After understanding psychological knowledge, one's demands increase. How to strike a balance?

Dear question asker,

I'm very grateful for your topic! It provides us with a valuable opportunity to share our perspectives. How has studying psychology influenced your life and your understanding of the world around you?

I would also like to share my own views on this matter.

1. Accept reality: After studying psychology, I seem to have gained a new understanding of myself, the things around me, and the people around me. I have begun to accept the facts and not dwell on them. With more awareness, I will understand myself and know that there is a reason for the life I have experienced. Things around me may be better if handled in a different way, and the people around me also have a reason for doing what they do.

Everyone has their own set of circumstances and experiences that shape their limitations, including those related to their "original family," "parenting style," "living environment," and so on. By studying psychology, we can gain a deeper understanding of these factors and become more perceptive, viewing things from a broader perspective, and developing more effective problem-solving strategies. This can help us avoid becoming too rigid in our thinking and allow for more flexibility.

2. I feel at ease and much freer. There is a lyric that says "inner peace is forever." At first, I didn't fully understand the meaning of the lyric, but now, after learning more, I realize how enjoyable inner peace really is!

Often, our minds are filled with thoughts that can range from expectations of the worst-case scenario to the idealized version of perfection. When we learn to accept things as they are, we may find that our thoughts become less complex. We can try to do our own thing, respect the boundaries of others, and leave the rest to God. In doing so, we can feel confident that we have done our best and have no regrets.

3. Showing kindness to others is also a way of showing kindness to ourselves. Once during class, the teacher asked everyone to meditate and see how we evaluate ourselves in our hearts.

I remember that the self that appeared in front of me at that time was somewhat flat. Later, I asked the teacher, and the teacher said it was because I was perhaps a bit too demanding of myself and could do more to accept myself... At that moment, I realized how challenging it can be to demand perfection! My family members also tell me that sometimes it is a bit tiring to be with me... I also use the same standards to demand of others, and I recognize that this can sometimes lead to frustration.

"Be whole, then be perfect." As humans, we all have our limitations and our strengths. Given that we are just a tiny part of the world created by the Creator, it is perhaps unattainable for us to be perfect.

If I might make a suggestion, it would be to try to live in the present. Most of our suffering comes from anxiety about the future and remorse about the past. It is a lack of appreciation for the present. This is a cliché,

It's possible that the "balance" the questioner is referring to is the result of studying psychology, which has allowed them to appreciate the beauty in life and in their surroundings. It's understandable that this pursuit and longing for beauty is a common experience, as everyone has an inherent desire for beauty.

It might be helpful to think of everything as having two sides, just like the yin and yang in the Taiji diagram, which are in balance.

It is thought that there is a balance between the yin and yang, which is what maintains equilibrium.

4. Live in the present: Many of us experience suffering due to concerns about the future or regret about the past. It's possible that we could benefit from appreciating the present more.

It may be a cliché, but it is nevertheless a truth that is worth considering: our lives are only our own in the present.

If you live your present life well and seize the moment, you may find that you are in control.

I hope this offers some insight and is helpful to share with friends.

Dear Question Asker, Thank you for your question. Best regards, [Name]

I was intrigued to see your question regarding higher expectations after studying psychology.

After reviewing your description, I understand your perspective. Perhaps you have identified areas for improvement through studying psychology, and you are even more motivated to address those areas. Therefore, you have higher expectations for the future and hope that everything can proceed according to your plan.

It should be noted, however, that any parent hopes their child will develop in a positive direction. However, what they consider "positive" is their own understanding of what is "positive," not what the child considers "positive."

For example, we frequently hear parents express frustration that they have made significant financial sacrifices to support their children's education, only to find that their children are not motivated to attend school. This is not necessarily a reflection of a lack of parental love, but rather a disconnect in communication and understanding between parents and children.

It is therefore important to understand that the concept of perfection is not universal. What is considered perfect by parents may not align with what children perceive as such.

It is possible that what you consider to be perfect may not be considered so by others.

It is akin to the notion that the more one learns, the less one feels one knows.

In conclusion, I would like to share a personal insight gained from studying psychology. I have learned to let go.

As Dr. Haigland has noted, I am capable of demanding a great deal of myself with regard to human nature. At the same time, I am able to comprehend the animalistic behavior of others.

In this world, perfection is unattainable. What can be adjusted is our perception of people and situations.

I hope my response provides some inspiration.

I have experienced this firsthand with the questioner, and I know others around me who have similar situations.

In my case, I was obsessed with the pursuit of the perfect object. Winnicott's theory proves there is no such thing as a perfect object. Children can overcome trauma and emerge stronger than expected.

You only need to be a 60-point parent. There's no need to pursue so-called perfection. Psychology is a broad and profound field. After learning one theory, you may need to complement it with other theories.

You must also be aware of whether your own anxiety is being projected and do some necessary personal experience to resolve some potential problems.

Another example from a friend is that her intimate relationship with her lover, who is more of a silent type and reluctant to share his thoughts, and her increasing demands for intimacy as she studies psychology (referring to emotional communication) have created a difference and an apparent contradiction.

Psychology is not the only subject that can be explored. Different issues, such as crime, can be explored entirely through the paradigms of criminal investigation or sociology, rather than directly using criminal psychology or psychological profiling.

First, the visits are comprehensive, detailed, and encompass a diverse range of individuals, not merely symptoms (aligned with various technical therapies). With this foundation, it is evident that many aspects will become apparent when viewed from this perspective.

Hello, question asker!

They can understand your feelings and state of mind very well. At the beginning, after learning about psychology, you always want to match your daily life with it, which often brings you some suffering. In fact, you will quickly realize that psychology does not teach you how to be a perfect or successful person. It teaches you to be more open-minded.

I understand your mood and state. At first, you want to apply psychology to your daily life, which often causes suffering. However, if you continue learning, you'll see that psychology doesn't teach you to be perfect or successful. It teaches you to face yourself more openly, accept everything around you, and live a better life.

Let's examine the following:

Let's take a look together.

Since studying psychology and learning more, I have higher and more expectations of the environment, the people around me, and myself.

Since learning psychology, I have higher and more expectations of the environment, the people around me, and myself.

This may be a bit different. I'm not sure what knowledge the questioner has learned (no offense intended, but there are many people in the market who misuse the name psychology to spread non-psychological knowledge, giving people some misunderstandings). Real psychology is about having a greater tolerance.

This may be a bit different. I'm not sure what knowledge the OP has learned so far (no offense intended, but there are many people in the market who misuse the name psychology to spread non-psychological knowledge, giving people some misunderstandings). Let me be clear: true psychology is to make you more tolerant. You can now understand people and things that you didn't understand before.

I am not demanding of the environment, the people around me, or myself. I simply want to stop being so obsessed with trying to be perfect. I want to accept my own imperfections and let go.

"For example, if I want to raise a child, I will lay a good foundation and create the right conditions."

I will raise my child with a good foundation and the right conditions.

It is indisputable that raising a child requires a certain material foundation. However, the greatest influence comes from the openness of the inner world and a healthy expectation of the child. Every child has their own path to follow, and this is something adults cannot replace for children. Of course, they cannot replace it either. Every child also has their own independent personality and a path they want to follow.

It is indisputable that raising a child requires a certain material foundation. However, the greatest support comes from the openness of the inner world and a healthy expectation of the child. Every child has their own path to follow, which adults cannot replace. And of course, they cannot replace it either. Every child also has their own independent personality and the path they want to follow. Adults can only provide appropriate guidance.

"I have some psychological deficiencies due to my own experiences in my early years and childhood. I am determined that my children will not be like me and I will do everything I can to ensure they are not hurt during their growth process, especially in terms of mental health."

"My own experiences in my early years and childhood have left me with some psychological deficiencies. I have a very strong desire that my children will not be like me. I will do whatever it takes to ensure they avoid harm, especially in terms of mental health."

I don't know what happened to the original poster, but I do know this: you can only truly move on when you truly let go. You can't let your fear of causing harm to your child stop you. Everyone's growth process is not always smooth sailing, and even failure or setbacks are part of growing up. You can't overprotect your child for fear of them getting hurt, because that will inhibit their growth. Every child has their own potential.

I don't know what happened to the original poster, but I do know this: you can only move on and not let your child get hurt when you truly let go. Everyone's growth process is not smooth sailing, and even failure or setbacks are part of growing up. You can't overprotect your child because you're afraid they'll get hurt, because that will inhibit their growth. Every child has their own potential.

"Therefore, I will follow my own requirements and have some obsessions with more and higher requirements."

The questioner also realizes that it is his own obsession that is at play. He should not treat his child with such high expectations and should consider the child's ability to bear it.

The more psychology you study, the more perfectionist you become.

This point was mentioned earlier, and there may be slight differences. After studying psychology, you must be aware of your own shortcomings and know that you are imperfect. However, you should still like yourself and truly accept yourself from the bottom of your heart.

This point was mentioned earlier, and there may be slight differences. After studying psychology, you must know your own shortcomings and imperfections, but you should still like yourself and truly accept yourself from the bottom of your heart.

"How should one balance learning and practicing psychology?"

In fact, there is no such thing as imbalance. The questioner may be too demanding of themselves or may not yet have encountered genuine psychology. Some of the knowledge in psychology may differ from what is commonly recognized, but the questioner will not force others to be like them. They will accept this difference and communicate in a way that others can understand.

The question owner should not rush to apply what they have learned after studying. Instead, they should think about it from a broader perspective or integrate what they have learned to approach problems. They should remember that the real psychology is to make you better, not to add to your troubles.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best wishes!

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best wishes!

Good morning, my name is Qingxiang, and I would like to discuss this with you.

After reviewing your description on several occasions, I have ascertained that you are interested in psychology and have acquired a substantial amount of knowledge over time.

As you gain more knowledge and expertise, you begin to apply these theories more rigorously, holding yourself and others to higher standards. This is because you have recognized that individuals have unique capabilities and levels of proficiency. At this stage, you strive to support those around you in reaching their full potential.

To illustrate, consider the example of raising a child. You will devote more attention to all aspects of your child's condition, including material and spiritual preparation. After becoming more self-aware, you may have identified some negative patterns in your own upbringing. This has motivated you to ensure your child does not experience the same challenges. You aspire for your child to flourish and excel.

This is a phase in the learning process of psychology. I was once in a similar position. I frequently applied the knowledge I had gained to set a high standard for the character of children, the role of fathers, and the characteristics of mothers. I evaluated my life with a sense of precision. However, it became evident that life has no absolute standards. Individuals have diverse ideas and aspirations, and there is no universal measure that can assess all lives.

The result is a deterioration in the parent-child relationship and a lack of harmony in the marital relationship. I am uncertain of the solution to these issues. I considered continuing my studies to identify a potential solution.

As the study progressed, I found that my views were evolving. I have come to accept the shortcomings of others and recognize my own limitations.

My name is Qingxiang. I am sharing some of my thoughts and suggestions in the hope that they will be helpful.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love and appreciation for the world and for you, my dear reader.

Good evening. We are opposites. I wrote about psychology and then just laid down.

I studied Marxist philosophy and ethics for my postgraduate degree. Then, I took the test to become a psychological counselor.

Then lie down.

Philosophy has broadened my worldview and helped me see the world from a macro perspective. Psychology has helped me look at myself, others, and relationships from a micro perspective. Integrating the macro and micro perspectives has enabled me to achieve logical and cognitive self-consistency.

I once asked a friend what she thought of me. She said, "You speak to people according to whether they are good or evil."

Otherwise, I don't know her well. We know each other and do some activities together, but we haven't had in-depth conversations.

She described me well. I speak to people according to their character and to ghosts according to their nature.

No demands on others, but demands on yourself.

You may need to find boundaries between what is your business and what is other people's business.

For example, you decide what to expect from others, but not whether to meet those expectations.

Frustration at a lack of cooperation is your emotion, not theirs.

If you have expectations of others, they may also have emotions.

Healing the loss you experienced as a child is your responsibility, not your child's. Children are independent, and they didn't come into the world to fulfill your expectations.

You need to let go, accept your powerlessness, guard your boundaries, and respect others'.

It doesn't mean you don't care about other people or ask for help. The key is to respect other people's needs and be at peace with yourself.

I'm a Buddhist who's often pessimistic. I'm also a positive counselor who loves the world.

Hello, dear questioner! It's like seeing you in person when I read your words!

After reading your post, I could really relate to it as a mother of two and a lover of psychology. I'd love to share some similar experiences and insights with you.

1. It's totally understandable to feel confused and unsure about how to handle things in your current situation.

Since studying psychology, I've learned so much and have higher and more demanding expectations of the environment, the people around me, and myself. When it comes to raising children, because of my own early experiences, I don't want my child to be like you, so I've developed a lot of obsessions, and even a tendency towards perfectionism.

2. Here are a few different perspectives for you to think about:

I totally get why the questioner is so focused on education. Psychology shows us that the first family a child grows up in has a huge impact on their development. When they've had tough experiences, it's only natural to want to create the perfect original family for your child. I think that's a really understandable feeling.

I can see that the questioner is aware of their own growth and desire to become a perfect mother, which is wonderful!

The original family is the most important thing for a child's early development. It's so important to create a good environment and family atmosphere for your little one. This environment includes not only the physical environment, but also the expression of the parents' intimate relationship and the natural flow of emotions among family members. It's an environment that presents naturally and harmoniously, not a deliberately contrived scene. If you focus on certain details, it's easy to lead to conflicts among family members, which may backfire in the end.

I also set a lot of rules for raising my child when my eldest was born, such as no TV before the age of three, no salt before the age of one, and no arguing in front of the child. However, with the help of the elderly and the gradual growth of the child, you will find that many idealized settings cannot be completely achieved. I found that deliberate requirements, on the contrary, are likely to lead to family conflicts and arguments, and in the end, they will create an unhealthy conflict and tension for the child. After the second child is born, the parenting style becomes more relaxed and natural. Although the second child is naughty, he is extremely sensible and independent.

Psychology is a fascinating field that touches on so many different aspects of our lives. For instance, some schools of psychology suggest that it's important to "do what needs to be done and not do what doesn't," which emphasizes moderation and going with the flow, rather than doing things deliberately. Some schools of psychology also advocate paying attention to the "here and now, seeking self-system balance within the prevailing environment and system at this very moment." Studying psychology is a wonderful, gradual process of self-growth and self-cultivation.

I've found that the saying "when there are no rules, there is no pain" is also really applicable in the study of psychology. When you're free from rules, you're not bound by all those different rules and obsessions. You're then able to follow your heart and accept the present, which is so important!

3. And now for a few more tips!

Please keep this heart of self-learning and growth. The study of psychology is really a process of continuous self-improvement. You will benefit yourself, and your family will benefit in the future.

Please accept your own idea of wanting to be the best mother you can be and create a happy, loving family environment for your child. This will benefit your future child for life. At the same time, please accept that the people around you have different ideas and concepts, and accept the real existence of this imperfect world.

Children don't grow up in a vacuum. They need real, natural, and harmonious intimacy with their parents. That's why the interaction between you and your partner is the most important foundation of the entire nuclear family. And there's more! You can also read more psychology books about intimacy. When intimacy is natural and harmonious, the environment for your child's growth will follow.

Hello there, question asker!

I think the questioner might have misunderstood one thing: learning psychology doesn't automatically make you more valuable. It's the psychology books that give the questioner another way to solve problems when they come up.

We learn psychology. It's so important to remember that the value of others doesn't depend on what you put in, but on what you can output.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with seeking knowledge just to satisfy your curiosity about the world. But if there's only input and no output, it's still a kind of enjoyment.

If the questioner has learned to share their insights, even if it's just a little, it's a big step forward! Sharing your own insights is a wonderful way to create and reprocess value. Even if it's just the unadulterated transmission of knowledge, it's still a valuable contribution.

Please don't underestimate the importance of small actions!

I'm not sure if the questioner has read this story, but I think it's a great one!

There's a fascinating philosophical thought experiment called "Mary's Room." It's about a female scientist who has lived and studied her whole life in a room with only black and white. It makes you think, doesn't it? What can she know from this room, that is, what can she learn from books about what color is? What is color?

He knows everything there is to know about colors. Take the color red, for example. He knows all the data about red by heart and can describe exactly what red is in very precise scientific terms.

But he'd never seen red before. One day, Mary finally gets the chance to step out of the black and white room. She sees a red flower on the grass. If no one tells her that this is red, she might not recognize that this color is red. But when she actually sees red, she is able to feel and experience what red really is. All those descriptions of red actually have little to do with red. In other words, a person's experience is completely unrelated to their conscious thoughts. Even if he knows all the descriptions of red, he still doesn't know what red is if he has never seen it before.

First of all, knowledge is at the level of consciousness, something that has been symbolized, and it belongs to the function of the mind. But, many of our emotional problems and feelings are hurtful beyond words, nonverbal, and must first be digested and absorbed by ourselves. It's okay! We can do this! After becoming a memory in our body and being integrated into our own experiences, it can then be verbalized and symbolized.

Before this, words and symbols were two different worlds, two things on different logical levels. Most of the reasons why we encounter emotions that trouble us and seek psychological help are actually related to interpersonal relationships.

It's only in a relationship that you can really solve the problems that arise. If you don't enter into a relationship, but just read some books and take some classes, you're not in a real relationship. That means there's no way to help you integrate the problems that arise in your relationships. This is why many people can't help themselves well by reading books. They may even waste a lot of money on classes.

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