Writing "Memoirs of 2022" Chapter 5: Reviewing your romantic relationship

Hello, questioner.

I am a 33-year-old who has yet to find a partner this year. I have always longed for my own happiness and my own little family, but I haven't yet found a place to belong. Sometimes I feel a little lost and scared, but mostly I just have some expectations deep down.

I once had a relationship that lasted for a year and a half in college. While he wasn't the ideal choice at the time, I was fully committed to the relationship and was very happy. I also gave a great deal and naturally relied on him a great deal. Later, due to his infidelity and, more importantly, his decision to end the relationship, I experienced a prolonged period of depression. It was a challenging time, and I was afraid to see people and even hesitated to look for a job. Gradually, I began to recover, and he gradually became less significant in my life.

In 18 years, I met a guy who made me feel very comfortable. He was three years older than me and a very shy and uncommunicative person. I felt that they were especially warm to me, but he was also a relatively insecure and sensitive person. Because at that time I had not yet changed my inner self, I was more sensitive and inferior, lacked security, and so when I encountered something, I did not deal with it calmly, but instead chose to nag in front of him non-stop. I did not have the courage to make a choice, and slowly we grew further and further apart. When I wanted to salvage the situation, he was getting further and further away. At that time, I felt that I would never find someone as good to me as him again, because his acceptance and permission were things that no one in my family had ever treated me like. So after losing him for half a year, I seemed to have some mild depression and anxiety. I became panicked, became afraid of insomnia, my heart palpitations accelerated, and I could not see the road ahead, but I was powerless to change it.

In these two relationships that ended without a trace, I came to recognize that I have room to grow in terms of courage, confidence, and honesty. I have found myself more inclined to avoid making definitive choices than to embrace them. As a result, I have not yet found the right person for myself. I believe this may be related to the concerns my parents raised or a tendency towards vanity. I aspire to find someone who is kind and considerate, with a height that is relatively close to mine, and who is not overly concerned with physical appearance. As I grow older, I anticipate that these concerns may persist. I am uncertain if I will be able to compromise on these issues in the future. If I do, it may be because I am increasingly drawn to the idea of having a child of my own.

In my 32 years on this earth, there have been times when I have not been true to myself. I have often been too meek and obedient, which has led to some unfortunate situations.

Additionally, the two failed relationships left me feeling somewhat constrained, as I was already quite vulnerable. I continued to search for a breakthrough, to learn and grow, with the hope of finding happiness within myself. While things are still not ideal, I have become more open-minded, less afraid of contact with others, and more calm. However, I still face some inner resistance.

In 2023, I hope I can venture out more, embrace the world around me, and find joy in life. I believe that when I fully embrace life, happiness will naturally follow.

In 2023, I hope I can come to terms with my own self-perception, accept my physical appearance, and embrace my inner courage. I also hope to reassure myself that I am not as flawed as I sometimes perceive myself to be.

I may not have achieved anything yet, but that doesn't matter. I may not think I'm particularly attractive, but that's okay.

There are many reasons why this might be difficult, but perhaps it's worth asking ourselves whether it really matters. Could we try to find more reasons to smile, to be strong, to free ourselves, to move forward bravely? Perhaps this could help us to be happy, to be courageous, and to build our own homes.

Chapter 5: Memoirs of 2022

A long-lasting and continuous love requires ongoing review.

Taking the time to reflect on your relationship is the best way to keep your love and marriage fresh.

1. How have your romantic/marital relationships developed and changed this year?

As with last year, our marriage is going well. For a middle-aged couple, that's a good thing.

2. What were the best and worst moments in your relationship this year?

The best part of a close relationship is when everyone in the family is still alive, even if they don't live under the same roof.

The worst moment was when my son cut off all communication with me. However, he has the right to live his life as he chooses, and I was simply returning his freedom.

3. Have you and your partner had any disagreements or arguments this year? What were the causes and how were they resolved?

We haven't had any disagreements or arguments this year. When we got back together in 2012, we agreed that we'd each manage our own families and that our marriage would only bring our lives together, not merge them.

4. What steps have you taken this year to improve your personal relationship, and what feedback have you received?

I'm still learning about psychology and growing as a person, trying to figure out who I am and allowing myself to have my own life. I also let the people around me live their lives on their own terms.

Not interfering with each other is a great way to keep things positive.

5. What are your expectations, goals, and plans for the development of your intimate relationship in the coming year?

My plans for the coming year are to keep learning and growing, work hard to earn money, become more independent, and hope to have a truly independent life.

A positive romantic relationship can provide mutual benefit to both parties. However, if one chooses to remain single, it can also be a form of personal growth.

In 2022, I have chosen to remain single. This year, I have not experienced any pressure from family members or relatives to marry, but a few aunts I met while accompanying family members in the hospital have begun preparing to introduce me to someone after learning that I am single.

One of my aunts and I had a lengthy discussion about my future plans regarding marriage and a potential partner. After hearing my views and personal history, my aunt expressed regret. She conveyed both disappointment about not being able to facilitate a marriage and frustration about my perspectives on marriage and love.

I would like to express my sincerest gratitude to my aunt for meeting with me and providing invaluable support. In 2022, due to your guidance, I had the opportunity to share my thoughts with an external party for the first time.

Up until that point, I had never formally articulated my perspectives on marriage and love, nor had I disclosed the reasons behind my decision to remain single.

As is the case with most people, I experienced the period of youthful infatuation. In junior high school, I was teased by my classmates for having a crush, but it was just for fun.

During my tenure at the high school, I did not have a romantic interest, but I did observe a female student from my window on several occasions. I also monitored the comments made by others about her.

When I see her on campus or in the cafeteria, I will deliberately increase my pace to get closer, then slow down and follow at a distance that is appropriate for observation.

My views on marriage and love were shaped by a diagnosis of diabetes after the college entrance exam. The doctor informed me that diabetes is hereditary and that my father had the disease. He passed away from complications related to diabetes when I was 13 years old. Diabetes is a chronic disease that requires lifelong management with medication. I began a new chapter in my life at the age of 19, embracing the role of a "sugar person."

The doctor informed me at the time that, although there is currently no cure for diabetes, with the right treatment plan and medication, a healthy diet and exercise routine can help to prevent complications and maintain a good quality of life for up to 20-30 years.

I recall emerging from the doctor's office in a state of distress, taking a considerable amount of time to compose myself in the hallway before returning to the hospital room. Even now, my mother remains unaware of the specifics of the discussion between the doctor and myself.

At this juncture, I commenced a lengthy regimen of insulin injections and medication to manage my diabetes. I am uncertain as to the precise timing, but I was acutely aware that I would never be able to have children and that I could not allow my offspring to suffer.

I also experienced a period of longing for romantic involvement, but I was aware of my own circumstances and consistently maintained a passive role. During that time, I encountered a woman who expressed interest in Zhuang Xinyan's "The Day After Tomorrow." She took the initiative to express her feelings, but I chose to refrain from pursuing the relationship further.

The young lady proceeded to sing "The Future of the Future" to me via her mobile phone and subsequently took her leave. Some time later, I was informed that she had married.

I would like to extend my sincerest wishes to you.

Subsequently, I gained a deeper comprehension of the lyrics in "The Day After Tomorrow." I also undertook a reflective process regarding the rationale behind my reluctance to engage in romantic relationships.

My concern is not the uncertainty of romantic relationships, but rather the unpredictability of the future. I am confident that I can navigate this challenge successfully. Otherwise, all those years of psychological training would have been in vain.

I am concerned about the unpredictability of life and do not want the person I care about to have to shoulder a burden that is not theirs to bear. They deserve better.

I have chosen to remain single, and I am not sorry for that decision. I accept full responsibility for it.

Given that it is a choice, there is a possibility that at some point I may opt for a different option due to the influence of another individual. It is, after all, a possibility.

In 2023, I will continue to pursue a lifestyle that aligns with the principles of scientific eating and living, regular exercise, and self-love.

It is preferable to become one's true self and strive to become an even better version of oneself.

Love is simple. Marriage is complicated.

Love is a feeling. Marriage is a responsibility.

Love is selfish. Marriage is tolerant.

Now

I'm writing the fifth chapter of my 2022 memoir.

Review your love and marriage.

By May,

We've been married 22 years.

We've been through a lot.

...and we've been working through it.

Even after so many years

Some deep-rooted concepts remain.

Affecting our lives.

We usually get along fine.

But there are times.

It ignites a fire deep within me.

His laziness.

When I'm healthy.

I don't expect much from him.

Let him be lazy.

It's no big deal.

But...

When I'm sick

If he's lazy.

I'll be emotional.

I even think about divorce.

(This has always been a problem.)

I need to practice.

Calm and composed.

Of course.

He has good points too.

He shows he cares in his own way.

This.

He gave me stewed snow pear with rock sugar.

Well.

Nobody's perfect.

The good and the bad.

I have to accept it all.

There's a saying.

If you're not happy with him,

I told myself:

I chose it.

I chose it.

I chose it.

Haha?

It worked!

This year

The happiest thing was my birthday.

It was my birthday.

My husband was with me.

Dinner?

Watching a movie with me?

You sent flowers?

I had a happy birthday.

Even if there is happiness.

It doesn't affect me.

There were bad moments.

It was a class reunion.

He treated me badly.

He treated me badly.

He felt I didn't respect him.

We fought in front of his classmates.

We fought.

Thinking back

I got a little angry.

Will be corrected in the future.

This year

They will arise.

Why we argued

They're nothing more than

Laziness

It's mostly about little things in life.

I ignore it.

When I'm sick.

or when I'm depressed.

It will cause conflict.

I have a bad tone of voice.

He won't feel comfortable.

It's all resolved.

I handle it myself.

He doesn't hold a grudge.

I don't think about it.

I'll think about it later.

I don't communicate.

He doesn't think it's a big deal.

It's exhausting.

This year

I didn't try to be intimate either.

It just happened.

We're usually fine with each other.

Some minor conflicts.

It's normal.

Everyone has problems.

It's different.

Next year

I don't expect anything.

I don't expect anything.

Let it be.

Just be myself.

As for him,

I don't want to get involved.

We're all adults.

I trust him.

He'll grow at his own pace.

I

I don't have to force myself.

I don't have to care.

In the end

I want to say...

Life is meaningful.

I don't want to waste time.

Do what you like.

Love people I like.

(I won't break my principles.)

Haha?

"Memoirs of 2022": Chapter 5: Take a look at your romantic relationship.

1. How has your relationship changed this year?

This year marks the eighth year since my wife and I got married. I guess the seven-year itch is over. Maybe it's because we're getting up there in age, but passion is slowly fading. The relationship is becoming more like family. The center of attention in the family is now on the children.

2. What were the best and worst moments in your relationship this year?

The best times were when my wife and I respected and understood each other. The worst times were when we blamed and accused each other.

3. Have you had any disagreements or arguments with your partner this year? What were the reasons for these disagreements or arguments, and how were they resolved?

At the beginning of the year, my mother-in-law was there, and I don't know if I was having a brain fart or what, but I said something inappropriate.

My wife had a long face, and my mother-in-law immediately accused me, "What do you know?" At that moment, I was really hurt.

I just left the room without saying anything. Looking back, I still feel pretty uncomfortable about it. Of course, I had to endure the pain, and there was nothing I could do about it.

4. What steps have you taken to improve your intimate relationship this year, and what feedback or rewards have you received?

I think mutual respect and understanding is all that's needed between us. There's no need to make any special efforts, and it's enough to be able to live each day peacefully.

5. What are your expectations, goals, and plans for the development of your intimate relationship in the coming year?

Going forward, I'll be focusing on changing myself first. I'm the source, so if I can live myself, the relationship will gradually improve. If I can't live myself, the relationship will be destroyed.

I'll take responsibility when I should and let myself be myself when I shouldn't. I hope to have a fulfilling relationship.

1. How have your romantic/marital relationships grown and changed this year?

Our marriage has remained simple and unadorned for decades, and I feel like we've taken a little step forward this year!

2. We'd love to hear about the happiest and unhappiest moments in your intimate relationship this year!

The happiest moment I experienced this year was when the whole family was together, and my husband quietly washed the dishes and did the housework. His hands were cracked from the cold and dryness, but he didn't complain! This moment came about because "my mother-in-law got sick and stayed with us," but it was still a very happy moment. The worst moment was when I suggested renovating our new house, and he rejected it out of hand.

I spent too much this year, and the construction of the house in my hometown is still ongoing. He didn't listen to my needs and rejected me arbitrarily, which was really hurtful.

3. We all have those moments with our partners, don't we? Have you had any disagreements or arguments with your lover/partner this year? What were the causes and how did you resolve them?

One of the main reasons for our arguments is that he tends to see things in a more objective way, while I'm more emotionally involved. I crave affirmation, but I'm not always the best at expressing my needs.

He's not very good at understanding his own emotional needs, so he struggles to understand the emotional needs of others. In the past, when I encountered irreconcilable conflicts, I used to try to let time slowly digest the emotions by going cold war.

I'm happy to say that I've learned how to satisfy my own needs and express them correctly. And when we have conflicts, we can solve them in a gentler way. We've grown so much in our understanding, respect, and love for each other.

4. I'd love to hear about the efforts you've made this year to manage your intimate relationship, and what feedback and rewards you've received along the way!

I study and reflect on myself every day by listening to audio books and learning to accept myself. You know, one cannot give what one does not have. I'm slowly learning to understand myself, accept myself, and love myself. When I learn to love myself, I'll slowly learn to love my husband and the world around me.

5. I'd love to hear about your expectations, goals, and plans for the development of your intimate relationship in the coming year!

I'm so excited to keep learning on the One Mind platform! I can't wait to meet a real, interesting version of myself and to have a deeper connection with my husband.

1. How have your relationships changed this year?

This is my first year of marriage. In January 2023, we will celebrate our first anniversary. My husband and I plan to take a photo together every year after that.

2. What were the best and worst moments in your relationship this year?

My husband proposed to me. He decorated the house with flowers and balloons. When I opened the door, I saw the romantic white color. He also made a short video about our love story. I was moved to tears that day. Girls need a sense of ceremony.

I can't think of the worst moment right now...

3. Have you argued with your partner this year? What happened and how did you resolve it?

We argue a lot. It always starts with me worrying about marriage. I want to be a good wife and daughter-in-law, but I worry marriage will be terrible. I worry I'll repeat some bad marriages. I want to escape when I have problems. Luckily, after every argument, my husband talks to me. He tries to understand me. I feel included and understood. He understands me and loves me.

4. What changes have you made in your relationship this year? What feedback have you received?

My greatest effort was deciding to get married. My husband's income has always been unsatisfactory, and I have been the main breadwinner. I haven't seen any feedback, so I'm confused.

5. What do you want to happen in your relationship next year?

I hope I can adapt better to marriage next year. I read that after experiencing love and hope in marriage, the rest is spent on cooperation. Maybe that's true. My husband seems to see marriage more clearly than I do.

I hope I can love myself better in marriage. I will keep studying psychology.

I hope our business makes money and our family can live well. I also hope I can continue to be the breadwinner next year.

1. How has your relationship developed and changed this year?

During the Spring Festival holiday in 2002, my husband had a fight with my mother-in-law, who was so angry that she refused to help with the baby-sitting. At that time, my brother had not yet started kindergarten, so I had to ask my parents to help out for half a year. I knew my husband was unable to handle his mother, and the relationship became a bit cold for a while.

In the second half of the year, his parents came to stay at our house for a week unexpectedly. We had a heart-to-heart talk and were prepared for the possibility that the two elderly parents would not help with childcare and would have to find an au pair. As it turned out, his parents suddenly agreed to take turns babysitting every two weeks.

Once the main conflict was resolved, the relationship improved.

We are still working things out and fighting, but we are also continuing to fight and upgrade.

The family reunion at the end of the year undoubtedly improved the relationship.

2. I want to know what the happiest and unhappiest moments in your relationship this year were.

At the end of the year, when the whole family was healthy, my husband got up in the morning despite having a high fever, cooked breakfast, took care of the kids, and let me rest. This was the happiest moment.

The worst moment was when I asked my husband if he had discussed with his parents whether they would be willing to help with the baby. His perfunctory answer indicated that there had been no communication at all.

3. This year, I had to deal with some disagreements and arguments with my partner. What caused these issues, and how did we resolve them?

We have had arguments, usually because I ramble on and on and he doesn't agree and won't say anything, and then the argument just stops. This needs to change.

The main disagreements and conflicts are related to two topics: 1) the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law; 2) the issue of parenting styles.

Question 1) This matter has not been resolved to date, but I am confident that the experience of the whole family will have a positive effect on resolving it.

Question 2) Our educational philosophies are generally quite similar, but there are some obvious gender differences in the methods we use. I've since come to realize that the way dad and mom approach things is inherently different. When dad is in charge, mom should not interfere.

4. Tell me about the efforts you have made to manage your intimate relationship this year. What feedback and rewards have you received?

I took a listening course this year, which has given me a deeper understanding of empathy. As a result, I will manage the intimate relationship in a way that considers my husband's perspective, tolerate some of his actions, and communicate with him more calmly. I will also directly express my needs, such as "I'm unhappy" and "I'm tired." In return, I expect to receive some extra rewards, such as him cooking (when the whole family is home) or ordering takeaway milk tea.

5. What are your expectations, goals, and plans for the development of your intimate relationship in the coming year?

There are no specific goals or plans, but things are going well. I would like to see more time for communication and companionship.

I describe the current intimate relationship as a "comrade-in-arms relationship," which contains many layers of meaning.

We are close comrades-in-arms, and both of us need to be able to "fight." At the same time, we are also friends, who can trust, support, and rely on each other. I say I need ****, and you do it. You don't have to ask. You can ask, but what's more important is that you do it.

Close comrades-in-arms must be able to talk about anything. They must be able to discuss work-related worries and the little blessings in life. They must be able to talk about multi-year plans and intentions regarding the future planning of the little family. They must also be able to discuss short-term policies and guidelines for raising children. They must share the same beliefs.

Greetings, inquirer.

In an intimate relationship, there is not only intimacy and passion, but also the daily grind. In the context of real-life challenges, it is evident that we are not a perfect couple, but rather two individuals with their own unique set of problems.

It is only through the use of fireworks that we can assess our capacity to cultivate ourselves in the world.

"A marriage cannot last forever." Thus, addressing the dynamics between spouses can positively influence family cohesion, social stability, children's education, and an individual's emotional well-being.

The questions posed by the topic master are notably humanistic and perceptive.

In reflection on the year 2022, which is nearing its conclusion, it becomes evident that there exists a concealed threat lurking beneath the surface of tranquility. My intuitive faculties prompt me to proactively address this insidious danger.

I had been awaiting an opportune moment, and it duly arrived. My wife suddenly became enraged, stating that I had been persistently critical of her ever since we purchased our house 19 years ago.

"You did not express satisfaction with the decision to purchase the house. Furthermore, you provided numerous critiques during the renovation process, indicating that you believed the work was inadequate."

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It is evident that the purchase of the house has had a significant impact on our lives, both in financial terms and in terms of our quality of life.

I perceive a discrepancy between us, and I hypothesize that my partner also perceives it. I have deliberately studied and expanded my knowledge of home improvement, and thus I tend to gravitate towards comfortable, simple, and atmospheric home comforts and home improvement styles.

In light of the aforementioned principles, I put forth the following suggestions.

Nevertheless, I am aware that my suggestions will not be accepted, despite my conviction in their merit. I also experienced a certain degree of emotional distress, accompanied by a sense of disrespect.

Emotions are a form of energy that manifests itself in the form of a flow. As a result, both parties involved are able to perceive each other's emotions.

Today, she became visibly enraged. I sensed that the moment was propitious.

I will begin with an examination of the house.

The rationale behind my disagreement can be attributed to two key factors. Primarily, I am not in favor of her exerting a considerable amount of effort.

Secondly, it is my intention to ensure that our future quality of life is not adversely affected. I stated, "You are only aware of the superficial aspects of my opposition. Why don't you consider alternative perspectives?"

My objection is for your own benefit. It is not in your best interest to overwork yourself, and our capabilities are readily available.

In regard to the subject of interior decoration, it is not advisable to expend a great deal of money on elaborate embellishments. It is evident that neither of you has heeded or adopted the suggestions that I have put forth.

One might be forgiven for assuming that a renovation would be undertaken, but surely there is a cost associated with such an endeavour. It is difficult to envisage how one could provide assistance in this way.

If he is a professional, it is acceptable to make this assertion; however, it is important to recognize that individuals are just as unaware as they are. Every residence has inherent imperfections.

It is evident that the aforementioned deficiencies are within our grasp, and that they can be rectified through the implementation of suitable adjustments and remedies during the process of interior design. Once the premises have been completed, it is reasonable to assume that the occupants will experience a notable enhancement in their level of comfort and convenience.

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Following this communication, it became evident that our relationship had undergone a positive transformation. It is my belief that an enhanced awareness of one's emotional state is a key factor in achieving greater life satisfaction.

I am grateful for the opportunity to engage in continuous learning of psychological counseling knowledge, made possible by the Yiyi Psychology platform. I have found that output is the most effective method for learning.

In the coming year, I am confident that I will be able to navigate my romantic life successfully. It is possible that someone studying counseling psychology may experience difficulties in their intimate relationships.

Such a pursuit is undoubtedly obsessive. It is my hope that I, and those around me, will not be afflicted by such a malady.

It is reasonable to posit that an individual engaged in the study of counseling psychology who is unable to effectively address their own issues may be ill-equipped to assist others.

It is therefore imperative that we address the potential issues that may emerge in our lives with empathy, respect, positive attention, acceptance, and love within the counseling relationship. We must be equipped to resolve these issues as they arise and to avoid generalization. It is my conviction that future intimate relationships will become stronger with time.

My name is Chu Mingdeng, and I extend my deepest affection to the entire world.

In reflecting on the past year, it seems that the most significant challenge my husband and I faced was related to our child.

This year, my husband and I have had a number of disagreements over childcare. Initially, we both felt that the other was not being as responsible as they could be with the children.

It seemed to me that I had very little personal time or space, apart from going to work. I had to cook dinner as soon as I got home, take care of the children, and put them to bed. I could only catch my breath when they were asleep.

My husband felt that I was preoccupied with my phone, that I didn't keep up with the kids when they went to play, that I didn't pour the baby's milk when he needed it, that I hadn't put the water on for the baby's bath, that I was still doing the laundry when the baby needed to go to bed, and that I was being irresponsible.

At one point, this kind of finger-pointing led to some heated discussions with him. He was unable to see the hard work and fatigue I was experiencing, and the finger-pointing seemed to go on endlessly. In the first half of the year, I found myself getting angry and breaking down in tears quite often, but he was still unaware of the situation.

It wasn't until I reached my limit at home that he began to show signs of change.

I felt that I could benefit from some guidance, so I started studying psychology. Of course, I encountered some challenges, but this time I tried to remain open to his perspective.

After studying psychology, I began to apply some of the insights I had gained to my communication with him. I realised that my previous communication with him was not as effective as it could have been. We were both blaming each other and expressing our emotions, rather than communicating in a way that would help us to resolve our problems.

Subsequently, I began to use narrative therapy to try to resolve the communication problems between him and me. I asked him to tell me the reasons for his actions and the consequences, as well as his thoughts. I also expressed my thoughts and feelings.

Needless to say, this process of change was gradual, rather than occurring overnight.

He has become more understanding of my feelings and thoughts, and is able to provide me with assistance with the children while also supporting my work and ideas. I have started to have my own time and space, which is a change I have gained after studying psychology.

At the same time, it has also changed my behavior patterns. Before, when I encountered something, I might have been prone to emotional responses. However, with the guidance I have received, I am learning to put myself in other people's shoes, which has allowed me to gain more understanding and empathy. As a result, I am striving to express my emotions in a more measured and constructive manner.

I am currently learning to use the Yi Xinli platform, and I am finding the psychology section quite helpful.

By 2022, my husband and I will have safely made it through the first seven years of marriage and will be entering our 15th year together. This year, we went through a long separation of 11 months, and we'll be reunited at the end of the year.

Some people say that long-distance relationships are a way of testing the strength, resilience, and level of trust in a couple's relationship. If the test isn't passed, the lovers will be separated or even split up. Distance doesn't change people's hearts, but time will.

Being apart was definitely a test for our marriage. After a year of testing (counting from last year), FQA puts a "?" stamp on our marriage.

On the day they met again, they looked at each other and knew he was the right person.

You only know how good something is when you've lost it. There's no way to describe the happiness of being reunited.

This result isn't based on luck. It's impossible to achieve without a foundation of many years of affection.

My husband and I started out as a free-loving couple. It was also the first time I stood up to my dad and won. I'm really grateful to my dad for being so understanding and supportive, so that no matter what happens in this marriage, I'll be able to face it head-on and work through it on my own, without blaming anyone else.

Our marriage has been pretty uneventful overall, but we've faced a lot of provocation and incitement due to the disparity in our popularity with the opposite sex at work, as well as a lot of interference from "spiders" and "white-boned demons." Coupled with my lack of self-confidence and distrust of men in general, I've also doubted that my marriage will last. I agree with other people's "unoptimistic" comments to a certain extent, so I just hope to do my part well during my term of office and enjoy this relationship.

As for whether he can love me forever, that's not something I can control.

Maybe because of this, I don't have any demands or expectations of my husband. To be fair, my only demand and expectation is that he has no demands or expectations of me, so that I can feel comfortable being myself.

Unexpectedly, he has never looked down on me in the slightest, whether it's my appearance or my personality. Even when I was covered in acne and thought I was too ugly to look in the mirror, he still never abandoned me.

I think it's because we both allow each other to be ourselves and accept each other's strengths and weaknesses that we've been able to get this far.

There's no room for external enemies to interfere, and there are always internal conflicts. Which couple doesn't have friction? We are no exception, but there really haven't been many. In the past 14 years, I think we've had no more than 10 such incidents, and almost every time, we were able to resolve the problem on the same day without letting it fester.

This year, though, I did have an overnight experience. The faucet in my house was broken, and I needed to buy a new one. I didn't know anything about it, so I had to call my husband, who was far away, for help.

Mr. Straight Man couldn't seem to understand my needs at all. On the phone, he said, "The faucets are all pretty similar. Just ask the clerk. I can't see it clearly." At that moment, all the frustration and annoyance of being alone with two kids came flooding back. After I hung up the phone, I sent him a message saying not to call me again if I was being a pain.

I didn't answer his call for 24 hours. When I calmed down, I realized my husband was probably innocent. I called him at his busiest time, and he could have just ignored my call. But he answered anyway, and I should have given him a chance to explain.

Once the anger had subsided and we'd had a chance to talk things through, the relationship started to repair itself.

I believe in the saying, "When you believe, it becomes true." I believe that my husband loves me.

From day one, I knew this straight man didn't know how to be romantic. But it's also true that he has a delicate heart. He chose to come back during that period of time just to celebrate our wedding anniversary and my birthday with me. He even gave me a gift I didn't expect.

This long separation made me realize even more clearly that he makes me feel secure, and this reunion made me understand even more clearly that having him by my side gives me even greater security. Maybe the best thing about our relationship is that we don't have any expectations.

Chapter 5: "Memoirs of 2022"

This year, our marriage has undergone a significant transformation with the addition of a new member to our family. We welcomed a baby boy into our lives during the year of his father's birth, and now we have two little tigers in the family. It's a new chapter in life, and I'm embracing the challenges and rewards of motherhood. This is a joyous moment, but also a bittersweet one, especially when I reflect on the struggles I've faced. While I no longer experience morning sickness, I'm aware that not everyone is as fortunate. Many women endure severe morning sickness, miscarriages, and the heartbreak of losing a baby to the coronavirus.

Be grateful!

The worst moment was when our baby was born. The nipples were cracked from being sucked, and the baby twisted its neck. My husband looked confused and didn't know what to do. It was clear that arguing was unnecessary, and it was a complete mess! In the end, the doctor and nurses were the most helpful.

This year, I've had many arguments with my partner. He is particularly immature and uses foul language to escalate trivial matters. Furthermore, he is uncooperative when dealing with the government, such as applying for a birth certificate for our child.

I dealt with this situation in a number of ways. I first tried to persuade him, then told him that he needed to set a good example for the children. I communicated with him rationally and calmly every time, and things got better.

In the coming year, my husband will mature and become more emotionally stable in our intimate relationship. He will stop swearing, which feels vulgar. Our communication will be more like that between friends, and I will not make him feel superior.

I also have to try hard to keep my emotions in check. When I notice the first signs of his emotions, I don't provoke him. I give him more space to cool down.

I am confident that 2023 will be an even better year for our family, living in harmony and peace.

"Memoirs of 2022" Chapter 5

My husband and I have always had a positive working relationship and rarely engage in disagreements.

On occasion, he made light of the situation by remarking that, given his background in psychology, it was perhaps inevitable that there would be some miscommunication.

We enjoy a very good relationship, and of course my husband has always been more tolerant of me.

Due to the current epidemic control measures, I have been away from my place of residence for 20 days, which has presented a challenge for us.

During the initial period, he did not outwardly indicate any distress.

Subsequently, when I was occupied or concerned about insufficient rest, I adjusted the volume on my phone and received multiple WeChat messages and calls from him, which I regrettably failed to respond to promptly.

I was indifferent to this outcome.

I was unprepared for his evident distress.

It was unusual that he had not contacted me for two days. I was unsure of the reason.

I subsequently became aware that he may have been displeased.

However, I do not see what the issue is.

I was occupied with other tasks and, on occasion, in a less than optimal frame of mind, so I was not inclined to engage in lengthy discussions.

What could possibly happen to an adult like me?

He stated, "I was concerned about your well-being."

Given the prevalence of infected individuals in the area, I was concerned for your safety and assumed you had gone into the cabin as well.

I understand now.

I promptly and politely outlined the circumstances, assured him I would provide daily updates, and only then did he grant me forgiveness.

Subsequently, I considered that he did not assume my tolerance and understanding were taken for granted, nor did he appear to view them as unimportant.

Furthermore, I must learn to recognize and appreciate his efforts.

Due to his efforts, I am able to maintain a sense of ease and confidence in my family's affairs. He consistently demonstrates an ability to anticipate and address potential issues, and he is the primary point of contact for me in such matters.

It is essential that two people understand and be considerate of each other, and also be willing to make sacrifices for each other.

I am grateful to have him on my team.

Dear Sir/Madam, Thank you for your query. Kind regards, [Name] [Position] [Company]

I am a healer and a long-time supporter of your work. I monitor your activities from time to time, but I am not online often. I reply to messages when I can, but I am often too busy to do so. As we approach the stroke of midnight on Christmas Eve 2022, there is less than a week left before we welcome the New Year's Day of the new calendar. The passage of time is a constant, like a series of arias that have marked this 2022 for us.

1. Please describe the evolution and transformation of your romantic and marital relationships over the past year.

2. Please describe the most and least satisfying moments in your intimate relationship this year.

3. Please describe any disagreements or arguments you have had with your romantic partner this year. What were the causes of these disagreements or arguments? How were they resolved?

4. Please describe the efforts you have made and the changes you have implemented to manage your intimate relationship this year. Additionally, please provide feedback on the results of these efforts and any rewards you have received.

5. Please describe your expectations, goals, and plans for the development of your intimate relationship over the next year.

The preceding five questions can be summarized in five sentences as follows: 1. Love is a matter of chance. 2. It is rare to be in the right place at the right time. 3. A gentleman's friendship is as light as water. 4. If it is the right thing, do not overemphasize it. 5. If it is the wrong thing, let go of your pride. 6. Everything is in the silence. I will also share a personal anecdote about my own emotions as an ordinary person.

We met at university and began a romantic relationship after graduation. Despite my earlier entry into society, there is still a gap in our maturity and mentality. I acknowledge that I was misguided. Due to the innocence and ignorance of the time, we both entered married life with dreams. In retrospect, it was the prime of our lives. Compared to young people, passion has faded, but feelings remain. Compared to older people, there is not much time to take care of each other's affairs. I am referring to space, distance, and privacy. Attraction attracts, and separation is the result of attraction. This separation is the "beauty" of maintaining a distance. Blindly tying yourself down will only lead to disaster. Men are always afraid that their women will have other men when they can't perform, and women worry about being abandoned when their men finally make a name for themselves. There is no absolute in everything, only balance. Meeting a good person is a blessing, meeting a scumbag is luck. Don't assume that we can't find a good one, but rather consider how we positioned ourselves in the beginning. Relax and face everything with an open mind. What's right is love, what's wrong is experience. What's really bad is that youth has been wasted. What else can you do?

If expectations are not set high, there is less potential for disappointment.

It is important to understand that relationships are not always smooth sailing. They are a kind of life script, with both happiness and sadness, and a mixture of joy and sorrow. Happy families are not necessarily more successful than unhappy families. Let's focus on the challenges rather than the positives. Judging from our personalities, we are both only children. We are aware of our own personalities. Although we won't discuss the importance of values, only people who have been married for more than ten years will tell you how important they are. Language barriers can lead to minor disagreements. The key is whether we take it seriously or not. Being serious is fine in other areas, but not here. I don't believe you. Go back and ask your spouse at home, "Honey, what do you think of the way I'm dressed today?"

I will attempt to stimulate her thinking. I will not inquire if there is no issue, but I am curious if there is something I am concealing from her. A woman's heart is akin to the depths of the sea, and a man's words often prove ineffective when attempting to describe it. Therefore, the most prudent approach is to simply remain silent. If you are confronted with two potential responses, I recommend offering a question in lieu of a direct answer.

To be frank, I feel somewhat culpable in two respects. Initially, I did not permit her to pursue her postgraduate studies. Regardless of the eventual outcome, that was an indication of her ability as a top student. Secondly, after a considerable period of support, I have not provided her with the optimal lifestyle. Although she has not expressed any concerns, I feel that I should have exerted more effort.

In 2023, I will continue to pursue my professional goals and strive to become a close partner who can facilitate mutual growth.

Please note that this is based on my own experience and is for reference only.

I would like to begin by expressing my gratitude to the topic master for providing further motivation to respond to the questions.

1. Please describe the evolution and transformation of your romantic and marital relationships over the course of this year.

Due to the impact of the epidemic, the first half of this year was characterised by a greater degree of time spent at home by my husband and myself. It was also the year in which my husband had the most opportunities to practise following the attainment of his chef's certificate. Despite a relative lack of material wealth, we observed his admirable dedication, which served to highlight the occasional positive aspect of our relationship, which had otherwise become somewhat desensitised.

2. Please describe the most joyful and most distressing moments you have experienced in your intimate relationship this year.

There were no periods of distress, as my husband's emotional state was clearly influenced by his career development. I could discern that he was experiencing significant depression, which presented certain challenges in our relationship. On numerous occasions, I felt the need to connect with him, yet due to my own emotional state, I was reluctant to admit that I was facing personal challenges. Consequently, I took some detours, but the outcome was positive. He has become more accustomed to communicating with me and values my input on various matters. I consider the most joyful moment to be when I experienced a work-related breakdown and he promptly noticed and expressed concern for my well-being. Additionally, when I contemplated leaving my job, he was also very supportive.

3. Have you experienced any disagreements or arguments with your romantic partner this year? What were the underlying causes of these disagreements, and how were they ultimately resolved?

There were only minor arguments, and no major ones. The primary issue is the lack of effective communication about anxiety. When there is a lack of understanding and the situation is out of control, it can be easy to become overwhelmed. In such instances, it is helpful to take a step back and allow time for things to cool down.

It is recommended that you adopt a more relaxed attitude.

4. What efforts have been made, and what changes have been implemented, to manage the intimate relationship over the course of the year? Additionally, what feedback has been received, and what rewards have been gained as a result?

I was the first to discern that my husband was in a disagreeable mood. I then observed his interactions with his parents and persuaded my mother-in-law, who cares for him as much as I do, to do the same. From a lack of understanding on the other person's part to treating it with indifference to gradually gaining some understanding, when I am not around, I can take over his emotions in a more tranquil manner. There have been gains, and I can discern a clear change.

5. Please describe your expectations, goals, and plans for the development of your intimate relationship over the course of the next year.

It is my hope that we can maintain a comfortable distance from one another while also establishing a greater level of communication and collaboration.

In 2022, it will mark the third year of my romantic involvement with my partner. Our relationship is currently characterized by a high degree of harmony and intimacy.

1⃣️We met through a matchmaking event organized by our relatives and friends. He is a very kind person, with the right values and the responsibility and commitment that a man should have. He also loves me very much.

2⃣️The emotional bond between us strengthens with each heart-to-heart conversation. We express our love and concern for each other. Despite my boyfriend's lack of sophistication, he still demonstrates a profound affection for me.

3⃣️Thus far, no adverse incidents have occurred, and the relationship remains amicable. Teasing occurs intermittently in a tranquil and jovial manner. There are numerous instances of joy, such as when the subject accompanied the object on her birthday, purchased the most suitable gift, and offered sincere blessings.

4. There have been no significant disagreements thus far; rather, there have been instances of minor discontent, which have been swiftly resolved.

5⃣️To enhance our relationship, we will engage in joint reading of psychology books, exchanging thoughts and insights derived from these texts, and offering each other advice based on the knowledge gained.

In 2023, the couple plans to wed at the beginning of the year, while reminding each other to love themselves more and each other more. It is important to note that love is a two-way interactive process.

In the fifth chapter of "Memoirs of 2022,"

1. Could you kindly share what developments and changes you have experienced in your romantic/marital relationship this year?

My personal development has taught me that a good relationship requires a good understanding of oneself in order to take better care of the other person.

I believe that a good relationship requires a good understanding of oneself in order to take better care of the other person. This means being unobtrusive but able to show affection at any time, and not controlling but with a clear sense of boundaries.

2. Could you kindly share the happiest and most challenging moments you experienced in your intimate relationship this year?

During the lockdown, it seems that there is a particular need for warmth, but it may be helpful to consider ways to maintain a balance between closeness and independence.

3. Have you experienced any disagreements or arguments with your partner this year? What were the causes of these disagreements or arguments, and how did you resolve them?

Given the financial challenges, it seems that the best way forward is to try to understand each other better and to face the responsibilities that we both have to bear together.

4. Could you kindly share what efforts you have made and what changes you have made to manage your intimate relationship this year, and what feedback or rewards you have received?

While personal experiences have been put on hold due to the pandemic, the personal exploration of the past three years has helped me to remain calm and tolerant when facing relationship conflicts.

5. Could you please share your expectations, goals, and plans for the development of your intimate relationship in the coming year?

I would like to gain a deeper understanding of myself so that I can love those around me more fully.

In the year 2022, I will still be a single dog, living a carefree existence. From this perspective, it seems that there is little to write about in terms of my personal experience. I do not envy those who are in relationships, and I do not feel any sense of self-pity when I observe their circumstances. I am entirely indifferent to wedding banquets and similar social events.

It is noteworthy that my former romantic partner, with whom I had not communicated for a period of two years, initiated contact with me following the observation of my despondent status update. Our interaction did not progress beyond the boundaries of friendship. However, when I experienced a sense of physical deterioration and a lack of motivation to continue living, he provided transportation to explore the surrounding area and engage in social activities, which contributed to my gradual recovery.

It is possible that this is a consequence of karma: he provided assistance when I was experiencing a period of significant distress, and now he has returned to offer further support.

As those who are acquainted with me are aware, I am a single individual who prefers solitude. I require time and space that is solely mine.

As the elderly often remark, what if one becomes unwell and is unable to care for oneself, or what if one is subjected to mistreatment in a nursing home in one's advanced years?

I would like to state that I have not yet led a fulfilling life, and therefore I am reluctant to consider the prospect of my demise decades from now. What if I were to die? It would simply be a matter of time before my body decomposed.

It is perplexing to consider why one would be happy in life and afraid in death. Would it not be more logical to simply live in the present moment, eat when one is hungry, walk when one is able, and experience the gradual passage of time?

The joy of life is an inherent quality; it is positive, upward, fearless, and brave. The grass, too, can face the wind and rain with its head held high, without concern for being trampled, burned, or eaten by sheep. Is our nature not as good as that of the grass and trees?

I have pursued a course of action that has not been widely taken, but it is one that I have chosen for myself. I wish everyone well-being.

Chapter 5 of the Memoirs of 2022: A Review of the Relationship

In the current year, I am in a marital status that may be described as "restless."

1. Retired

This marks the second consecutive year of retirement that the couple has spent together. Their initial plan to embark on a global journey at the beginning of the year has once again been thwarted by the pandemic.

In 2020, we intend to embark on a journey to the United States, Canada, Japan, and within China to the provinces of Xinjiang and Zhouzhuang. Our in-laws have extended an invitation to us to bring our granddaughter along with us on this trip.

However, the vicissitudes of fate are unpredictable. My wife's mother joined the anti-epidemic army and rushed to the front line, performing a selfless act that touched the hearts of all who observed it.

The planned trip was repeatedly postponed. My father-in-law and I retired in the same year. For the past six years, my daughter has not been present, and my husband has been providing support to the medical system and is away from home for extended periods. His feelings of solitude and isolation are evident.

Fortunately, he has the company of some running friends, and he takes advantage of the opportunity presented by a running competition to visit Beijing each year to see his daughter and two granddaughters, whom he thinks about constantly.

2. The Restless Couple

Despite our retirement, we remain active and engaged. This year, in addition to pursuing studies in psychology and family education, I have also undertaken other academic pursuits.

My spouse has also been occupied with professional endeavors. In addition to maintaining his position at his previous company, he has also assumed the role of a consultant for several other organizations.

Despite our retirement, our minds remain active. We have consistently demonstrated a positive, optimistic, and conscientious outlook in both our personal and professional lives. From the initial stages of our relationship to our continued proximity and mutual support, we have consistently exhibited understanding, encouragement, care, and warmth towards each other.

Despite the occasional challenge, our mutual understanding remains unwavering. Consequently, our close relationship is characterised by a resilience that enables us to overcome any obstacle or river that may lie ahead. We maintain a constant optimism for the future.

3. Arguments

It is uncommon for us to engage in arguments. As previously stated, when conflicts arise, we typically adopt an open and communicative approach, seeking to gain the other person's understanding and acceptance. We endeavor to consider matters from the other person's perspective, facilitating the swift resolution of any issues.

4. Understanding and Expectations

After decades of fluctuations in mood and circumstance, we have developed a fundamental comprehension of each other's psychological makeup. We are no longer concerned with the attitude behind his statements; instead, we focus on the substance of the message. It is important to note that we do not impose our views upon one another in an aggressive manner. Instead, we respect the other person's right to make their own choices.

This is, I believe, an example of mutual acceptance.

Following retirement, there has been an increase in the amount of time spent alone together. This has resulted in a closer emotional connection between the two individuals, accompanied by a deeper understanding of each other's intentions. There is a mutual willingness to support each other's emotional needs and to engage in activities that align with their personal interests.

To illustrate, I enjoy attending art exhibitions and watching movies. This year, my husband demonstrated a willingness to accompany me on these outings, which I found encouraging. Additionally, I extended an offer to accompany my husband on brief excursions.

Such care for one another fosters a sense of being noticed and loved by one's partner. This mutual understanding and the fulfillment of each other's expectations contribute to the strengthening of the relationship.

2. The plan for the following year

In the forthcoming year, we intend to

1. Continue to reside together in accordance with the established pattern of our relationship.

Secondly, it is recommended that the unfulfilled wishes of the previous few years be addressed.

"Memoirs of 2022": Chapter 5: The pandemic is over, and so are we.

The most significant change resulting from this transition is the shift from a partnership of two individuals to a single entity.

I have reached the conclusion that I am no longer in love with you and that our relationship is untenable. I am unable to discern any hope for its future.

Due to the limited time spent together and the lack of sharing of everyday details, many aspects of our lives have changed. When I am eager to share something with you, I often don't receive feedback in a timely manner. You are not inclined to visit me, and I am not interested in going to you. This may be a significant contributing factor to our current situation. As many have observed, the emotional intensity of interactions across distances is limited. However, the impact of disagreements can be significant. Our challenges have developed gradually over time.

Perhaps we are all still in a relatively early stage of life, and we all need to learn, mature, love, and let go.

Thank you for your understanding and cooperation. Best regards,

The most distressing aspect of the situation was when I observed you writing off our piggy bank. I experienced a sudden surge of sadness, which prompted me to shed tears throughout the morning. I even entertained the notion of reversing the decision, but ultimately, the matter was settled. After a brief period of distress in the bathroom, I made the decision to resume my duties. Upon reflection, I recognized that this is a common experience in the process of separation, something that everyone must navigate at some point.

Thank you for your understanding and cooperation.

I am grateful to you for your guidance and continued support. Thank you for teaching me resilience and for your patience.

In the coming year, focus on maintaining the current state of your intimate relationships and accepting yourself. Being alone can also be beneficial, as it provides a sense of relaxation and comfort, allowing you to focus on your own needs without worrying about the other person.

It is not important whether one is concerned with appearance or other factors. What is important is that one feels that one is improving on a daily basis.