Doing exercises, sports, thinking, and feeling, I feel like there's something wrong with my mind. What's going on?

Hello, question owner, My name is Su Qinghua, and I'm a listener at Yixinli.

It seems that you may not be permitted to proceed.

From your words, I can see that you may benefit from exploring different ways of approaching the problem. It seems that you are looking for a way to develop your ability to focus, to complete tasks, to think critically, to be precise, and to think quickly on your feet.

You find yourself wondering, "What if I don't have this ability?" This kind of repeated thinking can leave you feeling exhausted, both physically and mentally. It can even lead to feelings of anxiety about your own "What should I do?" However, it's important to recognize that without a result, your brain is simply fighting, and your body loses the ability to act.

I can see that you are anxious, that your thoughts are obsessive, and that you are prone to compulsive thinking. These may have been influenced by your family of origin, where your parents and family members may have encouraged a sense of control and demands, which could have resulted in you living in a tense environment all day long, which may have led to compulsive thinking.

Then, in the environment of your life after tomorrow, you may encounter some challenges, including pressure from studies, work, and survival. If you feel you are unable to meet the required standards, you may experience feelings of low self-esteem, fear, and a sense of incompetence, which can lead to a loss of confidence.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider how you approach math problems.

When you do math problems, you may find yourself spending the whole day thinking about just one thing in order to force yourself to keep thinking about one answer. It's possible that you may feel stuck in a cycle of fear and self-blame, which can lead to feelings of anxiety. When we're in this kind of emotional state, it can be challenging to feel like we're breathing fresh air.

While the final problem was eventually solved, a significant amount of time was spent on it. On this day, you only solved one problem and set aside the other opportunities around you. It's similar to gaining a small puddle and missing out on a larger, more beautiful lake.

Sometimes, when a problem seems insurmountable, it can be helpful to set it aside for a while. This allows your mind to relax and think more clearly. You might be surprised at what you discover when you return to the problem. It could even lead to a solution.

Perhaps it would be helpful to view the situation from a different perspective. It's as if you're a marionette, lacking the power to control your own actions.

Perhaps there is a distinction between physical strength and mental strength that is worth exploring. If one is unable to use free will to achieve desired outcomes, it could be perceived that control is lacking. I appreciate your perspective on the mind's ability to influence the body. It brings to mind the image of a marionette, where the body is weak and dependent on external guidance. It's an intriguing concept, and I wonder if there's a way to reconcile these two perspectives.

It is worth noting that both physical and mental strength can be allowed. It is not the body that controls the mind, nor is it the mind that controls the body. Perhaps the two can coexist, working together or just relaxing together.

I believe there is also a lot of fun to be had in the process.

When engaged in an activity, it is easy to become so absorbed in the result that the process and the joy that comes from it can be overlooked.

You tell yourself that the result must be perfect, that you will not allow yourself to make mistakes, that you will not allow yourself to be ignorant, that you will not allow yourself to be unable to do something. There are so many "not allow"s that can make your body tense, your emotions unable to flow, and your thoughts unable to function. The more you think, the more tired you become, and then you may find yourself dwelling on self-blame.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the possibility that there might not be a result, or that the problem might not be solvable.

It might be more helpful to put the problem aside for now. It's possible that your emotions are getting in the way of your thinking, which is making it harder for you to think clearly.

It may be helpful to allow yourself to rest when you are tired, so that you can rest and recharge your batteries. You may find that your thoughts come flooding back in the next moment.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you want to value it or control it.

You place a high value on your thinking ability and are dedicated to training it. You have invested a great deal of time and effort into developing your thinking abilities, which have become highly trained and efficient. However, this dedication and commitment may have inadvertently led to a state where your thinking is forced into a cycle of distraction, inefficiency, and chaos.

It is believed that thoughts exist all the time, in all of us. It is thought that thoughts should be agile inside our bodies, existing between our bodies and our brains. It is thought that a flowing mind is a living mind.

A mind that is controlled may appear pale and rigid, and may ultimately be unable to move freely.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the ability to think quickly.

It might be said that you cannot think quickly because your mind is controlled by your body, which can result in a lack of flexibility and a loss of vibrant meaning. However, it is possible that one day, when you give up control and allow it to breathe freely, you may find yourself again.

Perhaps you could try creating an environment that allows you to feel safe and supported, and where you can embrace all aspects of yourself, including your imperfections. This could be a way of allowing yourself to achieve the perfection you desire.

At Yixin, we extend our warmest regards to you and the world!

Hello, host!

Everyone has a different personality, and yours is great! It can be seen that you are a person who particularly likes to reflect on yourself, and you have a certain understanding of your abilities and characteristics in various aspects.

But everyone has both strengths and weaknesses, and no one is perfect. The great thing is, we can all learn from each other! What is considered a strength or a weakness also varies greatly depending on the perspective.

You see your own shortcomings so clearly!

Your passion for math is admirable!

You're always thinking about how to do things, which is great! But you feel that it seems to be of little use.

Not trusting your feelings, intuitions, and instincts is a great opportunity for self-confidence-and-feeling-inferior-is-it-related-to-a-childs-growth-experience-6943.html" target="_blank">growth!

Overthinking and not being quick enough—these are just a couple of your shortcomings!

But I also see some amazing advantages in these shortcomings!

You have a wonderful spirit of inquiry and an amazing ability to concentrate and think!

Being good at self-reflection and enjoying reviewing and summarizing your work is a great way to grow and improve!

Prudent and rational—that's the way to go!

A calm mindset is your ticket to responding to situations with equanimity!

Disadvantages can sometimes be advantages! And advantages can sometimes become disadvantages.

It's so important to use different characteristics in different situations!

We can objectively and dialectically look at the characteristics we have, so that we can bring our strengths into play in different situations.

You have these concerns and uncertainties because you're ready to build your confidence! Any effective method and smart thinking needs to be verified by facts.

And each successful thing will also give you a boost of self-confidence!

Next time, you can add "what is the effect" to your thinking and watch your ideas come to life! This is a great way to boost your self-confidence in practice.

It's easy to know others, but it's a whole other story when it comes to knowing yourself. It's not common to know yourself well enough, but that's okay! It just means you have the exciting opportunity to test your understanding in reality. This will help you become the driving force that guides your life and promotes your success!

I wish you the absolute best of luck! I know you're going to knock it out of the park!

Hello, host.

I am Li Xuan, a psychological counselor.

I commend you for sharing your thoughts. It takes courage to do so.

You wrote six questions, and after reading your thoughts, I'm certain you are currently a student, right?

You mentioned explosive strength in your strength training. What's the point of having strong muscles?

Is that physical strength, not your own strength? I want to know if your body is your own.

When doing things, think more about the methods. When thinking, don't rush to draw conclusions. You're cautious and have a lot of worries. You want to do things better, and at the same time, you focus on methods and techniques. The results may not be as good as you'd like, but you'll get there. You feel helpless and aggrieved, but you're not.

You can't do everything perfectly every time. You improve as you go along and change course when unexpected situations arise. The people you see who are quick-witted, capable, and decisive are the result of experience and constant reflection. It's the same with your exercise. It builds up over time and slowly forms muscle memory.

You pay attention to your thinking skills and keep thinking when doing problems, sometimes for up to a day. That's great stamina. Sometimes we get stuck for a while and can't think of the answer. It's not that our thinking skills are bad; it's just that we don't have enough connections. Ask your teacher for more help and practice similar problems a few times. You won't get stuck again.

I have provided you with a different perspective.

You will recover early!

I will always be here for you, no questions asked.

You value thinking skills and methods of doing things, and I admire that. It's an effective way to do something well and get twice the result with half the effort.

However, from your description, I see another problem. You are too obsessed with this thinking ability and method. You should ask yourself if you are really looking for a method and training your thinking ability.

Or is it that I have "too many ideas"?

You keep thinking about a problem until you come up with a solution.

In physical exercise, you study how to exert greater strength through explosive power, and you learn whether the strength exerted by free will is truly the greatest strength.

Remind yourself of the method when doing things. Don't focus on the task at hand. Investigate the reasons and methods instead.

You value thinking ability but expend a lot of energy on it.

You can't trust your feelings, inspiration, or instincts, and you worry what if they're not accurate?

You are unable to think quickly and you cannot accept that your thinking is not flexible.

You've got to focus on the matter itself, not just your thinking skills and methods.

Some people are gifted thinkers, while others work hard at it. You don't have to be obsessed with it. Let's not talk about exercises, but just physical exercise. Exercise is a way to understand your body and become aware of it. When you exert your strength, you can have certain methods and ways of thinking. During the exercise, you can constantly talk to your body, look at different exercise methods, and see how your body responds, so you can come up with the method that suits you best. Don't obsess over how to increase strength. Summarize it in the process, rather than forming it in your mind.

Know this: No method is suitable for everyone. The method that is suitable for you is the best method. Don't waste time worrying about the methods you've learned from everywhere. Listen to your body instead. See how applicable and tolerable these methods are.

Don't shut down your own channels of emotional response, inspiration, and instinct. This is a normal reaction for a person. Even if you can't reach your ideal expectations by following your feelings, it's fine. There are many ways to solve things, and it's a good choice to experience this process. We don't have to accomplish something or succeed. Even if someone tells us this, we must recognize this and tell ourselves that it is more important to feel what we feel.

When you recognize your feelings and understand your emotions, you will undoubtedly experience a range of reactions and feelings. While this may not always be comfortable, it is a normal and common emotional flow.

If you stay stuck in thinking about these modes of thinking, you'll tie your hands and prevent yourself from doing things. You'll be more concerned about whether your method can achieve the result than about experiencing the process. You'll also be very concerned about whether the result will meet expectations. This is because the result will test whether your method and thinking skills are strong and correct. Therefore, our thinking mode becomes very single-minded. Instead of enjoying the process, you're like doing an argument question to prove whether your method is correct. However, the best experience is often in the process. Many methods also come from the sparks generated in the process.

Everyone wants to be a quick thinker and decisive, but not every method can lead to a perfect result. Successful people know this, and they use it to their advantage. They review, summarize, integrate, learn from the good aspects of others, and draw lessons from the bad aspects of others. They don't dwell on the fact that one of their methods did not work; they move on. They leverage others' strengths, but they never attack, especially not themselves.

Having a method is undoubtedly beneficial, but it's also crucial to maintain flexibility in thinking. If I encounter a setback, I can swiftly adjust my approach and pursue a new solution with confidence.

Xiaowan's answer is clear and decisive:

1. [Think less, do more] Some people just do without thinking, without direction. You, on the other hand, think too much. In fact, you think so much that it has exceeded the carrying capacity of your brain. This is why your brain has begun to rebel, and that is why you feel so torn and in pain.

There is nothing wrong with thinking about anything, and it makes sense in a particular environment or context. However, you must understand that a person's energy is limited. When you allocate more energy to thinking, it will inevitably affect your ability to do things.

In normal circumstances, you should think less and do more, or think and do at the same time. If you think too much, you will not be able to act accordingly. This is idle thinking, which only makes you feel tired and confused.

2. [Focus on the goal] The feelings, inspirations, and instincts you mentioned are not accurate. You cannot rely on them. Only someone who has made the accurate answers part of themselves and turned them into their instincts can do so. At this time, you can trust your feelings, inspirations, and instincts.

You need to become that person. You need to be fast, accurate, and thorough. Make your whole being a powerful flashlight or laser, with pinpoint accuracy and concentrated energy. Focus all your energy on what you need to do most. You'll feel more relaxed.

A careful reading of the text suggests that the questioner may unconsciously perceive himself as having the "strongest brain" and "strongest thinking."

When reality makes the questioner realize that perhaps they do not possess the "strongest brain" or "strongest thinking," they nevertheless remain skeptical, questioning whether their lack of demonstration of these attributes is due to an inherent deficiency in their "mind" rather than external factors.

"1. When attempting to solve mathematical problems, if a solution is not immediately apparent, I will continue to think about it, even if it takes an extended period of time, until a result is reached." Is the questioner primarily concerned with acquiring knowledge, or is he primarily concerned with demonstrating his own intellectual capabilities?

Articles 2 to 6 collectively demonstrate that the questioner ascribes significant value to and holds a strong conviction in the capabilities of his "most powerful brain" and "strongest thinking." This sentiment bears resemblance to the concept of "mysterious confidence."

As a result of this "mysterious confidence," the questioner exhibits a lack of belief in both the most primitive and the most advanced biological instincts. This lack of belief extends to his own feelings, inspirations, and instincts. What if they are not accurate?

In the absence of a definitive source of cognitive processes, it is unsurprising that the questioner experiences difficulties in engaging in rapid and comprehensive thought. It is, therefore, unsurprising that their actions are often characterised by a lack of organisation and coherence.

What experiences has the questioner had in the past that have led to this high valuation of the act of thinking?

The questioner's age is unknown, but the fact that the questioner is stating this now indicates that the mind is exhibiting signs of rebellion against itself. This phenomenon can be described as a form of self-help.

The mind is the supreme commander, but the decisions of this supreme commander are informed by the information collected and provided by the whole body. Treating all parts of the body, thinking, and feelings kindly and equally, and coordinating their full efforts, may facilitate the development of the questioner into an individual who thinks quickly, accurately, and thoroughly.

I am sincerely convinced that my reply has been of some help to you. Best wishes,

Hello, host!

I just wanted to give you a big hug from afar!

I can tell you're really serious about learning and improving your abilities! You're always asking questions when you're doing math, thinking about things in a new way when you're training your body, and focusing on new methods and approaches when you're doing other things.

I totally get it. Not being able to stop thinking can really take a toll on you. It can leave you feeling tired, stuck on a particular problem-solving path, and unable to trust your instincts, like your feelings. It's also natural to admire people who are quick-witted and comprehensive.

I don't know your education, major, or age, but I'm excited to share some thoughts based on what you've told me. Welcome! I'm looking forward to discussing and making progress together.

People have two treasures: their hands and their brains.

You're a thinker! You love the feeling of finally getting that right answer through thinking. It's so satisfying! I bet that's why you keep using this method.

You want to be strong and have high expectations of yourself, which is great! You want to tap not only your brain's potential, but also your body's strength potential, which is wonderful!

(I'm guessing you're a boy, right?)

What else is important to you, besides your brain and body?

Your feelings and emotions are so important!

Our bodies are truly amazing! Feelings and emotions affect so many things in our bodies, like the connections between neurons, the secretion of glands, and the regulation of sympathetic and parasympathetic nerves. People with a high level of sensitivity are more aware of external things, can capture details better, and "keep an eye on six roads and an ear on all sides." How can we enhance our sensitivity?

Meditation is a great way to do this! You should definitely give it a try.

Emotions are also very important for everyone. It's important to remember that there's no such thing as a "good" or "bad" emotion. What matters is having a calm and stable emotional state, which helps our brains to function better and our thinking to be more agile. The first step in emotional regulation is to feel and accept, which can also be strengthened through practice.

2. I'd love to know if you have the following beliefs:

I must be smart and strong.

I really must write the correct answer to this question!

I must be clever.

I must do everything well.

I must be better than others, don't you think?

...

If you do, I'm really sorry, but these are just "unreasonable beliefs."

Nobody's perfect, and nobody's good at everything.

You are perfect just the way you are! Love yourself!

When you feel tired, take a little break. When you feel like playing, go have some fun!

It's okay if you didn't finish the problem. We all have to rest sometimes! Just try to find the right balance.

I'm here to help you relax. Let me help you trust your feelings, your inspiration, and your instincts.

Hey there, friend. What are you afraid of?

"I'm afraid no one will love me, that I'm not worthy of love, that I'll be abandoned, that I'll be rejected..." Oh, sweetheart, don't be afraid of that. You are worthy of love. You will be loved. You will not be abandoned or rejected.

You deserve to be loved, you own yourself, and you love yourself. You are worthy of love, just as you are.

I really, truly hope you have a free, carefree, and happy life!

I just wanted to say, "This late night, the world and I love you."

P.S. I really think you'd enjoy the book The Body Knows the Answer by Wu Zhihong. It's full of new perspectives and ideas!

Dear

Life requires order and spontaneity. It is precisely the rich diversity that makes us so three-dimensional and vivid. Don't be too demanding, and don't belittle yourself. You might not be the brightest star in the night sky, but you're still a star. Just as the brightest star seems much smaller because it is so far away from the earth, and another slightly brighter star is covered by dark clouds the moment you look up, and there is still a star that happens to hide its light in the moonlight... So among many such reasons, we find and identify the brightest star in our hearts.

But the truth is the truth, and our feelings don't represent reality. The brightest star can be confirmed according to absolute brightness, and this result won't change due to clouds, the moon, or distance. This is the dialectic between law and perception.

We're constantly rolling in the red dust, sharpening our understanding of events, and exploring the essence and laws of things in the hope of finding universal truth. But this doesn't stop us from changing our ideas and discovering new things. It's these imperfections that remind us that we're growing and will continue to grow.

Exercise is mental gymnastics, while sports are physical practice. They have internal and external effects, and some of them are mutually reinforcing, such as strengthening the body and developing the mind. Feelings are either stress-related physiological reactions or metaphysical mental manifestations. Thinking is intangible, and it is the trajectory or law of operation tracked by neurology.

Within this framework, trying to restrict these behaviors or concepts with external forces or certain rules is a process of exploration in itself. This exploration must be implemented in a theoretical way. Everything has its own method. If you go with the flow, you'll get there in time. If you go against it, you'll definitely be hindered.

So, the exploration process is bound to be full of uncertainties.

These variables include whether the external force itself is reasonable, whether the external force matches the corresponding object, and whether the audience itself will start this exploration in the right way at the right time. Think of it this way: there are millions of roads and thousands of means of transportation to reach a destination. As a pilgrim, whether you can really achieve what you want depends not necessarily on whether the road and the means of transportation you choose are impassable, but on whether the sacred place itself is in a state of war and cannot be reached. However, this does not undermine the pilgrim's piety, because a true pilgrimage is always a cleansing and purification of the soul.

Don't dwell on what you can't do or what you've done wrong. Follow your heart's desires and try your best in the best way you can. If you make a mistake, even if it doesn't help you get to the right answer any faster, at least you've reduced the chance of making the same mistake again. Don't be too hard on yourself. Live in the present and be the best you can be today.

Every day, every hour, every moment, remind yourself that you are already wonderful.

Have you heard about this year's college entrance exam math problem? It's incredibly difficult! But some people still got high scores of 149 or even 150 points! How did they do it? It might have something to do with their usual character, way of thinking, and some skills for doing problems.

The great thing about doing exercises and thinking in a sports-like way is that everyone is actually in different conditions, which makes it really exciting!

When you feel a little problematic in your mind, it's a great idea to consider whether you have some worries, some anxieties, or some tendency towards perfectionism. Some topics may not be that difficult, but they are more flexible, which is great! We couldn't find a solution at the time, but in fact, we can put it aside for now. There's no need to dwell on it, so let's move on to something else!

If you keep thinking about it and even spend the whole day on it, then in this case you may waste a lot of time. But don't worry! We can use this time to do other questions, so that we can get a higher score overall. And in physical exercise, you are always thinking about how to exert more strength.

Your body is your strength! Your body and your mind are inextricably linked. It's time to look at problems in a new way. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts! Take a gestalt approach to everything around you.

Our free will is an amazing thing! It gives us the power to serve our body. In an age of dialectical materialism, our body is actually very important. The body determines our psychology, and our will in turn affects our physical condition. When you do the exercises, constantly reminding yourself of this will make you expend a lot of energy. It'll also make it impossible to focus your attention on the exercises themselves, which is a good thing because it means you're really engaged with them!

In fact, if you see the title, just go for it! No matter what the method, a black cat or a white cat that catches mice is good. It doesn't matter if the cat catches a male or a simple question, as long as you can find a solution and answer it, it's actually very good!

Even if you can't believe your own senses, you can still see your lack of confidence. And that's okay!

You may always want to be perfect and thorough, but that's okay! Wise people make mistakes, and we can't possibly consider every situation. That's why it's so important to prevent problems before they arise and do your best with what you have!

Just take it all in!

You can't be perfect, but you can definitely aim for excellence! There are also some things you shouldn't say to yourself all the time.

For example, negative self-talk, criticism of yourself, or thinking that you are not good enough—writing these words may subtly affect your self-confidence. But don't worry! You can easily overcome this challenge.

Once you've got your self-confidence back, you'll be able to face these problems in the future with confidence. You'll be able to tackle them head on and work more efficiently. In the future, when doing problems, we should also try to be direct.

Seeing it makes me want to make it! If I can't make it, no problem. We can put it aside for now and come back to it later. Sometimes we need an epiphany or inspiration to get us through. And we have to believe in our own inspiration! If you can make it, it's great! I also recommend that you talk to a psychological counselor or your school's psychological teacher to help you relax, and you can also practice meditation and mindfulness. Good luck!

ZQ?

From your description, it is evident that you possess a strong sense of control.

It is my assessment that you are not like a living person, but rather a machine that is manipulated and running at high speed, busy and passive.

It appears that this is not your objective. You are required to adhere to specific rules and solve problems in a prescribed manner.

If no results are achieved, you may perceive the situation as becoming unmanageable, particularly in relation to tasks such as homework or physical training.

You place such a high value on this process of control that you neglect the matter itself. It may appear as though you are seeking a solution to the problem, but in reality, you are simply following instructions to complete the process.

Alternatively, you may be seeking solutions within established patterns and methods.

Despite your efforts to identify solutions and reasons, you may still encounter difficulties.

This is likely influenced by your early experiences, and it's possible you had a nurturing figure in your childhood.

He does not permit you to have your own thoughts; he only allows you to follow his. He will continually negate your thoughts and actions, making it difficult for you to believe in yourself.

As a result, you do not trust your feelings, instincts, or inspirations because they were never permitted or endorsed. Instead, they were repeatedly suppressed and denied.

This approach limits your capacity for independent thought and undermines your self-belief, leading you to align with the nurturer's expectations. You relinquish your individual perspectives and actions, instead following the nurturer's directives.

You may feel as though there is something amiss with your cognitive processes. It is possible that your mind has never truly engaged in independent thought, but has instead been operating in accordance with the directives of the nurturer.

They require that you perform to a higher standard than they do, while simultaneously insisting that you comply with their directives.

They only accept the version of you that has become more polished and refined, rather than embracing your authentic self, which can lead to feelings of discontent and an inability to fully accept your true self.

For instance, you may aspire to be perceived as an individual who thinks rapidly, yet you may be unaware that individuals who think rapidly frequently communicate based on their intuition and emotions.

In many cases, one's intuition and feelings are the most reliable indicators of truth and accuracy.

It is possible that the nurturer will claim that their actions are motivated by love. However, it is more likely that they are attempting to gain security through control.

When you recognize that you are exerting undue pressure on yourself, it is advisable to take action to cease this behavior.

Take a moment to reflect: Is this truly my own idea? Whose idea is it, really?

Am I undertaking this task on behalf of another individual? Is this task truly necessary?

What are the potential consequences of not taking action?

Identifying and eliminating the source of internal dialogue will allow you to discern your authentic voice and gain insight into your genuine thoughts and emotions.

Best regards,

From the initial description, it is evident that you are experiencing overt obsessive thoughts. The key point is that you are consistently

The aforementioned idea or action is repeated on numerous occasions.

To meet specific standards. In reality, individuals with obsessive-compulsive tendencies are frequently individuals with elevated expectations of themselves and aspirations for perfection.

Additionally, genetics play a role. Therefore, it is important to recognize that having this kind of obsessive thinking is not inherently problematic. However, to maintain optimal functioning, it is essential to actively adjust one's mentality. Otherwise, over time, it can evolve into an obsessive-compulsive disorder that affects one's normal lives.

1. Allow yourself the space to work at your own pace.

Many patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder hope to achieve a certain goal or confirm something by repeatedly reaffirming it. If you do not force yourself to think over and over again, it will cause you discomfort.

Anxiety levels directly impact the severity of obsessive thoughts.

This is an unproductive cycle. Its main source is the sense of urgency brought to you by unattainable or unconfirmable goals.

It is therefore important to be flexible in your approach and to adjust your expectations accordingly.

For instance, when attempting to solve mathematical problems, if a suitable solution is not immediately apparent, it is common to persist in attempting to find one until the end of the day. This is an example of an obsessive thought that forces the individual to achieve a specific goal.

To enable effective adaptation, this approach requires a more flexible and accommodating mindset. It is not essential to achieve a specific result.

You may wish to set this challenging issue aside for the time being and attend to other matters. You can address this complex issue at a later stage when you have more time.

As a final option, you may choose to simply ignore the issue. Given the limited impact it will have on your life, this may be the most efficient course of action.

It would be beneficial to allow yourself some flexibility and reduce the pressure you are placing on yourself. A relaxed atmosphere can help to ease tension.

This approach will not exacerbate your obsessive thinking.

2. Cease striving for perfection.

From the second problem you described, it can be seen that you are a person who sets high standards for yourself and even pursues perfection. This leads to a lot of effort, and you are still not satisfied. It is important to rely on your technique rather than relying on your physical strength to achieve the desired result.

This is an overly critical approach. Even if the desired result is achieved, the process and method remain important.

In today's complex business environment, it is often the case that a variety of approaches can lead to the same outcome.

If you are excessively particular about a specific detail, it can result in physical and mental fatigue. It can also increase psychological pressure and mental burden, which may exacerbate obsessive thinking.

It is therefore advisable to relax your demands on yourself a little and to accept that perfection is unattainable in every detail. It would be prudent to bear in mind the profound meaning of the Chinese proverb, "It is better to be ignorant than to be wise."

As long as the overall situation is acceptable, it is not necessary to concern yourself with the process, which is of secondary importance. It is not feasible to devote attention to every minor detail.

3. Eliminate impatience.

Your mind will continually suggest solutions, but your attention is not on the task at hand. This can result in suboptimal performance and fatigue. When faced with a challenge, you may seek immediate answers and solutions.

As is evident from this passage, your obsessive thinking has caused emotional unrest and impatience. Attempting to solve a problem results in a decreased ability to solve it, which in turn leads to further thinking about the problem. This cycle of negative thinking results in fatigue.

This will also result in an impatience to identify the root cause and implement a solution without delay.

It is evident that you have fallen into a vicious cycle of cognitive biases, which has resulted in the aforementioned symptoms.

The most effective approach is to remain calm and strive to resolve the issue at hand. If this is not possible, it may be necessary to accept defeat or temporarily set the matter aside. Gradually, one should aim to achieve a state of calm and avoid pushing oneself too hard, as this can exacerbate negative emotions.

4. The formation and cultivation of a thinking system

I place the greatest value on my thinking skills. I invest a great deal of time in developing them, but they are not a professional skill in themselves.

I am similarly unable to trust my feelings, inspirations, and instincts. What if they are not accurate?

These two points can be summarized as one question: the formation and cultivation of a thinking system. Further information on this topic can be found in books on time management planning and thinking cultivation.

It is important to allow yourself to learn how to respond and think about problems in a systematic manner. In essence, responses to common situations should be divided into the following major areas:

Please list all potential solutions.

2. Select and prioritize the solutions presented above.

3. Prioritize solutions to address problems.

4. Summarize and refine the issues that arise during the problem-solving process.

This process can assist in organizing your thoughts and applying the insights gained from previous experiences to address new challenges. It will train your mind to think logically, enabling you to respond effectively to similar problems.

5. Accept yourself.

Solution: Think quickly. What if you don't think of everything? However, I cannot accept that I am not quick-witted, as this would reflect poorly on me in situations where speed is of the essence.

How do individuals with rapid, precise, and comprehensive cognitive abilities achieve this?

The issue you have raised should be considered from two different perspectives.

Social anxiety

Feel that your performance is inadequate and fear being ridiculed by others. Be perceived as unintelligent by others

As a result, you may experience feelings of panic.

It is important to accept that you are not as proficient as others in your field. Concurrently, it is essential to recognize that you are neither the least nor the most skilled in your industry.

It is essential to learn to accept yourself properly.

When you encounter individuals who are more experienced or skilled than you, observe and learn from their approaches to improve your own performance. Avoid allowing self-doubt or negative emotions to hinder your progress.

Furthermore, there is the concern of being laughed at by others.

2. Desire to have an excellent thinking system

You wish to be able to think quickly and thoroughly, you admire people who have this ability, and you want to know how they do it. This reflects your dissatisfaction with your current situation and your desire to improve.

While taking the initiative is a positive attribute, it is important not to be overly critical of oneself. The formation of a way of thinking is the result of years of accumulation and cannot be accomplished in a short period of time.

This is closely tied to your upbringing, social circle, and the experiences you have had. If you are looking to improve yourself in the short term, I can provide a suggestion that may not yield immediate results, but will undoubtedly enhance your mindset.

This method is designed to enhance one's communication skills by studying the language behaviors of others and understanding their impact.

For instance, if you believe that someone has been particularly considerate in addressing a matter, consider the words they used that made you feel positive and identify the main point of the sentence.

Please provide examples of other scenarios in which this kind of rhetoric could be applied. Additionally, what actions did he take during the interaction with others to facilitate the smooth development of the matter?

Through such analysis, you can gain insight into the communication skills and social experiences of others. When faced with similar challenges, you can apply these insights to navigate the situation effectively.

This process allows individuals to leverage the experiences of others to enhance their own skillsets, ultimately leading to an improvement in their social abilities.

Finally, I hope you will not place undue pressure on yourself. Learn to temporarily set aside some things.

It is important to allow yourself some leeway and avoid allowing obsessive thoughts to exert undue pressure. This will have a detrimental effect on your performance.

You may wish to consider undertaking meditation training. This will enable you to achieve a state of calm.

Once your emotions have been stabilized and you have achieved a state of physical and mental relaxation, you will notice a positive shift in your overall outlook.

From your description, I get the impression that you are someone who pays particular attention to methods and techniques. This is a great quality! Having a methodology for doing things gives you a clear idea of what to do and makes you feel confident in your work. However, there are many different methods, and the simplest ones are not always the easiest to find. Sometimes, paying too much attention to methodology can be counterproductive.

I remember a story about a production line that produced a certain product mixed with some sand and other debris. A top student designed a complex dust removal mechanism to remove impurities, which took a lot of time, energy, and money. Meanwhile, an illiterate old farmer made a simple suggestion: buy a high-powered electric fan and blow it hard, and the sand and impurities will be blown away! All it cost was buying an electric fan.

Sometimes, the more knowledge we have, the more complex our thinking becomes. But don't worry! It is not easy to return to a simple mode of thinking.

Instead of spending mental energy searching for more solutions, it is better to let go of many thoughts in your mind, bring your attention back to the present, focus all your energy on the task at hand, empty out the distractions of other thoughts, and observe the surroundings and the task itself. Our mind is like a cup, and emptying it of its contents allows you to let in more energy!

Go out into nature! Relax and soak up the inspiration and order in all the natural things. Every flower is special and beautiful, every bird has its own unique shape and chirp, and every leaf is different. We are also a part of all things in nature! Get close to nature and return to a simple state. Stop wasting energy thinking too much. You'll find yourself with more strength, inspiration, and wisdom!