Why does a man not fear divorce right after marriage, but later becomes afraid of it with his wife?

There are a number of potential explanations for this phenomenon.

1. It is evident that Xiaorou's desire to comprehend the intricacies of a marital relationship and to contemplate the potential dissolution of the union, namely divorce, is not a cause for concern.

In lieu of the aforementioned concerns, the absence of cognitive burden in disputes with her husband has resulted in a notable shift in her mentality, attitude, and approach. She has demonstrated a level of initiative that is atypical in such circumstances.

2. In addition to her personal changes, significant alterations within the family unit also contributed to her situation to a certain extent. The child fell seriously ill, prompting her husband and in-laws to recognize the indispensable role Xiaorou played within the family.

3. Over time, the in-laws also came to recognize that they could not fully assume responsibility for their son's affairs. Their "withdrawal" reduced the degree of interference in the affairs of your small family, and to a significant extent, it also made her husband less of a "backing" and even an "accomplice." Consequently, his confidence declined markedly, and he was ultimately unsuccessful in his confrontation with Xiaorou.

4. Frequently, the rationale behind a husband's "fierce" demeanor stems from his personality and temperament. Consequently, he may not genuinely desire a divorce. However, when he discerns Xiaorou's sincerity, he will typically acquiesce.

The process of adjustment is a necessary aspect of any couple's relationship. The specific circumstances and duration of this adjustment period will vary from family to family, depending on the personality traits of the two individuals involved (including their character, temperaments, and styles of dealing with things), as well as the temperament and degree of involvement of their parents.

The term "break in" may appear to be a neutral concept, but it encompasses a multitude of elements inherent to the relationship dynamic, including covert challenges, intense confrontations, and even physical aggression.

Once each individual is aware of the other's fundamental personality traits, they will naturally make certain concessions and demonstrate tolerance.

Once the process of friction has concluded, individuals tend to adhere to their respective bottom lines when interacting with one another, thereby avoiding the inadvertent provocation of the other person's sensitivities, which ultimately facilitates a more harmonious relationship.

As a result of Xiaorou's excessive concerns and her parents-in-law's relatively assertive personality, they have intervened excessively in the lives of their young family. It can be argued that the couple did not complete the adjustment process in a thorough manner.

With the withdrawal of the in-laws, Xiao Rou and her husband will be compelled to resume the incomplete process of integrating into their new environment. This will facilitate a more stable and harmonious family life.

Good day, question asker.

From the story you shared about Xiaorou, it seems there have been two changes.

It would seem that Xiaorou's husband's support has diminished, and the in-laws have departed.

In the past, when there were disagreements, the husband often felt that he had the support of his family, while his wife may have felt somewhat isolated.

It's a situation that requires individual attention.

It would seem that the parents-in-law may have adopted a somewhat distant attitude towards the child's illness.

The father's reaction was one of disappointment and frustration. They were unavailable when they could have been of the most help.

In the past, they offered guidance to smaller families, but when they really needed assistance, they were unable to provide it. Visiting a doctor for a child can be costly and require support.

It would seem that, at this time, it is the child's parents who are the most dedicated to their children.

He felt a growing closeness to Xiaorou, though he also experienced a sense of distance from his own biological family.

It was only then that he began to gradually distance himself from his family of origin and take on the responsibilities of a husband and father. This is an example of growth in a husband.

Xiaorou has developed a greater sense of self-assurance and believes that she can manage even in the event of a divorce.

This is an example of Xiaorou's growth.

At the outset, even when there were disagreements, the husband still believed that Xiaorou could not leave him. However, when she did decide to go, the husband experienced a sense of panic. He was reluctant to lose his partner and comrade-in-arms.

The fight against their child's illness brought them together in a common cause, and in addition to their family love, they also had the camaraderie of comrades-in-arms.

If they were to divorce, the husband would no longer have a family, no longer have the company and care of his wife, and only the children to care for. It is not the same to share the pressure with someone as it is to share it alone.

It is often the case that people do not appreciate what they have until they lose it.

Similarly, the joy of winning $100 in a lottery cannot fully compensate for the disappointment of losing that same amount.

He hopes that Xiaorou will stay and is willing to make changes.

Marriages often face many challenges, and it seems that this couple has reached a more harmonious state. They appear to have shifted from a dynamic where the husband was the stronger partner and the wife was the weaker one to a more balanced and equal relationship where both individuals are independent and equally contributing to the marriage. This seems like a positive development.

I hope this is helpful. It is my understanding that the above is correct.

Hello. The Xiaorou in question has experienced a change in her position in the marriage.

At first, she was relatively passive. She had conflicts with her husband and also with her in-laws. At that time, the family relationship was quite entangled, as if her husband and in-laws were on the same side and she was on her own. It's clear that Xiaorou's situation was very difficult. People often romanticize intimate relationships, but the reality is that there are inevitably "power struggles" in intimate relationships, and couples will compete for dominance and influence.

When they encountered a difficult challenge (the child's illness), the husband and his parents' alliance dissolved, and they could not rely on them. Xiao Rou, on the other hand, demonstrated her determination and ability to cope with difficulties, and he naturally felt that she was a more reliable companion. At this time, Xiao Rou had moved from the periphery to the center of the family, or at least to an equal position with her husband.

Later, Xiaorou saw her own strength and beauty and realized she could live her life without depending on others. Her self-confidence and determination came from within, and her husband must have sensed this change.

The husband's "different treatment" of Xiaorou is undoubtedly due to his own needs. He craves a sense of strength from those around him (his parents in the past and his wife now), and Xiaorou's independence and self-confidence are exactly what he desires. Conversely, it's also possible that he previously believed Xiaorou could not get a divorce, but now he sees that this is a real possibility. He does not want a divorce, so he's adjusting his behavior to maintain the relationship. Another possibility is that the husband has grown from treating the child's illness. He now feels a deep connection with Xiaorou in "getting through difficult times together," and he's increasingly cherishing this relationship.

Xiaorou has taken the initiative and moved from a relatively passive position to a more active one. She has the right to choose whether to continue the marriage, develop the relationship, or leave, and she also has the ability to deal with different situations.

All relationships are built on a foundation of equal respect. We all have different ideas and opinions, and that's totally normal! The key to a happy, long-lasting relationship is understanding and compromise. Otherwise, we might find ourselves in a fight or flight mode when it comes to other people or the environment.

When it comes to a husband and wife, they're meant to be one, running a household together and sharing a common domain. This means that when they get their marriage certificate, they should have a full understanding and consensus about the rights and obligations that cover and differ from their initial emotions and impulses. They should also have certain principles and ways to follow together to ensure the continuation and strengthening of their life together.

Maybe it's arguing, maybe it's forbearing, maybe it's communicating, maybe it's compromising, maybe it's giving, maybe it's working things out, but ultimately, you need to find a way to get along that both of you understand and accept. Maybe it's strength, maybe it's equality, maybe it's a compromise, maybe it's negotiation, maybe it's dividing up the territory, maybe it's discretion, maybe it's fairness, maybe it's hard work, but the result that seems like there is no choice is actually the result of the choice of the parties involved. For couples, the final result is nothing more than separation or togetherness.

Xiao Rou's letting go is in fact letting go of her principles. It's so sad to see her in this situation. She's struggling so much, and it's clear that she's trying her best to overcome her challenges. But, she's also facing some personal struggles, and it's understandable that she's feeling overwhelmed. It's not easy to find the strength to overcome others and circumstances. Sometimes, we all need to take a step back and regroup. If she can't provoke trouble, she'll hide. But, this has not been her consideration for a long time, and it's not her bottom line or principle.

Mr. Soft might realize that he's not as decisive and ruthless as he thinks when he's facing a gentle and soft-spoken woman like Xiaorou. He might also find that leaving her isn't as easy or as willing as he thinks. If we describe it more accurately, he's not afraid of his wife, but he's afraid of getting divorced and his wife leaving him.

It could be emotions, inertia, or something else, but before the possible undesirable outcome arrives, he really needs to make changes and adjustments to try to change the trajectory of events. For Xiaorou, the gentleness, friendliness, and respect that he feels might be some of his concrete efforts and attempts.

It's like the seesaw game. It may be inevitable to tilt left and right, up and down. But if we can keep going, it's so important that both sides are on the same end of the balance. This is based on the willingness and need of both sides to continue. I'm so proud of how much Xiao Rou is changing. And Mr. Right has the same possibility. It's not difficult to understand such changes. But if the ups and downs are severe enough to make one of the parties fall off or leave at any time, the game is indeed in danger of ending at any time. So let's keep going together!

But if they haven't left yet, if there's still hope, then "not afraid of divorce" isn't a weapon or a means. At some point in the near future, they'll both be afraid no more. This could be the turning point that sees them through the storm, an opportunity for them to see each other and themselves more clearly. It's impossible to say who's right or wrong, and there's no point in saying whether things have gotten better or worse. This is how Mr. Soft and Mr. Tough see it.

Maybe this can be a way to find balance, even if it's just a local, small-scale, limited conflict, rather than an all-out nuclear attack that destroys everything. It's so great to see that both Xiaorou and Mr. Soft are willing and hopeful to keep going, so let's all do our best to support them!

I really do wish you all the very best and a great deal of happiness.

I would like to extend my commendations to Xiaorou for her fortitude and autonomy.

Her life experience is akin to a novel replete with twists and turns, encompassing a transformation from a rebellious youth to a well-behaved adult, and now an independent mother and wife. Each transformation has contributed to her becoming a more resilient and sagacious individual.

The conflicts inherent to married life, the tension with in-laws, and the stress of a sick child are undoubtedly severe tests of one's resilience. However, it is in the face of adversity that she discovered her self-worth and strength.

Her education, good looks, hard work, and stable job imbue her with the confidence to persevere in the face of difficulties. Furthermore, they enable her to recognize that even in the event of divorce, she is fully capable of providing for herself and her children. This is an invaluable awakening.

This shift in perspective towards his spouse can be seen as an indication of psychological growth and an increased sense of responsibility. Initially, he may have sought support from his family, demonstrated a lack of commitment in his marriage, and even used divorce as a joke to address challenges.

However, when significant challenges arose and parents were unable to provide solutions, the child's well-being became the paramount concern, necessitating a direct confrontation with one's responsibilities. The individual's realization that evasion was no longer an option was shaped by the partner's determination and autonomy, which collectively underscored the necessity for shared responsibility in parenting.

Upon recognizing that Xiaorou was no longer fearful of divorce but was confronting challenges with a more resilient demeanor, he was profoundly affected, prompting him to engage in introspection and modify his conduct. Xiaorou's fortitude and resolve inspired him to implement alterations in the marital dynamic, cultivate a greater sense of respect and understanding for her, and assume a more active role in familial responsibilities.

Consequently, when a man transitions from a state of indifference to one of concern regarding his wife, it is not accurate to label this as mere "fear." Instead, it represents a profound shift in his comprehension of his own role and a corresponding enhancement in his regard for his partner. This transformation can be attributed to the mutual evolution and influence that characterizes the marital dynamic, and it represents a constructive and beneficial aspect of marital development.

Hello, question asker.

From your description, I can sense your inner turmoil. At the same time, you have a remarkable ability to perceive this uncomfortable emotion. It's admirable that you are courageous enough to face it.

From your description, I can sense your inner confusion. Xiaorou was previously unhappy with her husband and mother-in-law, but after she woke up, she was able to courageously challenge her husband and discovered that her husband was reluctant to divorce her. Her husband's stance has instead softened, which has left you feeling somewhat uncertain. Is that correct?

It is possible that there are a number of different answers to this question, or that there is no single, definitive answer. The truth may lie in the communication between Xiaorou and her husband. Only Xiaorou is in a position to know for sure. Previously, her husband may have been more accepting of Xiaorou's passive behaviour, but now that she has become stronger, he may be feeling a certain degree of apprehension. There may be other reasons, too.

It was a difficult situation for her when her parents-in-law were involved in arguments with her husband. As a child, she did not resist too much and endured it silently. It was important for her to avoid letting her husband become too accustomed to this pattern.

When Xiaorou suddenly woke up, she came to understand that she had developed the capacity to love herself and to be strong on her own. This was also a form of self-protection, which enabled her husband to perceive Xiaorou in a new light.

Gradually, he began to soften. This brings to mind a saying: when you encounter a person who is vulnerable, you become strong; when you meet someone who is resilient, you become vulnerable.

It may be helpful to consider that when others are strong, we may feel less confident, while they remain strong. Similarly, when we become strong, others may feel less inclined to engage with us.

It is also possible that, when the parents-in-law are not involved in too many of their affairs, the husband may temporarily lose his confidence.

There are many possible answers, but the specific answer will depend on the actual situation. As we are not Xiaoru's husband, we can only speculate. It would be helpful for Xiaoru to consider her true inner feelings. She should respect herself and learn to love and be loved, which will make her stronger.

And be able to help us adjust our mindset when the time is right.

Ultimately, regardless of the ultimate decision, whether to divorce or not, it is my hope that Xiaoru will become strong on the inside.

Perhaps he could learn to love himself.

I hope he can lead a happy life with ease and comfort.

If I may, I would like to offer you a hug first.

This story touches on some of the complex dynamics that can arise in a couple's relationship, including power, responsibility, awakening, and personal growth. There could be a number of reasons for this situation:

1. A shift in dynamics: Initially, the man may have felt like the more dominant partner in their marriage, thanks to the support of his in-laws and his own self-assurance. However, when faced with a significant challenge such as a sick child, he may find himself without the usual sources of support, which could make him feel somewhat helpless and fearful.

This shift in dynamics may foster a deeper respect for his wife, as he recognizes the need for her support and collaboration in navigating the family crisis.

2. Awakening of responsibility: The man's awareness of his responsibilities as a father, triggered by the child's illness, may prompt him to reassess his behavior and attitude. He may begin to pay more attention to the needs of the family and the children, rather than just his own feelings and interests.

3. Personal growth: Xiaorou has experienced a period of personal growth and awakening in dealing with the family crisis. She has come to recognize her ability to live independently and has begun to embrace the possibility of divorce.

This confidence and independence may prompt her husband to recognize the importance of respecting her feelings and choices, or risk losing her.

4. Emotional transformation: Over time, the emotions between a couple may evolve. They may shift from the initial passion and romance to more mature emotions, which require a deeper mutual understanding and support.

The man may come to recognize Xiao Rou's emotions and needs, and thus alter his behavior accordingly.

5. Practical considerations: It is important to remember that divorce is not just an emotional issue for individuals, but also involves practical issues such as child custody and division of property. When the man realizes that divorce may bring more problems and challenges, it may encourage him to value the existing marriage relationship more.

6. Social and cultural influences: In some cultures and societies, divorce can bring additional social pressure and judgment. It is possible that the man may fear this pressure and therefore choose to maintain the marriage.

In essence, this narrative illustrates the nuances of a couple's relationship and how personal growth, the awakening of responsibility, and emotional transformation can influence the dynamics and quality of the couple's interaction and relationship.

This change in the man's attitude towards his wife may be the result of many things. Here are some possible explanations:

1. Maturity and growth: A man may grow and change in a marriage. He may become more aware of his responsibilities and role, as well as the family life he wants.

He may start to value his family and partner more and understand how his actions affect them.

2. The threat of divorce: When his wife thinks about divorce, it can scare the man. He may realize that his past behavior and attitudes affect the marriage and what he could lose.

This may make him think about how he acts and what he says, and make him treat his wife better.

3. Changes in communication: When the wife begins to express her feelings and needs more openly, this may prompt the man to respect her more and be more aware of his role.

4. Birth of a child: A child can change a couple's relationship. A man may become more aware of his role as a father and focus on the family's stability and happiness.

This may make him nicer to his wife.

A man's change in attitude may result from a combination of factors, including maturity, the threat of divorce, changes in communication, and the birth of a child. These factors may be intertwined, prompting men to pay more attention to their families and partners.

Hello, question asker!

From your description, it's clear that you were not afraid of divorce at the beginning of the quarrel. However, you have since become actively involved in sharing the housework and are now afraid of divorce. This change makes you curious.

The husband is not afraid of divorce. He has support in his career and from his parents. He has a place in the world for everything. It is only when he loses this support that he realizes his family is the place that gives him a sense of security.

Xiaorou is gradually reducing her dependence on her husband and becoming more reliant on herself. This will make him feel insecure and unwanted. He will act in order to feel secure.

Furthermore, your husband's perception will undoubtedly evolve. He may come to recognize that he was previously dispensable to the family, but now he is aware of the responsibilities and obligations he must fulfill.

Xiaorou should talk to her husband about it.

Xiaorou must consider how she views her husband's change in behavior. She must decide whether to accept his change and find a new theme for their lives together or reject the changes and consequently reject her husband's behavior.

Make life return to the way Xiaorou wants it to be. Continue living with your husband if you want to, but you cannot do without working together with your husband, and you also need to communicate with each other honestly and actively resolve conflicts between husband and wife.

If you're considering divorce, you need to think about whether your husband's change of heart will make you change your mind.

I am confident that this will be helpful. Best wishes!

I am honored to answer your question. I am confident that my suggestions will be helpful.

It is essential to understand not only why men change but also why women change.

In this case, the woman suddenly becomes self-aware. She becomes aware of her own strengths, her own personal plans, and her own life course. She also becomes aware of how to solve some of the problems in her marriage and family. As a result, she finds that all the problems she was worried about before can be solved at once. She undergoes a self-transformation.

The man in this situation has likely always been self-aware. His previous methods likely involved mind control, intimidation, and belittling to control the woman and make her rely on the family or compromise in arguments.

The man never changed. He said he wasn't afraid of getting a divorce, but he was lying. He suddenly noticed the woman's transformation and realized she wasn't worried about getting a divorce. He didn't want a divorce, so he became afraid she'd actually get one. His attitude towards her changed.

There are many possibilities for this problem. The above is just one of the guesses. The specific reason is that only the man himself knows why he has made such a change. It is likely that it is one of the above possibilities, or perhaps he has realized that his wife is very important to him and that he loves her very much. It is also possible that he has suddenly grown up and thought about his responsibilities as a husband and father.

No matter what the reason, the couple can improve their relationship by getting along amicably and constantly adjusting and adapting to each other. This will help them run the household better and maintain its operation.

The world and I love you!

Hi, Xiaorou! I hope you're having a great day!

I read your marriage story in the "Life Q&A Hall" and was so inspired by your incredible transformation in your perception and attitude towards marriage, from being afraid of divorce to embracing it. I am especially happy for you! This is your self-growth, and I understand that you have gone through a lot of pain in this process. When you said, "I have survived difficult circumstances," I really want to give you a hug. You have worked hard, and it really wasn't easy. At the same time, I feel your corresponding change in attitude towards your husband, which has surprised you, and you are a little confused and uncomfortable. Let's explore together to see what's going on!

I'd love to help you understand what's behind your doubts.

Maybe you're wondering what led to this change in him and whether you can really trust him again. I can see that you're feeling a bit unsure, like this "better" version of him might not be genuine. You're concerned that he's only showing you love and respect to keep you around and avoid divorce. You're still not sure if he's truly "become responsible for the family and knows how to care for you." It's understandable to feel afraid of repeating past mistakes.

[Life is uncertain]

I know the future is uncertain, and there's a chance your husband might only change for the better temporarily. But what I do know is that you've found a way, your interaction pattern has improved, and we can now recognize this positive change. For instance, affirm and recognize his changes, encourage him, and continue to take responsibility for the family.

We believe with all our hearts that we must fight for our own happiness and that we have the power to do so. When we learn to love and accept ourselves, others will treat us in the way we treat ourselves. And we can always make the choice that is best for us!

I really hope this helps!

I'm your friend, Potato Maling, who has grown up with you. Thank you so much for your attention.

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan, a counselor in the Jingliu school of thought.

From the questioner's description, it is evident that the questioner is confused about the intimacy of his friend. It is clear that the questioner's friend's self-awareness has changed. There is a saying that goes, "When you become a mother, you become strong." When a woman understands what she needs to take responsibility for in an intimate relationship, she is fearless.

From the questioner's narrative, it is evident that Xiaorou has undergone a significant transformation from dependence on others to independence and autonomy. Initially, she may have exhibited a certain degree of dependency on the marital relationship for social, cultural, or personal reasons. This may have led her husband to perceive dominance in the family dynamics. He may have felt that Xiaorou was someone who relied on him and did not prioritize her opinions and needs. Consequently, he was not overly concerned about losing her.

However, over time, Xiaorou came to recognize her own value, including her education, abilities, appearance, and her contributions to her children and family.

Xiao Rou's improved self-perception has made her more confident and independent, and she is no longer afraid of divorce. This change in attitude has also surprised and disturbed her husband, who has begun to realize that Xiao Rou is not someone who can be easily ignored or controlled.

When Xiaorou starts to show this independence and confidence, her husband will realize her value and status and begin to re-evaluate their relationship. He will realize that if Xiaorou chooses to leave, he will lose an important partner and mother of his children.

This makes him afraid of losing her. For him, divorce would mean losing family stability, the care of his children, and his emotional connection with Xiaorou. Furthermore, Xiaorou's resilience and sense of responsibility in dealing with the children's illnesses have also made her husband respect her in a new way.

The power dynamics in a couple's relationship are complex. When one partner shows greater independence, the other partner must reconsider their behavior and attitude. This change is likely because he has come to respect his wife's independence, or it may be because he has come to recognize his wife's important role in the family. This realization will cause him to start respecting Xiao Rou's opinions and needs, and work harder to maintain the stability and happiness of the marriage, as well as begin to take on more family responsibilities.

How intimacy develops is also closely related to the management of intimacy by the two parties or their respective perceptions. There is no doubt that at the beginning, Xiao Rou's husband was influenced by social and cultural factors.

In some societies, men are seen as the breadwinners and protectors of the family, while women are more responsible for the care of the home and children. However, this traditional division of roles is changing. Women are advancing their status and taking on more responsibility.

Men are taking on more family responsibilities and childcare, while women are pursuing their own careers and personal achievements. This shift is leading men to respect women's independence and self-worth more, which is paving the way for more equal and respectful marital relationships.

Mutual respect and balance are essential in any relationship. When one partner starts to respect the other, the relationship will undoubtedly become more harmonious.

This respect is not just words and attitudes; it's also sharing family responsibilities and supporting each other.

Changes in intimate relationships are often related to changes in one of the parties in the relationship. When Xiaorou changes her own pattern of interaction in the intimate relationship, her husband will also change. There is no doubt that the reason why Xiaorou's husband stopped being afraid of her after they got married and instead came to fear and respect her is due to the combined effect of a variety of factors.

These factors include Xiaorou's independence and self-worth, her importance and role in the family, her resilience and determination in the face of pressure and conflict, as well as changes in social and cultural factors. This change has prompted him to cherish and respect Xiaorou more, thus establishing a more equal and stable marital relationship.

Intimate relationships must be nurtured, regardless of how they develop. Most importantly, it's about having the courage to face life alone or the courage to live independently.

Read the book How Women Live Out Themselves.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.

Dear Questioner, Thank you for your inquiry. I am pleased to provide a response that I hope will be helpful and supportive.

Xiaorou married her boyfriend of six years in her second year of university. The distance and the fact that her in-laws were not particularly accommodating contributed to the deterioration of the relationship. Her husband was not opposed to divorcing her, and even stated that his attitude towards Xiaorou had changed after their child fell ill. It is evident that children have a significant impact on a marriage, and the foundation of their six-year relationship remains intact.

Since the children were unwell, the in-laws were unable to resolve the issue, which was beneficial in this instance. There were ongoing disagreements between Xiaorou and her husband. Xiaorou was primarily responsible for childcare, which led to occasional frustration from her husband, who felt that she was not adequately caring for the children. This resulted in a shift in his demeanor, becoming more detached and indifferent. Xiaorou persevered through the challenges, but eventually reached a breaking point. After reflection, this became a source of motivation.

Education, appearance, work ethic, perseverance, and employment. Xiaorou discovered that she had actually divorced and was able to thrive independently. She was able to recognize her strengths and acknowledge the challenges she had faced in the past. When conflicts arose, she chose to let go and stop arguing with her husband.

Instead, the husband began to demonstrate a willingness to compromise and take on additional responsibilities, including childcare and cooking. He occasionally assisted with household tasks and assumed greater family responsibilities. His attitude towards Xiaorou also evolved, becoming more respectful and amicable.

During the treatment of the child, the husband expressed his emotions towards the wife. If the wife had responded in kind, it would have led to an even bigger conflict. The two of them blamed each other and exhausted themselves. The wife did not argue with her husband, but endured the pain, which also taught her husband how to treat others and release his pressure. At the same time, the husband also considered the importance of his wife to the child.

The husband's lack of response to Xiaorou is not an appropriate course of action. Persistence in this situation may facilitate healing for the husband. When Xiaorou is able to confront her true self, her inner strength will grow. She is no longer able to tolerate her anger and humiliation. She has a clear conscience. She has made significant sacrifices for the family and fulfilled her duties as a wife.

It is challenging for an impartial third party to assess family matters, given the complex web of causes and effects involved. In any situation, there is no absolute winner. Instead, the goal should be to achieve a win-win outcome through mutual cooperation. For a marriage to thrive, it is essential that both partners are willing to support each other. This can be achieved by ensuring each spouse has their own independent space, the capacity to bear their share of the burden, and the willingness to return to their original position in the relationship. In a nutshell, the three major rules for a lasting marriage are: independent space, bearing capacity, and returning to one's original position. Equal value.

Four indispensable elements.

It is important to note that men often display childlike behaviors when they start a family. They often rely on their mothers and wives for guidance and support. When wives are assertive and advocate for their own interests, it can lead to mutual understanding and compromise in the relationship.

In reality, a husband who is submissive is also a man who is taking responsibility. Displaying vulnerability does not equate to being weak. It is driven by a deep sense of care and respect for the other person, as well as a keen understanding of the nuances of life.

In a marriage, there is no clear winner. Instead, there must be a balance of mutual support and companionship.

It is inevitable that debts must be repaid at some point. Human nature is fundamentally good, and everyone needs the foundation to survive: a healthy body and an independent and complete personality. Protecting yourself will lead to a more harmonious family.