You made plans to go on a May Day trip with a friend, and you just gave up on a trip, so why are you so sad?

Greetings!

The planned outing with a friend on May Day was cancelled due to the latter's unexpected work commitments. It would appear that there is no reason to feel sad about this, but why am I feeling so bad?

Based on my analysis, it can be reasonably deduced that the primary cause of your distress is the high value you place on this excursion.

You had made plans to embark on a trip with a friend you hold in high regard and with whom you have a profound spiritual connection. It is evident that you had anticipated a highly rewarding experience and invested a great deal of enthusiasm into the venture.

A significant amount of preparation was invested in this endeavor. Upon learning that the trip could not proceed,

It is to be expected that a sense of loss will be experienced. It is challenging to accept such circumstances.

This is a typical response.

As evidenced by the description provided, your friend also attaches significant value to your feelings. This indicates that your friend holds you in high regard.

Furthermore, your friend also attaches significant value to this planned trip with you. It is reasonable to conclude that your friend also experiences distress due to the cancellation of this plan.

The two individuals in question hold each other in high regard, demonstrate care and consideration for one another, and are attuned to each other's emotional states. This quality of friendship is indeed a rarity.

I am gratified for your well-being.

Prior to contemplating novel possibilities, it is imperative to address one's emotional state. Initially, it is essential to acknowledge the presence of emotions.

The mind is aware that the planned trip is no longer feasible due to work commitments, and this information is accepted.

However, the emotions experienced internally are not subject to the control of the mind. It is necessary to accept one's emotions, observe them, and be in a state of presence with them, before allowing them to flow freely.

Once the emotional response has been acknowledged and processed, it is possible to consider alternative possibilities. When the influence of emotions is reduced, a greater range of potential outcomes may be perceived.

It is possible that your friend may be able to switch shifts. Similarly, you may feel positive about the prospect of travelling alone.

It is also possible that new opportunities will arise that will be of interest to you. It is important not to be constrained by limitations.

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you a little.

From your description, I can feel your struggle and distress. But don't worry! I'm here to give you a hug and some warmth and support. I think it is easy to convince yourself on the surface or rationally, but at the subconscious level, on the emotional level, it is in conflict with reason.

It's so important to understand ourselves better! We need to see our needs at the subconscious level and explore the deeper reasons to do so.

I've got some great advice for you!

Awareness and reflection are your keys to finding your unfinished business and making your subconscious conscious!

Now, think back to the last time you felt that way. What happened at that time?

Who was there? What were your thoughts?

It's so helpful to record your thoughts with a pen and paper. You'll see things so much more clearly! And don't stop there. Keep going back in time to see what happened before that.

And the time before that? Absolutely! Go back to the earliest events and see what happened then.

Who was there? What were your thoughts?

...and you'll see for yourself!

From my feelings about your description, it is likely that this has triggered an unfinished event in which you were "abandoned." What you fear, what you are suffering from, and what you are sad about is the feeling of being abandoned. Although at the conscious level you feel that you need to understand her, at the subconscious level you feel that you have been abandoned. This is likely related to your interactions with your parents when you were a child. We need to see this root cause in order to deeply understand ourselves, and I'm excited for us to do so!

This is why it's so important to understand that the emotions we feel in the moment are often caused by unresolved complexes and emotions from earlier in our lives that have been triggered by the current situation. It's essential that we recognize these unfinished events, understand ourselves, soothe ourselves, see our own unmet needs within, and slowly heal ourselves.

2. Seeing your own needs is the first step to being able to satisfy them yourself, without relying on anyone else. You have so many options!

So, do you see your own needs in this? I'd love to know what your needs are!

Do you want to be valued? Or do you want to be taken care of?

Do you still want to be seen? Do you still want to be accompanied? Absolutely!

Or, the answer is in yourself! You know yourself best, and you know what you need. When the other person doesn't meet your needs, it can cause fluctuations in your emotions. From your description, it seems like you've tied the fulfillment of this need to her, which can make you feel bound. You might feel like if she can't meet your needs, you're "finished." But, you can meet your needs in many ways! There are many options for you.

It's a great idea to have different types of friends to satisfy your different needs! Rather than putting all your needs on the same friend, you can have friends who can travel with you, go to the gym with you, read with you, and go shopping with you. This way, you can satisfy your needs in each relationship, and your friends will be able and willing to provide you with these needs. Your relationships will all be very good relationships!

And you can also learn to satisfy your own needs! When you want others to be with you, to respect you, and to see you, you have to understand that you actually have everything inside. You can give yourself all of these things! When you can learn to be with yourself, to respect yourself, and to see yourself, you will not be so passive in relationships. Instead, you will be more comfortable and at ease. It is great when they can give you things, but if they can't, it's okay because you can be self-sufficient. You are inherently complete and fulfilled!

I'm so excited to share this with you! Have a great day!