.

It seems that marriage has become a battle between the two families of origin. There often seems to be some sort of mutual recrimination in the relationships between the relatives.

It could be said that this is a reflection of upbringing and the amount of reading a person has done. It is possible that people with a rich spirit would not engage in such behaviour.

It is not uncommon to observe grandmothers and grandmothers asking their children, "Do you like grandma or grandpa? Which is better, grandma's house or grandpa's house?"

It would seem that comparison and rejection are common occurrences.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider the possibility of believing in love and choosing to get a divorce.

It is important to recognize that the experiences of the two individuals in question have been influenced by the previous generation in numerous ways. It is possible that the introduction of ideas that are no longer aligned with traditional values may have a negative impact on the dynamic of the marriage.

As a result, women are more likely to pursue careers, and men have a wealth of resources from the opposite sex. It seems as if many people may benefit from a renewed sense of faith.

It could be argued that this is an intergenerational trauma.

One might suggest that choosing to remain single is a way of embracing oneself and of no longer having to answer to all kinds of relatives.

Those who choose to remain single should be aware that, regardless of whether or not they enter into marriage, it is important to manage their own life well. They can also live a good life as a single person.

It would be fair to say that having an independent personality is a key ingredient in being able to complete the path of a good marriage.

Having an independent personality allows one to consider a wider range of possibilities, including the options of remaining single, entering into marriage, becoming a dual income no kids (DINK) family, or experiencing divorce. Some children from divorced families also have the opportunity to thrive in loving and nurturing environments, as their parents are able to maintain a respectful coexistence despite differing values. Scientific and enlightened thinking can play an important role in navigating these circumstances.

A person who has experienced self-differentiation (for further insight, please see the relevant books on family therapy theory) may be able to navigate the complexities of marriage.

It is only through expressing one's feelings to one's parents, facing one's own vulnerability, overcoming one's inhibitions and fears, and learning to say no to transgressions and improprieties, that one can create and combine the abilities to face the future.