Why doesn't she visit her child if she constantly claims that the child is her greatest concern?

Hello! I'm pleased to see that you've sought assistance, and I hope that my input can provide some support and guidance.

Given that you are divorced, your ex-wife's decision to see the child is entirely her own. It would be greatly appreciated if you could respect and accept her right to see the child, and cooperate with her on the time and method of seeing the child, so that it does not affect the child's normal learning and your life.

Could I ask you to consider what the real underlying reason for your concern about her seeing the child might be? In other words, could it be that it arouses certain feelings in you that she is not able to see the child as promised?

While it is natural to want your child to have more companionship from his mother, it is important to respect her right to live her own life. It may be helpful to consider that your child's companionship could be as good as it can be, even if he is not yet settled in his own life.

It would be particularly helpful to consider your feelings when you learned that he didn't even visit his boyfriend. When you visited your ex-wife, you felt more jealous. It might be helpful to reflect on whether you feel that her boyfriend occupies an overly important position and weight in her heart. This could be an opportunity to recognize that the divorced ex-wife's attention and care for the child also shows a certain degree of attention and care for you. This is something to be aware of.

It is possible that your desire for your ex-wife to pay attention to you in the early stages may be rooted in feelings of guilt and self-blame due to the end of your marriage. It is understandable if you feel that during the marriage, you may have inadvertently caused your ex-wife and the children discomfort on occasion. It is natural to hope that if she visits the children more often, you can make up for any past actions that may have caused her or the children distress.

It would be helpful to consider why you care so much about this matter and what emotional feelings you have because of it. If you do not perceive this part of your emotional feelings well, it might be unconsciously projecting your anger and dissatisfaction with your ex-wife onto your child.

I am Q&A Museum's little Lily, and I love you all very much.