Forced association problem: seeing something will cause obsessive thoughts. How do you solve this?

Hello, host.

From the landlord's description, it seems that some of the difficulties may be related to an overactive imagination.

In such instances, when we encounter emotions and phenomena that are beyond our control,

It would be helpful for you to take some time to reflect on your own experiences and consider the reasons behind this situation.

In a situation like the original poster's, it's possible that being imaginative could lead to a sense of being there and make you daydream.

If it is just a temporary association, it will likely pass in time without causing any discomfort. This is a normal occurrence.

If you find yourself constantly immersed in this state of discomfort, which affects your normal study, work, and life,

It would be advisable to be vigilant and pay attention to whether you have entered an overly sensitive state.

How might such situations be relieved?

It may be helpful to try to become aware of and recognize the facts when you enter the imagination.

If you find yourself entering a mode of imagination without realizing it and feeling uncomfortable,

It might be helpful to notice and tell yourself that it is just imagination, not reality.

It may be helpful to distinguish between imagination and reality in order to alleviate distress caused by imagination.

It may be helpful to consider thinking in a more positive direction to avoid negative emotions.

You might find it helpful to try thinking about things in a positive way, even if you are faced with a difficult problem.

Perhaps it would be helpful to remind yourself that things will work out, so you can focus on the task at hand.

It may be helpful to avoid dwelling on negative emotions and instead focus on positive ways to move forward.

Perhaps it would be helpful to divert your attention and try not to dwell on the situation.

If you are unable to dispel the distress caused by your imagination, it may be helpful to turn your attention to something else.

You might find it helpful to take some deep breaths, do a few simple stretches, or go for a walk. Distraction can be a good way to shift your focus away from the imaginary world.

It would be wise to avoid a seemingly bottomless pit-like decline, where problems can sometimes get deeper and deeper, trapping you.

Could I perhaps inquire as to the number of thoughts you have in a day?

Researchers at Queen's University in the United States recently posed this question and received the following answer:

It is estimated that everyone has approximately 6,200 thoughts per day.

If we were to care about every thought and live in our imaginations all day, we might lose sight of the important things we need to do.

Everyone has imagination, and it can be beneficial to use it in real life.

It would be wise to adjust one's mentality appropriately to avoid unnecessary trouble, as excessive imagination can cause problems in life.

I wish you all the best in your endeavors and a happy life!

I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to send you a little reminder to take care of yourself and the world around you. I love you both!

Hello! I'm Qu Huidong, your friendly counselor who loves to speak in images.

I was thrilled to receive an invitation to review your question!

After reading your question and the responses from other respondents, I was really excited to dive in and answer it!

One word really stood out for me: "nausea."

Guess what? The word "nausea" is mentioned many times in the text!

I'm really curious to know if this feeling is a physical reaction or a deeper psychological disgust.

It doesn't matter what level you're at!

The great news is that this feeling is there to protect you!

We know it's full of disease-causing bacteria, and we can do something about it!

And the great news is that we know it is full of disease-causing bacteria!

The amazing thing about disgust is that it keeps us away from things that could harm us, protecting us from harm!

If we look at "disgust" from a symbolic perspective,

I truly believe it's connected to the purity of the soul!

And it protects our souls from harm!

Nausea is an amazing thing! It can trigger a strong aversion to the dirt of those farthest from your social circle.

and protect your spiritual purity!

Seeing its protective mechanism may be just the thing to relieve you!

But you're wondering how you can solve it!

In your problem description, you also used the word "obsessive," which is great because it shows you're on the right track!

If this is a form of mental compulsion,

We really need to talk to a counselor further!

If we can have the chance to sort things out and find the courage to face them,

We can absolutely find a way to protect ourselves more effectively!

And the best part is, you don't have to limit yourself to forcing yourself to imagine and avoid them!

Of course, if you're not ready to see a counselor, that's okay!

You can also try writing down these thoughts!

Write them down without judgment or evaluation — you can do it!

Absolutely! Let's acknowledge their existence.

But don't let them get stuck in your mind!

Once you've written them down, tell yourself: "These thoughts are here, and I can handle them!"

And then, get excited! Ask yourself: What would I like to do right now?

Or what did I want to do just before writing?

And then, go for it!

If those "nasty" thoughts come back,

Just keep recording them!

By keeping a record over a period of time, you can really see the changes!

And you'll be thrilled to see that

And the best part is, they'll change in frequency!

It doesn't matter if they increase or decrease!

You've got to experience it for yourself!

We can't wait to hear what you have to say!

Best regards!

Hello, question asker, I can totally feel your inner helplessness and confusion from your description.

It's totally normal to test yourself with your imagination about how you'd react to some pretty unusual situations. And it's only when you feel disgusted that you feel like you're back in the zone.

It's totally normal to worry that you'll break the rules of ethics and fall in love with the wrong person.

It's totally normal to feel confused when you're facing these issues. It's okay to wonder why it is like this and how to solve it.

I think that perhaps, on the one hand, you have experienced a lot of groundless accusations and reproaches about ethics, which must have been really tough for you. It's understandable if you feel speechless, helpless, and angry.

On the other hand, living in such an environment for a long time can make you wonder if you really are the kind of person who would do such a thing.

It's totally normal to feel afraid of doing something you're not allowed to do.

☺️ It would be really helpful for you to try to become aware of where the judgment of "disgusting" comes from.

It would really help you to understand why you feel disgusted when you start to imagine compulsively. Have you ever thought about what makes you think something is disgusting?

I'd love to know where these standards come from and if you think they're correct.

I'm curious, when you feel disgusted and feel reassured about the current situation, what do you want to prove with your disgust? And to whom?

When you're watching a love movie, it's so interesting how your mind works! You might imagine the woman is your mother, and then you lose interest.

I get the feeling you have some unresolved issues with your mother. It's totally normal to have mixed feelings about our mums, and it's not always easy to express them.

☟️I just want to check in and see if this is something you're experiencing, or if it's something someone else is going through.

Oh, don't you worry about that! There's no reason to think you'd like your aunt, cousin, or same-sex partner.

Maybe someone in your life has been through something similar and been severely accused, cursed, and insulted.

Some folks say that their relationships with these people are like having an unethical relationship with them.

And as this matter was brought up again and again, you started to agree with these statements.

You want to be different from those people, and you feel that it is wrong and disgusting.

You even start to wonder if you really would think like that. It's totally normal to feel this way! We all have thoughts that we don't like, and it's only natural to want to reassure ourselves that we're not like those people.

I wonder, are all so-called ethics and morals correct?

I think it's so important to look at ethics from a neutral position. It can be a great moral restraint! It's as if people have drawn a huge circle, with the inside representing what is conforming, appropriate, permissible, justified, and correct, and the outside representing "chaos."

On the one hand, we really need to think further: where do the standards of ethics come from? Are they necessarily correct?

On the other hand, we have to ask ourselves: did the disgusting, unethical behavior really happen, or is it just the worry of some people, or the suppression of others by some people in order to maintain their authority?

It's so important to remember that you don't need to prove anything to anyone. And it's absolutely fine to see your true feelings and treat yourself kindly.

Wishing you all the best!

Good day, question asker. My name is Evan.

From the questioner's own description, it can be inferred that the questioner often has thoughts of incest, which arise in certain special situations. My initial assessment is that the questioner may have experienced a delay in his sexual development during the Oedipus period (ages 3-6), which has resulted in the questioner remaining in this developmental phase.

It must be acknowledged that this is merely my preliminary assessment. The particular circumstances necessitate that the questioner personally evaluate the situation.

The Oedipus complex is also known as the Electra complex. According to psychological theory, young children in this period begin to seek sexual objects from the external world. Initially, this object is the parents, with boys choosing their mother as the object and girls often choosing their father. In this situation, the boy has long since developed a special tenderness towards his mother, regarding her as his own.

As children mature, they encounter a greater number of individuals of the opposite sex, which serves to diminish the intensity of the Oedipus complex. However, there are instances where individuals may not successfully navigate this phase and remain fixated on the Oedipus dynamic. When they reach adulthood, this incest complex persists, becoming a central aspect of their internal conflicts and contradictions. On one hand, the subconscious may desire this, yet the conscious mind may not permit it. This fear results in the repression of socially unacceptable feelings within the subconscious, yet they persist in attempting to emerge from this state of confinement.

This internal conflict between opposing desires can give rise to psychological issues.

In light of these considerations, it is this author's recommendation that the questioner pursue psychological counseling in order to facilitate the resolution of this complex issue. Given the constraints of this particular platform, a comprehensive discussion of the matter is not feasible. However, some guidance can be provided regarding the questioner's obsessive thoughts.

It is recommended that the questioner avoid any stimuli that may elicit obsessive thoughts.

The questioner indicated that when viewing romantic action films, they would mentally associate with their mother or aunt, and when watching men engaged in athletic pursuits, they would mentally associate with their attractive physical movements. It is therefore recommended that the questioner avoid such stimuli and films that may evoke obsessive thoughts.

Firstly, it is imperative to remove oneself from situations or environments that elicit negative associations. By eliminating external stimuli that trigger these associations, the obsessive thoughts will eventually cease to manifest. However, if one becomes fixated and addicted to such thoughts, it will require significant effort to dislodge them.

One must refrain from self-indulgence.

It is important to exercise restraint and avoid indulging in these thoughts too readily. While imagining certain scenes may initially evoke excitement, if the questioner becomes accustomed to this, it may become easier to become overly invested in these thoughts.

One must learn to resist one's desires and refrain from indulging them. When the subject encounters certain stimulating scenarios, it will experience a conflict of emotions.

If one desires to restrain one's thoughts, yet one's mind is immersed in them and one is unable to disengage, it is inadvisable to exert excessive pressure upon oneself. It is a time-consuming process to overcome one's thoughts. One may attempt to distract oneself, but this will require additional time to avoid one's obsessive thoughts.

It is advisable to engage in a distracting activity.

In some cases, there are factors that are beyond an individual's control, such as viewing a romantic film. In such instances, the individual may unintentionally form negative associations, which can be effectively addressed through appropriate distraction.

It is inadvisable to attempt to resist or suppress the emergence of negative thoughts. Doing so may exacerbate their intensity. The more prudent course of action is to promptly engage in an alternative activity that will divert one's attention.

For example, engaging in competitive sports, running, or other activities that require concentration can be effective. Activities that involve both hands and feet may also be beneficial.

It is advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified professional in the field of psychology.

In the event that the questioner is unable to alter their maladaptive associations and the thoughts of incest continue to cause significant distress, it may be beneficial to seek the guidance of a professional psychological counselor. Humanistic and behavioral therapies are two approaches that may be particularly helpful in addressing these concerns.

Humanistic therapy is fundamentally oriented toward the promotion of the issues that the questioner has consolidated in the Oedipus complex, facilitating the questioner's ability to identify the root of the problem and engage in personal growth. In contrast, behavioral therapy can serve to minimize the association between obsessive thoughts and daily triggers, disrupt the current obsessive thoughts of the questioner, and allow for a shift in focus toward other concerns.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the inquirer.

Hello question asker

Everything starts with a beginning. When did the questioner first imagine?

The questioner's imagination may be full of things about his own life that he has never seen.

It's new to think about your own life. The examples given by the original poster all make you feel sick.

The questioner doesn't like to imagine these things, but is afraid that he will become what he dislikes. By testing himself and producing disgusting reactions, he tells himself that he cannot become like that.

The world is changing fast, and there's too much information. Did the questioner read inappropriate books as a child or teenager?

Some videos have scenes like the one imagined by the questioner. Pyramid schemes try to attract attention to make a profit. Some articles don't consider the healthy growth of young people.

If you're affected too, try watching a good film or reading a good book. Learn from heroes. You'll find something meaningful.

I recommend The Social Animal and Mr. Toad Goes to Therapy.

Go outside and enjoy nature. Don't get caught up in idle thoughts.

Integrate knowledge and action to avoid regret, shame, and guilt.

I hope this helps.

Good question.

After reading your description, I can see that you're struggling with some inner worries and distress. It's clear that you're having a hard time accepting your obsessive thoughts about mostly ethical issues. I think you may feel that such thoughts are immoral and unhealthy, and you're afraid that you have some psychological problems.

If you want to resolve this situation, you need to think carefully about why you have these thoughts. What happened at the start of these thoughts? How did the events affect you?

There are a few reasons why we might have these kinds of obsessive associations. You can think about them yourself, but they might not be completely accurate. If you want to understand the psychological reasons behind this, you should speak to a professional psychologist who can do a detailed analysis based on a full understanding of your personal development.

1. Unacceptability of one's current behavior and feelings of shame about sex and love. For example, if you are watching an erotic movie and suddenly associate the woman in the movie with your own mother, you will lose interest. You can get back into the plot later, but it still has an impact on your enjoyment of it.

So why did you imagine your mother in the middle, which made you feel uninterested? Could it be that you can't accept yourself for watching romantic movies? Maybe you got a very strict education since childhood, and your family members have also expressed disgust about this. Or perhaps you've seen or experienced incidents in which others were rebuked, rejected, disgusted, or punished because of sex or love.

As we grow up, we all experience curiosity and a need for sex and love. This can lead to feelings of conflict and rebellion. Sometimes, we may even rebel silently by imagining other ethical situations. This is often a way of challenging our own beliefs about sex and love.

2. The desire to form close, personal relationships with others, but not having the opportunity to do so. In early adulthood, our life's task is to gain a sense of intimacy and resist loneliness, so there is a very strong desire within us to form close, personal relationships.

If we don't have the chance to form close relationships and meet our need for intimacy, we might focus more on the people around us or on characters in films and TV shows. Maybe it's just a certain quality in these people that attracts our attention and admiration, but we immediately become alert, wondering if this kind of attention and admiration is wrong. So we imagine having an unethical relationship with them to make us feel disgusted.

3. Our minds are wired to imagine things, and there are benefits to this. For instance, it helps us to understand our own reactions. If we imagine something that makes us feel uneasy, it shows us that we're not alone in feeling this way. It also helps us to identify if we have any deeper issues.

You don't see that you have a psychological mechanism for admiring and loving others, so you doubt yourself. Then you imagine an unusual relationship that makes you feel disgusted, which proves that you are fine.

It's a good idea to think about why you have these obsessive thoughts and then deal with them in a way that works for you. Often, once you understand why you're feeling this way, you can let go of your inner unease and focus on it less, and the situation will gradually improve.

Based on the analysis above, I have a few suggestions for the questioner to try:

1. Think about what you need sexually and emotionally and look for someone who can give you that in an intimate relationship.

It's normal to have sexual and emotional needs. Some traditional Chinese ideas and ways of teaching can make us feel bad about this, but as long as we don't hurt anyone or harm our own health, it's OK to meet our needs in a reasonable way. There's no need to feel ashamed of having these feelings and acting on them. You might not have had many chances to get close to other people, so you've focused on things you like around you. Now you can try to make more friends, meet new people, and find someone to share your life with.

2. Try to distinguish between different preferences, accept your imagination, and focus on other things.

You don't have to take your obsessive thoughts too seriously. As you've said, you find these imagined scenarios disgusting, which shows you don't have a problem with them. It's possible that your admiration for your aunt, cousin, and same-sex crush is just a general, non-sexual fondness that you've exaggerated.

When you notice that you're imagining again, just become aware of it and let it go. Laugh it off. Distract yourself with other things and get back to your normal routine.

Once you understand the reason behind these thoughts and realize that they're not necessary for proving yourself, they'll stop.

The above analysis and suggestions are based on the questioner's description. The questioner can make a judgment based on their actual situation. If they feel that it is not correct, they can discuss it with us, or consider the answers of other questioners, or seek professional psychological counseling for analysis and treatment.

I hope the person asking the question can understand their own motives and needs and think about them in a logical way.

Hello. I am an intern counselor and family counselor. Thank you for sharing your feelings and giving me the opportunity to practice. I will analyze the limited content you provided and give you some suggestions. I am confident that they will help you.

First,

You see intimate scenes in movies and think of your mother, mistaking the female protagonist for your mother, and then quickly reacting with disgust. This is clearly related to your experiences. Think back to yourself. When you were a child, did you hear rumors about your mother being bad in this regard, which left a bad impression on you?

Second,

You fantasize about your cousin, aunt, or even the same sex, which proves you're male. I don't know if you're in late adolescence, longing for a beautiful love, but also incredibly shy inside, afraid to try it and even feeling disgusted. Is that it?

Third

You are in a state of anxiety and confusion. I don't know if you usually like to read, or if you read those unhealthy books about sex with your adolescent friends, which made you both excited and unable to let go of the constraints of morality and conscience. You are afraid to try, but you are also very eager and full of curiosity.

Fourth

If you have all three of these things, you are very healthy. It's just that your own psychology is in a tug-of-war, you have a wrong understanding of sex, and bad remarks about your mother have created psychological barriers for you, forcing you to be anxious and causing you to be like this.

Fifth

You long for love, but cognitive biases make you anxious. In your perception, love is sacred and cannot be tarnished, while sex is dirty, evil, and should not exist. The truth is that love is a sacred and intangible thing, while sex is beautiful, imbued with meaning, and an indispensable part of the important task of reproduction. Love is only a spiritual pursuit, while sex is the bridge between love and reproduction.

Sixth

You need to talk to your father about what the meaning of sex is. If he refuses or evades the question, it means he probably won't give you an answer. Find a counselor to talk to about your current situation. Change your inherent perceptions of love and sex, loosen the shackles that hold your mind and spirit too tightly, and return to the correct concepts.

You will break free from your shackles. Go for it!

It is noteworthy that certain thoughts may manifest in one's mind with a sense of involuntariness. While this phenomenon is transient and is unlikely to have a significant impact on one's life, it is understandable that it may evoke feelings of confusion and a desire for change.

It is challenging to confront and manage one's own negative emotions. Let us collaborate to identify strategies for addressing this challenge.

One must accept these emotions, acknowledge their presence, and maintain a state of awareness and acceptance.

One must first accept oneself in the presence of these emotions.

One should endeavor to avoid forcing oneself to change or to dislike oneself, and instead strive to coexist with these emotions.

The objective is to accept the reality that such experiences may arise in one's life, while still striving to engage in typical social interactions without exacerbating the negative effects. In essence, one should acknowledge the occurrence, recognize that it is not subject to immediate alteration, and choose to accommodate it while continuing to pursue the majority of typical activities.

From the aforementioned description, it can be surmised that such an understanding is not implausible.

It is important to be aware of the current state of one's mental development and to focus on the new aspects.

From the aforementioned description, it can be inferred that the thoughts which are not under one's conscious control pertain to matters of intimacy. It is unclear whether this is an exemplification of a select few of the most noteworthy thoughts one has, or if such situations frequently arise. In any case, it is recommended that one attempts to be aware of one's own thoughts and feelings.

Please describe your current feelings about intimacy.

Do you find yourself desirous of an intimate relationship?

Do the individuals in your immediate vicinity engage in intimate relationships and capture your attention?

Have you recently perused a literary work or attended a theatrical production that prompted introspection on these matters?

It is important to become self-aware and understand the rhythm of one's psychological growth at the present moment. If there is a desire for intimacy, it is beneficial to take action to facilitate its occurrence. This may entail attending more social events, engaging in more social interactions, and seeking out new acquaintances. It is possible that these actions may result in meeting someone with whom one can form a meaningful connection.

Once an intimate relationship is established, these thoughts will no longer be a source of distress.

It is recommended that you assess the situation in a positive manner and seek further professional assistance.

Furthermore, it is important to acknowledge and engage with the anxiety and fear that arise in this challenging situation.

In instances where unwelcome thoughts arise, it is important to acknowledge their presence and observe their nature. For instance, one might consider the following example:

—What would it be like to kiss one of the athletes there, given that they have attracted you as a man?

Does this sensation evoke feelings of excitement or shame?

Alternatively, could the emotion in question be fear? Is the duration of the situation controllable in all circumstances?

It is hoped that by exposing these emotions and assessing the extent to which they can be managed, it will be possible to determine whether self-healing can be achieved through the methods described above.

Should such thoughts and emotions prove uncontrollable and unavoidable, occur frequently, and the duration continue to increase, and the situation become increasingly difficult to control, it is recommended that you seek professional psychological counseling or a psychiatric medical diagnosis so that you can receive more professional help.

Each individual has their own unique method of integrating into the world. It is possible that during this particular period of time, one is compelled to perceive the world in a specific manner involuntarily and uncontrollably. However, by actively enhancing self-awareness and seeking out multiple channels of assistance, it is possible to overcome these challenges and emerge from the situation in a positive manner.

I extend my affection to the world and wish for your swift return to a state of equanimity.

From the message, it is evident that the questioner has conducted a thorough observation and reflection on his obsessive thoughts. This phenomenon also significantly impacts the questioner's daily life. It is hoped that the following information will, to some extent, facilitate a broader understanding of the questioner's perspective on effective strategies for addressing this issue.

First, it is important to assess whether the situation may have reached pathological standards. In the event that such a possibility exists, it is essential to seek medical attention in a timely manner to confirm.

The content of the original poster's message is suspected to be a manifestation of obsessive association in obsessive-compulsive disorder. However, it seems to be somewhat different.

In obsessive-compulsive disorder, the manifestation of obsessive associations is characterized by a progressive increase in anxiety when thinking about them, as well as the development of uncontrollable repetitive associations. The questioner indicated that, despite the presence of obsessive associations, "they quickly return to focusing on the actual film."

The decision to seek professional assistance is ultimately up to the individual. If such obsessive associations persist for a minimum of one hour per day and impede the individual's ability to study, live, and work normally, it is probable that they cannot be resolved through self-help alone. It is therefore advisable to seek medical treatment and undergo treatment under the guidance of a qualified professional.

Secondly, one should attempt to trace the genesis of their obsessive associations or examine their personality traits to ascertain whether there are any external factors or experiences that have contributed to the persistence of this phenomenon.

Secondly, one should examine the initial onset of obsessive thoughts or personality traits to identify any external factors or internal stimuli that have contributed to the perpetuation of this phenomenon.

The occurrence and development of human obsessive associations typically follow a specific process. In certain circumstances, anxiety is provoked, and an escape or avoidance response is initiated to mitigate the distress. For instance, by engaging with others to assess one's own response, an individual can ascertain their "normality," thereby alleviating anxiety.

Consequently, an investigation into the initial point in time when distress commenced will facilitate a more profound comprehension of one's own personality. In the event that such a recollection is not possible, it is nevertheless worthwhile to ascertain whether any inherent personality traits are inclined towards anxiety or exhibit a pronounced sense of morality.

As Hao Wei notes, the obsessive personality type described in Lu Lin's "Psychiatry" typically manifests as perfectionism, high standards of self-performance, repeated checking or reflection on the correctness of one's actions, concern about mistakes in interpersonal interactions, meticulous attention to detail, and even a methodical approach to seemingly trivial matters.

The state of these individual parts also serves to enhance our perception of continuity and to heighten our anxiety regarding this obsessive association.

Thirdly, it is advisable to refrain from attempting to resist them and to distinguish between thoughts and facts.

In the absence of a medical necessity for intervention, it may be beneficial to cultivate curiosity about these thoughts. Rather than attempting to eliminate or control their appearance, it may be more productive to observe and accept them.

One characteristic of forced association is that the more one attempts to resist it, the more one is taken hostage by the association, and the more suffocated and helpless one feels.

In the experience of the questioner, he has undergone the effects of allowing natural processes to unfold.

One might posit that the sudden imagining of the woman as one's mother would result in a momentary loss of interest, but that interest would swiftly return to the film in question.

It is estimated that humans generate up to 6W-8W thoughts daily, with the majority of these thoughts arising and dissipating. Only a minute fraction of these thoughts are retained within the conscious mind.

The thoughts that are marked by consciousness and become disturbing thoughts are biased towards ethical and moral aspects. Furthermore, when individuals feel nervous about this and feel the need to constantly pass tests to verify that they are normal, a fear of being abnormal intensifies the capture of these thoughts.

In such circumstances, one potential strategy is to regard the situation as if it were clouds in the sky, coming and going, taking on different shapes, but never actually falling from the sky.

The anxiety associated with thoughts is rooted in the fear that they may become a form of reality. When thoughts are recognized as mere ideas and placed back into their appropriate context, their influence on the individual diminishes significantly.

Thus, should the inquirer desire, they may revisit these concepts the next time an idea arises, employing the "monkey-thinking" elimination method described by Japanese scholar Ryō Kugaya in "High-efficiency Rest Methods" to assist them.

1. Identify the nature of your thoughts.

It is important to pay attention to thoughts that have been repeatedly considered. One should acknowledge the futility of such thoughts and attempt to dislodge them from one's mind.

2. Identify exceptions

One must consider whether the recurrence of a thought is due to the reiteration of a similar premise. In order to ascertain the veracity of a concern, it is essential to identify instances that contradict or challenge the assumption in question. For instance, the commentator expressed apprehension regarding the potential for moral bias.

Subsequently, one must inquire as to whether there are numerous instances in one's actual life that can substantiate the reliability of one's character. To this end, one should endeavor to identify such instances and then catalog them.

3. Adopt the perspective of a highly regarded individual.

Consider the actions of an individual you admire or a historical figure in similar circumstances.

One might consider the "thought itself"—that is, the self that has these thoughts. For example, even if one has the thought that "I might like my aunt or cousin," does it signify a problem, and are these thoughts merely facts?

Did Freud, who conducted an in-depth study of the Oedipus complex, have a method for addressing this issue?

4. It is imperative to refrain from evaluating the moral implications of any given situation.

It would be beneficial to consider whether one is judging people, things, or events using criteria that are not currently applicable. In this process, it is important to pay attention to instances of "not judging," such as instances of concern regarding one's ability to form positive relationships with individuals such as their aunt or cousin, or with individuals of the same gender. It is not necessary to evaluate these thoughts as either right or wrong, good or bad; simply noting their presence is sufficient.

5. Investigate the underlying cause.

Once these thoughts have been internalized, it is important to consider the reasons behind their recurrent appearance. It is essential to rethink these thoughts from the perspective of one's intrinsic needs.

It is important to gain an understanding of the underlying messages that these thoughts are attempting to convey.

In the preceding sections, I have not attempted to provide an exhaustive account of human nature. Instead, I have sought to offer insights from a psychological perspective, with a particular focus on the emotional well-being of individuals. I extend my best wishes to all readers.

What an intriguing question!

I think the questioner's problem can be divided into three levels, and I'm excited to look at what's really going on in a progressive way!

Let's dive into the fascinating world of sexual ethics!

In our culture, sex is a topic that's still a bit of a mystery. Whether it's related to incest or sexual minorities, it's a taboo topic in everyday life. But it's also a topic that most people have a lot of subtle feelings about, including but not limited to: an innate sexual desire, a sense of shame for violating ethics, and an instinctive resistance to fear of falling. This is a basic reaction of men and women who are concerned about food and drink, so you're not alone!

And then, the video screen automatically jumps to...

Seeing a film or TV clip automatically triggers the associations mentioned in the previous paragraph. Here, it is slightly special, as it seems to automatically jump to seemingly taboo scenes for many images, or it can be seen as the connection between fantasy and reality. And it's pretty amazing that we can do this! All we need is imagination, thinking ability, and cognitive ability.

Keep experiencing and testing yourself!

Embrace the challenge of pushing your limits and exploring the boundaries of desire and morality. Allow yourself to fully immerse in the fascinating realm where reality and fantasy intertwine. This is an incredible journey that not everyone gets to experience, and you're about to embark on something truly extraordinary.

☕️☕️☕️

The process of testing is absolutely thrilling! It's the rush of breaking taboos, the exhilaration of fantasy connecting with reality, and the exciting feeling of the tug-of-war between desire and morality.

1⃣️Sexual needs and fantasies are totally normal for adults! There's so much freedom and variety in this area. Accept yourself as a unique operator and make the most of it as a way to satisfy your sexual needs.

2⃣️If it only stays in the mind, there's no need to worry! If it affects your daily life, find something more exciting to do instead.

3⃣️Embrace the joy of developing real-life intimate relationships and let go of the illusory satisfaction.

Hello!

Your question confused me, but I admire your self-discipline. Keep up the good work!

I understand your confusion and pain. The higher your expectations, the deeper the pain. To others, this is normal, but to you, it's a problem. You're afraid of making a mistake, which is why you're in a hurry and have come here to find a solution. Hugs!

Next, I'll share my views based on what I know!

You have high expectations of yourself. Try to accept this situation. It's okay to think about your mother when watching a romantic movie. Don't blame yourself for wanting to force it. Just face it. You can go back to the movie and focus on it again. Why be so strict with yourself?

Don't have any other issues.

You want to kiss a handsome man playing basketball. Think about it. You appreciate masculinity and want to become strong and handsome. This is a connection between you and the handsome and strong. This should be your action!

Do you want to change for the better? Do you think you can forgive yourself?

You said you were worried about liking your aunt and cousin. It should be your aunt or cousin. She has feminine qualities that make you like her. But I think your worry is proof of your self-discipline. You are awe-inspiring. Not worrying is bad. You worry about yourself. Then you change because of pain. You ask a question for a reward.

You're willing to change, so don't worry about what others think. It will make you better. You don't have to worry about liking aunties and cousins. It's just their strengths that attract you. You'll look for those in women too. There are different types of likes. You can make a distinction between them. You're sensitive and willing to spend money to get help.

Don't worry about your situation. It's normal. Accept it, and it will get better. You will become strong and handsome, and you will be able to do what you like.

I love you!

Hello, I am Wanshi Ruyi. I see that your problem is forced association: seeing something will trigger forced imagination. I can help you solve this. I have seen similar situations before, and I can also see your instinctive desire to explore. I understand your helplessness and worries very well.

You said that you see something and it triggers obsessive thoughts, which make you feel sick. For example, you suddenly imagine that the woman in a romantic movie is your mother, and you lose interest instantly. But you quickly come back to focusing on the actual movie. You find a man on a video playing basketball and scoring some goals handsome, and you obsessively imagine kissing him, which makes you feel sick.

I once heard a student describe how he would have obsessive thoughts when helping someone hold a cup, making him want to break it. He tried his best to control these thoughts and then returned to reality to continue helping the person hold the cup. His thoughts and actions are very similar to yours. You need to go to the psychiatric department of a hospital for a differential diagnosis. The thoughts in your head are obsessive or compulsive. This requires a professional doctor to make a differential diagnosis. Obsessive thoughts can be treated and controlled. Go to the hospital as soon as possible for a mental health check and take control of your life.

Second, you have also summarized yourself a little, and you have a strong bias towards ethics and morality, such as worrying about liking your aunt, liking your cousin, and so on, and worrying about liking the same sex. You always use your imagination to test your own reactions.

You seem to care a lot about sex. You are at an age when you are full of energy and have a desire to explore sex. However, someone in your life may have suppressed your sexual desires or you may not be able to share them.

Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, divided the personality structure into id, ego, and superego. You want to explore sex, but at the same time you feel that sex is shameful, so you associate sex with shame. But you also always hate the idea of yourself having new thoughts. There is conflict and contradiction within you, a feeling of longing for sex but also disgust. It is your id and superego that are in conflict, making you very anxious.

Read Freud's book, "Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality," to understand sex better. Everyone is a little perverted, and children have sexual urges. You will benefit from reading it. My answer is helpful to you.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm always open to new ideas and ways of thinking.

What's the root cause of these forced associations?

❀Forced associations are basically an extension of forced thinking. They're the imagined scenarios you don't want to see but find difficult to control. This often leaves you in deep pain. You mentioned that the scenarios and directions you mainly associate with are in the area of ethics and morals. So, we need to trace back to your own life situation to find the reason why the problem has arisen.

The Ming and Qing dynasties were the most repressive times in China. They were also the times when folk culture in the field of sex developed the most. This sharp contrast makes us think about why this happened. Looking at ourselves from a historical perspective, we'll see that we're more or less the same. As long as we face it squarely, we can guide ourselves very well.

There are lots of reasons for this obsessive thinking. It's basically an external manifestation of our repressed inner emotions. As they say, the more you fear something, the more you'll see it. So, we can look inside ourselves to see if that's the case. If so, we can seek help from more professional people and change the environment under certain circumstances.

How can we regulate ourselves?

The root of the problem is usually a combination of factors. Understanding ourselves better helps us identify the root causes that affect us the most. Once we've evaluated our own thoughts, we can seek professional help to guide us out of this obsessive thinking.

Basically, every time we have a compulsive thought, we're testing our own hidden emotions. So you'll involuntarily test your own reaction by imagining it. In life, there are many people who have certain imaginations and assumptions in the face of different situations, but the aspects and degrees are different. If you feel that this situation is more serious, it's a good idea to take a relevant test.

Obsessive thinking will have an impact on our lives, and it's likely to come from some reason in our lives or biology. If we can make appropriate adjustments to our living environment, it may help us in some way. Don't dwell on one problem. Gradually, we can see more enriching aspects, which will also be of great help in changing the situation.

What you imagine might be exactly what you need to challenge. Best wishes!

Hello!

Many people have already given answers, and I would like to add a few more in the hope that they will be of some small help.

1. Try paradoxical intervention.

There's a useful psychology method called paradoxical intervention.

It means knowing that an obsessive thought can't do anything.

Stop trying to solve it.

Let it be.

You say you'll suddenly think of something that will make you sick.

It doesn't have much effect on you.

Just do what you need to do with these symptoms.

The more attention, the more reinforcement.

When we have thoughts that make us feel sick or uncomfortable, we hope there's a way to get rid of them fast. We use different methods to fight against them.

Resisting obsessions makes them worse.

Mr. Zeng Qifeng said our current approach to obsessions is:

Force if you should.

Just separate your ego from your symptoms.

Symptoms are just symptoms. They don't affect self-function.

Knowing you have these things doesn't mean you have to fix them.

We relax and before we know it, such thoughts no longer bother us.

2. Think about the good things about forcing associations.

You have a good sense of reflection and awareness.

You said it's about ethics and morals. For example, worrying about falling in love with your aunt or cousin. Just use your imagination to test your reaction. Have you ever thought about the benefits this method brings to you?

If you're different, you can rehearse in advance.

Can some repressed thoughts find an outlet?

Why do you have such disgusting thoughts?

You may not like hearing this.

Disgust is really just too much longing.

Jung said,

Men are feminine, women are masculine.

Everyone is a mix of masculine and feminine.

Some of the ethics we learned was wrong, and we had to hide our feelings.

Babies have sexual fantasies about their opposite-sex parents from the beginning.

Babies have sexual fantasies about their opposite-sex parents from the beginning.

It's normal to sometimes have unwanted associations.

As long as we're careful, this won't be a problem.

3. Understand yourself.

When we focus on something, we think it's more important than it is. We just need to know that thoughts are just thoughts and that they'll go away.

Symptoms are a way of satisfying our instincts.

We can learn more about ourselves.

Was your ethics education open and objective?

Has anything been reinforced?

If a mother is strict with her children, she is likely to raise a child with obsessive tendencies.

Mothers present a false self, making it hard for children to see their true selves.

Find out if you have repressed thoughts or are a bit of a perfectionist.

Knowing ourselves helps us let go of what we've repressed, so we're not stuck in the past.

Just share them.

Read the book Fantasy is Reality if you're interested.

Best wishes!

I want to know how old the questioner is and what they're trying to verify by repeatedly testing their reaction with imagination.

You must decide whether you want to stick to your ethics and morals or if you want to solve tricky things for other people.

"Seeing something can lead to obsessive thoughts and make you feel sick," the OP feels sick on the one hand, but forces herself to imagine it. It's likely that the OP's "superego" feels sick while the OP's "id" enjoys it more.

Imagine the woman is your mother.

She finds the man in the video playing basketball and scoring goals very cool and is forced to imagine kissing him.

Let's be real, we've all had those thoughts about falling in love with our aunt, cousin, or even the same sex.

I want to be clear that the questioner is not the first person to have these imaginations and worries, and he will not be the last. There are undoubtedly many, many people who have these same imaginations, but they are just their own private "imaginations and worries" and they don't say anything about them. The difference between the questioner and them is that the questioner is more courageous and dares to express it here.

The questioner's imagination is no more significant than those who have already acted on their desires in reality.

I am certain that my reply will be of some help to you. Best wishes!

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you.

The host said that using imagination to test one's own reaction doesn't really make it clear what the content of the imagination is. This is because we must first determine what our own reaction is.

Is it a physical reaction? Or do you feel nauseous?

You need to be aware of this yourself.

From your description, I understand that your confusion is about obsessive associations, and the content of the associations is about sexual relationships, such as those concerning ethics and morality, as well as those concerning deviations in sexual orientation (homosexual tendencies).

Here's what I've been thinking, for your reference:

Let me be clear about forced associations.

The original poster stated that these associations only arise after seeing something and that they dislike them. They are concerned that they will manifest in reality.

There is absolutely no need to worry. Just relax and understand that our thoughts can be changed.

When negative thoughts flood our minds, it's often because we're too nervous and too concerned. Don't be afraid. Things are not as bad as you think. Thoughts are just thoughts, and they can be changed.

You can eliminate or reduce negative thoughts through your own efforts and establish a positive thinking pattern. You will definitely get out of trouble and improve.

You must realize that your thoughts are just thoughts. They are not facts and they are not real. You can change and adjust your thoughts. Make positive adjustments to your thoughts, and your feelings will be different.

The subconscious mind works in a certain way. If you resist something, it will manifest. If you want to reduce or eliminate thoughts you don't like, you have to stop reinforcing them. Accept their existence.

It is normal for strange, terrible, and negative thoughts to appear. These are our distracting thoughts, and like emotions, they follow a set of processes from occurrence to disappearance. Everything follows this law: beginning, change, and end.

If you accept its existence and know it is a meaningless "distraction," ignore it. It will not affect you and will soon disappear. Conversely, if you pay attention to it or argue with it, you will be bound by it.

We must adopt a "let nature take its course" and "do what needs to be done" approach.

Tell yourself: Distracting thoughts are natural. Allow them to exist. While "letting things take their course," focus on objective reality. Do the work, study, and chat when you need to. Do what you should be doing.

You will get through this. Distracting thoughts may still cause you pain at first, but they will disappear. Believe in the natural progression of events and do your best to focus on the task at hand. You will notice the distracting thoughts and emotions fading as you get on with your work.

2. We must understand why these associations occur and gain insight into ourselves.

We must ask ourselves: why do we have these associations? This is an opportunity to explore ourselves.

Think back to your own childhood. Did you hear or see stories, TV shows, or pictures that were similar to the content you associate with?

We were young then and resented these things, but we didn't think much about it and just suppressed them as we do now. They haven't disappeared; they are lurking in our subconscious. We need to see them and tell ourselves, "It's okay, this is normal, I see the reasons they arise, I can understand myself now."

As I said earlier, everything follows this pattern: beginning, change, end. When you see them, they are changing. Then you tell yourself, "These are just my thoughts, and thoughts are not facts. I can change my thoughts. Now, I want to end these thoughts that have a bad influence on me. Then, say it like you mean it: "End," to these thoughts.

You will notice that they really will not appear so much anymore.

Avoid similar situations in the future by watching fewer novels, TV shows, or pictures with content similar to what you associate with yourself. What we watch leaves a mark in our brains and influences our thinking.

If you want to become like someone, read their stories and imitate their behavior. You will become like them.

This is for your reference. Best wishes!

Hello,

From your description, I get the impression that you are sensible. You recognize that you sometimes have bad thoughts and come to the platform for help. You understand your own problems.

Let's look at what's really going on.

Let's start by explaining what OCD is, what it looks like, and how it hurts you.

Obsessive thoughts

Recurrent, persistent, obsessive thoughts, images, or impulses that cause distress.

(2) Attempts to ignore or suppress, or neutralize with other thoughts or behaviors.

2. Compulsive behavior

The behavior (washing hands, sorting, checking) or activity (praying, counting, repeating words) is done in response to thoughts or rules.

3. Duration: The obsessive thoughts or behaviors last more than an hour a day.

4: Harm: Significant distress that affects your life.

Then see if these thoughts and behaviors are symptoms of OCD. If not, take a proper view of your thoughts. If they are, seek professional counseling.

How to view your own "abnormal" thoughts correctly

1. Think about whether you have seen or experienced "not quite normal" behavior in your past. It still affects you today.

If you do, face it and tell yourself it's in the past. You can't stop thinking about it, but you can think about it calmly.

If not, you may be more imaginative. I can't help you assess why ethical issues keep coming up.

I hope you can see it in the right light. You don't have a problem, your thinking does. Let's find the source of the problem.

Answers are given with love and sincerity.

I hope to help you see your problems and find solutions.

I love you!

Good day, landlord. I am Xing Ying, a listening therapist at Yixin, a national level-3 psychological counselor.

From my perspective, it is evident that this issue has caused you significant distress. Additionally, your words indicate a remarkable aptitude for learning and synthesis.

In your final statement, I discern a glimmer of hope.

It is recommended that you utilize your imagination to assess your reactions.

It appears that you are seeking to evaluate your own responses. Is it your intention to obtain some form of verification from this process?

[After the test, you resume your normal state of mind.]

You have described imagining something that could be considered morally questionable, specifically replacing the characters with your own relatives or same-sex partners and engaging in intimate actions with them.

You are aware that your reaction after testing yourself is "disgusting," and you can then return to a normal state of mind.

You will then be able to return your attention to the film in question.

[Confirmation, relief]

It gave the impression that you felt a sense of relief at that moment.

Given that you have indicated that you have tested this repeatedly, I assume that

By repeatedly testing in this manner and reacting with disgust, I can be confident that I do not think or act in an unethical manner with loved ones or those of the same sex.

Is this the point you need to confirm on an ongoing basis? Do you feel reassured?

Is this something you need to keep repeating to yourself? Do you feel reassured?

If this is the case, you have already received the test result. You may wish to inform yourself that you are fine and that you do not like this kind of thing.

Following the test, it is essential to provide feedback on the results. This will help to enhance your sense of reassurance.

[Neurological Explanation of Obsessive Associations]

[Neurological explanation of obsessive-compulsive associations]

In simple terms, neurologists define obsessive associations as a consequence of excessive brain activity, which leads to the repetitive linking of thoughts and associations, eventually resulting in a state of cognitive rigidity. The energy of the brain's information-carrying molecules is elevated and highly active.

Once a train of thought has gained momentum, it may be challenging to halt it. This is akin to how the brain forms automatic associations when it becomes familiar with a specific neural circuitry for a piece of information.

Once a train of thought has gained momentum, it may be challenging to halt it. This phenomenon occurs when the brain forms a neural circuit for a piece of information, which then triggers corresponding associations.

Therefore, when comparable concepts arise, we endeavor to construct a novel circuit, which then supplants the existing circuitry with novel information.

In order to achieve this, it is necessary to identify the starting point of the old circuit and completely remove it.

[Construct a new circuit and pose a new question]

In order to achieve this, it is necessary to replace the existing association with another perspective.

Is it possible to replace the association with another perspective?

If that attractive female were my romantic partner, or if that attractive male were my competitor...

[Identify the origin of the old circuit and eliminate it entirely.]

[Identify the origin of the circuit and eliminate it entirely.]

You appear to have a particular interest in ethics and morality. Could you please elaborate on when this interest first arose?

Has there been a past experience that has evoked a strong emotional response, such as a particular event, the news, or a discussion among influential individuals? This initial reaction may have been one of fear and rejection, leading to the internalization of the belief that one must not embody the characteristics associated with that situation. Over time, this internalized belief may have transformed into a persistent concern about whether one will eventually become like that person or situation. Anxiety, worry, and fear are common emotions that accompany this internalized concern. They can contribute to a recurrence of similar situations.

It is essential to gain insight into what transpired in the past, as well as the circumstances surrounding the inception of these thoughts, in order to effectively address the matter at hand. Once the root cause and the origin of the recurring pattern have been identified, it becomes possible to implement a comprehensive solution.

It is crucial to identify the events of the past, the timing of these occurrences, and the initial trigger for these thoughts in order to resolve this issue. By understanding the root cause and origin of the recurring pattern, we can effectively dismantle it.

A professional counselor can assist you in strengthening your sense of certainty in your ethics and morals, relaxing your mind, alleviating anxiety and fear, and gradually achieving a state of certainty without the need to pass a test.

While my level of expertise is limited, I still want to tell you in a weak voice that people who don't care about ethics and morals never worry about themselves. Your worry about yourself just shows that you are trustworthy in this regard! I believe in you!

While my level of expertise is limited, I still want to tell you in a weak voice that people who don't care about ethics and morals never worry about themselves. Your worry about yourself just shows that you are trustworthy in this regard! I believe in you!

I am optimistic that you will be able to resolve your issues in the near future. Best regards, [Your name]

Good day, my name is Yiya Tree, and I am available to assist you in addressing your current challenges.

From your writing, I can discern the distress and unease that forced associations cause you. From the examples you provided, it is evident that they are all related to ethics and morality. This indicates that the majority of the issues you are concerned about are plots that are not aligned with reason and ethics. I hypothesize that this may be related to your typical state of repression.

There is a fundamental principle at play in the human mind: when our culture discourages us from pursuing a particular course of action, we tend to suppress it in normal times, and simultaneously become curious about it.

It is possible that you are a relatively repressed individual, consistently compelled by external pressures to suppress your genuine needs and thoughts. Prolonged repression has led to the development of a "forbidden fruit rebellion" mentality. This phenomenon refers to the observation that when a culture restricts individuals from pursuing certain actions, the desire to explore these actions intensifies.

Your rebellious tendencies may manifest as thoughts that are contrary to cultural and moral norms. It is important to note that these thoughts do not necessarily indicate an intention to act upon them.

However, you lack confidence in your ability to make ethical decisions, which is why you mentioned the practice of "always testing your reactions with your imagination."

Your mind will attempt to present you with a constant stream of questions.

The following questions relate to the images of unethical behavior mentioned in your text. These tests are a manifestation of your inner fears. You are afraid that you will do something unethical, so you test and examine yourself by constantly imagining images. Over time, if you are not aware, this will become a kind of obsessive thinking that is out of your control.

It is also possible that these thoughts and images are a manifestation of an inner aversion to relationships. Based on my observation that these images are all related to intimate behavior, I believe that you may have developed an aversion to relationships in your daily life due to past interpersonal experiences. These images are all expressions of and releases from your aversion to relationships.

Your concern that you may develop romantic feelings for your aunt and cousin is indicative of a broader aversion to relationships. This aversion manifests in a somewhat abstract manner. While you perceive a risk of acting against moral norms, it is, in fact, a reflection of your subconscious reluctance and rejection of relationships.

To overcome this obsessive thinking, it is essential to recognize that these images are merely thoughts, not reality. You can learn to observe thoughts without evaluating them. In other words, do not focus excessively on them; allow them to arise naturally, like a cloud, and then let them dissipate naturally.

Secondly, should the issue prove particularly challenging to address, it may be beneficial to seek guidance from a professional counselor. By engaging in communication with a trained professional, it may be possible to gain a deeper understanding of the underlying mechanisms driving your thoughts, while also developing a sense of control and reducing the impact of these thoughts.

A counselor can assist you in managing your emotions and developing a more nuanced understanding of how to respond to external demands. It is possible that the initial perception of certain actions as unethical was influenced by a lack of comprehensive knowledge at the time, and may not have been as problematic as initially thought.

Furthermore, it is important to understand the reasons behind your strong aversion to relationships. It is possible that your aversion is rooted in past experiences of hurt, dissatisfaction with relationships, or other factors.

Finally, it is important to note that the appearance of these thoughts may indicate that you are typically depressed and unable to express your true emotions and feelings. It is evident that you are ignoring your inner self, which underscores the necessity for psychological counseling and assistance. This process allows you to express emotions and feelings that you usually cannot express to those around you, thereby facilitating a deeper understanding of your true inner self. This is a crucial aspect to address at this stage.

It is my hope that this response will prove helpful to the questioner, enabling them to overcome the distress caused by obsessive thoughts as soon as possible and regain a relaxed and peaceful life.

Hello!

You have strange thoughts related to morality and ethics.

Thank you for asking this question. I admire your self-awareness.

You said the thoughts come on suddenly and are about people in your family.

I think the reason you have these thoughts may be because of how your family gets along with you. These sudden thoughts are hidden in your subconscious.

It may be hard to find the real reason.

I hope these thoughts help.

First, understand morality.

Morality is important in our society. It helps us to behave in ways that are good for everyone.

Having morals is good, but we can focus too much on them and ignore our feelings. This can cause us to act or think in ways that are not reasonable.

Second, accept yourself.

Knowing the role morality plays in our lives helps us see that having these thoughts doesn't mean our morality is bad. It may mean our strong sense of morality is suppressing our needs.

Don't carry a heavy psychological burden because of this. Accept that you have these thoughts and know that people have all kinds of thoughts for a reason.

3. Find the cause.

Then we'll try to find out why you have these thoughts. Is it because the people around you have too high moral standards for you?

Is there a barrier in your relationships? You can only release your emotions this way. Or there may be other reasons. I hope you can calm down and reflect.

Fourth, it's hard to find out what's going on inside us by thinking about it. If you're really upset, it's a good idea to see a psychologist.

I'm Haru Aoki. I love you.