At 13, in junior high school, I have mild anxiety and feel that some of my thoughts are compulsive?

Middle school students have just been promoted from elementary school students to middle school students. This change is significant and will undoubtedly bring about increased pressure on many levels, including an increase in the number of subjects you have to study and your personal tasks, as well as the development of your physical and mental health.

It might also be worth noting that it can sometimes result in a great deal of pressure. If it is not too much trouble, you might like to consider recording your lifestyle and observing the various changes that occur after you enter adolescence and junior high school. It seems that you may be experiencing mild anxiety, and it is possible that some of your thoughts may be obsessive.

This can make life quite challenging. You may also have concerns that some of your thoughts are related to obsessive-compulsive disorder, and that certain methods of self-treatment could potentially lead to difficulties or the onset of other mental health issues.

Sometimes we may have some negative associations that make it difficult for us to face our challenges head-on. This can lead to feelings of helplessness and a tendency to worry and fear. If you can, it might be helpful to consider your current situation.

It's possible that you've formed a lot of negative associations, which might be contributing to a sense of discomfort. You might find it helpful to try meditation while you're going through psychological counseling. There are various meditation functions available on the Meditation Planet section of the homepage, so you can choose one that suits you. I encourage you to stay aware and maintain a positive outlook. Wishing you the best.

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Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from afar as a gesture of support and encouragement.

Your inability to focus on the pain and troubles that each moment brings has affected your normal life and studies. Consequently, you seek help to better change your current state of anxiety and unease.

Indeed, anxiety is a common experience, varying in intensity. In moderation, anxiety and unease can serve as a reminder to confront unknown situations. For individuals, excessive anxiety can have adverse effects on physical and mental health. It can signal the need to respond better, prepare for, and adapt to people, things, and situations that threaten safety. Therefore, moderate anxiety and unease are essential emotional experiences for everyone.

Anxiety and unease are incongruent with the situation when the fear generated by the anxiety is excessive. For example, individuals may be aware of effective anxiety-relieving strategies but refrain from attempting them due to concerns about developing a corresponding mental illness. Similarly, when experiencing happiness and joy, individuals may be prone to internalizing a voice that suggests the happiness will not last and that pain is a normal aspect of life. This can impede the ability to fully engage with and appreciate the beauty of the moment.

Indeed, the reason why an inappropriate emotional pattern recurs is that the individual involved is, to some extent, gratified by the fulfillment of certain inner needs associated with the pattern, such as the desire for attention, consideration, support, or the avoidance of frustration caused by inner insecurity. This necessitates a conscious effort to recognize these patterns, particularly when experiencing anxiety and unease. It is essential to discern which experiences and feelings are more prominent and which needs are being met at that moment.

The manner in which an individual is treated by others often determines the manner in which they treat themselves. Frequently, anxiety is the result of a deep-seated longing and expectation for a sense of security and control. This sense of security and control is often derived from the manner in which an individual was treated during their formative years. In some cases, parents may have disciplined their children in a harsh and demanding manner, requiring strict compliance with their wishes.

Furthermore, your parents were frequently preoccupied with work and exhibited a lack of emotional support, which led to your internalization of their behaviors and attitudes.

Therefore, when an individual has a certain understanding of the source of their excessive anxiety and has also attempted to perceive the benefits that their anxiety has brought them to some extent, they will be more accepting and understanding of their current anxiety and unease than they would otherwise be. This is in contrast to confronting the anxiety directly. Then, on the premise of acceptance, one should attempt to seek better changes.

One may attempt to employ deep breathing relaxation exercises to more effectively discern the nuances of one's anxiety and the secondary emotions that emerge from it, such as fear, dread, and helplessness.

2. Desensitization therapy: It is recommended that individuals attempt to confront situations and stimuli that elicit excessive fear and anxiety. It is advised that the individual begin with relatively mild situations and gradually progress to more intense ones until the stimuli that previously evoked fear, anxiety, and unease no longer elicit a response.

3. It is recommended that individuals cultivate interests and passions for themselves, as this can contribute to a more content, fulfilling life. One potential avenue for pursuing such interests is through a favorite sport.

4. One may choose to record their emotional state in words. This is an effective method for developing self-awareness and regulating emotions.

I am Lily, the youngest member of the Q&A Museum. I extend my love to the world and to you.

Hello, classmate. I can see you're feeling confused, and I'm here to support you.

What you're going through now are some behavioral issues. I give you another warm hug.

First of all, in terms of your studies, I think you should ease up on the pressure. Just do your best.

My advice to you, my colleague, would be to try to calm your mind.

Before you go to bed, try not to think about anything.

Otherwise, the more you try to avoid thinking about something, the more it will come up in your dreams.

I also think there might be an issue with the online psychological counselor you found.

Only a doctor at a hospital can tell you if you have an anxiety disorder and how severe it is.

A psychological counselor can only provide psychological counseling; they cannot give you a medical diagnosis.

If you're looking for a psychological counselor, you might want to check out the Yixinli platform. It's a more reliable option.

I really hope you can find a good solution to the problem you're having soon.

That's all I can think of at the moment.

I hope my answers above will be helpful and inspiring to you. I'm here to help, and I study hard every day.

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